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messed up my relationship?
okay, so i'm 14/m, and she's 14/f, and i've known her for a really long time as a friend, and i've had a secret crush on her forever now.
so i said to her the other day, "hey, do you wanna go see a movie or something on friday" and she looks at me like i'm crazy. i've never really had a girlfriend before, and i think i totally f*cked up our relationship. she won't even talk to me anymore. anyone got some advice that could help?
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awh okay..girls get uncomfortable when guys ask them to go out. make sure you talk to her about this, you dont want to ruin your guys's friendship over something like that. just act completely njormal about all of this just tell her how you feel and see what her reaction is. if she's rude about it maybe you shouldnt waste your time liking her. who knows deep inside she may like you back! i hope i helped. give me some feedback on if that worked or not.
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Dude me might ignore you because she feels the same way and you got her really confused about what she wants. Dont try to do anything, maybe call her once a day everyday ro show you really do care,but since yall are just friends the reason i said not to do anything is because sending flower or candy to her would just scare her. when you feel a close friend you like them you have to ease your way into it, like take her for walks or something intill shes ready for a movie.
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I hope you know that confessing your true feelings to a FRIEND can only bring two things: It's either you gain a girlfreind, or you lose a friend.(this is what I keep on telling people in the same boat as you....)
That's the truth.
What hurts even more is the 'fact' that things won't really go back to the way they used to be.
That's just the way it is.
So right now, my advice is for you to just accept the 'fact' that it's almost impossible for things to go back to normal AND for you to just move on.
Hope I helped you a lil' bit.
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*deep sigh*.... When you offer to go to the movies, bring a bunch of friends so if it doesnt work out like you planed, both of you wont be conflicting through the whole damn movie.(the bring friends stunt also helps on making it not so personal so its not such a big deal if she goes.) Get 2 friends (it helps if you have an older bro your age) and say your going to the movies and ask if she and her friends would like to come along. Now look, if you go to the movies with her, dont confess that you like her out of the blue. Have fun and be playful with her throughout the movie, feel it out; make it something you both will enjoy. Stay somewhat flirty and just have fun. Hmmmm, I think me and my brother should write a book on this.
Not to be an @$$ but truth be told, the reason she wont talk to you (odds 7/10) is cause she likes someone else and doesnt know how to tell you. This doesnt mean you ruined your relationship, it means you have to make her fall for you.
ONE FINAL THING: DONT DO THE "I DONT WANT OUR RELATIONSHIP TO CHANGE, IM SRY" THING!! If you do your admiting defeat. Dont admit you like her unless she admits to likeing you. This way you have your options open and she isnt as threatened.
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well, i've had a couple of good guy friends ask me out, and even though both times i knew they liked me and i expected them to ask the question soon enough, it still came as a shock. i think she needs some time to get over it. give her a day or two, then ask her is she likes you, and let her know that if she doesn't, you would really like to continue being friends. but if she says no, don't keep moping and hoping that she'd change her mind, because that will only make her not want to hang out with you. trust me, i know. on the other hand, if you just let it go and act like it never happened but still be friends, she might actually think about reconsidering (once again, that's from personal experience).
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sorry to hear that man. but hey talk to her n just ask her.. (if you THINK SHE LIKES YOU) say.."hey about the movies.. you wanna go maybe sometime"... if you feel SHEE DOESNT LIKE YOU then just act like you meant to go as friends..that way she will at least talk to you, and you can work on slowly tellling her. good luck dude. but remember not everyones meant to be.. theres SO many girls out there your just gettin started. hopefully it all works out (:
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well since i'm 14/f i'll answer this from my perspective. i think that she is just a little shocked by your offer to see a movie. she is probably having millions of thoughts running through her head right now like "does he mean a date" "maybe he likes me" "do i like him" "maybe he meant with a group of friends" "maybe he meant just a casual thing". you should give her some time to think it over. then if she doesn't get back to you by friday then ask her again but differently something like "about that movie, i didn't mean to freak you out or anything, i meant just with a bunch of friends" that would be your best bet, making it a group of friends thing. then once your there make sure you sit next to her that way you can talk while your there.
GOOD LUCK =D
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