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How important is the physical stuff?
Ok, so basically I've been talking this kid for a little over a year. Never dated, and we were really close last summer and then I went off to school and we didn't talk much then. But everytime I would come home we would talk again, and this summer I think it got even more serious. We talk everyday, and practically see each other at least once a week, (but its with a group of people), and we have hung out alone on several occasions.
And I think I'm really starting to fall for this kid, and I'm actually considering turning it into something more. But here's the thing, we've never done anything more than kissed, which we only did once. Yes ONE TIME! and that consisted of me practically attacking him when I was a little under the influence, but either way it was pretty great. And we do do cute things like cuddle or hold hands sometimes but thats it.
But anyway, we both really really into each other, but I was wondering is it really possible to like someone that much when nothing physical has been done? I mean, I've never really known a relationship I've had where its been otherwise. It's always been mostly physical. So I was just wondering your opinion on how exactly the physical stuff is in starting a relationship?
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this is good...ya never did anything and like each other alot for over a year.i say try to talk things out with him about dating..maybe he is feeling the same way..dont let him go away..It might be too late & end up with another girl..so take action now.
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Firstly I think the fact that there doesn't appear to have anything bad said about that time you kissed and he didn't distance himself from you then he probably liked it.
To be honest the physical stuff is only important in terms of actually defining the relationship, it gives you something that you can let other people (or each other) know, to confirm you are in a relationship. Other than that the main function of the physical stuff is....fun haha. You really sound like a couple already, and this is the way me and one of my girlfriend's were for ages before we went out and when we finally decided to go out the physical stuff came pretty soon after, but we didn't rush into it or anything and more to the point it only started after the relationship!
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in my opinion, physical stuff isn't really THAT important in a relationship. If you two truly care about eachother you wouldnt need to get physical at all, unless of course you wanted to :] In the beginning of a relationship things should be more simple and less physical. Remember, you don't want to move to fast and mess things up. But as the relationship grows and you two become closer then you will most likely get more phyiscal.
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Starting a relationship doesn't have to mean you have to do something physical. When you're young, yes, that does happen a lot, but, the relationships don't last long at all. However, as you mature, you start to look for more than just physical things in your partner. You're probably interested in his personality instead of just solely the physical things and/or doing physical things.
You DON'T have to do anything physical if you don't want to. That's up to you both. Maybe try and wait until you're dating and try taking things slow. Sometimes people rush this stuff..which, in the end, the relationship ends up being over.
I found a site that relates to your question. It's a podcast so if you'd like, maybe you canlisten to it.
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Talk to the guy, ask him if he'd like to further the relationship (dating). And take it slow !
Hope I helped!
Good luck. :)
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Its really great that you have found such a good connection with this guy.
Most good long term relationships start out slow, and the physical part starts slow as well.
Most relationships don't work out because its based on JUST the physical stuff, and when it comes down to it, if you don't have a mental and emotional connection, the physical stuff fizzles out quickly and the relationship hits a brick wall and never goes anywhere.
The physical stuff in a REAL relationship, doesn't matter until later. You should love being around the person and love talking and laughing together, not just feel something for eachother when things get physical.
Sounds like you and this boy have a true connection. I know from experience, I started dating my guy when I was only 16 and im 21 now and we are still together (high school sweethearts) and we are getting married in december!
Don't rush the physical stuff and just get to know eachother and love eachother first. Sex is always better when you have already connected emotionally and mentally first.
Hope this helps! Email me anytime if you need anything! =]
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