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Q: alright so im 16/f and im like head over heels for this one guy (haden) and he likes me too. at first it was kind of awkward but its gotten way cool and im starting to think it can actually work. we talk all the time now and hang out and stuff. he wants it to work and i really like him. but here's the problem: i use to like this one guy (john) a lot, differently from haden but still-A LOT. and for awhile too. he liked me but for some reason it just never worked out. he's a sr. and he asked me to prom and i said yes, thinking at the time just as friends. but i can tell he thinks its something more and something is telling me that i should want more as well and that i should finally let it work. but im just not sure what to do. im going to the dance but what if i give into my feelings and just kiss him? i dont know, im just confused because i really like haden and he really likes me, but then john likes me too. im positive about my feelings for haden but whenever im with john i forget about everything else. and i feel like im leading haden on whenever im with him and wont let myself do anything if im not sure its gonna work. even though i like him so freaking much. for some reason though i feel like im suppose to give up my "love" for the one who im meant to be with. i know i wont be happy not being with haden but im not sure if i should just let john slip away because of course i still think about him every so often. im not looking to break hearts but i do know that someone's is going to be broken, whether one of their's or my own, in the process of desicions. it sucks and i hate feeling this way but i know that whatever happens i can get through it because whatever happens is meant to happen that way... but any comments would be most helpful :) thank you

okay well im sorry your going through this. it seems like a complicated situation and it was a tad hard to follow. but i did notice you said,

"for some reason though i feel like im suppose to give up my "love" for the one who im meant to be with. i know i wont be happy not being with haden but im not sure if i should just let john slip away because of course i still think about him every so often."

it is common to have feelings for an ex or someone you care about or love. but you said you wouldnt be happy without haden. so i think you kidna anwserd your own question. im letin you know that you have your whole life to find the right person. and if you break it off with one of them that doesnt mean you cant be friends with them anymore. and if it doesnt work out with one of them. try working it out with the other.

people get hurt on your way to get what you want,its part of life and we've all been their, just make sure nobodys friendship is hurt-thats key. i hope i helped. if you need anything else let me know =]

email: iscream4bananas@yahoo.com

~Katie

Q: Okay, so me and me new bf just started going out, and i was wondering, when is it to soon to kiss him?

i would say it would be to soon when you arent ready for it.but if you really want a DATE type of anwser i'd say a week or 2. why waste a kiss on a relationship that wont last, you know. so my opinion is just do it when your ready..
=]
good luck!
Katie

Q: ok so im 13 female and i liked this guy for a while right and it turns out he likes me too so we are now going out and now he wont talk to me its not like i talk to him and he says like go away or anything its just like he wont talk to me on his own and my best friend and his best girl friend (same person) told me to break up with him but i dont want to so what do i do thanks for your help in advance

he might just feel a little uncomfortable right now. try to make him feel more comfortable by you just starting the conversations for a while. if things dont get better after a while try talking to him. communication is key in all relationships. tell him "it just seems like you dont talk to me, on your own, like it seems i have to start the converstaions and everything." tell him in person and such and im sure things will get better, at age 13 those type of things can be a tad awkward.

best of luck if you need any more help let me kno
=]
Katie

Q: okayy so im 15 and a female.. well i know for a fact, 100 percent that i want to wait until marriage before i have sex and i know that in the future guys will respect you more if yoou werent out and about being a little whore..but right now i feel like i cant get a boyfriend.. at all bc im just not like that idk im not ugly and im not shy but it feels likee every guyy just wants to have sex like all the time or something. idk what to do..is this just how they r at this age??

im sorry to tell you this but a lot of guys think about sex a lot. its not ALL guys. but a lot of them.but their are guys who want a relationship for the girls peronality and emotionaly love, not just physcial. you have to just not think about it, and the right guy will come, trust me, thats how i met my bf of now 5 months and hes not the typical "horn-dog" girls get messed with. so to anwser your questions, yes most of the guys are like that, and its not the age, its just that their guys...relax guys arent everything and you deserve a guy who loves you for you and not just for sex...=]
best of luck!
~Katie

Q: ANY suugestions or help is appreciated!
Okay.
I KNOW I'm a great kisser. I'm not being vein I'm saying what my ex still says and current bf says. I dont talk to my ex anymore btw lol!
But anyway,
TJ, my bf, is an awesome kisser, so as you can imagine the making out is good for both of us, awesome + awesome=WOW.
But....
I made out with hm for the first time Friday and it was good, even he admitted it.
But....
How can I make it better?
Bear in mind we aren't having sex and won't unless we get married.
TJ is actually one of those 'one and a million, hold on to him if you're lucky enough to find one of those' guys.
What things really turn a guy on when it comes to that, or ANYTHING!
I can be a tease if I want and a VERY superb flirt, so no troubles there.
SO PLEASE HELP!

i anwserd a question like this earlier and this is what i said:
i asked my boyfriend this once and now weve been together for 5 months so i know most of the "turn on spots" so heres what i know:
~put your hand on the back of his neck and rub your finger through his hair
~slide you hand up and down on his inner thigh
~most guys love hickeys on the neck
~slide your hand up and down his chest
~put your leg on his legs

and the only way to really get better is practice and to ask the guy what he likes, it may sound weird but it really does help out...
hope i helped =]
good luck and remember- it doesnt take much to turn a guy on...i know that for a fact.
-Kt

Q: hey,

does anyone know where I can buy

-grey
-black
- & colored denim shorts ?

thanks !

i would definetly say old navy:

http://www.oldnavy.com/browse/category.do?cid=5456

and pac sun:

http://shop.pacsun.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplay?storeId=10001&catalogId=10001&langId=-1&productId=92689&parentCategoryId=10002&categoryId=25860&pageNumber=2&sortBy=0

http://shop.pacsun.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplay?storeId=10001&catalogId=10001&langId=-1&productId=90174&parentCategoryId=10002&categoryId=25860&pageNumber=3&sortBy=0

http://shop.pacsun.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplay?storeId=10001&catalogId=10001&langId=-1&productId=86376&parentCategoryId=10002&categoryId=25860&pageNumber=4&sortBy=0

hope thats what your looking for =]
~katie

Q: Okay, so my friend and I were ranting about stretchmarks to each other, and how we both have them on our theighs/she has them on her knees, as well. We were both wondering a few things:
Why do we have these, are they normal, and how can we get rid of them?

Also, we're going to the beach with some guy friends in June/July. So, we're both at average weights for our sizes, but we each have what you could call a 'muffin top', or whatever. We've each got muscle under that from doing crunches, so we're not sure what else to do to really help? We'd like to lose the lower belly fat by June or July, so what's something we could quickly do?

Thanks for any help, guys!

i have the same problem and when i read your question i also wanted to kno how to get rid of them. im srry i dont have an anwser for you because i used coco butter and such and it didnt work. but i can tell you that you get them for growing really fast in like puberty, thats how i got them, i grew really fast for my skin. i just wanted to let u kno =]

i know cuz i talked to my doctor....

~Kt

Q: What are some things girls can do to a guy to really turn him on while you guys are making out.

Hope that made sense.

I will rate or whatever. Lol

i asked my boyfriend this once and now weve been together for 5 months so i know most of the "turn on spots" so heres what i know:
~put your hand on the back of his neck and rub your finger through his hair
~slide you hand up and down on his inner thigh
~most guys love hickeys on the neck
~slide your hand up and down his chest
~put your leg on his legs

hope i helped =]
good luck and remember- it doesnt take much to turn a guy on...i know that for a fact.
-Kt

Q: Okay so...theres this guy I'm interested in, (I'm 14 and he's 15) and we've been talking alot lately, more than a month. We have ALOT in common, and its always easy to talk to him. He said he would like to hang out with me but, I don't really know if he likes me. I heard from someone that he said he likes me but he hasn't told me himself. I don't want to tell him I like him, because if he doesn't like me back then he might want to be friends with me. I feel like I'm in fifth grade again, ugh.

Help?

you should just tell him. life is to short to hide your feelings. you have so much to gain if he does turn out to like you, which is sounds like he does. and if you tell him and he doesnt want to be friends anymore hes not a good friend because a true friend likes you for who you are no matter what.if you want some help on how to tell him you like him i'd be more then glad to help you out(over advicenators,im or email).
=]
good luck!
~Katie