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Eighth Grade.
Okay, since like ever I've always been the guys best friend. Theres been prettier girls then me, and thats who my friends go for. Most of my friends are guys. I've always been flat chested, like a board and it would sometimes bother me when someone pointed it out, but then i just realised-- Whatever.
Well over the summer I went from like nothing to a C. I don't honestly know how.. but I did. And my Mom also said that I got curves.. [embarrasing..] No one failed to notice the changes over the summer and its weird. because most girls went through this like in the 6th grade, and im going through it in the 8th but now all the 'friends' I have which are guys are diffrent around me. I'm really into sports, and we usto always play football, and Im not good at it but I can run. They catch up with me and Im dead.. and I dont care that they tackle me but some either tackle me to hard and claim I got hurt cuz "She has those huge tits to worry about now." or are way to soft. Yeh Ben actually said that to me and I was like =XX Im not into makeup, or skirts or any of that and they didnt care before... but now I guess there flirting with me. My only girl-friend Becky says that they all are- we can choose our seats this year and Im always at the guys table and they're always poking me, and love to make me scream from some reason. Its all diffrent, and it used to be okay to walk into a room full of guys where I knew they were my friends. But now they look down my shirt, compliment me constantly, which isnt so bad but i cant walk into the room without known There The Oppiset Sex. its weird.
I dont know how to make things go back the the way they were... =[
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I'm sorry to say this..but you can't change what has happened. Your body had changed and this is how the boys are being affected by it. i'm sry to say this..but boys like hot bodys and stuff. they apparentally think you have one because the way you are acting. the only real thing you can do is sit down and talk to htem all saying that you don't appreicate what they are doing and you want things back to the way they used to be but if they don't change, then they never will...its just the way they are..i'm sry. Good luck with everything
~Sealgirl~
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The simple truth is teenagers will tease each other about ANYTHING. If you'd have gotten braces, they might have joked about that. A piercing, then they'd use that. Unfortunately, you got boobs, and those are even more fun to joke about then braces or piercing!
But at this point, they are playing off your insecurities and exaggerating the issue. Some of them might be flirting with you, but it sounds more likely that you are being picked on, and that you are allowing it to happen.
Change the way you are thinking about this and then the way you are dealing with it. It’s not friendly, and it’s not nice, even if these guys mean it that way. When you are politely putting up with it, boys will continue to think it’s a fun game to tease you and prod at you. Start to stop it by telling them straight out that it is NOT funny. A withering gaze can go a long way in stopping inappropriate comments. If you don’t want to be touched, be clear “That isn’t funny. I don’t like it. Don’t do it.” Don’t laugh. Don’t be nice. Be CLEAR. If you really think they are flirting with you, call them on it ‘If you are trying to win my heart, you are doing a horrible job, and if you aren’t then you are being a jackass, stop it.”
Poking and prodding and staring and comments might their way of flirting and a little bit of objectification can be flattering, but what you are describing is way too much objectification. It’s hard feel like you can be an object, and somebody’s friend. Fortunately, most boys are basically good people, and basically insecure when it comes to girls. If you tell them, confidently that you don’t like certain behavior and it’s not nice, most of them will stop. In eight grade you are probably the only girl they are comfortable enough around to treat this way, all the other ones scare them shitless. You’ll be doing them all a favor if you point out how much their current approach sucks.
Try making your firm statements directly to them on by one, rather then in a large group setting. They will be more likely to get the message that way then if they are all together where they might laugh it off. Then stand by your statements and reaffirm them. It’s true you shouldn’t let this get too you, but that doesn’t mean you have to simply put up with it.
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Unfortunately, it happens to everyone. There is a time when guys and girls change and it's not easy to just be friends anymore. You will get used to it more, but it will probably be like this for a long time. Start making some girlfriends that you can hang out with, people you won't feel awkward around. Don't completely ignore the guys, but just accept the fact that this is what's going to happen to everyone. Look on the bright side. Guys are noticing you now, though it's not as easy to be friends anymore, dating is a great thing. Dating is one of the most fun parts of most teenagers lives, so enjoy it and make the best you can out of the situation.
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I hate to say this because I know it isn't the answer you want, but you can't change how your body looks. Try wearing a spots bra, it smashes them, but not by much. Whatever people say, Don't let it make you feel bad. Don't let it make you feel weird, guys like boobs. And you always growing. You don't just grow boobs in sixth grade, you grow until your twenty one, so whoever says rude things about it, needs to stop. And just tell them that.
Hope things work out!
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