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so what now?
so I'm going to try to make this as short as possible...here it goes:
there are two guys guy #1 and 2...
#1: He is nice to me, incredibly sweet (although none of my friends or family like him and he's not very attractive), but in school (and outside of school) I never see him. So, when we are passing in the hallway or see eachother at lunch it is sooo awkward because we only talk on AIM and text, and we just like don't say anything. Well, he asked me out once, and then told me he liked me another time, and I told him I liked him too (because I do) and then he asked me if I would ever go out with a guy like him...and I said not until things becaome less awkward for us. sooo he dropped the subject and it's been weeks since he brought it up. I flirt with him a lot on text, but he can be a liar. so anyways, he brought up the subject again, but I might be liking another guy now.
#2. He is more attractive than guy #1, I talk to him at lunch (in school and on text) my friends like him, my family does too, but we nver hung out outside of school. He is tall and makes me laugh, and my friends are trying to set me up with him,, telling me how cute we are and everything, but he sends mixed signals. and I don't think he likes me as a gf, just a friend, but I'm not really sure. It's really confusing. We never talked about our relationship and whatnot, so I don't know who to like.
Can anyone help me out? comments and opinions would be greatly appeciated. thanks a bunchh.
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How can you possibly not understand who to like? Guy #1 seems like a really huge asshole, and completely immature, and if your only going to talk to guys at school and through AIM and text than your probably not ready to commit to a REAL relationship in the first place. You need to hang out with these guys more and not make things so awkward because those are the reasons why they are. If your family and friends don't like the guy you like then he's obviously not good for you, they're the people that know you the most and they should know whats good for you, which he's clearly not.
sorry its the truth!=)
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Let's start with Guy #1:
Think about it, it seems to me that he must really have feelings for you, and is even willing to wait for you to come up with the right moment for you two to spend a little more time together.
To me, things can go well, but it would take a bit more work in that relationship for others to understand that you two might be right for each other.
Now, on to Guy #2:
Family and Friends like him, and of course you do too. He's more attractive and you can also see yourself with him for as long as possible. But the problem is, he's not being straight forward with you , and you feel you're receiving mixed messages.
You should find the strength to confront him and ask him "Where are we in this? Is it as good friends, or potential relationship?"
That's the only way you'll know for sure, what he's thinking.
Other than that, whoever fits better into your life that makes you happy should be the one to be with.
Let me know if everything goes well, either way!
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ok first off..it shouldn't matter what people look like..as long as they are good people inside..sorry that sounds chessy..but its the truth. and second, it shouldn't matter how others feel about the guy, it is all up to you. But my opinion is that guy 1, you seem like you have nothin to talk about i know itis becaus u said from akwardness but if you get in a relationship with him, it isn't good to not have anything to talk about so i don't think that would be a good pick for you. and as for the second guy, he seems great but if you aren't sure what is going out with his signals then maybe you should talk to him about it or wait it out a little bit longer to see what happenes between the two of you. if you wanted to talk to him bout it then just be normal and talk bout the relationship you have together and if he would like it to change a little bit..but my bet is go for the 2nd guy. it sounds like it would work better because u have talked to the 1st guy a while and teh akwardness hasn't gone away so it probally won't so go for #2. Good luck and i hope everything works out ok!
~sealgirl~
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Well, though they shouldn't completely run your life, your friends/family's opinion does matter. Guy #1 seems good because he's nice, but if your friends and family don't like him that's not so good. And if you guys don't communicate in person, only in texting, that's not good either. People act differently sometimes online than they do in real life.
Guy #2 seems better because your family and friends at least like him. However, if he only sees you as a friend then that is how it is. But you can change that. Flirt with him more and show him that you are ready for a relationship.
This isn't based on looks by the way. I just think that if your family and friends don't like a guy, you are in for a rough ride if you two go out. Trust me on this one.
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