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I can't get over him
Okay, I meet this guy in august a year ago and we have become friends pretty quick well by october I started to REALLY like him well that lasted for a while and kinda died down a little. but it was never a problem Well since mid june me and him have been texting everyday and those strong feelings came back, only I started to like him alot more then I ever did. And He is a really good friend and i don't want anything awkward to come between us. and he flirts alot and he told me that he use to like me back in october but I haven't said anything about me likeing him, cause im really shy and i think it might screw up our friend ship. and he is all I think about, every text I get every message I hope its him, I love it when he talks to me, hugs me, teases me. but He flirts with basically ever girl. So i need help, I feel like Im going crazy...Am i going crazy? How do i get over him? I want to but its like a mental block that won't let go of those feelings for him. is there anyway I can get over him without screwing up my friendship with him? please help!
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I have found, firsthand, that the best way to get over a guy is to do the following:
Step 1: Have a really good cry.
- When my boyfriend and I broke up, I was super upset (like words cannot describe how bad I felt). But I told myself that I wasn't going to let it flip my entire world upside down. So I let myself have one really good cry, and then I told myself I'm going to start moving on. Which brings me to...
Step 2: Friends = lifesavers.
- Go to the mall and buy yourself something nice (don't over spend, though. Just something small, but nice. Like a new outfit or purse!) Or go see a movie, or out to dinner or something! Don't mope around your house all day doing nothing.
Step 3: Talk about it.
- It feels SO good to let it all out. Sit down with somebody you trust (for me, it was my mom) and just spill your heart out. Again, don't let it ruin your life or impact you too much.
Step 4: Move ON!
- Stop talking to him for a while (you need to give yourself time to get OVER him). Don't stalk his Facebook, spend time with other people, and don't even waste time TALKING about him.
Honestly, it's going to take time, and it's going to be hard, but once you get over him you will feel SO much better. I promise you that this guy is NOT worth wasting all of your time on, and that there are plenty of other fish in the sea. Go out and find a new guy that treats you right and is WORTH your time. Forget about this guy ASAP. You're young and have plenty of time for guys. And, as one of my favorite books puts it: The first boy is always the hardest.
Best of luck! :)
-Laura (17-f)
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Well if you feel this way and you really like him tell him, those feelings most likley they wont go away. Perhapes if you to date he will stop flirting with all the other girls.
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