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My problem is simple. I am an 18 female going into college this fall and I'm jealous of this one girl that my bf of 20 years of is friends with. I too have many guy friends that I hang out with as well. We both love each other very much and we have a healthy relationship. We both spend get time to ourselves, for school, to our friends and other important things so we are not smothered. The problem isn't him, it's me. I am the baby in my family and I know this sounds bad but I think I have this problem since I'm used to getting all the attention. I am not a snotty person but this one girl just really irritates me. My bf has never cheated on me and tells me to trust him. However, I always get mad at him when they hang out, they never hang out alone but I just feel jealous when they are together because she gets to be with him but not me. Other than this, we have no issues. I've had this problem for a long time and it would kill me if I lost him over this one thing. I feel like if I don't stop bitching at him, he will leave me (even though he says I would be the first one to do that). I drive myself crazy over this and I want to just stop and enjoy our relationship instead of freaking out over this girl. She's in the same friend circle as his other friends so she will be around even if I asked him to stop being friends. My point is, there's nothing I can do to stop it, I jsut need help in not freaking out on him and avoiding the whole "i-love-you-dont-worry-i-dont-like-her-and-you-are-my-eveyrhting" talk every time they all ahng out. Help? (link)
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What i think you should do is become better friends with this girl. Figure out who she is and what she likes to see the common interest in friendship between your boyfriend and this girl. I know how you feel though. Most girls have this problem with their boyfriends friends. I just think you should be calm and if there really is some jealousy ask him to take you with him when you hang out with her sometimes. And if u love him and he loves you, there really shouldn't be a problem. I know jealousy is a big deal but i mean so is trust. If you trust him then you don't want to make a big deal out of this cause then he might think that you don't trust him. So be very careful. But i do think you need to sit him down and tell him how you feel because communication is very important in a relationship. Maybe he feels this way bout one of your friends. You never know. Just stay calm. And now that your going to college and he isn't goingto be with you as much i could assume, get a webcam and talk through them just to be able to keep everything good! i wish you the best of luck =)
~Sealgirl07~
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15/f
my boyfriends 16, and we've been dating like a year and three weeks and we started dating like the day after we met so everything is getting to the point where i'm really comfortable with him and everything. we don't really go on dates due to no money or rides because neither of us can drive and i'm fine with that so we just normally hang out at each others houses. he has only been to my house like 2 times and i go to his house like 2 or 3 times a week so i wanted to start inviting him to my house a little more often. it's just hard at my house because most days someones arguing and crap. anywayyyys my question is what are some fun things we can do that don't really cost much? or nice things i can do for him?
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you could alwasy go for walks which is fun cause u get to hold hands and jsut talk with eachother. or you could watch movies or somthign taht you both just enjoy. find somthing that you both love to do. maybe if you have them, play some video games. take random picture of eachother and then make something out of it. that would be kinda fun thing that you could do for him. or you could just sit and talk.and jsut cuddle with eachother. Good luck and hopefully you find some fun stuff to do.
~sealgirl~
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I been friends with this girl for a little over a year now, and we've become pretty close to best friends since we met.
We tell each other pretty much everything.
I really started liking her after a while, but was always too scared to ask her out or anything.
Then one day, we were asking each other who we both liked, and I told her, and she told me she liked me too.
After that, we started dating, but she broke up with me after just 6 days, saying her mom wouldnt let her date because her grades werent high enough.
After that, we both seriously never talked about it again, at all...
That was last March.
She has now recently become like best friends with my other best friend, who Im really close with, and a few weeks ago, she was telling me that the girl I like, thought we were too good of friends to date.
It killed me inside, but it made sense.
She also told me that she liked another guy, one of my best guy friends. That just killed me even more.
So yesterday I was talking to her, and I told her she was beautiful, and all that stuff...
Today, I was talking to my best friend, and she told me that the girl I like, likes me too, and is waiting for me to ask her out, and that she said she would be happy with either me, or the other guy asking her out, which ever is first.
Now, I need to know..
Should I actually ask her out?
I like her more than Ive ever liked anyone before, and I dont think it would ruin out friendship or anything, because I think we both trust each other to never let anything like that get in the way of out friendship. (link)
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i would say just to go for it. i mean...if she doesn't like you then you can just continue being best friends...well that is if they don't get affected by this kind of stuff. but i mean..if htey are your best friend, i think they will just let it pass and contiue to be your best friend if they turn you down. But honestly..i think you should go for it! if you really like her then you totally should. its a 50 50 % chance that they will say yes..and with everything going on saying that she will be happy with anyone of you guys..then go for it..you got nothin to loose! Good Luck!
~Sealgirl~
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ok so there is this new guy who came in our class and he's really cute and nice. at first i thought he didnt like me but then we went on a classtrip thingy for a week and we got to know eachother and are sort of friends.
I'm a bit of a 'weirdo' in my class. i get along with everyone but i dont really have any close friends and hang out on my own more. so he talks to me when he get's the chance, like he talked to me a lot at a party last week and also asked me to sit next to him today. but the problem is that he's flirty with every girl. like he's always joking around with them and pokes them, always makes body contact etc.
and with me he's always quite serious unless I'M the one being joky, then he starts to be funny with me as well. like he was kind of making fun of me a bit in not a rude way or anything though so i kind of poked him and THEN he started to poke me back, but he only does it when hes sure. and i mean he talks to all the othe rgirls more than to me but WHEN he talks to me he seems to be a bit different. im not too sure if he likes me though because he is SO open so it kind of seems like he likes every girl.
so how can i get him to like me? it's ind of difficult to talk to him because hes alaways surrounded by girls and WHEN i talk to him we often get interrupted. :S (link)
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My opionion is that he likes you. He doesn't tlak as much to you because that he is neverous around your probally. He doesn't want to like joke around and stuff with you because he might think that you won't like it or somthing. and as for flirting with every other girl...he might just be a natural flirt..or that you like him so much you are just trying ot pick out things about him that you noticed and it jumped out at you and you thought bout it as a little overexagerated...but idk! i reall ythink that he likes you. and as for you guys being surrouned by girls..every other girl might like him too that is why they interupt you beecause they want a far shot with him! but asking you to sit by him..its just soo cute! i hope everything works out! Good luck
~Sealgirl~
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well there is this guy that i like and he really likes me. he just dumped his girlfriend (they were only casual--like a month a half?) and so hes going to wait a couple weeks but then hes going to ask me out and i just dont know if i should say yes or not. im afraid to get hurt again because this spring i had a truly terrible breakup. but i told him my deepest secret and he totally understood! so i feel much closer to him and like i can really trust him. i just started at a new school (tho i met him this summer) and moved here in june so i wasnt going to date anyone for a while but he is really nice and like a lot of things that i would want in a relationship. he says im the girl hes liked the most and he thinks hes ready for a long term relationship because thats what i want. but now i dont kno and im all nervous about dating. but everyone tells me to not just go off of one bad relationship and its true but still. i cant bear that pain again. please give me some advice and tell me what you think is best :)
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Getting dumped and getting hurt is all apart of your teenage life..it happens and there is nothin you can do to prevent it. excpet for not going out with someone. If you like the kid go for it. you will be happy once you do it! so i think that you should totally go out with him. he says he likes you so go for it. and bout being nervous...everyone is nervous. Its just apart of life but maybe a way not to be is jus think, you have done this before its nothin different. nothin to be nervous about. its all just general stuff that you should have no worrying about. just be yourself and i'm sure you will be fine! Good luck hoepfully it all works out!
~Sealgirl~
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ok, so within the past year 1/2 i've become best friends with this kid Chris. lately, we've been talking everyday on the comp. and every night on the phone. however, yesterday a girl from my school IMed me and asked me if i liked him because someone told her i did. but i told her i like him as a friend. . .then I told him what happened, and all he said was "oh"...but now he's been saying he has to go a lot, and he hasn't called me, and he gives me 1 word answers, or none at all. but he has a GIRLFRIEND who he does not talk about. so im not sure if he likes me or not. and it's been on my mind since it happened, so i don't know if i like him too.
but his friend (& my friend) likes me too...
maybe he feels awkward about it?
maybe i shouldn't have told him?
maybe he likes me?
idk. help! (link)
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my oppion on this means that he likes you thats why he is actingall distant because he knows that you don't feel the same way bout him. and it might make him sad so he is tryign to stay away to not htink bout it. but knowing that he has a girlfriend makes it a little bit werid. and cahnges everything around. i still think he likes you and knowing that he doesn't tlak bout his gf much might mean that he might not like her that much or somthign like that. but things that are on your mind like this, kinda tell you somthing too. you might like him because you think about this sicne it happened but i dont' knwo whta to tell you. Just listen to yourself and do waht you think is best. but i honestly think tha he likes you and you scared him away. so i'm sorry if you lost a good friend to you. but all you need to do is talk to him and tell him waht is going on. GOod luck and hopefully everything works out.
~sealgirl~
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This kid and i have been on and off for a while. We've been through a lot and hes hurt me a lot. I dont know why i keep getting back together with him. He screwed me over once and promised me he wouldnt again and than he basically did. I sent him like two texts and he ignored them so i sent another saying it was over. he didnt say anything. This was 4 days ago, and he still hasn't said anything. We go to different schools so its kinda different. I don't know what to do. At first i was like "im over this" but now i misss him sooo much and i almost want to get back together but he doesnt treat me right. when we hang out hes amazing, but when it comes to calling and communication, he sucks. I dont know what to do! I know that relationships dont last forever and that i need to get over this sooner or later, but i dont want to. what should i do?! (link)
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i say that you should forget about him. If he doesn't treat you right or talk to you much then forget it, he isn't the right guy for you because it doesn't seem like he cares bout it. So get over him and find someone new. He isn't worth all your energy and time if he doesn't treat you the way you deserve to be treated. so good luck and hopefully it will work out without him!
~sealgirl~
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well i have this friend who is a total player and he can be a total jerk but i kissed him like 2 months ago when i first met him then i stopped talking to him but now we are friends again..anyway i want to makeout with him because hes a really good kisser and i have no one to kiss lol and it would be fun but i really dont want people to think im pathetic or something. is just making out with him gonna make people think that? at my school hes like a loser because of the girls we messes with and he USED to do drugs and parties and stuff but i would NEVER date him or anything. i just want to kiss him. what do you think? and please dont be mean!!! (link)
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Well that technacaly would just make you a player in a way. the thing is you just want to "hook up" with him and not go out. that isnt' a bad thing at all but it isn't nesecairly a good thing eaither. people might say a few things about you but really its no big deal. its what you want. so go for it. there really isn't problem with it. Just messsin around with people is normal for many so just do it and it will be fine...i think at least. But honestly...i don't think people will thing that you are pathetic..i really don't...So good luck and have fun!
~Sealgirl~
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Okay, since like ever I've always been the guys best friend. Theres been prettier girls then me, and thats who my friends go for. Most of my friends are guys. I've always been flat chested, like a board and it would sometimes bother me when someone pointed it out, but then i just realised-- Whatever.
Well over the summer I went from like nothing to a C. I don't honestly know how.. but I did. And my Mom also said that I got curves.. [embarrasing..] No one failed to notice the changes over the summer and its weird. because most girls went through this like in the 6th grade, and im going through it in the 8th but now all the 'friends' I have which are guys are diffrent around me. I'm really into sports, and we usto always play football, and Im not good at it but I can run. They catch up with me and Im dead.. and I dont care that they tackle me but some either tackle me to hard and claim I got hurt cuz "She has those huge tits to worry about now." or are way to soft. Yeh Ben actually said that to me and I was like =XX Im not into makeup, or skirts or any of that and they didnt care before... but now I guess there flirting with me. My only girl-friend Becky says that they all are- we can choose our seats this year and Im always at the guys table and they're always poking me, and love to make me scream from some reason. Its all diffrent, and it used to be okay to walk into a room full of guys where I knew they were my friends. But now they look down my shirt, compliment me constantly, which isnt so bad but i cant walk into the room without known There The Oppiset Sex. its weird.
I dont know how to make things go back the the way they were... =[
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I'm sorry to say this..but you can't change what has happened. Your body had changed and this is how the boys are being affected by it. i'm sry to say this..but boys like hot bodys and stuff. they apparentally think you have one because the way you are acting. the only real thing you can do is sit down and talk to htem all saying that you don't appreicate what they are doing and you want things back to the way they used to be but if they don't change, then they never will...its just the way they are..i'm sry. Good luck with everything
~Sealgirl~
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THIS IS GONNA BE LONG BUT PLAESE BARE WITH ME :)
So school started on Wednesday Sept. 3
And in my 6th period i found this guy -- the first time i saw him, i knew i wasnt gonna keep my eyes off of him. i swear he's my first CRUSH in high school..
The second day-- i was so excited to see him again, he is cute, has nice style, cute voice, i can tell he's a little shy cause when the teacher would call on him its like he wants to hide in his little shell. (HOW CUTTEEE) even though i dont know him, theres something about him that gets me attracted to him... i actually think he caught me staring at him!! haha first question, 1 IF HE CAUGHT ME STARING AT HIM, DOESNT THAT MEAN HE WAS LOOKING AT ME TOO?
The third day (which was yesterday) --
I wasnt really focused on him, but i did look and glance at him every 5 minutes or so . To tell da truth, I'm really intimidated .. well because, i dont know how to act! yea yea "BE YOURSELF!" but you know that feeling when you "like" someone and your shy and dont know what to do or HOW TO ACT round him? Yeaaaa, thats what i mean.
So 6th period ended and I WATCHED HIM WALK OUT THE DOOR. I wanted to see where he was going. I was trying no to seem obvious that i was stalking him (haha) but i did follow him. I pretended i was talking on the phone too . and then he stopped walking so, i KINDA stopped walking and pretended i was waiting for somebody.. but then i just went on and walked to my locker to get my book. i met up with my bestfriend in the locker and while we were walking, i was like "Duuuudeee, he's SOOO CUTE!!" and she was like "haha youve got to show me him someday" and as we were walking outside the hallway.... THERE HE WAS!!! he was talking to this dude.. umm probably 20 feet away from me and my bestfriend. i was like "OMG there he is!" but he was turned around so we couldnt see his face so we pretended we were gonna get something in the student store (he was near the student store) and turned around and tried to see his face..
Then i asked my friend if we could just stalk him for a while.. so we were following around faking that we were gonna get something here and there and then all of a sudden i saw him walking with this chinese girl (no not his type, a lil chubby..) and they were talking .. i was telling my friend "omg go away girl go away girl!!!" and we kept on laughing and then the girl who was about 15 feet in front us TURNED AROUND AND SAID "Hey! He wants to meet you guys! He's just shy!!" at that moment my heart just stopped beating.. i swear i was like ohhh myy gooodd.. its like that moment and i couldnt stop smiling!! my friend and i didnt know what to do, cause i dont wanna be the one who comes up to the guy you know? im a girl!
So he ran to the stairs cuz i guess he WAS shy & of course, a little embarrased!! ----
Second question:
Do you think the chinese girl was serious, and when they were conversating, they were talking about me and my friend? Or was she just talking to him, got pissed off at something he said and decided to embarrass him by saying "Hey!! he wants..." by saying that?
Third question:
If the chinese girl was serious, Do you think he wants to meet ME? since i have him in one of my classes, and he doesnt know my friend, isnt it most likely that he wants to "meet me"? or is it ... me and my friend? i dont know why.. maybe he think.. were pretty? idk. OOORRRRR do you think he just wants to meet MY FRIEND?!? (THAT WOULD GET ME MAD.) But heres the one that i want!! -->
Do you think he wants to meet ME? since i have him in one of my classes, he obviously at least KNOWS ME ; doesnt know my friend, most likely he wants to meet me riiighhtt.
Goshh.. from this tory. whats da deal? what should i do on monday when i see him again? i dont wanna be the one who acts like THE GUY -- i mean COME UP TO HIM, ASK HIM QUESTIONS, SMILE AT HIM, you know-- all those things guys do to get at girls. i dont wanna say i want to be "hard-to-get" but i really dont wanna be the first one to start everything with this guy. but I HAAVE THIS HUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUGE CRUSH ON HIM. i cannnnooot stop thinking about him. this morning i woke up, and thought about him in my bed for about an hour. i couldnt stop rewinding what happened yesterday after school i am currently looking for his myspace right now and CANNOT FIND IT. im not despearate... i just wanna get to know this guy cause obviously.. yeah.. i guess i LIKE HIM.
so im asking you all three CONFUSION QUESTIONS AND PLEASE.. answer the best way you can. it would really help me a lot..
please add some advice, example: what you think this guy thinks of me, what should i do on monday, how should i act, should i smile at him, talk to him after school, etc.
add everything you can!! im suuuuper confuused.. i cannot stop thinking bout this situation.
Thanks a lot.
p.s. he's the first guy i liked in 2 years. yes-- the last guy i had this big crush on was in 7th grade.
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Wow..sounds like your havein a fun time in high school. ok..so my opinion is that you really need to get up the curage to talk to him and "be the guy" because if you don't, he might loose interest or think that you aren't interested in him. so ifi were you, i talk to him soon. and it really doesn't matter who talks first or goes up to eachother. it isn't nessecairly the guys job. if you are interested the go for it. i think the guy actually likes you, or is interested in you. i really don't think that the chinese girl would just make that up. but he probally ran away cause he was of course shy and embarassed. As for how you should act on mondaay...just be yourself. Smile be happy and just be yourself. Don't push anything tho. But yeah..i really think he wants to meet you and get to know you more..so good luck..
~Sealgirl~
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ok so i've been friends with this girl for 2 and a half years and we're really close and i've liked her for about that long too i've waited for my chance but everytime i would try someone would beat my to the punch and the same thing would happen everytime they'd end up cheating on her she always dates older guys which i think is stupid because they're more likely to cheat really anyways well she's been dating this one guy for about a year now and back in november they broke up and so and i told her how i felt about her but she was still unsure because she still had feelings for her ex so then about 3 weeks later they're back together and i was sad i didn't talk to her for about 7 months because i never saw but then finally i got to see her and surprisingly she was more friendlier than usual she gave me more attention than usual we run cross country together and she always wants me to run with her and one she texted me which she never does and then one she IMed me which she never does so i'm wondering did she miss me does hse have feelings for me o and she's still with that guy though too but is she finally starting to like me? (link)
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well its kinda hard to tell. you see, once you tell a girl that you are really good friends with that you like them, they usually get all scared and don't talk to you anymore ecause they just want to be friends. but your friend here seems like she is trying to get closer to you. so i would say that she likes you. But not over thetop liking because she is still with that guy. but i mean, if she just watned to stay friends then she would have been acting normal but if she is doing things she doesn't normally do... then it seems as if she wants to be with you and talk with you. she most likly misses you and wants to be frieds with you too. well as the time being, beecause of her boyfriend. but i bet if you give it time, seh will come around and fall for you. Well good luck with her! and i hope everything works out great.
~sealgirl~
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My best friend told her brother that i thought he was cute and that i liked him! (i did think he was really cute) But she was just playing. Then i find out that he likes me.(as my friend says) Well I start to like him. Ok, I usually see him in school only about 2 time, but today i saw him 4 times! He was everywhere I was. I didnt look at him because i was shy, but my friend said that he was looking at me and smiling. My friend also said that her bro dont like shy girls! Well im super shy around guys cause im not that exprienced, and i want him to still like me! How do i not be shy! ( i hate it) (link)
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well the best thing you can do is be yourself..just pretend he is your best friend..like just a guy that you are really good friends with and that will help you not be as shy. but if you are a shy person then it is hard to not be shy cause i am the same way. Just be confident in what you do and if u make a mistake...just get over it and move on! it will all be ok! guys always will make you nervous because it is just the nature we have with them. Just be yourself and try not to think about it and you will be fine..but to make yourself less nervous, try talk to other guys before you talk with him just to know how it feels. well Good luck and i hope it all turns out ok! :)
~sealgirl~
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its almost 5 months for me and my bf-were both 15. and i think i love him and i want to tell him.but we both take saying "i love you seriously" so we havent said it yet. i really want to but some things he does are keeping me. like it seems like he likes music more then me sometimes-which he says isnt true (because hes a big musican).and we only get to see each other 1 a week cuz he lives 30 mins away. and i feel if were on the phone he'll sing and i feel like hes not listening-i'll even go "right?" and he'll go "right!" and i didnt even ask him anything...but when im with him i want nothing but to be with him, at school i cant stop thinking of him and i just wanna be in his arms..its just on the phone when were not together things are -off.but when im with him.i get that feeling like i wanna tell him i love him really bad.but i dont wanna tell him i love him and him not feel the same way-because i dont kno if he feels the same way-.i dont kno what to do..what do you think i should do? (link)
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ok..first off...i would like to say that im sorry taht he is like that! but i mean...if you really feel that way, you should tell him!! i mean, your just going to keep feeling hte same feelings over nad over and they probally aren't goign to change. so just tell him! if he doesn't feel the same way then thats just the chance you have to take but most likely he will because if one person feels it, then the other mostly does too!! musicans are people who also love music and that is probally a way to express there emotions out! that is probally why they do it so much!!! just tell him, that my opinon. most guys mostly any guy doesn't listen all the time too!!! guys just rn't good at that, its the way they are! but we have to live with it! and it hurts somtimes, but its the way life goes. so good luck and i really think you should tell him, but if you do, tell him in person and not over the phone! GOOD LUCK
~sealgirl~
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alright well i have a guy friend and well i like him alot...and i had it bad for another guy before that really messed me up when he broke it off...but i'm over him...way over :}. but yea well my "friend" acts like he really really likes me...but people in my classes were starting to " carry it on about us liking eachther"...well now he wonders off alot i mean like doesnt act like i'm there..and i think its my fault and heres the story...
we were sitting in class and this girl sent me a note saying it was from the guy i like..it said this is "the guys name" and it said "will you go out with me" but i knew it wasnt from him but from the girl trying to prove that i did like him ALOT. but yeah well she started to ask why i said no and i said because he's a nice guy and he's my friend...and i said that i didnt believe that he really asked that because i knew his hand writing..then all that week and so on his sister said that he "loved me" well i cna tell when she is making stuff up and she was...but it really hurts me to pretend..and another time he was walking me to 7th period and when we saw my friend who is a guy..he said "hey theres your next boyfriend"(the guy that i like said that) and that was like the 10 time he said that for awhile and i said "hey news flash he's not the guy i like!!!" then he smiled and walked away. but i really like him...should i wait until the next chance i have to say i like him...should i tell his sister that i do...or should i just say it the next time my whole class asks if i like him... please help...i know it just sounds like some teen crush...they always do...but i know how i feel.if i dated him i know it wouldnt ruin our friendship...it just couldnt (link)
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Its ok to have a teen crush..everyone does. But i don't think you should tell your whole class that you like him because it might be embarassing to say that. I wouldn't tell his sister eaither because you never know what would happen with taht one. i mean if you say taht his sister makes stuff up sometimes, he might think it is made up. so the best way to tell him is to just tell him yourself. it is the best honest way to tel him. easy for him to know to..so good luck and i hope everything works out ok!
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okay so theres this guy. i see him occasionally (we dont go to the same school). anyways, we met like last year (we knew eachother before that when we were like little because our parents were friends but we dont really remember). anyways, i met him last year (freshman year) through my last boyfriend and we all hung out tons. we dont hang out anymore but i see him at like these religious event thingys. we both liked eachother at the beginning of this year. like he stopped liking me a few weeks ago because my guy friends (one of them likes me) were being SO obnoxious to him and telling him they were gonna beat him up and crap. and so hes like judging me by my friends. we dont really talk anymore and we used to talk tons. i really miss him as a friend but i feel like if i try to talk to him im just annoying him. he says hes not mad anymore, but i know deep down he probably is. im married to the guy friend on facebook that likes me. so the other guy told me that while i have a 'thing' with my guy friend he doesnt really wanna talk to me. anyways, im gonna see this guy at a religious thing on wednesday and the last time was really awkward and we didnt talk at all apparently because i was 'giving him mean looks' (which i probably was because i was mad at him for being a huge dick about the whole thing). anyways, the problem is i still like him, but i also like my guy friend. i just want some way to be friends with this guy again! what should i do/ say to him on wednesday? i cant really say anything too personal because theres gonna be other people around i mean i could take him aside i guess. but like how should i act? i guess the reason why im asking this is because im used to him always playing games with my head.. he like plays hard to get and shit but i know that he liked me because we hooked up in like december. and he like told me he likED me a few weeks ago. the problem is he wont tell me at the time because hes like scared to or something. its really confusing. and like so i pretended not to like him either. so like i dont really know how to act on wednesday because i dont want to seem like desperate or whatever and i dont want him to think i have any interest in him as more than a friend. if that makes any sense. or should i show interest in him? AHHHH im confused! HELP! (link)
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i say that when you see him that you should tell him the truth. Tell him that you miss being friends with him and you want him back in your life. Don't hint on you likeing him or it might scare him off a little. Just tell him that you want to be his freind. Just be honest with him and try not to give him dirty looks because that might make him angry. To get his attension you can send him kinda flirty looks but don't tell him that you like him. Just be normal and it wo't be a problem. Just tell him you wnat to be his freind and i thin he will understand. Good Luck
~sealgirl~
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me and my bf (were both 15) and i trust him completely. he lives 30 mins away from me. we see each other once a week usually. he has alot of female friends.and for valentines day, as a joke 2 of his female friends got him boxers and wrote their names by the top strap and then wrote by the "male part" on the boxers,my name with an S, showing like ownership. and he talks about girls he met at concerts how i should meet them and how cool they are. and his other femal friends he hangs out with them and how hes gonna hang out with him.we've dated 3 months and have a somewhat sexual relationship, but not litterly sex. so i dont know if i am jealous, or i dont really trust him?i dont want to talk to him about it cause i dont want him thinking i dont trust him or i'm jealous..what should i do? am i jealous?do i REALLY trust him? (link)
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i think it is a little bit of both. i mean..i think you trust him but not a full trust. and i think you are jealous..i mean..i don't blame you. i would be jealous to. you live half hour away from eachother which will bring suspisions because you can't see waht eachother is doing. so you aren't sure he is doing what he is supposed to but you like him so much you are probally putting it off because you don't wnat to htink like that because you want the relationship to conitnue. so being jealous isn't a bad thing it is ok but if you are really unsure bout what is going on, it is better just to talk to him bout it, and if he doesn't understand it and something ends up going wrong, then you know that he wasn't right for you. Just know that i'm always here for a shoulder to cry on or to help with anything at all!! Good luck and have fun!!
~sealgirl~
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ok im 15 now and i don't know if theres something
wrong with or what because ive only dated people on the internet its like nomatter what i do i can't seem to get a boyfriend . its not like i want to date someone o just be with someone i only want tto date people who care about me and are interested in what i have to say. so my question is why isnt any guy interested in me ?
because im like outgoing and stuff im in the 9th grade now and im gettin worried that i'll never find a guy so if anyone can give me any tips or anything that would be great thankies. (link)
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trust me nothings wrong with you. i'm in 10th grade and i haven't had a boyfriend at all. it is ok to like want someone to be your boyfreind and for someone to want to listen to you. You probally think that nobody is interested in you but they might be shy and not want to admitt the fact that they like you. People get scared and they don't wnat to tell the people that they like. So if you see a guy lookin at you or giving you some signals then just go up to him and start a conversation and see waht happens. And trust me, there is a guy out there for everyone, just it happens faster for people then others. Good luck and i hope you find someone soon!!
~sealgirl~
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so I'm going to try to make this as short as possible...here it goes:
there are two guys guy #1 and 2...
#1: He is nice to me, incredibly sweet (although none of my friends or family like him and he's not very attractive), but in school (and outside of school) I never see him. So, when we are passing in the hallway or see eachother at lunch it is sooo awkward because we only talk on AIM and text, and we just like don't say anything. Well, he asked me out once, and then told me he liked me another time, and I told him I liked him too (because I do) and then he asked me if I would ever go out with a guy like him...and I said not until things becaome less awkward for us. sooo he dropped the subject and it's been weeks since he brought it up. I flirt with him a lot on text, but he can be a liar. so anyways, he brought up the subject again, but I might be liking another guy now.
#2. He is more attractive than guy #1, I talk to him at lunch (in school and on text) my friends like him, my family does too, but we nver hung out outside of school. He is tall and makes me laugh, and my friends are trying to set me up with him,, telling me how cute we are and everything, but he sends mixed signals. and I don't think he likes me as a gf, just a friend, but I'm not really sure. It's really confusing. We never talked about our relationship and whatnot, so I don't know who to like.
Can anyone help me out? comments and opinions would be greatly appeciated. thanks a bunchh. (link)
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ok first off..it shouldn't matter what people look like..as long as they are good people inside..sorry that sounds chessy..but its the truth. and second, it shouldn't matter how others feel about the guy, it is all up to you. But my opinion is that guy 1, you seem like you have nothin to talk about i know itis becaus u said from akwardness but if you get in a relationship with him, it isn't good to not have anything to talk about so i don't think that would be a good pick for you. and as for the second guy, he seems great but if you aren't sure what is going out with his signals then maybe you should talk to him about it or wait it out a little bit longer to see what happenes between the two of you. if you wanted to talk to him bout it then just be normal and talk bout the relationship you have together and if he would like it to change a little bit..but my bet is go for the 2nd guy. it sounds like it would work better because u have talked to the 1st guy a while and teh akwardness hasn't gone away so it probally won't so go for #2. Good luck and i hope everything works out ok!
~sealgirl~
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SO This guy told me he loved me last night but were rely good friends and i dont know if he was just saying that to be cute or if he rely ment it this is so hard btw i love him so much but i'm not sure if he feels the same (link)
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well the best thing you could do is to be honest with him and talk to him about it. Just ask what he ment by it or start off saying it back to him first and see how he response. the best way to figure it out is to ask in person and figure out what the deal is. If you think he ment it then he probally did if you feel the same way but i would talk to him bout it just to be sure!!! Good luck
~sealgirl~
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hey im 15 and the kid i like is 16. well we have been hookin up and like i really want a boyfriend. i told him i was lookin for one. he has this whole idea that its pointless to label a relationship with bf or gf because then you dont have to go threw a brake up.he also said that is someone asked if i was his girl nd it was at that point he would be like yeah that my girl nd that he only does hookup with me. do i continue to like him nd try nd make it more or move on.
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i mean..hes right..as long as you are happy i say that you should go with it. if you like him then stay with him..you shouldn't want a boyfriend..i mean..you know he is yours and he is technacally your boyfriend but he just doens't want to be called that..it is no big deal..just stay with him becaus u like him not because of what you wil be called. you don't need a boyfriend but if you are looking for one let him be your boyfriend but you just don't have to call him that..hopefully this makes since..Good luck
~sealgirl~
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