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Hi peepsss.............

I'm from Curacao ..a little island in the carribean .
Currently I'm studying and living in Holland(Europe)

In good papiamentu (that's my language )we say ""Mi ta un hende alegre y semper kontentu"

Hopi bendishon pa boso tur (God bless you all)


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okay this is kind of complicated but here it goes, i was talking to this guy online for awhile. me being 17, and him telling me he was 18. my feelings for him were becoming strong, and we decided to meet up. when we did, he wasn't the person he told me he was. he was actually 36 years old!! and told me that he also had 2 kids!! but that their mother was out of the picture. putting the age difference aside... even though he had lied to me about a lot of things, i had already fallen for him, and forgave him. we haven't been seeing each other anymore, but still talk, and had planned on getting together when i turned 18. PLEASE DON'T JUDGE THIS DECISION. that's not what i'm here for. when i found out he had a 14 year old daughter, i searched for her on myspace and found her. i requested her as a friend, and after looking at her page a few times found out that she has a STEP MOM and a STEP BROTHER that also live with them! i was so heartbroken. i still haven't told him that i found out because i don't want him to know i was "snooping", even though i think that is something i deserve to know. so now, a normal person would probably be thinking "how can i get rid of this freak?!" but i am so in love with him that all i'm thinking is "i hope he chooses me and gets rid of his wife in may!!" i know i should stop talking to him, but its soo hard. i fell in love with him before i knew about all the lies and now it's just too hard to walk away. what should i do???

I think you felt in love with this man because he know just the right words to say to make you fall in love

He is a grown man and your just a big girl but not yet a woman (in a positive way)
My advice to you is ,you are very young and you have a lot of another guys to meet
give yourself this chance,you deserve to meer someone as young as you

And putting all the age thing aside ,he already lied to you ,are you shure you want to spent your life with a lier ?

take care

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Theres this guy, and we have been together for a year...this october it would have been two years. but just yesterday I broke it off. the reason is becuz Im looking for a serious relationship, something with a future. and i thought thats where we were headed, but it turns out his mother was very against the idea of us (even though she never met me or even gave me a chance)

anyways now im reaaalllllyyy heartbroken, and i mean i did it to myself. I've lost my best friend, the person I could talk to about anything, and the person i loved more than myself. but what else could I have done? he pretty much told me he couldn't go against his mother...

I guess I just need some comforting... :(

I understand you!!!

I pretty much had been through the same and It was hell
In my case my bf went against his parents ..he had to....becuase they were abusive to him ...
I did broke up with him and he went back to his parents but than he realise that he can't let his parents break his life just becuase they feel to...They really destroyed his life ..they even took him away from his child...
I still feel quilty sometimes for beeing the reason why he went against his parents
eventhough it was for a good reason
My advice to you is just WAIT
If God made him for you ..Beliefe me he will be back!!!
But if he doesn't there will be a better one just made for you .....

Maybe you could seek comfort in a good friend!!
That helped me a lot ..!!

Hope I really helped
Good luck!!

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I am an 18-year-old female and I feel as though my boyfriend controls me. He limits the girls I can talk to and talking to guys is definitely out of the question. In turn I feel as though I should do the same to him, so I do. Except I won't simply tell him to not go out at all. I will tell him to not go out 5 times a week, get drunk with his friends and pick up underage girls. Yet, I still feel guilty for telling him not to do this because I feel as though I have stooped down to his level and that I am now controlling him. He makes me feel this way as well. I love him, we are very close and have been dating for a long while, but what should I do?

Did you already ask him why he is controling ou so much?
There must be a reason
Maybe he don't got enough trust in you or he is afraid of loosing you and don't know how to tell you
You should sit and talk ,let him explain to you why is acting that way
Try to explain that you don't like that he is controling you ..!!

What's up with the underage girls???
Are you shure this is the right guy for you??
To love someone doesn't mean that he is the right one for you!!

Good luck

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There is a guy that have known for a while, but he has been dating a not-so-close friend of mine for most of that time. Over the times that we have spent together, or just chatted online, I've begun to fall deeper and deeper in love with him. I have known that I loved him for a while now, but did not want to ruin our friendship if he didn't feel the same way. A few days ago, he said that he liked me a lot, and wanted me as more than a friend. He was STILL dating the other girl, when he asks me to be his girlfriend. I want to explain why I rejected him, but I'm not sure how. And I also want to know what I should do about my feelings for the highlight of my life. Who just happens to be taken by someone else. I've already tried to forget about him, but I can't do it.

Always,

Lysistrata

You did good to reject him...
because he is still dating another girl....

You deserve a guy who will put you in the first place not second ..He wanted to start a relationship with you while he was dating another girl and that's cheating and believe me if he did it with this girl ..what will stop him to do it to you!!!
Just go ahead and tell him that you rejected him because he is already dating another girl..

Maybe you could not see or hear from him a couple of weeks..that may help to forget him
Try to meet new people and who knows there may be some cute singles hahahah lol

Good luck

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Hi there. This is the first time asking advice like this. First let me start by saying. I am a 31 years old man.

now for my problem.

I have been with the same woman for 12-13 years. we have had 2 children together, one of whom passed away last year and the other that was just born this year. Lately we've been going throughsome rough times. She has been playing with my emotions. A virtual rollercoaster ride. One day i try to cuddle get intimate, and she'll say "We shouldn't do this" the next she's kissing me pationately. The problem i have, is that i have feelings for her how ever dwindled that they are, while exhibiting feelings for another woman. One who has captivated me over the last few weeks.

My issue is i don't feel that the relationship i am in is going anywhere. but with my new born baby i am kind of in a bind. thus my title. I am torn between 2 loves. Or three if you add in my newborn.

please help me figure out what i should do.

First of all sorry for your lost

My suggest to you is that you figure out first what your feelings are toward your wife and the other love

Maybe she(wife) didn't get over the lost that's why she is acting that confusing way.
You are a man and you have your needs maybe this other love gave you the love etc etc that your wife can't or wouldn't give to you ...Maybe that's why you feel so at home with her

It's hard to stick together for so long ...So I would give it a last try
And if you wife happen to really have a problem with the lost... you should stay there help her and raise your baby toghether..
If she don't have a problem .and she just isn't feeling the marriage anymore you should break
You can't stay in a relationship that doesn't have any spice anymore.

But Whatever happen don't ever give up on your child!!!

Hope I helped!!

May the Lord bless you and show you the right way!!

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about a 6 months ago i caught my b/f cheating on me. we were going out for about two years before that and i thought everything was perfect. no warning signs or anything. it hurt me really bad. after that i wouldnt go out with anyone because im so afraid that they'll hurt me like he did. i guess i have a huge trust problem. now theres this guy i like but i just cant go out with him. i know i should because he seems like the perfect guy, but so did my ex. thats my first problem. the other one is that i saw my ex a couple of weeks ago and that brought back old feelings. and he started to call me a few times too. i thought i was over him but now that hes made an appearance im not so sure. he says that he thinks we could patch things up and go out again. i told him that we could never because i wouldnt trust him. he says that he made a mistake and that hes sorry. its like i like him but i hate him. i dont know what to think anymore.

If he cheated on you after 1.4 perfect years what will stop him to hurt you again?

I perfectly understand the trust problem ..but heyyyyyyyy don't let this experience keeps you away from having nice times in your life

To cheat on a someone is hurting him or her ...You would never hurt a person you trutly love right?

So my advice to you is to let him in the past and move on

Hope I helped
Good luck!!

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My boyfriend and i have been going out since april 1st and yeah hes aazing well, i found out he smokes weed so i yelled at him the first time he promised he would not smoke but of course he did and told me so then he dtiched me one time to go smoke ssaying that he was going to meet up with his friends when right before he promised me a million times he wouldnt. well now i dont know what to do he keeps breaking his promises with me. yeah i do give him credit for tellin me the truth but i dont want him doing that and he knows that. what should i do next time he breaks my promise. should i let him go or what?

It's clear that he was smoking before he even met you ...weed can be very adictive ..
So don't tell him to stop ..tell him to just don't do it around you and you will notice that he will open up more with you because right now you are forcing him to do something he is not ready to do.... but you can help him ...maybe he wont stop but he will try to smoke less weed.

Dont try to see it like he is lieying to you try to see it like he...can't open up with you because you will get mad or sad that is why he is probably lieying to you

Give him a chance to be him self with you and than you have more chance to talk him out off the weed idea..


It may take a whole while but it's worth trying.......

hope I helped

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Well there's this guy who's totally in love with me. Seriously. At a dance, he asked my friend if he should as me to dance, and she said sure but what if she says no and he repleid, "It would be worse than if hurricane katrina hit me" or something cheesy like that. So i danced with him once but then sed no the 2nd time. That was a few months ago. Decmeber maybe. BUT NOW he still loves me a lot and might ask me out. I'm not supposed to know because his friend told me and now I'm stuck.

I'm also totally like in love with a 6thg rader to amek things worse!
I'm in 8th grade by the way.
Please help me to say no to this guy without being a heart brekaer and what to doa bout this 6th grade hottie who's also my best friend's cousin. She dosen't mind, but what do i do!
I'll rate if your helpful.

I would tell this guy in really friendly way that I only want him as a good friend and explain to him that you really don't want to hurt him his feelings ..maybe you should try to expalin to him that he deserve someone who really loves him back.

And the 6 grade hottie ,,maybe you could try to be a friendfirst and than slowly tell him that you have a crush on him,Help him out with homeworks etc etc
Get to know him better and let he get to know you better

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