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Q: well me and my boyfriend are both virgins. and well hes 18 and im 17 going to be 18 in september. well he says i have to wait til i turn 18 to have sex or a baby. cuz he dusnt wnt to hear crap from my mom. and if im an dult then i can do it. well also that way we can both make sure we are ready. we both love eachother very much. and we have been together for over a year already. well i really dont have a question but im scared that once we do have a baby that something will happen and i wont be able to have one. is there any way that i can make sure everything inside my body will work right once i get to 18 cause i want a baby..his baby more then anything. and i dotn want something to happen and like we cant have a baby. you know?! like for example i eat hot cheetos like all the time. is there any way that can ruin my things on the inside that will keep me from getting pregnant.? someone please answer this i know i have time but if theres any adviceid really like to start watching out for it now. that way there is no problems when i get there. so please and thankyou soo much!! xoxo

The best thing to do is to go to a gynocologist and have them check you out and make sure there isnt any things wrong with your reproductive system. My biggest advice to you is to make sure you are mature enough to take care of a child. That means not going out with your friends all the time, that having the money to buy diapers, formula, baby food, baby clothes, a stroller, car seat, a crib, and hundreds of other things.And all that is aside from the amount of hospital bills its going to be to have it. One ultrasound costs $500, and you will need several. If you are going to have to rely on your parents help, then you are not ready to bring a baby into this world. A year relationship isnt very long...many things can change in a year. My husband and I have been together for 5 years.

Im not saying that you two will not make it. My husband and I started dating when I wa 16 and he was 17. I just want you to make sure you can handle a baby before you make one because once you have a baby you cant put it back!

I wish you all the best and if you feel like you are ready, then just make sure you talk to your gynocologist and get your insides checked out. If the doctor says its a go, go for it!

Good Luck! =]

Q: Ill keep this real short, i havent had a propper GF in 7 years. at least not one that stayed with me for over a month. Iv allways been a bit of loner just because i like the solitude. but a few months ago i went out with this one girl... she was amazing, everything i looked for. but she moved away. we went out for a month and a bit i guess.

its been about 4 months since iv seen her let alone talked to her and now im finnaly forgetting my feelings for her (its for the best she found some one new anyway) iv finnaly found some one else too. but its the same problem
im so shy its un real... i can talk to her for a bit then an awkward silence. or i say somthing silly and feeling really stupid about it for a while or a few days.

I dont wanna feel awkward i just dont have thee confidence. luckily she seem's patient and avid to see me so its nice cause i wanna see her too. were going in to town tommorow. im sure there will be a few wierd silences, how do i get around them?

to be honest with you, you can turn this quiet awkward silences into something!

One of the cutest things to girls is honesty and shyness. next time you are with her and an awkward silence comes up, just say, "you know, Im sorry that there are awkward silences sometimes. Im just shy and sometimes dont always know what to say around beautiful girls." make sure to smile alot! It may seem cheesy but the girl will appreciate the compliment, and instead of thinking your a creep, you will look like the shy sensitive type.

Q: i was previously on the birth control shot that lasts for three months. i fist took it in april or early may of last year i believe. The shot stops your period and is supposed to last for 3 months. However, I havent gotten my period since. Its been well over three months and I actually was not very sexually active during this time. Actually I wasnt at all. Recently though I started again and decided I would go to the doctor to see what is up with my body, I just havent had the chance to just yet. The problem is I had sex very often during the past week and of course I used a condom and everything but you never know with these things. Nothing was weird except I was really sore because I went from barely having sex to doing it quite often. Today I think I peed more than I do in three days combined. And now I noticed that the nipple of my breasts are quite sore. What could this mean and is there any possible chance I could be pregnant or even experiencing symptoms this early if i am, because It's only been a week since I started being very sexually active.and again, I made sure to always use a condom...

well, any time you become sexually active, there is a chance of pregnancy. Even if you used a condom. 1 drop of semen has a million sperm and thats all it takes. However, if you say you were not sexually active AT ALL (meaning you didnt have sex, even 1 time) then the chances of you showing pregnancy symptoms is something that had to have taken place within the last few weeks, not months. It usually takes 10-12 days for symptoms to start. If you had sex 12 days ago, then yes you could be pregnant.

The best thing to do at this point is to go out and get 2 pregnancy tests. (never take just one) At home pregnancy tests are usually very accurate (as long as you dont buy cheap ones from the dollar store) Take both tests, and if you are pregnant, you need to go to the doctor right away. There are certain steps you need to take to ensure that not only your baby is safe, but YOU remain safe and healthy as well.

I wish you all the best and please remember, the only way to make sure you NEVER get pregnant is to not have sex. No matter how much protection you use, there is still a chance of failure.

Q: My boyfriend and I have a great relationship, we're 4 hours apart right now because of college but we talk all the time. By this I mean texting until the moment we wake up to the moment we go to bed. Then every night around 8 he'll ask me what I'm doing and I'm normally not doing anything and then he asks me to call him, so I always do and then we get on the phone, have a conversation for about 5 minutes and then there's nothing left to talk about because we talked all day. Then he gets this slightly annoyed tone in his voice because I have nothing to talk about! I don't know what to do. If I said I didn't feel like talking I know he'd take it personally and I don't want to hurt his feelings but I don't want to have phone conversations where we just listen to each other breathe and fall asleep.

Ive answered a similar question like this before.

When I was a senior in Highschool, my BF got a really good job at his aunts fuel company about 4 hours away. He had to work long hours but would come down on the weekends when he could.

We realized we started having the same problem as you guys, when we talked on the phone every night, we just sat in silence. it was pretty lame so he suggested that we do this

we each wrote in a journal every night about how our day went. any funny thoughts or jokes we heard that day. THEN, every friday night we would talk on the phone, and read our journal entries to eachother.

not only does it create a great conversation, its last longer that 5 minutes and its fun. it made our 4 months apart bearable until he could come back to town to me.

that was when I was 16. Im now 21 yrs old and we are married. :-)

hope this helps!!

steph

Q: Hello ,

My name's Betty and I have a problem.Most guys just jump right into action right. Well , I met this guy and we hung out for the first time. We went to the movies and he made some moves on me. Then he said to go back to his car so we did , and he put my hand on his lower area. Most likely , I'm taking a guess that's all he wanted and wasn't interested in me. My question is , is it worth waiting him to talk to me or leave it behind and not talk to him again?

Thank you.

honestly, it is pretty suspicious that he makes such a sexual move on the first date. Either he felt like he could get away with it, or thats all he wanted.

I would say go on another date with him. If he continues to seem only interested in sex, if thats not what you are looking for, let him know. See where it goes from there.\

hope this helps! =]

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Q: hello im 18/f and my boyfriend is 21/m we have been dating for about 7 months now. I've realized now that just this past month we've been having more little arguments lately. We really do love each other and i really think hes the one and i know he feels the same. Its just i have a problem with him smoking pot. I tell him i dont like it and he knows that but he says hes gonna do it anyways and he doesnt think he should change. I should like him for who he is. I do like him for who he is its just im tired of him doing it. I just hate it when he does. And those who do smoke pot out there please dont gimme a lecture on how it is possibly good for you. But its pretty much just been about that. There is no way of me getting him to stop. Is there anything you suggest i have pretty much tried everything. And he says he doesnt do good with punishments he just will keep doing it. I've tried it. Thanks to you all in advance!!

I have been through this before.

I totally understand why you would want him to stop. First of all, you dont want to be influence you and possibly get you addicted to it. Secondly, you dont want him to get into trouble with the law, and third, you find it gross and repulsive. right?

You are going to have to be very serious about this, and give him the ultimate choice. Tell him that you love him, but his drug abuse is going to tear your relationsip apart.

so he needs to decided whats more important to him. Weed, or YOU. Tell him if he doesnt clean his act up, its over.

be strong. It will be very hard to do but you need to respect yourself and he needs to respect you as well.

If you had a bad habit, like, "sleeping with other guys" and he wanted you to change, you would, so why wont he stop smoking if he knows it makes you uncomfortable???

there is no double standards in real, successful relationships. Be strong, and tell him its you or the pot.

if he wont change, end it. Because he obviously doesnt respect you, and you dont want that. You deserve better

hope this helps! email me if you wanna talk about it. =]

stephanie.ellick@gmail.com

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Q: i just recently broke up with my boyfriend of almost 3 years. this whole experience has taught me a lot. I already have two tattoos that i love. I want to get a gun tattooed on my hip. ((not pointing to my crouch, i dont like that) but I want a quote or something tattooed with the gun. Its hard to explain how i feel. I am over him,b ut everything I've learned from this relationship will always be with me. It was a great relationship dont get me wrong, but its meaningful to me. The last few months were rocky, and hurtful, I think this is why I want this tattoo.

Any ideas? I was thinking "untouchable"
something along those lines.
Not really about love, but me in general. its hard to explain. Any ideas are welcomed, thanks!!

ive always wanted a tattoo that said "conquer" or "overcome" because Ive been through alot of bad things in my life.

just an idea! =]

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Q: Okay well I have been dating this guy for about a year and six months. He used to pay attention to me but now it's basically all going to his friends. For examples, he went to the beach with this guy for a week, and I told him I didn't want him to go and he said (word for word) I don't care, I am going anyway. So then he goes to his friends house and when we talk it's like for two seconds. Even when he is not with his friends he will be like I have to go eat, and I will say will you call me after you eat, and he said I don't know, maybe. So then when we argue, he is always like WHATEVER I DIDN'T DO ANYTHING, YOU PICK AN ARGUMENT OUT OF NOTHING. And then he always says I keep him on lockdown and I said I do not, I let you go anywhere you want to go. And he said, if I got to go anywhere I wanted to go, I would be gone everyday. And I told him we would never get to talk if he did that. He just acts like he never cares about me anymore. And also, whenever we argue he never says sorry unless I say something like, wow thanks for your apology, or stuff like that. It seems like his friends are way more important to him than I will ever be, and its making me lose my feelings for him. What do I do? Is it my fault?

its not necessarily your fault, in this case, the two of you are just really not right for eachother. I know tha may be hard to hear, but he seems to be in his, "party boy, batchelor" modes, and you seem to be much more mature and ready for a real steady and commited relationship.

honestly, when you find the right guy, he will be on your level, and will respect you and will want to be around you, and not put his friends before you...

Just be honest with yourself and come to terms with the fact that he is immature and will not change any time soon. Once you realize this things will become easier and you can start the necessary steps to move on.

by all means DONT STAY IN A RELATIONSHIP that makes you miserable. you deserve better than that!!!!

hope this helps! email me if you want to talk about it more. =]

stephanie.ellick@gmail.com

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Q: My bf n i have been together 8 months n im pregnant he doesnt know yet n i dont know how to tell him no one knows but me n my friend... i had a prego test done at planned parenthood... but i had implanon ..a form of birth control my bf n i still used condoms 98% of the time but a few times they ripped n a couple times none was used... hes a good guy but im worried itll change us i know i cant keep it for several reasons...my heart is extremely weak just had surgery... my future his futrure our families n we dont each other well enuf to raise a baby itd break us apart etc.. but im also worried hell think im lyin or that hell wanna keep it possibly, he knows how much i hate girls than lie bout it but our friends gf has been lyin bout bein prego so im wooried hell think i am ...would i be better off havin an abortion n not tellin him or wat im worriedL

Ok,

First of all, this baby is 50% his baby and you can't just get an abortion without telling him that he has a child that would be VERY wrong.

Secondly, you were mature enough to have sex, so you need to be mature enough to handle the consequences.

You need to go to the doctor, and ask him straight up, if your body can handle the pregnancy. If not, he'll tell you what to do from there. Don't just assume you need an abortion and kill your baby in haste.

Im not trying to sound rude but this is a serious thing! If you weren't financially ready for a baby you should not have had sex! I know it feels good but it comes with a price....

By the way, an abortion can hurt your body to the point where you cannot have children later, there are always complications.

Im sorry you are going through this. You need to tell your parents as soon as possible so they can start helping you get the necessary steps taken care of.

They will probably be mad at first, most parents are, but they will get over that quickly and start helping you.

You can't NOT tell your parents. The fact that you have only told your friend is irresponsible, tell your parents, have them go to the doctor with you and start asking him some questions.

Hope this helps. Again, im sorry if I sounded harsh, I just really care about you and want you to take good care of yourself.

Steph =]

Q: I have a huge problem. I know it might sound wierd but dont laugh! I want to date men, kiss men,have sex with men,mary a men and have children with a men but i would'nt mind have sex with a girl! Am i a lesbian or not? But i want to mary and have sex with a men but like if a girl came to me and ask me if i wanted to have sex with her i would'nt mind and i'd say yes! So plz help me and tell me if you considered me a lesbian.
thanks

you love men and want to be with a man, but you are just sexually curious about women!

this makes you bisexual for now. who knows you might end up liking women better then men. OR you might realize that sleeping with girls just isnt your thing.

hope this helps! =]

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Q: I have been with my boyfriend for 9 months and now all of a sudden he doesnt come home or call me to talk to me anymore. What should I think?

i dont completely agree with the person below me, You cant jump to conclsions that he is cheating or has lost interest. Dumping him over text message is pretty immature and childish.

what you need to do is talk to him. find out what is causing this behavior, get down to the bottom of it,and let him know how his behavior makes you feel. he could be cheating, but be mature about things and find out the right way. Theres no reason to dump him over txt message when there might be something really wrong in his life, and he might need you now more than ever!

hope this helps! =]

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Q: I have been married going on 25 years. For the last few years, things have been going on a downhill slide. My husband hasn't been interested in "relations" for some time now. When I tried to discuss this with him, he blows his top and tells me to leave him alone and I am feeling like a disease. Things have gotten so bad that I have actually found out he has been on a website for swingers and on line hook ups. I set him up and he actually showed up for the meet n' greet (which I didn't go too...ya im a cowardI even went so far as to have an affair (I still see him on occassion). I really think we are both done with it. What other options do I have to work this out.

I helped someone else who was in a similar situation.

the best thing to do in this situation, it to sit your husband down, and tell him you dont think its working out, and get a divorce. I know this sounds really harsh and is going to be tough to do, but honestly, at this point, it looks like you and your husband just arent right for eachother. You are both obviously finding romance and "relations" elsewere, and unless you want to just ignore facts, it would be the healthiest to just end it. I know it can be hard to end something that you invested 25 yrs of your life in. He is no longer emotionally, or physically there for you, which you shouldnt subject yourself to any longer!

you deserve a man who loves you, and will treat you like he should. Just be honest with yourself, make a game plan, and figure out what action you need to take to move on.

hope this helps. email me if you need some support or want to talk about it more. =]

stephanie.ellick@gmail.com

steph

Q: Okay so I am 15(F)and the guy is 16(M). I really like him. We have been dating for like two months now. But anyway. The problem is that sometimes he can be really dirty. Sometimes I like it or I don't mind it, but other times I feel like he wants me to be dirty back. He wants to have sex... Yeah, I don't. He gets that though I think. But whenever we are making out, I am always the one to stop it. Like, if it starts going too far, I am always the one to say "Okay, that's enough". I feel like he is always ready to just keep going, that I can't slip up. Or sometimes when we are on the phone or texting he will send/say somthing really dirty and I will be like "uhm..." and just kind of choke up. He's always like "Don't be so tense babe" but I don't know, I'm not used to that kind of stuff. All the guys I have liked before have been really... I don't know... not like that. I've told him that I'm not really experienced with those kinds of things (the making out and naughty phone converstations), but for some reason, he thinks thats hot and it only makes him want to do it more. I'm really stuck because I like him, but I just don't know how to be dirty like he wants me to... Help?

you dont need to be dirty like HE wants you to be.

I can tell by reading your post, that you arent ready for all that. thats completely normal. I can also tell that it seems to make you uncomfortable. Heres my advice.

dont feel like you have to do it because he wants you to. if you have ANY doubts, the you are not ready. You will know when you are ready.

He should respect the fact that you arent ready for all that dirty stuff. if he loves you the way he should, he wont try to pressure you into that. he will wait until you are ready.

so be mature about it. pull him aside, tell him how you feel. If he is the right guy for you, it will all work out.

hope this helps! =]

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Q: Ok, so basically I've been talking this kid for a little over a year. Never dated, and we were really close last summer and then I went off to school and we didn't talk much then. But everytime I would come home we would talk again, and this summer I think it got even more serious. We talk everyday, and practically see each other at least once a week, (but its with a group of people), and we have hung out alone on several occasions.

And I think I'm really starting to fall for this kid, and I'm actually considering turning it into something more. But here's the thing, we've never done anything more than kissed, which we only did once. Yes ONE TIME! and that consisted of me practically attacking him when I was a little under the influence, but either way it was pretty great. And we do do cute things like cuddle or hold hands sometimes but thats it.

But anyway, we both really really into each other, but I was wondering is it really possible to like someone that much when nothing physical has been done? I mean, I've never really known a relationship I've had where its been otherwise. It's always been mostly physical. So I was just wondering your opinion on how exactly the physical stuff is in starting a relationship?

Its really great that you have found such a good connection with this guy.

Most good long term relationships start out slow, and the physical part starts slow as well.

Most relationships don't work out because its based on JUST the physical stuff, and when it comes down to it, if you don't have a mental and emotional connection, the physical stuff fizzles out quickly and the relationship hits a brick wall and never goes anywhere.

The physical stuff in a REAL relationship, doesn't matter until later. You should love being around the person and love talking and laughing together, not just feel something for eachother when things get physical.

Sounds like you and this boy have a true connection. I know from experience, I started dating my guy when I was only 16 and im 21 now and we are still together (high school sweethearts) and we are getting married in december!

Don't rush the physical stuff and just get to know eachother and love eachother first. Sex is always better when you have already connected emotionally and mentally first.

Hope this helps! Email me anytime if you need anything! =]

Stephanie.ellick@gmail.com

Steph 21

Q: so I have been dating my gf for about 2 months. She lives with her friend her 2 kids and my gf has a kid of her own. Well her friend takes all of her money makes her watch the kids, clean, cook, and if she doesnt do something right she gets yelled at. The friend lets her kids tear shit up and do whatever. I am having problems at home and want to move out and want to talk my gf into moving out, but she kinda has no choice until she can get help. but i dont want her to think im being bossy because I wanna get our own place what should I do? her friend and her kids are affecting are relationship

I know EXACTLY what its like to experience this.

What you need to do is, next time you and your gf are alone, be mature and talk to her about what you are watching her go through. Let her know that it hurts and upsets you to see her being treated this way. Then simply ask her what she thinks about the two of you living together. Give her a list of reasons why its the better choice. She should understand and see your reasoning behind it.

Just talk to her and really dig deep to find out how she truly feels about the situation.

Hope this helps! =]

Steph 21

Q: ok so im on birth control and take it every night at 8:00 but maybe once a week i will take it at like 10:00 or really late because i will be at work (waitressing) and forget or something throws me off. anyways last night me and my boyfriend had sex and he came inside me (he usually does- although we have quit doing that as much as we use too b/c it raises chance of pregnancy) and last night was one of the nights i took my birth control a few hours after my regular time. how bad is that to do?

IF you are not taking the pills at the same exact time EVERY SINGLE night, you cut the efectiveniess of the pills almost in half.

which means, you taking your pills late (even every once in a while) makes you MORE likely to get pregnant by 40-50%.

if you dont want to get pregnant, decrease your chances by using a condom, and try harder to take your pills on time. But remember that there is always a chance, no matter what precautions you take.

if your period is more than 3 days late next time around, take a test. Its best to find out as soon as possible so you can start prenatal care if you are pregnant.

email me if you need anything!

stephanie.ellick@gmail.com

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Q: okay so i like my best friend. he currently broke up with his girlfriend of 3 years. i've always heard he liked this girl who i am not fond of, her name is sammy. i just think he could do SO much better.

so i always ask if anything is going on between him and he says no, but you know when you can just tell? i feel like thats how it is...

last night i was with him and was like can i see your phone and he was like noooo!!(: and i was like why not. and he was like why so you can see if i was texting sammy? and he was like we're just best friends. and i was like OHHHH so now she's your best friend? guess were not best friends anymore. and he was like no linds, we are. me and her are just FRIENDS.

and he was like if i liked her we would be dating by now. and then i kept asking to see him phone and i think i went a little over the top. and he was like what are you jealous or something? and he was like i think you are! i really was jealous ahaha, but i was like no! i just want to make sure you're not talking to any dumb whores lol.

i think i went a little over the top though, borderline annoying. i feel really bad although he texted me before he went to bed and was like goodnight and everything but i still feel bad!

i still feel like he likes her, even though hes told me several times he doesnt. i feel like i dont believe him, when i should!

how can i get over this?

this is hard, i know because my best friend is also a boy.

what you have to do is find faith in your friendship, and believe in the strength of your closeness.

if he truly is your best friend, then you need to support him no matter what. Acting this way could end your friendship with him, and I can tell you dont want that.

You have to pull him aside, and be honest. say this

"i really care about you, and love you. and because of that, i am very protective of you. please dont misunderstand that to be jealousy. I apologize for my immature behavior, and I only want the best for you. will you forgive me?"

dont drag on. keep it simple and make sure he understands that you really care about him and only want whats best. And that you will try harder to be more sensative to his needs.

hope this helps! =]

steph 21

Q: Sorry in advance if this is a bit long.

16/f
I was with a boy for 7 months. Our relationship was great. We loved each other. However, he told me that he felt like he couldn't make me happy and I deserved better and dumped me. He broke my heart, however eventually I moved on and got over it. 5 Months pass by and he decides to re enter my life! Wanting to give things another try. I lost my virginity to this guy, therefore I feel so attached to him. I take him back and give him another try.
The 2 months we're together is awful. He didn't treat me nicely and refused to tell me he loved me. I told him we should end it. Another 2 months goes by.. and guess who decides to enter my life AGAIN! I was firm with him and told him I couldn't do this again. However, like an idiot I give in.
He told me things i've never heard him say before and that he really did love me blah blah blah.
We hang out again.. and he decides we should be "together" He told me he wants to take it slow to avoid hurting me again. Every time we hangout it gets sexual and we've been "together" now for 2 weeks. He doesn't text me too much. I wonder if
anything will change. My mind is so confused and
I just feel so attached to this kid. Any suggestions of what I should do?

he will keep coming back and saying all the right things to get what he wants. stay strong and say NO. and as hard as it will be to move on, you have to do it.

and you will find someone who treats you right, and you will be very happy.

steph 21 =]

Q: 21/f. He's 24/m. We've have been involved for four years. REALLY long story short, it's been a rough road for us. He used to be emotionally abusive, but he made a conscious decision to change. I agreed to let the past go, and forgive him. It was great for a long time, and despite his family hating me, we were happy.
Recently, I got a job in my field. Instead of being happy for me when I told him about the pay, he said, "That's it? You should turn it down."
Now when I try to tell him funny stories about work, he says "sweet" with no inflection, and changes the subject. He makes a point of letting me know I'm "not funny" when I try to joke around, or he thinks I'm serious when I'm not. He suddenly doesn't understand me anymore.
It's become increasingly obvious to me that he doesn't care. About anything, including himself. He's studying for the MCAT, and it's all he CLAIMS he ever does. I have absolutely no objection to him studying, and I'd be happy he was doing it if it was really what he wanted. Instead, he's doing it to appease his parents, and I hate him for it. He doesn't have the balls to stand up to them and say he doesn't want to do it. Of course, he doesn't know what he wants to do anyway.
I've lost respect for him, I'm becoming less attracted to him. He's starting to say little nasty things to me, and I just don't want to put up with it.
I think he just doesn't belong in my life anymore...but how do I tell him? In person, I know, but I have to get him to stop "studying" long enough for me to say something. How do I do THAT when I never see him?
Should I give him a chance to redeem himself?

im sorry you are having to go through this.

While his behavior is COMPLETELY unacceptable, it could stem from internal stress he has built up. If you think about it, he is studying for one of the HARDEST and most important tests in his life. I know hes acting horribly, but if hes doing it to please his parents or NOT, a good girlfriend would support him in all he does no matter what.

Its strange because when MY BF and I were together, the 4 year mark was horrible for us. we were very nasty towards eachother, he was stressed all the time, and so was I. We even lived together so it was tough. One day we were in the living room and we got into a stupid little fight he said "im done." and I said, "well me too."

I spent about 2 weeks hanging out with other guys, trying to see if I had wasted too much of my life on 1 person without playing the field.

I went out with 4 or 5 guys, and never really found that great of a guy. Spending that time away from my BF made me realize that there arent that many guys like him, and how much I really loved him. We were letting stress come between us and it almost ended us forever.

once i realized this, I sat down with him, and had a very serious talk. I told him what I realized and I apologized for alot. He felt the same and he apologized for letting other things distract him from the relationship.

We got back together and have been together ever since. we talked about our needs and what our expectations were for eachother.

now we are the happiest we've ever been, we have been together for over 5 yrs now, and are getting married in December.

If you really want to make things work talk to him. You will be suprised what he might say, and you might not realize whats causing his behavior until he tells you.

You have invested 4 yrs of your life with him, if there is any way to make it work out, you should try. Good luck, and let me know if you need anything. email me anytime.

stephanie.ellick@gmail.com

steph 21 =]

Q: hey (: i'm 19 years old female.

so i like this guy, well actually we're best friends. and last night i was hanging out with him at our friends house and we both left at the same time and we ended up talking outside for like a half hour and like he kept getting close to my face, kind of like he wanted to kiss me. he kept giving me hugs, and stuff like that but i THINK he wanted to kiss me? the thing is i think he's scared. and i just wish he would make a move if he wanted to kiss me! because i'm not just going to kiss him, because what if he wasn't even thinking about kissing me!?

ahhhh what to do!

ive had this before too! lol

if you guys really are close friends, next time he gives those signals, and gets really close to your face, make it easy for him by saying something cute, like

"hey, if you wanna kiss me, do it already." and smile =]

he'll say 1 of 2 things.

1. "ok. ive been wanting to, but wasnt sure if it was ok..." and then kiss you.

OR

2. "What? I dont want to kiss you..."
(at that time you say, "ok then back away from my face just a bit, silly!" and smile)

either way, make it easy on him and smile. it will make him feel more comfortable.

another clue, next time you two are hanging out and he gets close, look at his eyes. If he seems to be staring at your mouth or lips alot, chances are he reaaaly wants to kiss you.

have fun and good luck!! email me if you need anything, or to let me know how things go!

stephanie.ellick@gmail.com

steph 21 =]

bio

Hi! I'm Stephanie, I'm a 21 yr living in Houston, Texas. I've been living on my own since I was 17 and wouldnt have it any other way. Ive been through many bad things in my life. Instead of letting things hurt me and make me bitter and depressed, I have let them make me stronger. I can give great advice on almost any subject. Im getting married in December to a wonderful man named Chris, and will soon my a military wife! inbox me or email me anytime, id love to hear from you!

stephanie.ellick@gmail.com