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I am 17 and my boyfriend is 20. We've been together on off for almost four years and have had a sexual relationship for pratically all of that time.

We're really great together but we aren't compatable sexually AT ALL. We have great chemistry and the lead up to sex is fantastic but the act itself is awful.

For the last year I've been questioning my sexuality. I've thought I'm bisexual for a few years, although I haven't discussed this with my boyfriend - it doesn't really come up does it. Lately though, i've becoming way more... that way inclined.

So basically, I'm unsure about my sexuality, and I don't see how I'm supposed to figure it out because I can't experiment without breaking up with my boyfriend. I really dont want that. And besides, I can't really mention it to my boyfriend until I know - because what if I'm wrong?

I would like to be in a relationship with a girl I think. But maybe a bit later in life. My family would kill me lol.

HELP?

Well I am bisexual and both my parents know about this and even if they don't acknoweledge this, I am fine. I have gotten through a BIG hurdle. Just be true to yourself. You'll never know if you don't try it.
Good luck! Hope I helped!

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So i went on a date with this one guy and then at the scene of the location it was a completely different guy that looked like the guy i currently like. And We walked around this museum. An At the end I sat next to him on a bench and wrapped my arms around his shoulders and rested my head on his and said "Thank you for taking me here. Its so pretty." and he said "I thought you said that it was just a whole bunch of dead old guys?" and i said "Yeah well they are pretty too." And he laughed and turned his head towards mine, and he said you make the first move and i said no you and he said no you, then we kissed. And it was like 3 times and he pulled away. And then i was on the phone with him and said bye then i woke up.

What does this mean? I know that some people say oh well dreams dont matter but i think they do.

http://www.dreammoods.com/dreamdictionary/

hope this helps!

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I realized I was gay when I was like 9, mostly b/c my parents are way controlling even wen i was little they wouldn't let me have friends who were guys...
so to me wen i was young, i was like ok mom and dad dont want me to hang out with guys, guess somethings wrong with em, so i eventually started liking girls instead.
Then me and my family moved to a new town when i was 14, and my parents finally agreed to let me go away to public skool, after a few months i kinda got bi-curious.
Long story short i ended up having sex with a guy, got addicted, became fully bisexual, then shortly afterward became so grossed out by how guys looked etc that i cudnt even be turned on enough to have sex w/ em ne more....
i told people that i was bi, wen i was, but now that im gay, i dont know if i have the courage to come out and say it because im afraid that i might go back to being bisexual...if i found a guy that didnt discussed me...which is doubtful, but if i tell ppl that im fully gay, it blows every guy, in my highskool, at least, out of the water, and i've still got 2yrs left to go..so i just dont know....
can anyone help?

Be true to yourself. You have tested the waters and it sounds like you are bisexual. It is not a bad thing, being bisexual. I am bisexual as well. I don't tell people. I told my parents and my mom actually caught me making out with my girlfriend at that time so the ride home was REALLY uncomfortable!
Good luck!
Hope I helped!

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I've been with my boyfriend for almost one year and 3 months. Lately I feel like he doesn't trust me around my guy friends. Today I hung out with two of my closet guy friends and he says that it's 'f***ed up' that I hung out with them....


He's starting to make me more frustrated and I seem like I'm crying more than I have before.


What can I do?

He may have some trusting issues with these guys that he cannot get over. Reassure him that ABSOLUTELY NOTHING is going on between you and these guy friends and that you love him.
If that fails completely, you may want to rethink your relationship! Good luck! Hope I helped!

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well i told him how i felt.... and he won't talk 2 me... i mean i know he still cares about me.... is he not talking to me cause he feels the same and he doesn't want to make it hard for us?....or does he not feel the same? i'm confused.... and i heard that it takes a guy longer to get over a girl then the other way around... i jus really miss him. and it makes my heart ache to think about him. i hate it... i want to move on but then i don't... and he said he'll visit (in like 3 years) but there is this other guy to... thats why i'm confused... so do i just forget about the one that moved (he has my heart) and move on with this other dude? i don't know wat to do..

Well it sounds like you should move on. I know it may be hard at first but you will get used to not having him around. I'd say move on with the other guy; he is around and it'll make life a lot simple...trust me! Hope I helped sweetie!

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so me and this guy met in eigth grade btw: im in 9th grade now, and you know how when you first meet someone you feel like you've known them for ever.... well that's what happened with me. and we became friends,dated,broke-up,and became friends again...and through this i knew he was moving and we both fell for eachother. I mean when we were friends we acted like a couple cause we cared for each other that much...and when him and i dated other people we were jealouse of eachother....and we would still say sweet things to eachother when we were dating other people... anyway he moved during the summer and school has started again.... and i miss him so much... i just want him here with me...i mean we still talk.. and i get mad and upset at him cause of things and then he doesnt talk to me and then i get mad at myself. and i just want him to know ho much i still care for him...

I know how you feel. Just tell him how you feel. It won't freak him out; he'll probably think its sweet. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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ok so on myspace a guy that went to my school called "eric" liked like 4 times and he asked me out 4 times i said no to all of them cus we NEVER talked at ALL... so now on myspace we talk alot and he said im beutiful and cute and sexy and all that and now i kinda like him and wanna go out with him but i NEVER had a boyfriend so i dont like know what to say to him or do with him help

f/13

Well you are 13 so I would be careful. Just trell him how you feel. If you wanna go out with him, great! Just be careful about it. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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my boyfriend of 2 months is leaving after college starts August 25th for me. I want to give him a gift but I dont know what to give him. It can be either I give it to him before he leaves or put it in his stuff when he leaves that way when he gets to his outta state college he will see/ find it. which sounds like a sweet and good idea.

i already wrote him a note that I will put in his stuff. I have only been with him for 2 months, so scrapbook isn't a good idea because we don't have many pictures taken together. he has pictures on his camera, of me and us.

i've already wrote him poems for our one month. I was thinking about cd, of love songs which I have been working on but I'd like to do more because he will be gone for about a whole year, but we will see each other twice a month and on breaks (christmas/spring)

btw he's 20 im 18.

thank you for all your help everyone!

You can give him the CD and make him a cake or something like that. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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I really liked this kid let's call him Ryan. I was pretty sure he liked me and everything, but we stopped talking for a brief period of time and I thought i was over him. But i hung out with him, my friend Lisa, and this kid Danny tonight.
Me and Ryan were pratcically cuddling on the couch and same with Lisa and Danny. Then when they went home Lisa told me she likes Danny and I told her I like Ryan, cause I'm pretty sure I do again.
Well Anyways, When they left me and Lisa talked to them online and Lisa and Danny were talking about how cute me and Ryan looked and then Lisa and Danny were talking about hooking up when we hung out on Monday. Lisa then i/med Ryan asking if he liked me and would hook up with me or something and he Kept saying like. uh no. And he even told Danny he wouldn't hook up with me. Yet he acts like he likes me, But anyways, Then Ryan was all to Lisa, "why didn't you guys tell us you wanted to hook up tonight?" And stuff and then Danny told Lisa he 'Might' Hook up with me now. And then Ryan told Lisa he would 'think about it.' Now there is a problem here, I NEVER made out with a guy. Let alone KISS ONE. Yeah, I never had my first kiss yet. So I don't know WHAT I'm doing. I'm pretty sure Ryan has expirence, but me, I have NONE. I don't want him to think I am a bad kisser or anything. I'm really scared, I have no idea what I'm doing. Please Helpp=(

You should just tell Ryan how you feel. I am sure he is just as nervous. It is OK that you have never kissed or made out with a guy...you gotta start somewhere. I'm sure that he likes you, it's just that guys act differently around people. I'm sure he told Lisa no because he didn't want her getting the wrong idea about you two. If you just try kissing him, then I am sure it will work out.
Good Luck! Hope I helped!

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i really want a boyfriend and theres two guys i really like.
im a fresh in hs and i've never had a bf before
and like since v-days coming i've been wanting one more than any other day.
how should i flirt with them?

Get to know them more; make an effort to be around them more. Talk about things that intrest you and things that intrest them. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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ok, so a friend of mine has this 30 year old cousin and he keeps saying he loves her and she loves him to, problem is, she's in love with him. she's like 16 so they're like 15 yrs apart. He keeps patting her on the hip and butt and it doesn't really make her uncomfortable. Anyway, when she told me she's in love with him I was shocked. She knows it's wrong but doesn't know what 2 do. To make things more complicated, she lives in a home with a dad who is always blaming her for things and stuff and a mom who doesn't do anything about it. She would leave but she's got no where 2 go. She told her cousin and he said they would get a house 2gether in a while. She doesn't know what 2 do. She isn't sure if she should stay away from him which she can't seem 2 do anyway or tell him how she feels. any answer would b helpful.

This girl needs a reality check FAST!! Things happen to girls this age that go out with 30 year old guys. Does she realize this? I'm not trying to scare her but I speak the truth. She should leave him right away. I know its hard but its even harder when your in a situation like this to get him to stop. I should also point out that it is illegal for a 30 year old to date a 16 year old. Practice what you are going to say to her beforehand. She needs to know that someone is concerned for her and maybe that will change her mind. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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16/f- i really hope you read this because my friends won't really understand.

alright so when i was 14 i dated a guy who was at the time 17. he was my first love and we were going out within about a week after we met. we went out for 4 months and i went to his jr. prom. i lost my spark of attraction to him and the large age difference was putting a strain on the relationship. he told me that there was another girl who liked him and he had always liked her and if he wasn't already going out with me then he would go out with her so he gave me the option (knowing about the other girl) if i wanted to keep the relationship going or end it. i decided to end it because i didn't really like him anymore and i'm not going to go out with a guy when i know he likes someone else.
the actual break up was peaceful and i actually became aquaitances with his new girlfriend. we tried being just friends but the break up was so recent that we ended up fighting and yelling at each other so we decided to say goodbye for a while. for about a year i thought about him everyday. not because i liked him but just because everything reminded me of him. i finally stopped thinking of him and now its been two years since i've even seen him (we went to different schools). well about a month or two ago he texted me just to say hey. i was shocked and i didn't even know he still had my number because he didn't have a cell phone when we were going out so its not like it would have been saved in his address book. so we've been talking. nothing major. at first it was really akward and we had nothing to talk about and even now after talking for two months we pretty much just talk about the weather and work. im not sure if he's still going out with the girlfriend he went out with after me but the last i knew of which was about 4 or 5 months ago, he was. so we've been talking almost every day or maybe 3 times a week. now i haven't heard from him in about 2 weeks and i've texted him and he normally responds within 5 minutes. he probably broke his phone again because it often gets broken...he works in construction. ok so here's the thing...in 2 years this past week of not talking to him is the first time i've missed him. there's two guys who i like at school but i cant get my ex out of my head. one minute i'm wondering if i like him and the other minute im remembering all the reasons why i don't. ok so im going to go over pros and cons.
pros:
-he's sensitive and sweet(he cried when trying to tell me how much he loved me)
-his family is incredibly sweet
-he's really easy to talk to
-he knows a lot about me
-he told me i was the first girl he ever truly loved

cons:
-he didn't go to college which is really important to me
-he is now 19yrs old and im 16 so theres still an age difference
-because of the age difference, my dad hates him and doesn't want me with him and my mom wouldn't be thrilled about the idea either
-he might still have a girlfriend but if i ask him i dont want him to think im interested in him
-my friends really don't like him and think he's a loser for not going to college

i obviously can't talk to my friends about this because they wouldn't understand and i haven't talked to ANYONE about this because i have no idea what i'm feeling. so if anyone read this entire thing, then you're amazing to begin with but if you can help me out i'd be really greatful. so...thanks!

Well with your con list:
1. If he didn't go to college and since this is important to you, this should be a turn off
2. The age difference is a little much but if he still loves you, it shouldn't matter
3. Your parents are right to worry...I'd be worried too. If you assure them that nothing will happen and everything will be fine, then it should ease the worrying a little. It may never completely go away.
4. Youu are right..you don't wanna ask him point blank because you don't really want to seem intrested. Ask his friends.
5. If your friends don't like him, then maybe they are trying to tell you something. I've been struggling with my ex since 9th grade..now I'm in 12th.. and my friends have NO probliem telling him they don't like him. He ended up dumping me Friday. The circumstances may sound rough but you'll get through this.

That's good that you keep in touch with him and are friendly with the new girl. Hope I helped!

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I really like this guy. Whenever we're alone together he flirts with me nonstop and I really like it. But when we're around other people he flirts with every girl he sees... more or less. .. and when its me and my best friend and him he pretty much ignores me and pays a ton of attention to her ... So I guess my question is is What do you do if the guy you like likes your best friend?

This guys sounds extremely unstable with relationships. I have been around this often. My advice would be to steer clear of him. See how the relationship goes with him and your friend. You'll realize you're makinga good decision. Hope I helped!

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Anyone have any good flirting tips? :]
Haha, I know I probobly sound really stupid for asking, but I don't really have any good ones, except I guess smiling? Haha. Help me out :]

Yeah smile and just hang out with the person. Let the person kow that you're having a good time and spend a little more time with the person. In time, something may happen. Hope I helped!

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Okay so I met this boy in December, and he is pretty much hilarious ha.

When I first met him I was talking to my friend Alex and Tommy comes over and says: Alex, is this the girl you always talk about?
Me: Ohh, Alex, what do you say about me?!
Alex: Nothing, he's just like that, ignore him.
Tommy: No, Alex, Come on, tell her!

Anyways we started talking a lot after that. Then we slowly stopped and now we barely do. I think I sort of like him, but I don't know?

Last Saturday, I was talking to him and he said to text him, so I texted him Sunday at like four and said hey and he never answered so I did later and said we need to hang out soon.. and then we were talking for awhile. Well we decided to go to the movies Friday.

On Wednesday I texted him and said hey but he never answered. Thursday I said go to to the movies on Saturday, and he didn't say anything. Yesterday(Friday) I heard he went to the movies, so I felt kind of bad.. So I texted him and said Tommy(: , but he never answered and he texted my friend and asked who is this.. so I was just like wow, but I dunno I'm going to the movies tonight, so I might see him?

So yeah I don't really know what to do? What do you think? Thanks.



PS; I don't plan on talking to him for awhile if I don't see him tonight, because I feel kind of annoying.

It sounds as if the relationship isn't sparking as you planned it. Let it cool off for a while then see what he says. Hope I helped!

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am i happy?

Do you enjoy life?

Do you wake up and think its going to be a good day?

Do you love everything about life?

If all three answers are yes, then you're happy!
Hope I helped!

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I'm going out with this guy... Its been two days, and we haven't kissed outright... However, he likes to kiss my neck. He touches me in these little ways that turn me on, and I didn't even know I could feel like that. :) But still... is there anything weird about that?

no, there's not. My boyfriend also likes to touch my neck. Hoope I helped!

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Alright, to indicate a small history. I have a good friend, you could almost say we used to be best friends. Recently I've been falling for him. We've hung out a few times and I could see some hints but I could just be fooling myself. We are going to prom together, as friends [he is in grade 10 and i am in 12]. I've decided that I am going to tell him, but I don't know when or how. My question to you is:


Do you think it would be corny to use Valentine's Day as an excuse to tell him I like him? If not..Any ideas?

Well you've had a few options available to you. Oppurutinities do not show up with bright neon lights. Just talk to him and see if he feels the same. If he doesn't, try not to let it become wierd between you. I've been in a situation where I told a friend I liked her as more than a friend, then we went out, then she dumped me, then we stopped talking.

Hope I helped!

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I'm a freshman, and since the begining of the year i've been talking to this really cute junior. I've had other boy flings since then and he's told me about girls he's into ( not me )however we always are texting or flirting in school or football games ect. This weekend is the Giants football game and we're both big giants fans expect he bet me that they would lose this weekend and i bet him they wouldnt. (However, they most likely will lose). He came up with teh bet and all of the rules for it and he wants me to come up with what we're betting on. I really need to think of something fast beacuse he keeps asking me if i've thought of something yet and I havn't! I obviously dont want to bet money beacuse thats lame i was thinking maybe something cute but not come out and directly bet on a date or something beacuse im not sure i want to take that chance beacuse i dont know if he likes me or not. SO what should i bet on? thats cute but not to obvious???? an exmaple would be
If I win you blah blah blah
but if you win i blah blah blah


sorry this is so long and boring but i need help ASAP . xoxo

Its ok if its long. Bet him that if you win, he do something romantic like. Just get to know him on a friendship level first. Hope I helped!

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No, not on the playground.

Before my husband and I were married (we are going on 9 years now), we had a very different relationship. We had been together in high school, then apart for 3 years. During that time, I discovered a sexual side of myself that I loved. When we got back together, I made sure he knew that part of me. He loved it too. I'm a bisexual submissive and he knew how to dominate me. On occasion, we would play with others. He'd let other people whip or spank me with no issues. We toyed with another young woman. Then, we got married and had a baby (he's 8 now)and it all seems to have gone away. And it wasn't gradual either. I got depressed, and still am. I think a lot of it has to do with feeling like I have to suppress who I am because of the way things have changed.
I've been working on getting past my depression. That led to finding what I need/want. I want at least a bit of our old relationship back. And that includes involving others. I love the feeling of him being in control, even when someone else is with me.
I want to try swinging, even just once to see if it is really what I want. How do I bring this up to DH without causing a problem? It isn't that I feel he is inadequate, but I am afraid it will sound like I do. Also, if he does take to the idea, what would be the next step? I don't have anyone in mind. How would I find a good couple to be with?
*Note - If you would say that I should not be considering this at all 'cause I'm married, or that I am wrong for being bisexual, please don't answer. That doesn't answer my question at all and will get a low rating as a result.

OK you aren't wrong for being bisexual and be proud of who you are. I'll tell you a secret: I am too. My boyfriend lovves it! OK with your question, if you like threesomes with your husband and another girl, try them. Expirement with it to see if you like it and talk it over with your husband: you'll need support babe! Hope I helped!

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