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confused ABOUT A BABY
i am 20 year old male and i been with My girl foralmost three years and we have a baby on the way but a year and some time ago i cheated on her with this girl and we messed around twice WITH protection and she got pregnant the baby is now five months and and every since she was pregnant i asked for a dna test and she refused to give me one saying things like no and she would think about it i saw the baby once when he was a month but i say pic of the baby and the baby have my nose and my lips so what should i do should i jus take care of a baby that i dont know is mine because i dont want to seem like a bad person i really am trying to but the female is making me feel like see is hiding something
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Take care of the child emotionally and in any other way the mother will allow. Visit, provide small gifts, be avalible for helping out and do what is asked of you by the mother.
The child COULD be yours, so that much is right.
Do NOT pay child support, sign anything regarding parental rights, or give her any money until you have a paternity test. Be prepared to pay for the test yourself.
Be clear with her: You are willing to take her word on this and treat the child as your own, but you expect a paternity test before you enter into any more of a legal situation with her or the child. Basically, she doesn't see a dime until she consents to a paternity test. If she tries to take you to court for child support, she will quickly find the court will support your position.
In the meantime, it would be a good idea to set aside some money from each paycheck for the child. If it is yours, you'll be required to pay the child support for the months you've missed so far.
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because of the possibility that the child could be yours i think you should take care of him. and whether you will or not i think you should promise that you will help her with the child even if it isnt yours but that you just want to know the truth and have a DNA test. or you could even take the child out and get the test without her knowing. those are both decietful things to do but the fact that she could be conning you into taking care of a child who isn't yours is way worse. hope i helped! please let me know how it all turns out.
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