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I love the same boy as my best friend!
13/female Well, my best friend likes this guy. she introduces me to him and we're friends. ill always be talking to him and all that but then i made a grave mistake. i fell in love with him. itsz pretty easy for any guy to tell when i like him and so guess what? he found out! but luckily hes real cool about it and he doesnt freak out or tell my best friend. i dont know what to do! plzz anybody tell me what to do!
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Well first off, you are thirteen, and I highly doubt you have "fallen in love" with this boy. It's most likely and intense crush.
I suggest you tell your friend that you also like this guy. It would be better hearing it from you than sneaking around with the boy. You should be a good friend and not try to persue anything with him unless your friend is 100% over him. Even then you should be careful. You don't want to ruin a friendship over someone else which usually tends to happen in middle school. Don't worry, everyone grows out of it.
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I know how tough it is to like the same guy as your best friend believe me. It's no easy situation.
I think that its totally awesome that this guy hasn't told you friend that you like him. He's a really nice guy, but remember: sometimes its great to have a really good guy friend around, you know?
Right now, I don't think you should make a move or take the relationship a step further. That would hurt you friend (which you probably already know). Basically, I think that you should enjoy hanging out with him as a friend, because he seems like a really cool person to be around. But really at this point, I personally believe that the relationship shouldn't go past friendship.
And who knows, maybe your friend will stop liking him eventually and you two can feel free to start up a boyfriend/girlfriend deal!
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Well, though it might be hard you're going to have to get over him or try your best to hide those feelings. You're friend liked him first, and you should NEVER try to take your best friends guy.
I was in a similar situation. Luckily though my best friend had a change of feelings and decided she didnt like him anymore. I talked with her and asked her if it would bother her if I dated him, since I had a huge crush on him. She was fine with it, and I got to have my chance with him. I was around the same age as you, and big surprise that relationship did not last.
So don't ruin your friendship over a crush that will most likely not last more than a couple months. There are MANY other guys, but its hard to find a real best friend.
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