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I am 16 years old, and I am sure you are on here for advice, not to learn about my life.
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hey, does anyone know any songs that are about someone egtting over a relationship that all the guy did was cheat and now the girl got sick of it and is getting over him, and done with him?
or if its easier..
one cheated on the other and now ones sick of it and is done with the other.
So What - Pink.
everytime i start liking a guy i really really like them but once i figure out they like me back i stop liking them. why is that?
and right now this guy likes me (he's perfect everyone wants to date him) and i liked him back but then all of a sudden i stopped liking him cause he started to be really flirty.
whats wrong with me?!
15/f
I was the same way.
You like the chase. No matter how much people are like "So-and-so doesn't like me and it sucks because I like him sooooooo much!" they don't mind chasing them. It puts the excitement and mystery in it, like a game. Once the chase is over, you are more like "... alright, now what?" because the fun is over (even though it didn't seem like fun at the time.) It happens to everyone. You get over it in time.
I know what you mean, but he's the one always complaining about her to me and saying how she's such a bi**h. And he tells me he likes me.
You also have to remember, even though you flirts with you and complains about her, even if he says he does not like her, he is still committed to her for now. If he was willing to break up with her for you, then he would have by now don't you think? You said this has been going on for a while, so why is he still with her? He does not want to break up with her for whatever reason, and until it does happen, you should stop reciporicating what he is giving, because you are just going to get hurt in the end.
Think about it; if he is doing this to his current girlfriend, why would you want to be with him when you know he is capable of talking behind your back and flirting with another girl? I don't think you want that.
There's this boy who I've been talking to for over a year now, flirting back and forth. This boy has a girlfriend who found out that we've been flirting with eachother. A couple months later, were still talking. I know he likes me because he gets jealous and mad when i talk about guys. I've tried so hard to get them to breakup =/, and I've talked to him about it, what should I do?
Age: 15 Gender: Female
Leave it be. Obviously he is not going to break up with his girlfriend for you because if he was, he would have already done it. Don't try to break them up, that's just rude and selfish. Back off and let him decide what he wants, and if it is his girlfriend that he wants, then don't do anything else. Stop flirting with him all together. I know that if another girl was flirting with a boyfriend of yours and trying to break you up you would not be too happy about that either. Think of it from her side.
Okay so Saturday was Old Home Day, and I was hanging out with Becky,Steven,Abby,Emily,Kim,and Abbys lil brother. Well at the moment Beckys dating Steven but she doesnt like him, she just didnt want to hurt his feelings.Well we were all hanging out I guess I was flirting with Steven... Becky couldnt careless though so Im not worried about that. In town, Steven baught me fries and we traded a 20 for 2 tens and the guy who gave us the two tens was like "You have your boyfriend rapped around your finger!"Because Steven gave me ten bucks and told me he'd be right back he was gunna go buy some icecream. And I was like =O Hes not my boyfriend! And the guy was like Even better..
And at Byrant Feild I wore Stevens sweatshirt, and we hung out more then he and becky did.
Well Abby wouldnt get off my case, she kept saying that Steven liked me, and that I liked Steven... and Steven ended up saying that If I asked him out seriously he would have a hard time saying no to me.. right infront of me.
Okay so i thought me and Steven were ust friends but I was telling Kim what we did to make Abby think that we liked eachother which was I play with his feet =]] Tugg on his leg hair. We wrestle, and play mercy which is really painfull btw. He layed on me...
Yes I wear his sweatshirt, and he buys me food. Were always talking and he's my best guy friend. Well Kim was like I wish I had one of those.. and I was like.. one what? and she was like Flirt Buddy =DD Cuz thats exactly what you are.
I dont mean to flirt with Steven.. but is that what im doing?
Should I tell Steven Becky doesnt like him?
Even though I really didnt mean to flirt with Steven, does that mean I like him?
I think you should back off a bit...
Having a "flirt buddy" is fine, but not when he is one of your friend's boyfriends, even if she does not like him that much. You were wearing his sweatshirt and he was laying on top of you. Even if I did not like my boyfriend that much, I would still be a little ticked that that was happening. If she does not care or like him, then why is she still with him? Obviously he does not like her as much as she thinks he does. So it should not hurt him that much if she breaks up with him. He will probably think of it as help so he could flirt with you more. Nobody could answer if you like him or not, but it seems a lot like you do, and until Steven and Becky officially break up, you should stop flirting with him so much.
my gf just broke up with me and she wants to be really close friends.
my Q is, how do i prove to her that i can be a great boyfriend instead of just a friend
Proving you are a great boyfriend is done by respecting her wishes, as in giving her time and still being her good friend without pushing her to be more.
Drop the whole relationship thing for now, and be her friend. Someone who will listen and be considerate of her feelings. It is possible that she could see this side of you and realize how much she misses you. So for now, just be her friend, because it seems to me that is what she wants.
Okay I'm 14 years old and this summer has been like the crazziest summer. Okay these are the things I did just in 2 weeks
1.Gave a blow job in a public restroom
2.Had sex in a public restroom
3.Flashed a lot a guys at a public pool
4.Sent nude Photo's to atleast 7 different guys
5.Had a 3some (2 other guys)
6.madeout with a way older guy
7.Did a lot of ohter "things" in public places
She needs to except that fact then that yes, she is a slut, and she needs to stop thinking what she is doing is "cool" and realize what name she is giving herself.
She wants attention, simple as that. But that is not the way to go about getting it.
Your friend is a slut, and her self esteem should not go down by hearing that, because she should know already. She should take it as a reality check that being a slut does not make you popular in the best sense.
Hi, ive been with my boyfriend for a year and a half and a few days ago his friend got on the phone calling me nasty names.
and i figured out my boyfriend got wasted and madeout with another girl.
i love him but i dont trust him.
i am misrable without him. should i give him another chance?
Weird, I just went through the same exact situation. My guy got wasted and made out with this girl he used to date, and who I hated a lot.
I gave my boyfriend another chance because he was honest about it, and it could have been worse. He could have done it sober and he could have gone farther with this girl.
In my experience, things have not been the same since. The spark that was originially between us is gone and I still do not trust him all that much. I have been contemplating on if we should stay together or not because of these feelings. He was extremely sorry about doing it and made it clear he would never do something like that again, but how could you be so sure with an 18 year old boy?
If you feel as if you guys could work things out, and he seems like he regrets it, then if you feel it will make you happy, then you can give him another chance. Remember, this is not about what you WANT, this is about if it is good for you in the long run and what will make you happy.
If you do give him another chance, set boundaries. He is not allowed to talk to this girl again, and whenever he goes out to drink he should tell you. If he was truely sorry, he would understand your decision and do whatever it takes to win your trust back.
well here goes.... this guy n i have been flirtin alot l8ly i know he has a gf and have to say was abit upset however he pays me alot off attention he is 5 years older than me but that has never seemed to matter, we have become sex buddies do u think this is a good thing or bad ? i feel sorry 4 his gf but there is no strings attached its just sex. ???
Everyone has a different opinion on what a slut it. Even if someone says you are not a slut, it is still a pretty messed up thing to do.
There is no such thing as "no strings attached sex." Sex is sex, and doing it with someone who has a partner already is helping him cheat, and will turn into a whole other ordeal when his girlfriend finds out. Try being on the other end of this, being his girlfriend. How would YOU feel if you found out that your boyfriend has been having "no strings attached" sex with some other girl? It would not matter how you say it, it is all the same.
What are you even getting out of this? Sex, cool. But you could be one of the many sluts of the world and have sex with OTHER guys that do not have girlfriends, sparing their feelings and yours. You need the blunt truth, and the truth is that this is very wrong and you need to stop it, now.
Me and my boyfriend dated a year & 3 months & he broke up w/ me [ 2 ] weeks ago . & he has been so damn mean to me , all i try to do is keep him in my life & everything . He tells me he doesnt want anything to do w/ me & just acting horrible. He told me i was his first love when we first broke up because were both eac others first real boy/girl friend . I found out he likes a girl who is 17 & has a year old baby & my ex is 16 . He has already kissed her and everything . It kills me , i try to ignore it & act like i dont care but i dont see how you can love someone & act the way you do i asked him if he did & he said " i dont know why i should ". & that literally broke up heart , i try & keep my self busy w. friends & going places. How can i make this easier on me , please tell me . im 15 & he was my first love ; its hard to love someone knowing they like someone else , so fast ''/
You need to give him time, sweetie.
Guys do not know how to cope with their feelings, so instead of breaking up with you and trying to make it seem all hunky doory when it is not, he is trying to push you away so it is easier for him to deal with. He is basically telling you that he is not interested in you anymore, and you need to let go.
This is not the right time to try and keep him in your life. If he is treating you like this, why WOULD you want him in your life anyways? I'm sorry, but the only thing you can do to fix this is to respect his wishes, no matter how mean they are. Don't talk to him for a while. Let him come to you. And if he doesn't? It might happen. If he doesn't then don't crawl back. You will seem clingy and that is a characteristic that guys do not like.
Let him go hun, he's not someone you want in your life right now.
hi so recently i started talking to this boy. hes always pressuring me to give him head but i tell him i want to get to know him better and hang out first. he says that if i give him head it will show i like him and he will consider dating me. i just want to hang out first but he doesn't want to. does it seem like he just wants one thing only?
He is scum. If you had any dignity, you would leave him now.
im a female and im 15
ok well i kinda cheated on my boyfriend. what can i do to get his trust back that i will never do it again?
I would like to tell you his side of the story, because right now I, too, am in his position.
He has a girlfriend that he cares about. I do not know how long you two have been going out for, but since you two are together, he cares about you in some way, shape, or form. He most likely trusted you a lot, because you cannot have a relationship without trust.
One day, he learned that the girlfriend that he trusted and cared a lot about, decided to cheat on him. He does not know why at the time, and he does not know how. All he knows is that he feels like crap, and feels as if he is not good enough to satisfy you.
The trust you had? Gone. That is THE hardest thing to ask for is trust, and forgiveness. I will tell you right now it is easier to forgive than to forget. Whenever he sees you now, all he may think about is you kissing this other guy; you holding this other guy that is not him.
I say this to you because my boyfriend cheated on me two weeks ago, so I know what your boyfriend is currently going through. I do not trust him in the least at the moment, but I decided to give him another chance and see how it turns out. I will tell you right now things have not been the same since. Whenever I see him, all I think about is him kissing this girl that is not me, when he claims that he cares for me deeply. Everything that comes from his mouth seems like a lie, and I ask him constantly what is going on.
Basically, you need to be totally honest with him about everything. Where you are going, who you are hanging out with. Pretty much like your mother. This is only, if he decides to forgive you and give you another chance.
If he decides to give you another shot, you need to treat him like there is no one else around. If, however, he decides to drop you, do not be surprised or upset, because (sorry to be so blunt) it is your fault and you need to except the consequences of your actions. Things might not be the same afterwards, but hopefully everything will fall back into place.
I wish you luck, and I hope he does forgive you.
okay, so me and my ex (I am 14/ f and he is 13/m) broke up about 2 months ago.
About two weeks ago, i called him to just see how he was, and we ended up talking.
recently, he keeps telling me tht he misses me soooo much and he misses talking to me everyday
and he misses hugging me because my hugs are different then everyone elses and that nothing makes him feel better.
On the phone, we were remincing about old times like when we were laying on his trampoline and looking at the stars or when i fell asleep on him at my house and "how cute i looked"
and he kept saying "wow that was so much funn"
and it was him bringing up these times too not just me.
I also kept asking him what he was thinking about different times and he said
a. how many good times we've had
b. how theres nobody else like me and that im special
c. how cute im being
d. everything
e. me
Then, at 11:11 he asked me if i made a wish and i said "no, did you?" and he said yeah
and i asked him what it was but he wouldnt tell me at all
and this is the worst
there was a point in the convo where i said " i miss you"
and hes like " what? you love me?"
and i didnt say that, but i was like al tired i dont even know why i didnt correct him but i didnt and hes like
"i love you too....i love you too"
like he was repeating it.
and he called me babe more then once. i know it.
it might have been because we were both tired.
but i dont know.
it was about 12 30 when i was like "okay 5 more mins" because he had school the next day and he sounded tired.
and he was like "10 more minuties."
and then when 10 mins was up hes like "nooo. ! unlimited amount of timee"
and then he was like "im gonna talk to you foreverrrr"
and i dont really even know.
and he said he was going to go to a party today but then later in the convo he was like " if your not busy...can i call you tommorow?" then later
"im not going to the party anymore"
He said he still thinks about me alll the time
and then he said he still wants me in his life
and i was like "what do you mean?"
and hes like "i dont knoww"
Then the conversation finally ended when his mom woke up and he had to get off the phone.
The problem is, he has a girlfriend still. He doesnt really talk to his girlfriend on the phone, mostly me.
I dont know what his deal is, and i really just need somebody to tell me what his deal is and what they think about this whole situation.
help, please.?
I think you wanted this to happen. If you did not want this to happen you would not have called him randomly when he has a girlfriend, I might add, and talk to him this much. As much as you think you may like him, you should probably let him go. If this kid is telling you he "loves" you and is gah gahing all over you while he is with someone else, who knows what he has done or will do behind your back. He is not a keeper, I'm sorry.
For future advice, never date younger. Dating a guy that is a year younger than you is equivalent to dating a 10 year old.
I'm 18 and my bf is 19 we've dated off and on for 2 years.
Today we got in a huge fight and I said somethings I didnt mean. We had just got back from a weekend vacation and he was looking for his cds that I had put in the trunk. the trunk was packed with stuff and his cds were buried. he started digging around and I wanted him to take out my suitcase so we could find it. I guess I was yelling at him and he got angry and threw my suitcase out on the ground. I lost it. I was so mad. then I asked him "So are you going to act like this from now on" and he said yes so I said "well maybe we shouldnt be in a relationship then"
I regretted it as soon as I said it. I really didnt mean it. I was just mad at him for acting like a jerk. He is really really hurt and said he doesnt even know if i really love him. I do love him and I told him that but he is really hurt and wont talk to me. I apologized but I know it wont make up for what I said. What should I do. I really do love him and I didnt mean I wanted to break up.
Let things settle down. Like you said he is very upset and seems to want some time to think. Give him a couple of days and then try to talk to him. Explain how much he means to you and that it was in a fit of rage that you said that, but you were not kidding about the fact of him disrespecting your things, and ask him not to do it again. If worse comes to worse, show him the question, because it seems to say it all. If he rejects it, maybe it is time to move on.
13/female Well, my best friend likes this guy. she introduces me to him and we're friends. ill always be talking to him and all that but then i made a grave mistake. i fell in love with him. itsz pretty easy for any guy to tell when i like him and so guess what? he found out! but luckily hes real cool about it and he doesnt freak out or tell my best friend. i dont know what to do! plzz anybody tell me what to do!
Well first off, you are thirteen, and I highly doubt you have "fallen in love" with this boy. It's most likely and intense crush.
I suggest you tell your friend that you also like this guy. It would be better hearing it from you than sneaking around with the boy. You should be a good friend and not try to persue anything with him unless your friend is 100% over him. Even then you should be careful. You don't want to ruin a friendship over someone else which usually tends to happen in middle school. Don't worry, everyone grows out of it.
ok so my bf cheated on me but he didnt like the girl he only wanted to hook up with her cause he thinks shes hott.
i need songs saying like i hope she was worth it.
please give me some. thanks
The ever obvious
"Before He Cheats" by Carrie Underwood
"When I Think About Cheating" by Gretchen Wilson
"Jolene" by Dolly Parton/Mindy Smith
"You Ain't Woman Enough to Take My Man" by Loretta Lynn
"Cry Me A River" by Justin Timberlake
"Dangerous Love" by Kinzli
"When You Were Cheating" by Sara Evans
"If You're Gonna Do Me Wrong, Do It Right" by Vern Gosdin
my friend jenn has been dating this kid eric for a year and a half now, shes liked him since like 7th grade (were freshman now) well in the beginning i didnt like him at all, i thought he was rude. she got mad at me and we didnt talk for a long time. well jenn is a really good student, class officer and normally awesome grades and AMAZING softball player (just made varsity as a freshman, only one) so school means a lot to her. eric's mom over rid the teachers reconmended levels from 1's and 2's to all level 3's (which is the most work and for hardworking and "agressive" learners) he shouldnt be in level 3's it is to much for him. he doesnt do his homework and now jenn is getting fed up with it. she always says do your homework. she told him "im going to put as much effort into this relationship as you do to your schoolwork" that didnt work. they "breakup" kinda under the scenes, like no one knows about it cause its like a day or 2 and that wont work. so this past weekend we went to friendlys me her and eric and somehow we started arguing about schoolwork. we spent 2 hours like yelling at him "not yelling just arguing and lecturing" he doesnt call her to say goodnight anymore and that bothers jenn, obviously and he sleeps all the time, i gave him suggestions and he just rolls his eyes (it sounds a lot worse than it really was) so after all that and even some tears we thought we got through to him. well we were wrong. he came to school today and nothing was finished. i yelled at him and so did jenn and they got in a fight and sometime throught the day they broke up. like now people know and jenn was upset (not those girls standing in the hall surrounded by a million people. just a few tears.) and she made jokes about it, so i know shes okay but should i
-talk to eric
*if so what do i say
-not do anything
-try to get them together
-how do i help jenn
Well obviously yelling at him is not solving anything. I don't understand why you are trying so hard to get this boy to do something he just does not want to do. Let him do what he wants; it's his future he's ruining, not yours. You both being so uptight about it is not going to change if he does his homework or not, and screaming and threatening to break up is not the way to go. Plus, he pretty much indirectly is telling Jenn that he would much rather not do his homework than be with her, so I think both you and her should stop wasting your time with him and let him figure out what he wants for his future. Don't bother talking about it with him anymore, and have Jenn forget about it as well. Pretty soon he's going to be the one fed up and freak out on you guys.
Well, I met a guy & really liked him & got on great with him. I had a feeling he was a player, so I didnt get too involved. Although I've found out he was messaging a friend of a friend being over "friendly", & when I asked about it lightly he openly admitted it & continued to message her (probably to annoy/keep me on my toes) but now I need advice on how to do the same back to him. I wont steep into messaging his friends, but ways which will keep him on his toes? I would really appreciate your advice! xxx
"An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind."
In other words, payback is not the answer.
Show him it does not phase you. If you show him you are annoyed you are just giving him what he wants. Laugh it off and treat it like a joke, and he will thing it is not getting under your skin, and if he does like you, he will probably stop. He wants you to chase him, and if you don't chase him, he will want to chase you.
Sorry its long. but you have to know the whole story.
Me and my boyfriend have been going out for like a week and we have been friends before this for like 3 years or so. And before we even started going out i made him promise we would be friends no matter what. well hes younger than me. And so he does things differently. Well ever since he asked me out i have seen him. he hasnt called or anything. i have had 3 boyfriends in a row. and im thinking i might want to be single but im not sure. because hes really cool and i know how to have fun with him but thats it i guess you could say hes not "boyfriend" like. and hes really not but hes the noly boyfriend iv had in a long time that iv had fun with. Plus theres this guy i met at soccer. (we played agenst eachother in a scrimmage. We both play select for the same club) and that would mean we only really see eachother then. Plus im not sure if he likes me. i think i saw him looking at me at halftime. SO im not sure on what to do.
Please help. All advice is wanted. PLEASE HELP
You cannot really sum up what a relationship will be like in the first week you have been going out. Usually the first couple of days are awkward because you have the person and then you are like, "Ok, now what?" He is probably nervous and does not know what to do. Give him time and things should eventually fall into place. If it does not, and you are not comfortable being with him in that way, then call it quits, because you do not want to lead him on. As for the other guy; do not jump to conclusions with him. Just because he could have been looking at you does not mean he all of a sudden likes you. You do not know him and for all you know he could be a jerk. Try working things out with the guy you have now, and if that does not work out, you can try and get to know the other guy.
im 16/f
the guy is 17. i really like this guy. he's gorgeous and has a really awesome personality. i normally talk to him in school but a few nights ago we both went to watch a track meet and he smelled like cigarette smoke like, he had just smoked it. i knew he did pot but i actually don't mind that. i never knew he smoked cigarettes because whenever i talk to him in school he doesnt smell like smoke. im one of those people who say "its their life, they can do whatever they want" and i really like this guy and im pretty sure he likes me because he's always trying to make cute jokes around me and hang out but i dont know if i can date a smoker? for anyone out there dating a smoker, and you dont smoke, how do you deal with the smell?
ironically my best friend is going through the same situation with a different guy.
Well, if he has been smoking before you two started talking, you cannot just ask him to stop. Also, just because he smelt like smoke does not automatically mean that he was actually smoking, the people around him might have been. You can bring it up casually in a conversation. Do something like, "Yeah, someone smoked a cigarette today and they smelt pretty strong of smoke, it was so iritating. I wish they could have sprayed something or used gum too, cause their breath was gross." You are not telling him directly about him, but if he IS smoking, he should take the hint.