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go for it or get rid of him
hey im 15 and the kid i like is 16. well we have been hookin up and like i really want a boyfriend. i told him i was lookin for one. he has this whole idea that its pointless to label a relationship with bf or gf because then you dont have to go threw a brake up.he also said that is someone asked if i was his girl nd it was at that point he would be like yeah that my girl nd that he only does hookup with me. do i continue to like him nd try nd make it more or move on.
please helpp
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It's kind of hard to understand what you're saying, so next time work on your wording. Anyway, it seems like he's not into the commitment thing, so that doesn't make him a very good candidate for a boyfriend. Also, you said he only hooks up with you. Does this mean you don't share an emotional connection? To be in a relationship, you have to make sure both of you are in it, and it seems like you only have a physical relationship. Sounds like you might need to find a new boy.
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Seems like he doesn't want to commit just now. and if that's the case, you can't make him.
It's not pointless to "label a relationship". Even if you're not boyfriend and girlfriend right now and just say you didn't want to hook up anymore, you'd still have to have a "break up", wouldn't you?
You can try talking to him again.
but if you want a boyfriend and he doesn't want a girlfriend, yet still wants to hook up with you, it's obviously more of a friends with benefits thing.. and you should move on.
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If you are looking for a relationship
and he isn't, you have no choice but
to find someone who is interested.
Who knows, maybe he will commit when
he realizes you are VERY serious about
this.
As it stands he is getting all the
benefits without the commitment.
Personally, I think thats BS. I'd
be finding someone who wants a real
relationship.
Thats just my opinion, of course.
Good luck with whatever you decide. :)
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i mean..hes right..as long as you are happy i say that you should go with it. if you like him then stay with him..you shouldn't want a boyfriend..i mean..you know he is yours and he is technacally your boyfriend but he just doens't want to be called that..it is no big deal..just stay with him becaus u like him not because of what you wil be called. you don't need a boyfriend but if you are looking for one let him be your boyfriend but you just don't have to call him that..hopefully this makes since..Good luck
~sealgirl~
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if he isn't willing to have a relationship with you, then he has serious committment problems and im sorry to say this but hes probably just telling you that he tells people your his girl so you wont leave him because he wants the action. if he truly liked you he would be willing to have a relationship and he wouldnt just be hooking up with you, he would take you on dates, talk to you alot, etc. you dont deserve a guy like him..i say you should leave him alone and move on unless he is willing to change. try to meet new guys..truly nice ones who want a relationship and dont just wanna hook up and i bet youll find a really great guy and then youll look back and be like "thank goodness i left that guy" hope i helped!
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