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Q: i just found out my bf is gay! i don't have anything against gays but i mean... it's my BOYFRIEND! what should i tell him and how should i react. this is really hard for me!
please help!
I rate high

You shouldn't criticize or hate him for ANY reason. You can still be good friends! Gay guys are the BEST friends a girl can have. They're really fun to hang out with and stuff. He may have been your boyfriend but you should feel important because he told you his deep and dark secret.

He trusted you enough to tell you this and you should really respect that.

Still be friends with him even though you don't feel right because I agree with you... I mean, THAT'S YOUR BOYFRIEND for pete's sake but you HAVE to accept him for him. He respected you (obviously) and you WERE happy with him (obviously).
Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Kay kay

Q: do guys like it when girls make the first move or do they want to? also...when making out-do u like the girl to be on top or you to be in control?thanks babes...

It all depends on the girl. Most girls like the guy to make the first move because it's more... romantic. Also, girls like the guys to be on top when making out.
Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
Email me at kitty_kats123@yahoo.com if you want to talk or need more advice. You can also email me in my advicenators inbox!
♥ Kayla

Q: ok so i've gone out with this guy before and i've liked him for about a year now. we've gone out before but the first time i dumped him because i found out some really bad things he did. the last 2 times he dumped me because he "just wanted to be friends" but told me he wanted to go out in the future. the thing is..i've tried to get over him soooo much and it's not working and it's like no matter how many bad things he says or does to me i still like him. Now i have a new boyfriend who treats me with respect and stuff but i still can't get the other guy off my mind even then my new bf is more reliable. i dont know if i should tell the other guy that i still have feelings for him or what..what should i do?
I'll rate 5s for good answers! thank u!

Well,
you should tell your current boyfriend that you still have feelings for the other guy because lovers can't keep secrets from each other. If you like BOTH of the guys, you need to tell the truth. Tell the other guy that you still like him and tell your current boyfriend that you like him BUT you like the other guy too.
You can't keep this secret from ANYONE because it will backfire on you.
Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
Email me at kitty_kats123@yahoo.com if you want to talk or need more advice. You can also email me in my advicenators inbox!
♥ Kayla

Q: So theres this guy... he lives down the street from me. We're basically good for each other, I hear that a lot. He's a football player, I'm on the dance team, we always do the same things accidently, he's cute, I'm cute lol jk. Anyways he's come over a few nights, snuck out on a couple of them and we've kissed and cuddled and I loved it. We've never gone farther than that because I'm scared of getting attatched and hurt. He knows I like him, but I'm not sure he's feels the same. I don't want to be used.. It has happened too much to me (my boobs are big... naturally! and guys like them.. but i hate em). Once I start trusting him, it seems like he kind of pulls away. Ive talked to him about it but he never really says exactly he likes me or he doesnt. I think which him being popular he doesnt want to be a really sweet guy or anything around his friends.. I understand that though. It's fine. But it seems like he's only "with me" when it's good for him. When he's at a party with me or when he's at his house and calls me. But if I want to hang out.. its a bit different. He's not as into me as I'm into him. But I dont want to be into him. I dont want to get hurt :( I'm a hopeless romantic tho. If he did something sweet to show that he really liked me, i'd be his, no questions asked. I'm confused! please help

If you REALLY like him and THINK you can trust him, tell him that you like him and ask him if he likes you. See what he says. Guys try to avoid things when they like you so if he tries to change the subject or say "I gotta go." pull him down and tell him to stay there until you're done talking. LOL. That's what I do. Ask him the questrion again and he surely will respond. If he says, "Kinda", don't bother because he's asking for trouble. If he says "No."... you know what to do... slap him. LOL. "If he says "Yes."... self-explanatory. I don't want to burst your bubble or anything... but this COULD be a possibilty... he COULD just like because of your breats size... Be careful with him because he COULD hurt you. I'm serious.
Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Kayla

Q: I've never been in a relationship before & I'm 13 years old. I've liked guys & they've liked me back but I've never really gone the extra step. Well now, my guy friend likes me & I like him too. We want to be more than friends but what should I expect from a relationship? Will things be weird at first?

Of course, it's going to be weird at first. All relationships are like that. It's not because you don't like that person anymore. It's because you like that person A LOT and you're shy. Even if you have known him for a while, you still get shy because you have never been this way before with him. I had a friend named Jackie and she wanted to go out with this guy, Pete. Well, she felt the same way as you and you know what she did? She broke up with the guy! Trust me! That's not the right thing to do because you'll just feel bad about it later. You'll get used to the person once you start hanging around him more and you'll feel shy less and less as you prgress into the friendship. If you want to talk or need more advice on ANYTHING, I'm here for you and my email address is kitty_kats123@yahoo.com O.K?
Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Kayla

Q: hey! well me and my ex boyfriend mike went out for 3 months..i know its not a long time but we talked and dated for like 4 months before that! well anyways we have been broken up for almost 6 months now and we both have went out with other people!i have always asked him if he liked me and if wed ever get back together..well he never would answer the whole like you question but he would always say i dunno if we will ever go back out cause i dont normally go out with ex gfs so i thought ok fine whatever! well i tried moving on ya know and i finally got to the point i thought i was over him! i even had him over like 4 weeks ago..i could kinda tell he had feelings for me cause he would keep asking me for a hug and hed like put his arm around me and he gave me a hickey and we had a total blast together..but it kinda felt like we were just friends so i thought well maybe i am over him but yet i still missed him! so i went on vacation and didnt really talk to him for 2 weeks..the day i get back he ims me and was talking to me and said he liked me so that kinda made me feel good but then i also realied that maybe i wasnt quite over him and he had also asked if he could come over next week so i thought sure! well so the next night we stayed up til 3:15 in the morning talking and he had said he still loved me and always had, he missed me, and itd be great if we eventually got back together but he didnt want that right now and he wanted to keep things slow for right now! then the next night it was a repeat we stayed up til 3:30 and he said he missed me and my picture was his background on his computer and what not! well then things just kinda seemed weird! i just had this feeling it wasnt gonna be a good day but i kinda tried letting it go past me and i wrote his xanga past memories and i told him i still loved him..so i guess that was a bad idea cause he totally flipped and was like omg i cant believe u did that , you know i dont like my friends knowing everything, blah blah blah! so i was like ok im sorry and i showed him how to get rid of it! so then he wouldnt say i love you but he said i miss ya and your pic is still on my background so i was like okay maybe things arent that bad! but he also told me he didnt know if he was going to come over next week now because i made him upset and he couldnt believe i would do that which seemed kinda weird to me! but the thing is i want him to come over cause i wanna see him and talk all of this out in person and i even made a scrap book of us cause i want him to realize how much i really do care! well then theres this girl melissa that has liked him for about a year now! well hes always told me they were just friends and things like that! and the other day i said something how hes always with girls and calls them hun and stuff and hes like i hate when your like this cause you always think i like these girls when really we are just close friends! and i want to trust him but its so hard! and then like today i read his xanga and melissa signed it saying i cant wait to watch fire works with you tomarrow and then it had this quote that was like seduce my body blah blah blah seduce my soul and ill always be yours! and im so clueless on what to think about that! i know they both use to like eachother and they went to a dance together after we broke up and all he ever tells me is they are just close friends but he is with her all the time! and i dont know what to think of it! i just dont know why he would sit there and say all of a sudden out of no where that he loved me and missed me when for 6 months he wouldnt say a word to me! PLEASE HELP ME!

Dang, this is a long question but I read it! Whew! LOL. Anyways, this guy seems like a player to me. If he still loves you, he would want to spend time with YOU, right? Not her! He probably has feelings for you but... he probably still has feelings for her too! I know it seems crazy but that's a typical guy. They think they can get away from us by cheating and playing us but you know what? We ALWAYS catch him. He's probably lieing to you. See, what I don't understand is... why would he get all pissed off at you for writing an "I love you." message on his xanga website but when she writes "I can't wait till tomorrow night, bah blah blah." I don't get that. He's definitly not worth it. When guys like a girl and she likes him back, his cover-up to you will always be "Oh, don't worry. We're just friends and I love you." That's obviously a sign of cheating or FUTURE cheating because you know that if you guys went back out, he would still hang around with Melissa. I mean, they went to a dance together and tomorrow, they're watching fireworks. I mean, if he love you, truly and sincerely, he would be wanting to do that with you, right? I'm sorry that you have to go through this but I'm ALWAYS here for you if you want to talk or anything! If you want, you can even email me at a private address at kitty_kats123@yahoo.com O.K? Remember you can talk to me at any time of the day and I'm always here. LOL. Well,
Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Kayla

Q: i really like him and i cant stop thinkin about him. i dream about him everynight and sometimes i call him under private number just so i can hear his voice. his best friend and me went out for 2 months, and i thought i loved him but then he cheated on me. josh wouldnt tell me that he cheated, but his best friend (anton) told me. and to tell me a secret that his best friend told him NOT to tell me, but to tell me anyways, i thought that was sweet. i dont know what to do. i dont even know if he likes me or not. if you dont think i should go out wtih him, how do i get over him? and if i might should take a chance, what should i do to get him?

Well,
I personally think you should date outside that box because every single one of your boyfriends knows your exboyfriend and so on and you want to date someone that might make your ex jealous. To get over him, you should try doing something fun with another guy and one or two or three of your closest friends. Have a great time and you'll soon start to like this boy and guess what?... There ya go! LOL. I know it doesn't SEEM like it will work but trust me, it does. Go to like... Astroworld or Splashtown or Schlitterbahn or the movies or something else. Just forget about the other boy because he's probably going to do you wrong and you don't want to get hurt. If you want to talk about something totally off topic or need more advice, just ask. I'm always here for you. If you want, you can email me at kitty_kats123@yahoo.com O.K?
Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Kayla

Q: sorry this is so long but i am really confused and i would love for any advise from anyone!

ok here is goes. me adn my ex boyfriend (josh) we out all last summer and he cheated on me so we broke up and havent talked since. well the other day i was on the phone with his best friend (anton) and josh was over there so me adn josh talked and we are cool now. well i like anton but anton is a huge player. he has cheated on almost every girl he has went out with. he is also not a virgin .. me i havent even tounge kissed a guy before. well anton told me that he is actually ready to get into a serious relationship with a girl. i really wanna be that girl, but im so scared for anyone to know that i likw him. im scared he is gonna cheat on me or hurt me just like josh. me adn anton dont talk alot adn we dont know each other really good. i really like him and i dont know what to do. i even dream about him at night. can anyone please give me some advise on what to do?? thanks if you do!!

I, personally, wouldn't go out with the fella. I mean, he's NOT a virgin, which means he could, possibly, try to have sex with you. See, guys like him aren't interested in a relationship. They want sex and nothing else. I would not only fear for my feelings but for my life as well because you have no idea what he could do. For all you know, he could rape you unexpectedly. You don't want that to happen, do you? I mean, he practically has "player" written on his forehead and if you're ready to get serious with a guy, it shouldn't be him. He's not what you want and you'll regret it later if you get hurt!
Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Kayla

Q: Alright lets start from the very start.. I used to have very short hair and glasses that made my eyes look bug eyed.. Well last year I got contacts (which I must say has changed my life) and My hair has grown out and is very long (blonde) and my eyes are deep green.. Well lets just say I have not had an easy time. Before I got contacts people would pick on me about my glasses and my hair. Well when I went into 8th grade My hair was long and ai had contacts so they didnt have a reason to pick on me but yet.. people still tryd. I did have bfs but i also had boy troubles.. no bf that actualy lasted long.. the longest was a month. Now I am going into highschool and I want to be noticed and i would like to not be picked on as much. I think it would also really be nice to find a guy that I could be with for atleast a while.. and I would like to get some guys attention.. Can you help me? please..

love maddie

Maddie,
you shouldn't need to CHANGE yourself for a guy. Seriously! It may seem like the world to have a boyfriend... but it's not. You're still young, you have plenty of time to find someone you love truly and sincerely. I know, I know... I sound like someones mother but I didn't have my first boyfriend until I was 15 and I'm not 19... My mother told me that and I waited. I'm 19 and STILL a virgin. You know why? Because I want to get married before I do anything sexual with a guy, except kissing. But... if you want guys to notice you, you need to be yourself around them but if you want, have more attitude but not too much... a guy migiht think you're leading him onto sex and trust me... you DON'T want that. High school is tough! All the time, you're going to see girls exposing themselves in bad ways, showing their body more and making themselves look easy so guys will think she's easy and want to "do her". You don't want to have that kind of reputation. Girls like that are known as "whores", "sluts", and sometimes "prostitutes". These are not good names and you WILL be called them if you act sexual by showing your body or wearing visible thongss that guys can see. A guy wants you when you're like that, especially in high school. It's not worth it. Don't EVER do it. I've seen girls like that. Girls like that end up raped and killed by some pervert and you DON'T want that. You don't need to change. You're beautiful no matter what but like I said, add attitude on top of brand new clothes and maybe new make-up, just for attraction. As for your "un-see-able" beauty, act nice and sweet. Be cute with them and funny too. Flirt a lot and DON'T go for someone elses boyfriend. LOL. Wrong choice! His girlfriend will hunt you down like a dog and TRY to hurt you, and she could. I've seen that happen. I hope you take this as a tip, not a warning or lecture. I'm telling what happens in high school... I've been there and if you need more tips (about friends or boyfriends), ask me a question in my advicenators inbox or email me at kitty_kats123@yahoo.com O.K?
Best of luck~
Hope I helped~
~~~Kayla~~~

Q: I like some one allot but he told me the other day he doesnt believe in God. He believes in Jesus just doesnt think he is his son. I told him stuff that can prove he is real. I also told him that, If I believe he is real and he isnt I am not missing out on anything but if he is real and I believe in him I am doing right. but I still dont know what to tell him to make him believe in him. I mean I would really fill good about my self if I can turn some one into the right track. his family believes in him just not him I dont understand. pleaze help

There are many different beliefs. Some people belive in Jesus and not God, like your friend. You can't "turn someone on the right track" if they don't want to believe what you believe because you believe differently and there's no reason for you to tell him differently. There are many different beliefs and cultures and just because YOU believe in something and you think it's right, he may not think that. He has an opinion and if he doesn't believe in God, that should be O.K because he doesn't think God is a real person, which should be fine with you. Just let him believe what he wants to. His opinion matters to him and you can't get him to think any differently. He's stuck on "God isn't real" and probably nothing you say can change that. I'm really sorry that there is nothing you can do to get him to believe in something. That's like TRYING to get a 19 year old to believe in Santa Clause. Hahaha. It's O.K. Don't get mad at him. There is one thing you can TRY! You can try talking to him and ask him WHY he doesn't think Jesus is God's son. Ask him WHY he thinks God is fake and not real. Tell him your beliefs and if he disagrees, just leave him alone. I, personally, believe in God but some people have other God's that they worship or whatever. He can think differently. If you want to talk about something TOTALLY off topic or need more advice, email me in my advicenators inbox OR email me at kitty_kats123@yahoo.com O.K?
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Q: alright i have 2 best friends ( girls )and i love them with all of my heart. now i am currently goin out with a guy but he isnt what i want i mean he is nice and all but i just dont feel the connection but anyway there is another guy i am crazy about but i have two problems with being with him #1. 7 months ago one of my bestfriends went out with him for 3 months and they broke up for a stupid reason she is still in love with him and a month ago she went " crazy " she cut her self and they were bad she went to a place to get help and she has been doin great but she is still deeply in love with him.. now problem #2. my other bestfriend is currently goin out with this guy and other bestfriend is okay about it but then she tells me constantly she hates it and she gets sooo upset over it now we have all been hanging out a lot together and the other day my one bestfriend that is goin out with this guy wasnt there it was just my other best friend my boyfriend this wonderful guy and another one of my friends.. we were at one of my friends house and me and the guy i am crazy about were upstairs alone and we were just hanging out and listening to music and all of a suddenn he kissed me i was like wow and my mind went blank now this was just a peck on the lips but it was the greatest thing in the whole entire world ahh im so confused i just wanna either be with him or just let it go like nothing happened but that would be hard because he is on my mind like all the time so please help me im stressing over this like crazy *sigh*

- Confused

Don't go out with the guy because you're BEST FRIEND is going out with him and friendships last way longer than relationships so... don't. If it's meant to be, it's meant to be but don't do anything because that's wrong to your best friend. I mean, this is her boyfriend who she probably cares a lot about and you can a little "crush" on him but don't go like that becaus for one thing, she could call you a slut for stealing other people's boyfriends, even if you're not a slut and you're NOT a slut but she could spread rumors while she's mad at you and that would not be good for you. For another thing, if your other best friend likes him too, and the one that's going out with the guy TALKS about her behind her back, you KNOW she'll do the same to you, even if she says, "Oh yeah! That's cool!" History will repeat itself. You don't want to get hurt and I think you should WAIT until maybe something between you and that guy happen, if it ever does. There are plenty of fish in the sea but don't EVER mess with your best friends guy! If you want to talk about something TOTALLY off topic or need more advice, email me in my advicenators inbox OR email me at kitty_kats123@yahoo.com O.K?
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Q: I like this one guy and people always give me hints that he likes me too. But I dont know if its true or not. I always try and get him to tell someone else or me if he does by like any way possible. But no matter what he wont answer the question. He sometimes acts like he likes me but other times he acts like he doesnt.What is a way to find out if he likes me? and does it seem like he does?thanks soo much!

I used to be in these situations all the time. There was this really hot guy and I liked him and he always acted like he liked me but he had a girlfriend and they would be all over each other and I would get jealous. Then, I had one of my friends tell him I like him and he smiled. The bad thing that happened to me is... the friend that I told to ask... started liking him too and she dresses... slutty and he likes that so now, they're going out. That's what happened to me. It probably won't happen to you but... you'd rather be safe than sorry and I would write a note saying you like him and don't be embarassed! It's going to be O.K. I'm pretty sure he likes you, from what you tell me and this guy seems really nice and he'll come out of his shell after he knows you already like him! He'll start being more... talkative with you and he might even ask you out. ;-) That's the best you can do in this situation. Notes always work. TRUST ME. If you want to talk about something TOTALLY off topic or need more advice, email me in my advicenators inbox OR email me seperatly at kitty_kats123@yahoo.com O.K?
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*~Kayla~*

Q: i went camping right. well i met this guy named kevin. we like made out and stuff and thats it. hes a virgin and all. i like him so much. i already feel like i love him. we spent a whole week jsut talking and getting to know eachother and a whole other week we got closer. then we both had to leave and go back to our hometowns. we live an hour away from eachother so it wouldnt workout. anyways were both going camping [ ironicly ] on the same exact days in july!! same place and everything. so i for sure get to see him again for another 2 weeks =] well anyways i just want to know..how can i like try to see him? hes an hour away and i cant drive yet. i can take drivers ed anytime now im just lazy. ughh its driving me crazy i dont know what to do. hes like so sweet and perfect. how could i make a long distance thing work? i like him so much =[

Honey,
I hate to have to say this but... if you really love/like this guy, you'll take one simple class for him to go see him whenever you want. That way, you can see him every (other) weekend and you'll get closer and closer. If you're not willing to do THAT, have your parents or a relative or a friend who can drive take you down there and pick you up when you call or something. I hope only the best to you. Call him and get an email address or something. Write a letter or something. Send a picture of you.
luv kayla

Q: There is a boy I think likes me, but I cant tell.Here are some things he has done or done for me:Starring(for a very long time now),saving me from from being embaressement,and muble somthing when I pass by.Do you think he likes me?what are some ways to tell?And how can I make him just tell me?

I am so confesed

P.S his friend smiles at me.Plese help me:)

Well,
honey. You can't MAKE a guy tell you he likes you. lol But you can try to let him know that YOU like him without actually telling him. Do something sexy or "hot" around him and act like you have no secrets. Don't be embarassed, or shy at all. Guys like it when you're up-front about things. Flirt with him and see how he reacts. If he kind of pulls away from you in a disgusted way, he probably doesn't like you but if he flirts back and is totally nice, he likes you and you have your answer! If you want to talk or need advice, you can send me a question in my advicenators inbox OR you can email me at kitty_kats123@yahoo.com O.K?
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*~!Kayla!~*

Q: why are ALL BOYS heartbreakers?

Hahaha. Well,
not ALL boys are. Some (believe it or not!) are willing to do EVERYTHING they can to make a girls life wonderful. Some are actually READY for a relationship and are willing to make a commitment. I know, I know, probably EVERYONE tells you this but actually, guys are human beings, just like girls and girls break hearts. Girls ACTUALLY break MORE hearts than boys. So, don't worry about it. One day, you're going to meet the PERFECT guy and he's going to be ready for a relationship and he's going to make you the happiest woman alive and one day, you'll get married and have a husband that loves and respects you and someone that you love and respect. Guys are complicating, I know, but one day, you'll be more experienced and KNOW their games so NO MAN can make you cry! Hahaha. Well, if you need to talk about something off topic or need more advice, send me a question in my advicenators inbox or email me seperatly at kitty_kats123@yahoo.com O.K?
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~~~Kayla~~~

Q: why do guys just look at your body and not your personality! i mean i know looks matter but still! why? im curious!

Well,
you're kind of being stereo-type because not ALL guys look at ONLY your body. But you're right, MOST guys DO just look at your body. It's because teenage men and grown men always think about sex and they want it all the time and when they see a sexy body, BOOM! They want it, just like that. That really is a good question and even though I'm not a guy, I know how they think because my boyfriend was like that. Everytime a "hot girl" walked by, he wanted her. He didn't even know her! I broke up with him because I agree with you. I think men should focus more on the insides of us, not on the outsides! Looks matter to me, sure, but not so much that I'm going make someone feel bad about the way they look. If you want more advice or want to talk about something totally off topic, email me at kitty_kats123@yahoo.com O.K?
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*~!Kayla!~*

Q: ok theres this kid that goes to my school and i really really like him i walk home with him everyday and people always ask us if we go out because we are constintly flirting and i always say no well one of my friends on her science book is all pictures of her friends and im on it and i borrowed it once and i wrote things next to them and just playin around i put sexy on mine and so he had the book the next day and he scribbled the comments i wrote on other peoples pictures and put something bad but on mine he underlined what i wrote and my friends thinks he sweats me and i really like him but id feel stupid if i said somethin and he didnt but theres alot of stuff and i think he does but im not absolutley positive what should i do
and i dont kno how to just go up to him and talk to him about if he likes me or not?

Well,
tell him how he's been giving you some hints that lead you to, "He likes me." Tell him how he flirts with you a lot and tell him that everyone thinks he likes you. Ask him if it's true but make sure to tell him that you won't say anything if he DOES like you and if he says he DOES like you, you won't feel so embarassed to tell him that you like him too and if he says he DOESN'T like you, (which probably won't happen)then just say "O.K. That's cool." and continue to be his friend. Then, maybe one day, he'll start liking you more and more as you get closer and closer and closer to him. If you want to talk about something off topic or need more advice you can ask me a question in my advicenators inbox OR you can email me seperately at kitty_kats123@yahoo.com O.K?
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Q: im 14/f and ive never really had a true relationship. i think its because people just see me as the nice girl. plus, im not the prettiest thing in the world. what should i do to get guys to notice me?

MizzNiceGirl

Honey,
true love doesn't REALLY start until you find someone that you think you can spend the rest of your life with. You SHOULD not pretend you're someone else, just to get attention from a guy. It' not right. You need to be who you are and just because you don't look the way a guy wants you to look, doesn't mean you aren't pretty. I don't want you to go around wearing thongs showing out of your EXTREMELY tight jeans and half shirts. That's NOT the way to get a guy. At least you haven't done that because other girls will call you names like slut and whore. You don't want that kind of reputation. Just because YOU don't think your pretty, doesn't mean a really hot guy thinks your not pretty. Everyone is beautiful to me. I think judging people on their looks is rude because how a person dresses reflects on how they're feeling and who they are. Some people dress in black because they like that color and people just assume they're gothic without even knowing them. I'm sorry to tell you that after all this reading, I have to tell that there is no specific way to get a guy to notice you. You CAN'T be something you're not, and you CAN'T change just because a guy wants you to. All I can tell you is be WHO YOU ARE and don't ever change because it's YOU that guys are attracted to, not your hair or your clothes. It's O.K to just be MizzNiceGirl. You don't have to be someone else... if you want to talk about something off topic or need more advice, you can ask me a question in my advicenators inbox OR you can email me at kitty_kats123@yahoo.com O.K?
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*~Kayla~*

Q: f/13
ohk so i've gone out with many people b4 ... some were crushes, dares you know your typicall 12 -13 year old stuff only like one or two i really truly loved . yes loved i would do anything for them. i have had my heart broken a couple of times and i have broken a few ... but why is it that all a sudden i feel like love can be/ is such a scary thing ?

Because love IS a scary thing, especially at your age. You get hurt a lot in your life and each time, it's different. Love is a scary thing to you because you haven't been through EVERYTHING when it comes to love. You really don't know what to expect from someone you love. I mean, you're thinking, "Is he cheating on me?" or "Does he really love me?" and you question so much. I may sound like I know everything about love but to tell you the truth... I don't. I don't know EVERYTHING but I know how it feels at your age to think that. You've been so blinded with all your other "loves" and now that you're more mature, you're starting to realize how important love can be. It will be like this until you get married andhave children. lol. Anyways, hang in there and you'll do great with your love life. Love won't seem so scary when you REALLY and TRULY believe that "He's the one". You'll feel relieved and comfortable. If you want to talk or need more advice, ask a question in my inbox or email me at kitty_kats123@yahoo.com O.K?
Best of luck!
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~~~Kayla~~~