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2 boys, confused feelings
alright so im 16/f and im like head over heels for this one guy (haden) and he likes me too. at first it was kind of awkward but its gotten way cool and im starting to think it can actually work. we talk all the time now and hang out and stuff. he wants it to work and i really like him. but here's the problem: i use to like this one guy (john) a lot, differently from haden but still-A LOT. and for awhile too. he liked me but for some reason it just never worked out. he's a sr. and he asked me to prom and i said yes, thinking at the time just as friends. but i can tell he thinks its something more and something is telling me that i should want more as well and that i should finally let it work. but im just not sure what to do. im going to the dance but what if i give into my feelings and just kiss him? i dont know, im just confused because i really like haden and he really likes me, but then john likes me too. im positive about my feelings for haden but whenever im with john i forget about everything else. and i feel like im leading haden on whenever im with him and wont let myself do anything if im not sure its gonna work. even though i like him so freaking much. for some reason though i feel like im suppose to give up my "love" for the one who im meant to be with. i know i wont be happy not being with haden but im not sure if i should just let john slip away because of course i still think about him every so often. im not looking to break hearts but i do know that someone's is going to be broken, whether one of their's or my own, in the process of desicions. it sucks and i hate feeling this way but i know that whatever happens i can get through it because whatever happens is meant to happen that way... but any comments would be most helpful :) thank you
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okay well im sorry your going through this. it seems like a complicated situation and it was a tad hard to follow. but i did notice you said,
"for some reason though i feel like im suppose to give up my "love" for the one who im meant to be with. i know i wont be happy not being with haden but im not sure if i should just let john slip away because of course i still think about him every so often."
it is common to have feelings for an ex or someone you care about or love. but you said you wouldnt be happy without haden. so i think you kidna anwserd your own question. im letin you know that you have your whole life to find the right person. and if you break it off with one of them that doesnt mean you cant be friends with them anymore. and if it doesnt work out with one of them. try working it out with the other.
people get hurt on your way to get what you want,its part of life and we've all been their, just make sure nobodys friendship is hurt-thats key. i hope i helped. if you need anything else let me know =]
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~Katie
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i think the best thing to do is be honest with haden. judging on his recation you will know what choice to make. his reaction will help you to make the choice between the two. also if you do decide on haden be straight up with john. let him know that youre sort of seeing someone and that you understand if he wants to take someone else. things will fall into place and you will learn what you need to know to make yor decision.
hope i helped!
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