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Boyfriends ex?
Okay, so my boyfriend and I have been dating about a month or so.
His ex girlfriend turned best friend is really nice and all, but im a bit worried about her flirty-ness. I mean, i guess shes like that with alot of people, and i know she approved of my boyfriend's and my relationship, but i just don't know.
I don't know her all that well, so i can't exactly tell her to back off without seeming rude. So i think i'm going to bring it up with him. But i don't really know what to say and what not, because i don't want to come off as a bitch.
I trust him, and know that he would never ever do anything behind my back, but still, it just makes me uncomfortable.
How should i bring the topic up?
I'm 15, he's 17, and she's 16; if that matters at all.
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As weird and difficult as it may seem, you have to be blunt about it. You don't have to be rude, but just lay it all out on the table. Yea, maybe she's cool with the relationship, but maybe she acts cool because she wants your boyfriend to see that they can still "hang out" as a last attempt to win him back. Also, if you let her walk all over the relationship she might win him back because she was bold enough to go for it. Trust me, no guy would think it's rude to talk about, in fact, he will probably feel really great that a. you have some jealousy towards her and b. you care enough to tell him you aren't okay with an ex coming between you
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This is a tricky situation. I'm pretty sure anyone could understand where you are comming from... Start out by saying that you appreciate the fact that he is able to stay friends with a girl after their relationship ends. Mention to him the fact that you really do trust him alot then get into the hard part. Tell him that althought you really trust him sometimes you feel a little uncomfortable with the fact he is always with his ex. Let him know you have nothing against her and that you don't want him to take things the wrong way or make him feel like he has to choose between you two. Also let him know that you wouldn't mind or bother telling him if you didnt care for him as much as you do. Just tell him nicely how you feel and if he's good enough for you to go out with him then he should be understanding enough of you to know where you're comming from. Hope I helped. Good luck!
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