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He broke up w/ me .
Me and my boyfriend dated a year & 3 months & he broke up w/ me [ 2 ] weeks ago . & he has been so damn mean to me , all i try to do is keep him in my life & everything . He tells me he doesnt want anything to do w/ me & just acting horrible. He told me i was his first love when we first broke up because were both eac others first real boy/girl friend . I found out he likes a girl who is 17 & has a year old baby & my ex is 16 . He has already kissed her and everything . It kills me , i try to ignore it & act like i dont care but i dont see how you can love someone & act the way you do i asked him if he did & he said " i dont know why i should ". & that literally broke up heart , i try & keep my self busy w. friends & going places. How can i make this easier on me , please tell me . im 15 & he was my first love ; its hard to love someone knowing they like someone else , so fast ''/
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OK. You have to love yourself more than you loved him or even love him.
First: He may have broke up with you but now you must break up with him in your mind, heart and soul b/c you haven't.
Second: If he wants to be grown and step in a relationship with a ready made family, then allow him to do it. It's hard, not easy and wish him luck. If he makes it, commend him be happy for him and now find happiness for you.
THRID: YOU SHOULD NEVER FORCE OR PRESSURE ANYONE TO BE WITH YOU OR DEAL WITH YOU IF THEY DON'T WANT TO. and he has told you he doesn't want to -accept that, acknowledge that, admit that and let that go. He expects you to chase him, kiss his A, and beg for him- do not lower yourself anymore by doing this.
Fourth: sure, he is kissing and everything as you said, he is with someone who already has a baby, therefore she has the experience - OK? now, the only way you would know this, is if you saw it, or he told you. If he told you, it's because you continue communicating with him- so my question to you that I want you to ask yourself: WHY WOULD I KEEP COMMUNICATING WITH HIM WHEN I KNOW HE IS INTENTIONALLY TRYING TO HURT ME? right?
Another thing: He was already talking to her behind your back which is how he moved on so fast, girl. Also, he was your first love, but you may not have been his if he can do you like this.
BE SMART and don't let him come back to you because a damn cycle starts - off, on, break up, make up, on on and on. IT ISN'T WORTH THE DRAMA OR THE STRESS GIRL.
Now, start loving you more - do some things for you. Start reading more - even if it's books on how to deal with break-ups"? How to love myself more and better? start thinking about colleges, and life - you are getting older and don't have time to waste thinking of this jerk who hurt you.
Time is precious and valuable, you have plenty of time in your life to be loved and to love but before you can love anyone else, you must love yourself. OK??
Please don't let him step out, step in, step out and step back in. I did it for 17 years girl and it hurts more and more and more. There are too many damn diseases out here today to be involved in an in and out relationship. You never know what the other one is doing while broken up so once it's broke, don't fix it- FIX YOURSELF INSTEAD.You feel me?
CONTINUE staying busy- don't talk about him anymore when you are out with your friends - get a journal, write how you are feeling and then tear it up- that way your feelings got released and no one knew them but YOU. You are 15 dear heart which means you have many more break ups to go through. Use this one as a learning life lesson in order to deal with the other ones to come just have control over how you deal with them. They get easier as time goes on.
LAST:FLIP IT! He is expecting your call - don't call. He is expecting you to contact him, don't contact him in ANY KIND OF WAY. He is going to contact you(playing games only so don't read into it)- IGNORE him. You guys have nothing to talk about anymore on your terms and control because once you tore up that paper with your feelings on it, you tore up that hold he has over you, and you tore up your desire to even deal with the silly games and mess because you broke up with him mentally,and spiritually he broke up with you physically and emotionally - you feel me on that?. oh,and NO, there is no way you guys can remain friends - just in case you were thinking it! "smile" email me, if you still want to talk or need to talk -I am here.
sophia_pettus@yahoo.com
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You need to give him time, sweetie.
Guys do not know how to cope with their feelings, so instead of breaking up with you and trying to make it seem all hunky doory when it is not, he is trying to push you away so it is easier for him to deal with. He is basically telling you that he is not interested in you anymore, and you need to let go.
This is not the right time to try and keep him in your life. If he is treating you like this, why WOULD you want him in your life anyways? I'm sorry, but the only thing you can do to fix this is to respect his wishes, no matter how mean they are. Don't talk to him for a while. Let him come to you. And if he doesn't? It might happen. If he doesn't then don't crawl back. You will seem clingy and that is a characteristic that guys do not like.
Let him go hun, he's not someone you want in your life right now.
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