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i've been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 months. we've been long time friends, and dated once before, but now its becoming more serious. lately, he's been getting tutored by his ex girlfriend. she goes over to his house, and he goes to hers all the time. they used to have a really close relationship, and now its getting back on track. he says i have nothing to worry about and he wont ever go back to her. i feel very jealous and insecure. i dont know what to do. please help.
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There's two ways of taking this. 1, you can tell him how uncomfortable in makes you feel and that you'd like if they studied in a more public setting or with more people. Or 2, you can be laid back and trust him. Trusting him may be hard to do since it's an awkward situation but it will make him love you 20x more. The fact that you trust him and won't let something like that get to you will actually be sexy to him. Either option is acceptable. Do what ever makes you feel better. Personally I would let it be though because saying something could possibly push him into her arms. Hope I helped!
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15/f/uk
So there's this guy I like, let's call him S. He's 16, almost 17, not that that's important, just thought i'd add it in.
I mostly know him through school trips we've both been on. The first was a year ago, and although we didn't talk much then, he still seemed to be fond of me, always saying hi to me, trying to start conversations and asking me to come hang out with him and his friends.
Then he always say hi and hugs me if he sees me out.
Then the most recent school trip, which I only got back from a couple days ago, was when I started to fall for him. Although he is a flirt with everyone, he was always teasing me, comforting me if I was a bit down, putting his arm around me, walking beside me, trying items of his clothing on me, putting accessories on me in shops, taking pics of me, standing beside me in pictures.
We ended up flirting a lot, sharing food, sitting with each other, constantly making eye contact and smiling at each other when no one was watching. It was like we had some kind of connection, when other people were talking we would make eye contact with each other and smile (or nto smile sometimes), as if we were sharing some kind of private joke.
After a while, my friends sensed that there was something going on between us, and left us on our own. S had obviously wanted them to, because when they said they wanted to leave he said. "Okay, you go. Me and M will stay here." and then he asked me to come sit next to him. So we sat and it wasn't uncormfortable at all. He kept looking at me in a kind of intrigued way, like he couldn't quite work me out. I made a comment about him, and then, he suddenly seemed to get a little more serious, like he cared what I thought about him, and asked if he really appeared that way, then tried to explain why. But he started to kind of get confused with it, it was really cute. Then he studied me for longer and we made eye contact, and he started saying what he thought about me, which was along the lines of, I act innocent but I'm mysterious and he can tell just by looking into my eyes that there's something more to me, that he thinks I'm a bit of a bad girl, but I'm hard to work out. I never gave him a straight answer to that, just kind of smirked or smiled and made eye contact and then would change the subject, which I hope keeps the mystery. Then he bought me a drink (:
When we were with everyone again he mostly talked to me and joked about, and once when talking about something he loved and found we had in common, said, "Ohmygod, I think I'm in love!". I know he wasn't being serious, but there must be something to it.
However, after that, he didn't really speak to me on the flight home, apart from saying hi every now and then, though sometimes I'd catch him watching me. Oh, also he asked for my number and gave me his.
He hasn't contacted me since the trip, except for saying "snap." next to one of my facebook updates.
What should I do? I really want to get to know him more and get him to like me more, but I don't know how. I have his facebook and number, but I don't ever really see him. Any ideas?
Also I should add that he is generally quite a flirty guy. It's just that to me, he seemed genuinely interested.
Thanks, x
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i have been with pleanty of players and that is their game! they make you feel so special and unique, like youre the most special girl on the planet and then it turns out theyre using the same likes on 15 other girls. if the guy is known for being a man whore and still hasnt contacted you, i honestly think you should move on! either that or you can try starting the conversation with him one time and see if he tries to talk to you after that. i advise you find out all the dirt you can on him. im not at all trying to hurt your feelings but i know a lot of guys like this. you may feel different but in his eyes you are most likely just a piece of meat or a prize to win.
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Am i a slut if ive been fingered and eaten out at age 11? (link)
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it depends on your relations with the person, and if there was more than one person. youre young but youre not necesarily a slut if he was your boyfriend or something, or if it only happened one time. a slut however gets around and goes far with lots of guys they have no relations with, which i really hope you as a 11 year old were not doing. lol. hope i helped!
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i am 20 year old male and i been with My girl foralmost three years and we have a baby on the way but a year and some time ago i cheated on her with this girl and we messed around twice WITH protection and she got pregnant the baby is now five months and and every since she was pregnant i asked for a dna test and she refused to give me one saying things like no and she would think about it i saw the baby once when he was a month but i say pic of the baby and the baby have my nose and my lips so what should i do should i jus take care of a baby that i dont know is mine because i dont want to seem like a bad person i really am trying to but the female is making me feel like see is hiding something (link)
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because of the possibility that the child could be yours i think you should take care of him. and whether you will or not i think you should promise that you will help her with the child even if it isnt yours but that you just want to know the truth and have a DNA test. or you could even take the child out and get the test without her knowing. those are both decietful things to do but the fact that she could be conning you into taking care of a child who isn't yours is way worse. hope i helped! please let me know how it all turns out.
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im in a bad relationship its violent dramatic and we dont trust each other but somehow we do love each other. we cant let go adn dont want to we want to make it work but were so alike its hard. he says really hurtful things and so do i but we always forgive. last night it got way more crazy and i havent slept ate or thought straight since. i keep crying and i really feel like he wants to be with someone else now. how do i feel better or make this work (link)
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you have two options.. either break things off and move on. find someone who you can get aalong with better, there are pleanty of other fish in the sea. OR you can try talking things out with him. address the fact that you guys's fights are a big problem and work on treating each other better. if things dont get better see if you really think the relationship is worth it despite the fact he makes you feel like shit. personally im not one to be with someone like that but if you can tolerate it and you really like him that much you should stay with him even if he wont change. hope i helped!
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15/f
Theres this guy on my bus and he liked me the year before last ALOT.
Well today on the bus I was shocked when he compared our hand sizes and marveled over how small mine were, and then he held my hand like fingers laced. He held my hand for a minute, then let go, and kept doing that at random times. But he finally held on for the rest of the busride before we had to get off
and he gave me his aim and his cell phone number even though it got taken away.
I dunno if he likes me or not because hes pretty flirtatious but I soo hope he does but what do you think? (link)
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I can't for sure say he likes you but it sounds like he's interested. I think there's obviously potential for him to like you considering he used to and that all you have to do is catch up with him and he'll be yours. He obviously wants to talk to you if he gave you his contact stuff so talk to him and see how he acts. Also if you get the guts try and ask questions subttley to find out how he feels. Lastly see if he suggests hanging out. If he just wants to chill at your house or something he most likely doesn't like you very much and just wants to use you. Alright I hope i helped! :) Good luck!
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alright so im 16/f and im like head over heels for this one guy (haden) and he likes me too. at first it was kind of awkward but its gotten way cool and im starting to think it can actually work. we talk all the time now and hang out and stuff. he wants it to work and i really like him. but here's the problem: i use to like this one guy (john) a lot, differently from haden but still-A LOT. and for awhile too. he liked me but for some reason it just never worked out. he's a sr. and he asked me to prom and i said yes, thinking at the time just as friends. but i can tell he thinks its something more and something is telling me that i should want more as well and that i should finally let it work. but im just not sure what to do. im going to the dance but what if i give into my feelings and just kiss him? i dont know, im just confused because i really like haden and he really likes me, but then john likes me too. im positive about my feelings for haden but whenever im with john i forget about everything else. and i feel like im leading haden on whenever im with him and wont let myself do anything if im not sure its gonna work. even though i like him so freaking much. for some reason though i feel like im suppose to give up my "love" for the one who im meant to be with. i know i wont be happy not being with haden but im not sure if i should just let john slip away because of course i still think about him every so often. im not looking to break hearts but i do know that someone's is going to be broken, whether one of their's or my own, in the process of desicions. it sucks and i hate feeling this way but i know that whatever happens i can get through it because whatever happens is meant to happen that way... but any comments would be most helpful :) thank you (link)
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i think the best thing to do is be honest with haden. judging on his recation you will know what choice to make. his reaction will help you to make the choice between the two. also if you do decide on haden be straight up with john. let him know that youre sort of seeing someone and that you understand if he wants to take someone else. things will fall into place and you will learn what you need to know to make yor decision.
hope i helped!
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well there is this boy that i like a school everyone is tellin me i should be with him and i do like him be i think he is Conceded what should i do?????? (link)
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it depends on how much you like him. if you like him enough you will be able to see past that and wehn youre with him he'll probably reveal a different side of himself. if you dont like him very much though there is no point in trying to put up with that.
hope i helped!
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my best friend of 11 years past away 4 months ago. he left a child and a wife. I just recently hung out with her for the fist time. we are both very intrested in each other and wonder if he would accept us being together. is this wrong of me to be with my best friends wife? im 28 and she is 32. (link)
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You can get many different answers to this question. Some will tell you it's a terrible thing to do and others will tell you that it's a nice thing. Personally I think when someone leaves this world, they would like for the people they care most about to move on and be happy. You two were so close for so long, so who better is there for him to trust with his wife and her happiness? Plus he would want his best friend to be happy too. Also since you two were best friends you will probably be able to have a deep connection with the child considering it has half of your friends DNA. Make sure the two of you aren't falling for each other for the wrong reasons. Make sure it is because you two reallyyy like each other, not that you both just need someone to fill the space of emptiness you both had in your hearts after losing someone so close. I hope I helped and if you have any more questions, I'm here.
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ok so like 3 months ago my family and i started going to this new Christian church and well we liked it. there's this guy and he's very nice and sweet I think I might like him but Im not sure if its right because i met him at church..besides my dad wouldnt approve b/c im 17 and he's 22. Should I forget about him? or should I go for it? if yea How?? (link)
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It's fine to have a crush. Keep talking to him and see how strongly you feel. If it's just some small feelings then drop it and find someone a little closer to your age. If there are strong feelings there, go for him! Its not bad to meet a boy at church just the age may be a problem thats why you should see if hes worth the trouble with dad. Hope I helped!
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Ok this guy we went out and he broke up with me like 2 days after that..
And everytime i see him now he has like 15 girls surrounding around him!!!
And i still love him!!!
And i tell him i dont and he always stares at me and he talks about me to his friends and i dont know if he likes me but if he did why did he brake up with me???
I mean this is going through my head alot and it happened 2 weeks ago..
And i need good advice to tell him something!!
PLEASE!!
im only 11
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If you were able to get a boy cute enough that he was surrounded by girls right after you two ended then you are def good enough to get another guy. If he is really what you want though you should talk to him about things and see if he still has remaining feelings. If he doesn't then you will have to go through the hard process of moving on but if he still has those feeling then hey, you got your boy back! As far as what to say to him find a way to start a convo online (that way things are less awkward) and just suttley ask if he still likes you at all. Hope I helped!
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Okay, so my boyfriend and I have been dating about a month or so.
His ex girlfriend turned best friend is really nice and all, but im a bit worried about her flirty-ness. I mean, i guess shes like that with alot of people, and i know she approved of my boyfriend's and my relationship, but i just don't know.
I don't know her all that well, so i can't exactly tell her to back off without seeming rude. So i think i'm going to bring it up with him. But i don't really know what to say and what not, because i don't want to come off as a bitch.
I trust him, and know that he would never ever do anything behind my back, but still, it just makes me uncomfortable.
How should i bring the topic up?
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This is a tricky situation. I'm pretty sure anyone could understand where you are comming from... Start out by saying that you appreciate the fact that he is able to stay friends with a girl after their relationship ends. Mention to him the fact that you really do trust him alot then get into the hard part. Tell him that althought you really trust him sometimes you feel a little uncomfortable with the fact he is always with his ex. Let him know you have nothing against her and that you don't want him to take things the wrong way or make him feel like he has to choose between you two. Also let him know that you wouldn't mind or bother telling him if you didnt care for him as much as you do. Just tell him nicely how you feel and if he's good enough for you to go out with him then he should be understanding enough of you to know where you're comming from. Hope I helped. Good luck!
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ok. well, i'm like madly in love with this guy name Jacob & like EVERYONE knows it for some reason[i gess its obvisious] & he even knows i like him bkuz of all his friends screaming it in his ears every single day -.- loll.& like yeah. so in math class[4th period]. this guy name Jerry he was holding me[i wanted to let go] while the teacher was teaching.she got annoyed to said to let go on to "get a room"[loll.] everyone looked my way i felt so embarassed >_<
it just so happened that Jacob is in that class. which means he looked at what we where doing.but he only saw me getting away not the hugging part.& near the end of the period, he looked quite sad.
So then in History class[6 period], jacob sits next to me then he all of a sudden he asked what me and jerry was doing that made the teacher say get a room? i told him. cause he really wanted to know. like he wont take nothing as an answer bkuz i told him it was nothing & he was like. oh! it was a somthing alright.
but i wanna know. is that a hint that he likes me?
its been on my mind like crazy! xD
it kind of feels nice having him seemed wooryed about it though hehe.
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By asking you about it this showed an interest and he probably wouldn't have really cared if he wasn't into you at all. It's a good chance he might like you back!
hope i helped!
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ok well me and my boyfriend have been dating for about a month and a half, and well two nights ago he told me that he loves me. it was in a message over myspace so i just didnt respond..well last night he said it again and i asked him if he really did mean it and everything and he said that he did... he said that hes been thinking about it for the past week but he just wanted to be positive that he really did feel that way before he said it... well the thing is that im not sure if i love him, like i love him as a person and everything like i care for him alot but i dont think im in love with him, but yet for some reason i told him that i do love him but that ive been in love with someone before and that i felt alot more for that other person when we had gone out..another thing that im not sure about is that this guy has told three other girls besides me that he loved them.. i asked him about this and he said that he only really loved one of them, the other two that he apparently loved had told him that they loved him first so he just felt obligated to say it back... he told me that he loved me first... i dont really knwo if i should believe him or not... so i just wanted to know basically if A.)i should believe him when he tells me that he loves me and B.) if i should say anything else back to him about him loving me like about how i had told him that i love him too.. should i take it back or what cause i do love him, but im not in love if that makes any sense... thanks in advance. (link)
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Honestly, a month and a half is a pretty short perion of time to be saying you're in love with someone. I dont know about you but I think that love is a very rare thing and that if hes said it to 3 different girls in the past he kind of is just throwing the words around. Don't be like "I take it back, I dont love you" but talk to him about it and explain the fact that you love him but you aren't in love yet. If he really cares about you he will hear you out and understand where you're comming from. Hope I helped.
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i dont know whats with him, he says he likes me. we hungout like a week ago, he would always talk to me online whenenver he got the chance. well all of a sudden he just kinda stopped. like idk whats wrong, he didnt write back to my message, he sometimes seems interested, but now he sometimes doesent. i really have no idea whats going on with him. (if you need any more info just ask) whats wrong? (link)
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boys are weird.
-he could have not liked you from the start and just decided to mess with you because he thought he could get you and didn't think about your feelings.
-he could have really liked you and started not to.
-he could have met someone else.
-he could have really bad things going on right now and realise he doesnt have time for a girl.
-he could just not be the great guy you though he was.
boys play games and its sad when you fall into one of them.
a couple questions...
did you do anything with him?
did he mention anything he might want from a girl?
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so i like this guy and he used 2 like me back but i didn't show much interest since i was busy with school and friends. well i don't really know him. he's in 10th grade and i'm in 9th and we never talked but he gave me A-LOT of hints. i don't wanna spell everything out , just trust me on this. but i think he thought i'm not interested or don't like him so he sorta gave up and didn't look at me that much anymore in the last couple of weeks. so i wanna get him interested again without being pushy and stuff like that and being abvious cause things like that scare him of. please don't tell me 2 talk 2 him cause it would be weird and i'm really shy. just help me with ma additude and things like that so he'll notice me again , and i wanna show him what a great girl i am but more in a indirect way. i only get 2 c him twice a day so pleeaaasse help.
and remember i need help how 2 return his look and stuff like that cause i always used 2 avert his gaze. don't tell me 2 talk 2 him , first i want him 2 notice me again!!!
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when you're passing by him try and get your friends to be a little louder so he will look over because of the sound and once hes looking you can catch his gaze. but dont look to long! be the one to turn your head first. do this for a couple days then finally walk by alone one day. don't cross your arms and watch your facial expressions and little thing can scare away a shy guy!! but look approachable and of course look your best and hes bound to come over to you. when he comes though that will take ALOT of comfidence from him so you cannot be to shy when talking to him and you can't be over talkative or else that will scare him away. make good conversation and it will become a habbit for him to come over to you every day. then finally after a little time you will see the signs again! hope i helped.
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i'm like, totally inlove with my best guy friend. i asked him out sometime in november but he turned me down. he said that our friendship was more important at our age and stuff. and i see where he's coming from. but since then, we've started growing apart. we haven't had a conversation an hour long, which was like, the minimum amount of time we used to talk before i asked him out. we say hey to each other most of the time we see each other at school, and after school, i hang out with him and his friends until my ride comes. but we never talk one-on-one anymore. not even in the computer. so i've been thinking about messaging him on myspace. i've been thinking about doing this for weeks now, but i just can't seem to do it. it seems like i'm stalking him because ever since i asked him out, i send him messages every now and then, trying to make conversation with him. if i keep doing that, wouldn't it seem like i'm desperate and i'm stalking him? what should i do? should i message him or not? i have an idea in my head about what imma say. something like, "hey. you're proly getting annoyed by how many times i try to make a conversation with you, which never lasts long. i just wanna try one more time, because i really feel like we've been growing apart lately. i really miss those old days when we talked for hours and hours, because now we can't even talk for 5 minutes without silences in between. it really sucks. so what do you say? are you up for trying one more time?"
what do you think?? i really need some perspective on this.
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ive been down this path before. ive never actually asked the guy out but i know this situation. you asked him out and he was probably a bit suprised maybe even shocked, he felt so close to you and had no idea you had feelings for him and all the sudden you popped the question. he started distancing himself cause he felt that if he was with you more you would just fall harder for him and not hes just being sort of immature by barely talking at all but you know what you gotta give him a little time. talk to other guys and let him know you have moved on and then let him come back to you. if you guys' friendship meant alot and you two were really close he will realize how much he misses that and hell come around. but if he doesnt then obviously you deserve better friends then that. you shouldnt be in a friendship where you are putting forth all the effort to make it work. let the boy come to you. i hope i helped. =]
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okay, where to start. well i was going out with this boy named Alex. and i liked him alot and everything but he liked me like a thousand times more. well like every night this boy Lane would call me tryin to get with me, but i never thought anything of it. well about two months passed and me and Alex had already broken up. Then Lane was going out with my friend Addair who can't keep a boyfriend at all. Well she was grounded and me and Lane and all my other friends were all friends so we were goin out together and Lane started liking me that night again. me and Lane have kind of like always had a thing for eachother. well the next Addair brok up with Lane cause like i said, she doesn't like keeping a boyfriend. then Lane asked me out. so i said yes. i have never had a boyfriend like Lane before. it was so much fun with him, like we experienced so many new things together. we went out for 3 1/2 months and then at this fair thing we have in my town, his friends from his school were there [we go to different schools] and he started acting like a COMPLETE JERK. like it was so weird, he was never that bad. so then i couldnt take it and i broke up with him. then i found out he acted like that so i would break up with him. that hurt. i was sitting there crying so hard and all he could say to me was stop shaking. so then we went a caouple days without talking, and then i called him. i was like, Lane, what happened? and he basically told me he was just tired of having a girlfriend and he wanted to be single. i never wanted to break up with him. so then the first weekend after we broke up we were hanging out at the mall with all our friends and he was acting like we were like, "together" you know. and it made me so mad. but i couldnt help but like it cause i like him. then the next day me him, my best friend Taylor, and her boyfriend which is Lane's bestfriend, Kyle all went to the movies. well Lane likes kind of "simple" girls in a way. and well, i dress kind of not simple sometimes. i like acessories and style and stuff. well at the movies that night he decided that he wasnt gonna hang out with us because of what i was wearing. i mean how frickin low is that. i was so mad. cause then i was stuck with Taylor and her boyfriend and oh my gosh that was like hell. well then i had people over at my house the next monday and he was one of them. we flirted like crazy and like, i can tell there's chemistry there. but i just don't know how much. well then last night we went to the movies again, me Taylor, Kyle, and Lane. well me and Lane used to always go to the movies together when we went out, alot of stuff happened at the movies. so it was hard. cause you don't know how bad i just wanted to start making out with him. well then he started trying to kiss me and he held my hand and i resisted for a while but uhhh i just cant resist that boy. so then we were like all together and it was just so confusing and he was like i still like you and i shouldn't have ever broken up with you. my friend Taylor doesn't think i should go back out with him anytime soon. my friend Caela thinks i deff. should. my friend Addair is in the middle. so i am so completely confused. i dont know what he wants, i dont know what i want, i dont know what my friends want. so can you help, please? sorry its so long, lol.
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Look, you seem like the type of person who gets a lot of guys and usually doesn’t have problems with their boyfriends.and you probably dont wanna hear about my past and all but im just going to say i can totally relate.. and no matter how bad you want to not like him something is always still there. well i know it will be really hard, and you probably REALLY wanna take him back but the past is just gonna come back and the same thing will happen again. as much as you dont want to you are going to have to move on. and find a boy even better for you who doesnt mind the way you dress and wont bail on you and will be there for you. there are PLEANTY of fish in the sea.. you just gotta go out there and show them your bait. lol... and no matter how much you wish he'd change so things could be perfect truth is, things wont really change. now i know for a little while you will regret it if you turn him down but in the longrun things will turn out a whole lot better then they would have if you went back out w/ him and he ended up breaking your heart again. well i hope i helped
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ok basically i'm 14 years old and i've never had a boyfriend. never had a guy asked me out. never been kissed at all. and it's really pathetic... its not that im ugly or fat or have no friends or i'm mean, or anything. guys just never seem to like me. a lot of my more unattractive friends seem to get boyfriends, and my personality is just as good, i'm just as outgoing, i'm just as ANYTHING. and i feel like the world's biggest loser. is 14 really old for someone whos never been kissed/had a boyfriend????? tell the truth! (link)
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dont worry... your normal :]
its not to old. you just probably
are putting across more of a friend vibe.
try and flirt a little and ull be
on the right track in no timee
hope i helped
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ok um well im a 13 year old female i really like this guy ive fallen hard for him i mean i seriously have fallen like in love but he says he doesnt like anyone and we talk eveyday we have everything in common cept for the fact that im a girl and hes a guy lol well i guess my question is should i try or just move on since he doesnt like anyone (link)
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guys lie..... ALOT. i mean he might like you and just be saying he doesn't like anyone because he is afraid to tell you.
So my advice to you would have to be,
tell him you like him. i absolutly live by the quote "it's better to have loved than to have not loved at all." wheather he likes you or not,it's good that he knows.:]and if he is as great as you say he is then he will understand.
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