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What are some signs that suggest that a guy might like you? Or if a guy REALLY likes you?
I have this friend who I just met a few days ago and he's been calling me nonstop. He kinda invited himself to my homecoming dance. He says stuff like he wishes that he could be my hero. I really like him and I kinda want to tell him, but what if he doesn't like me back? How can I be sure? (link)
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A guy MIGHT have a thing for you if:
One, he does almost ANYTHING just to be with or talk to you.
Two, he treats you like a princess. If he treats you differently from his other gal pals, then definitely there's 'something'.
Three, if he thinks everything you do is right. Four, (this is a cliche but this is the most obvious sign of hidden admiration) if he stares at you when you're not looking and when you catch him looking at you he suddenly averts his gaze away.
Five, it's all about body contact, baby!!!!
And Six, if he suddenly has that "change of attitude" towards you...Like, he stutters when he talks to you, he couldn't look at you straight in eye, you suddenly become the 'target' of his jokes(if he's a joker)....just anything unusual....;)
If these signs are present, then he really has some'n-some'n for you!
Hope I helped you a lil' bit!
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I'm 14 and have never had a boyfriend. What are some ways to tell he likes you or how you tell him you like him? (link)
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At fourteen you shouldn't even be bothering about getting a boyfriend but hey, I'm NOT your mom so let's just move on....
A guy MIGHT have a thing for you if:
One, he does almost ANYTHING just to be with or talk to you.
Two, he treats you like a princess. If he treats you differently from his other gal pals, then definitely there's 'something'.
Three, if he thinks everything you do is right. Four, (this is a cliche but this is the most obvious sign of hidden admiration) if he stares at you when you're not looking and when you catch him looking at you he suddenly averts his gaze away.
Five, it's all about body contact, baby!!!!
And Six, if he suddenly has that "change of attitude" towards you...Like, he stutters when he talks to you, he couldn't look at you straight in eye, you suddenly become the 'target' of his jokes(if he's a joker)....just anything unusual....;)
As to how you can tell him you like him....
If you're comfortable telling him straight out that you like him, then go....
If you're not, then you can always copy his "style" (from what I have stated above)!!!!
Hope I helped you a lil' bit!
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well, where to start. three years ago, i was in 8th grade, and i met this boy. of course 8th grade is still a young age to take love seriously, but this boy changed my perspective on that. we had dated from 8th grade to sophomore year where i broke it off due to rumors. the rumors got so out of hand it made us upset with one another. [the rumors were about him cheating on me, which turned out to be false] and so months later we found ourselves dating other people. when this summer we tried working on "us" again and well i thought for sure we were going to hit it off again. but he said that he was scared i would believe rumors and he didtn want me to hurt him again, blah. so then i find out a month later he is dating another girl. but yet he still tells me he loves me & that this is his way of trying to get over me. i am crazy about this kid, but i know i shouldnt be and i deserve better & what not. but i just cant seem to get past him. so i guess the point in trying to get across is should i wait for something to happen, obviously my heart is all for him, or what should i do so im not so miserable watching him with someone else. anything would help, thanks. (link)
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I think your ex is not being sincere to you at all.
If he really loves you, then he should've broken up with his current girlfriend. It's unfair to stay with that girl if he's inlove with you.
And do you realize that he cheated on her current gf by confessing his feelings for you? That makes him perfectly capable of being unfaithful to you when you're back togeher.
And if it's true that he's just using this girl to get over you, think: Do you really want to be with someone who treats other people that way?
Hope I helped you a lil' bit.
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well to start things off.. im 15/f
theres this guy that i absolutley adore!(16/m) hes funny, interesting, and down to earth.. well were pretty good friends and i talk to him alot online. the problem is that he just got out of a relationship and still misses that other girl (like ALOT) and i tell him things are gunna turn around and everything. but i really dont think that he thinks of me as anything more than a friend. how can i get him to notice me like that without straight out telling him i like him?
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Let me tell you one thing first: RESPECT if he still misses or perhaps if he still loves his ex.
It's natural-give him time to "grieve" a little. In no time, he will get over it, too.
Just show him that you're always there for him. Make him smile a lot. Make him laugh a lot. I know it's a bit cheesy but this IS effective, I'm telling you. Make him feel that even without her, he can still be happy--with you.
Hope I helped you a lil' bit!
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Ok, i have gone out with this guy I really like several times and everytime i am the one whos always getting hurt. He asked me back out and of course I said yes because I really like him. Everything is going good. But am i just setting myself back up to get hurt by going out with him? and what should i do if he askes me back out, i really like him but should i say yes? (link)
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Know what? I have a really good friend who's "suffering" from the same problem that you have. Whenever she and her bf breaks up, she ALWAYS gets back with him after a day or two beacause she says she can't stand the pain of not being with him. What she doesn't realize is that getting back with her guy only means that she's allowing herself to be hurt AGAIN.
The last time[and I hope this would REALLY be the last time] they broke up, I actually "banned" her from getting back with her guy because I'm tired of seeing her cry and get hurt over and over again.
Now I'm going to ask you a question: Do you want to get hurt over and over again like my friend?
You know, it's BETTER to experience the pain only ONCE(and get hurt so, so much because of the sudden heavy downpour) than to experience it over and over and over again(and then regret in the end because you allowed yourself to be treated the wrong way so many times).
Hope I helped you a lil' bit.
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i have a boyfriend and we've been on and off for the past 2 years.I found out he cheated on my 3 times.Stupidly i got back together with him 1 week ago and now he sais he didnt know we were dating and he got a different girlfriend.He also tried to kiss me afetr he told me this!What should i do?
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Player....player...player....
NO ONE ever wants to end up with a player and I know you don't want to end up with one, too.
Ditch him, forget about him, and get a life, girl. You'll just waste your precious time with a guy like him. And c'mon, did you Really believe that he's not aware that you were dating?! Lame...lame...lame....
And always remember: ONCE A CHEATER, ALWAYS A CHEATER.
Hope I helped you a lil' bit.
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ive always thought dat my life was messed up. y live a life dat i hate? dat changed after my boyfren came along. i felt special. i felt LOVED. now his paents are moving to NY. real far away from me. im really sad. i hate myself. i hate everything. i wanna kill myself. im nothing without him.is life really worth living for? how can i get over the person that changed my life? how am i gonna live without him? please some1 tell me wat to do? i feel so hated by god. y is he treating me like this? y is he takin away the love of my life? please help! :( (link)
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Dearie....
There really are points in our lives that we undergo those kinda stuff.... We think that life's no longer worth living because of *insert situation here*... We think that nobody loves us... We feel like life's throwing so much problems in our way.... We think that God doesn't love us.... But you know what? These things are Natural. We All feel and think of these things at some point. They're [shall I say] Essential,though. Why? Because without them, we wouldn't learn our lessons.
Remember that everything has a reason....and I mean EVERYTHING. God is the main author of our lives that's why things are meant to be the way they sould be. There's always a reason why things happen.... Even the most unfortunate events in our lives have a reason why they happen....
Remember that if something's not for you, it's NOT for you. If the guy you love isn't "the one" for you, then he's not. Now you don't know why God is parting the two of you, but sooner or later, you'll find out why. Maybe God is parting the two of you because he wants you to have room for the person that he Really wants you to be with.
Hope I helped you a lil' bit.
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hey im 15/f Im sorry if this is long, but i appreciate your answers! Ok so here it goes. My ex boyfriend and I were talking about hooking up again, we hung out on Thursday of last week and he put his arm around me and all that "love" stuff. But today i come to find out that he has a girlfriend already but he tells me that he doesn't. He made plans to go to the fireworks with me but he went with his girlfriend instead. But he keeps on lying to me. I guess they've been going out for about 2 months now. And i asked him if he was going out with lets call her Amy. And he said no that was just a rumor but come to find out that he is. And hes just not telling me how can i get him to tell me the truth? Hes just breaking my heart.. and i have no idea what hes doing... Please someone give me advice on how to "get him" or make him tell me that hes going out with her.. Also are there any songs that fit this situation as in hes lying when he has another girlfriend? If not thats okay i appreciate it thanks a bunch!!! (link)
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Dearie.... You Know the truth-- the truth that he's lying. I (or we) don't have to tell you that he's lying because it's sooo obvious that you know he is.
I think the best thing you can do is to STOP SEEING HIM. If you know he already has a girlfriend, don't push it. Have some respect for the girl also because she's the "legal" one. You know, he's probably just playing with your feelings.
I'd just give you a piece of (possibly) useful advice: if you want him to learn his lesson so that he'd stop being a player, quick! Tell his current girlfriend to be aware of him because he's a player and he's cheating on her. If she doesn't believe you, you can tell her "I respect if you don't want to believe what I'm saying. It's just that I don't want you to be another 'victim' of his stupid playing games."
That should put a doubt in her mind.
Hope I helped you a lil' bit.
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So, I was talking with this guy and I'm 15 and he's 16. We were planning on doing it because, I thought, we were basiclly dating. Today, I found out he had a myspace and apparently he has a girlfriend he never told me about or mentioned. I saw the comments she left him saying how much she loves him and then his replys and they were from today. I know this means he's basiclly an ass and I shouldn't be with him or care for him anymore but I really hurt. Should I just not answer his calls and have nothing to do with him anymore or should I confront him or what should I do? Should I tell his girlfriend that he was planning on having sex with me? (I've never talked to her before) Someone please help me before I lose my mind. (link)
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I say you break up with him.....
BUT...
Give him a REALLY hard time first...!!!!;)
It's up to you how you wanna do it but just make sure you give him a REALLY HARD time before you break up with him. I know taking revenge is kinda bad, but don't you think that revenge is sweet sometimes?!
Hope I helped you a lil' bit!
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I like this boy he always stares and smiles at me. I was in flag football and i was on his team and then this girl joined after me and later at lunch he walked up to me and said im training you for football alone then the girl said what about me and he said no way!! I have heard lots of rumors that he likes me and im starting to not like him but i still don't know if he likes me. i'm so confused does he seem to like me??? (link)
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I think he likes you because he wouldn't give you the "special treatment" if he doesn't, right?
And the fact that he keeps on staring at you.... dearie, he's into you!!!!
Hope I helped you a lil' bit!
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I am really confused what to do. Long time ago when I was 13, I met a guy who had a crush on me. It developed until I felt the same way. that guy was 3 years older than me and he felt I was too young so he decided not to pursue anything beyond friends.
Now I am 19. I've moved on with the other though it really hurt because i love him so much until now. I have accepted the facts that we are not meant to be. I met this awesome guy. He really loves me more than anything else in the world. Because of this love from him, I want to be with him because i know he will make me happy. So, I am with him right now. Not long ago, the guy I met 6 years ago and I started chatting online. then, he told me that he loves me and he is willing to wait for me. I am in overseas studying so we only communicate through email/chatting. I know i love him more than the guy I am with right now. But I know for sure that the guy I am with right now loves me more than the guy i met 6 years ago. What should I do? Should I stay with the guy I am with right now? or should I go with the guy I've been waiting for all my teenage years? I'm not even sure if the guy i met 6 years ago is serious or just playing around. I dont want to get hurt from him anymore because it's so hard to move on. I have never loved anyone as much as I love him. please help.
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I say you continue your relationship with your Current guy.
Why?
First, I believe that long distance relationships rarely work.
Second, you and the guy you met 6 years ago don't REALLY know each other--the two of you have of course changed a lot through the years. And to be able to make a long distance realtionship work, you need to have a lot of knowledge about each other, full Trust, and the willingness to make the relationship work. If one of these is lacking, then the relationship is not worth it.
Third, you need to use your mind instead of your heart from time to time.
Don't be so selfish.
Because there's this other guy who loves you, too--the one you are with right now.
Now, who would you choose-- the guy you're pretty much sure of Or the guy you don't even know that much?
Be wise in your decision.
Hope I helped you a lil' bit.
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okay, so i'm 14/m, and she's 14/f, and i've known her for a really long time as a friend, and i've had a secret crush on her forever now.
so i said to her the other day, "hey, do you wanna go see a movie or something on friday" and she looks at me like i'm crazy. i've never really had a girlfriend before, and i think i totally f*cked up our relationship. she won't even talk to me anymore. anyone got some advice that could help? (link)
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I hope you know that confessing your true feelings to a FRIEND can only bring two things: It's either you gain a girlfreind, or you lose a friend.(this is what I keep on telling people in the same boat as you....)
That's the truth.
What hurts even more is the 'fact' that things won't really go back to the way they used to be.
That's just the way it is.
So right now, my advice is for you to just accept the 'fact' that it's almost impossible for things to go back to normal AND for you to just move on.
Hope I helped you a lil' bit.
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Hi im an average 16 year old teenage girl thats just really confused about a lot going on in her life. ive been hurt so many times before and i dont know how to handle. ive been abused by my boyfriends and i thought everything was turning around when i met my last boyfriend. we can just call him A. everything was going perfect we went out for a year and a half and i love him with all my heart. my parents did not like him though and the one night we got into a fight about it and he thought it would be better for me if we broke up for i could have a normal relationship for once...i didnt want it but yah thats what happend...ive been doing my best to win him back..but he's already going out with a girl he just met not even a week and a half ago..it hurts so bad..they leave lovey dovey comments back and forth on myspace that makes me sick to my stomach...and then she brags about how shes so much better then me..she's a bitch on top of it and im not just saying that cuz im an x girlfriend. something i made for my x, something that was really important she ruined and yah ..it hurt so much and he "yelled" at her but they are still together. i just dont understand and when i ask him about it he says he just wants to see wat will happen between him and her..did i mention shes 14..he's almost 16 shes going into highschool he's going to be a jr..he tells me its not gonna work and hes gonna be running back to me but i cant wait forever for him...it hurts so bad and it gets me so sick thinking about it..i dont know what to do will someone please give me some advice...
michelle...
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It seems to me like he's making you wait just so he has another 'option'.
And let me tell you: YOU'RE WORTH MORE THAN JUST AN OPTION.
I know that it's going to be hard, but I advice you to just forget him and move on because I believe that if you got back together, the relationship won't go anywhere.
Hope I helped you a lil' bit.
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Okay, I would like everyone to be totaly honest you wont hurt my feelings.
Do you think that it is like pathetic/stupid/weird ect. that I have never had a boyfriend before? Oh and im 15.
Thankss. (link)
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My answer is NO.
Because I know people who have gotten past the age of TWENTY (20) and were never in a relationship before.
One example is my own MOM. not that she's not pretty, but she told ma that she just can't find the guy who's perfect for her during her teenage years. So she just waited, and then my dad came along, and then....that's another story....!lol!
Hope I helped you a lil' bit!
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Heres the sitch...im a 16yr male senior at my high school, and ive been BEST friends with this girl since sophmore year...problem is, ive fallen for her...hard. i cant get her out of my head, i get jealous of any other guys she talks to or who like her, and im really protective of her...but she doest like me when i like her, she said she had a crush on me back when i had a gf soph year, but now she doesnt like ANYONE. what should i do? ive liked her for two years, but she says it would be wierd to date bcuz weve been friends for so long... (link)
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I know this is a bit short, but sensible, anyway:
IT'S EITHER YOU GAIN A GIRLFRIEND, OR YOU LOSE A FRIEND.
Don't ask me why because I'm telling you, That's. just. the. way. it. is.
So you better be wise in making your decisions.
Hope I helped you a lil' bit.
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15/F Alright, so I have been dating this guy, ryan, for about 6 months. I can honestly say that I LOVE him. Bu, lately he has been acting distant, strange. I was talking to a girl online and as soon as he found out I was talking to her he made me stop. It's just weird. And This may be a little TMI but the last time we were doing "things" He just stopped and said, "I can't do this." He's never done rhis before, What do you guys think, and any advice on how i may be able to figure out if he is? (link)
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Dearie, let me tell you one thing: If you think the guy you love is cheating on you, he IS.
If you're wondering why I said that, it's because you wouldn't even suspect that he's cheating if there's NOTHING suspicious. Also, more often than not, our so-called "woman's instinct" is correct.
Hope I helped you a lil' bit.
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hey guys well imma a well spoken person and well i hav a huge crush on this one guy ~n~ like well when i am around him i get really shy and i have butterflys in my stomache and when i am about to say something i have nothin to say....how do i stop bein shy around him?? and how can i make those butterflys stop holdin me back??
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Confidence is the key.
It's pretty normal to get butterflies in the stomach whenever the object of our attention is around.
But a little--no, make that just 'plain' Confidence can go a long, long way.
Try to act casual around him as if you have 'nothing special' for him. Try doing this for several days to 'condition' yourself. And when you have already mustered the courage AND the Confidence, start a little conversation with him.
Then make it longer on the next...
and the next....
and the next....
;)
Who knows? He might just have a 'thing' for you, too....;)
Hope I helped you a lil' bit!
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Okay well first of all I am 14/f and I have never had a boyfried. I have never even kissed a guy before. Well my question is why? I mean I'm not the prettiest but I have a great personality and I am fun to be around. Do guys only go for looks? What are some things that attract guys or what should I change to get a boyfriend?
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Remember this: It's true that guys get attracted to a girl's looks at first, but it's their personality that keeps them hooked.
There are a Lot of girls who are pretty don't really have the personality to go with it and there are only few who have really, really great personality. Be one of the few.
You said that you're not the prettiest one around but you have a great personality.... I guess that's enough for you to attract boys. Just wait for the 'right one' to come along.
Hope I helped you a lil' bit!
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Ok so, I have this problem were I might fall in love with someone very easy, and when this happens I get rejected/ heartbroken like 99% of the time. Can anyone pleas help? (link)
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That's part of the game of love.
At times, you really get hurt.
I was just wondering, what's the rush in getting into a relationship at that age?
If I were you I will just enjoy my single life for the moment.
Also, I think the reason why you "fall in love with someone very easy" is because you're not that mature yet.
Have you ever thought if what you felt for the girls you said you fell in love with was REALLY Love? Because sometimes we become victims of a "case-of-infatuation-mistaken-for-love" thingie and we end up feeling really down when we Shouldn't really!
Hope I helped you a lil' bit!
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So i was dating this guy and we were getting pretty serious and I was completley head over heels in love with him, and he claimed he was too. EVerything was perfect. Than out of no where tonight he dumps me because he wants to date around and doesn't want to be in a relationship. What do i do?? Is he lying? i Need advice ahhhh (link)
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He's a PLAYER, dearie.
If I were you, i'd move on and just find another 'prospect'. There's definitely a lot of other guys other, and who knows? Maybe one of them is just the one you're looking for! ;)
Hope I helped you a lil' bit!
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