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okayy so im 15 and a female.. well i know for a fact, 100 percent that i want to wait until marriage before i have sex and i know that in the future guys will respect you more if yoou werent out and about being a little whore..but right now i feel like i cant get a boyfriend.. at all bc im just not like that idk im not ugly and im not shy but it feels likee every guyy just wants to have sex like all the time or something. idk what to do..is this just how they r at this age??
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don't worry if you don't have a boyfriend now. besides you're only 15 years old. there are lots of years and guys to wait. if a guy wants to have sex with you in order for him to be your boyfriend, i tell you leave that guy because he doesn't want you as you and you will not be happy with him. Wait for the guy that will respect you and love you. I'm sure God has designated a perfect man for you. All you have to do is to wait for him.
Don't always conform with the society. men at your age are naturally like that because they are on the experimental stage. they don't have enough knowledge to control their cravings.
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Well, it's true that every guy *wants* to have sex. And if it's offered to them, many will go ahead and take it. But that doesn't mean that every guy wants *only* sex. Sure, there are some who do, but there are lots of guys who want something else as well: a relationship with a girl they love and admire and respect. And if being with that girl means foregoing sex until she's ready, there are many who are willing to do that.
So don't give up hope. There are actually many guys who, like you, have already made a decision to wait until marriage. One of them may be your future husband. Or, you may meet a guy who hasn't made a conscious decision to wait, but who will be so totally in love with you that he'll decide you're worth waiting for. Either way, I can promise you, he IS out there. =]
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im sorry to tell you this but a lot of guys think about sex a lot. its not ALL guys. but a lot of them.but their are guys who want a relationship for the girls peronality and emotionaly love, not just physcial. you have to just not think about it, and the right guy will come, trust me, thats how i met my bf of now 5 months and hes not the typical "horn-dog" girls get messed with. so to anwser your questions, yes most of the guys are like that, and its not the age, its just that their guys...relax guys arent everything and you deserve a guy who loves you for you and not just for sex...=]
best of luck!
~Katie
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Nope. It'll be next to impossible to find a guy who doesn't THINK about sex, but there's plenty out there who are looking for more than that. A decent guy will respect your choice and there's a lot more out there than you might think.
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Oh, I was (still am) the exact same way. I really want to wait til marriage to have sex. And when I was your age, I felt like no guy would ever want me because all they want is sex.
Well guess what? It's not true.
I'm 19 now and I finally have a boyfriend who totally respects the fact that I want to wait. Not only does he have respect for my decision, but for me as a person.
So all I can say is to wait it out. As you get older, you'll find a more mature guy who will respect that decision.
The problem is, most guys your age are in the middle of puberty, so the only thing on their minds right now is sex. Once they get older, it will change. That is what I think anyway, considering my boyfriend is 24.
BUT, I will not rule out the fact that there are a rare amount of guys your age who will be mature about your decision. If you happen to find one, consider yourself lucky. And just remember, that if a guy you're with ever pressures you to do something you don't wanna do, get rid of them, because they're not worth your time. :]
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At that age, yes a lot of boys are constantly thinking about sex and girls. The thing for you to do is let them all know where you stand now and don't back down for any of them. You may not get a boyfriend right away, but sooner or later you will get a mature guy who respects you for you. Do not compromise your beliefs or yourself for someone. Most of them will grow out of it, but a lot of them are going to be immature and obsessive about sex for a long time.
Hope I Helped.
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Yeah sorry to say but a lot of them are like that at your age, but not all of them are. I deffinetly respect your choice. You sound like a very together girl who highly respects herself to not just let any guy do it to her. There is so many teen mothers out there, including some of my friends. I promise you will find the right guy. Just don't be in a hurry and let it him come to you. If you go chasing a guy or are in a hurry to get into a relationship I can almost gurantee you it won't work out. But I have a lot of respect for you so keep up the good work.
xoxo,
dottie4
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First, I want to congratulate you on the choice that you've made. It's not an easy one and things will get harder and harder for you. I can tell you have the willpower though, and you're going to stick this one out. I'm waiting until marriage too, and I think it's the best decision I've ever made. It's definitely worth it. I know my current relationship is so much better for it. Good for you!
A little about my situation. I'm happily engaged. It was HIM that was actually the one that wanted to wait until marriage, so there are guys out there that feel the same as you. I always thought that waiting would be kinda nice, but never really, seriously committed myself to it. I actually told myself that I would start having sex when I got engaged.
I would suggest that you look for Christian boys. Even if you aren't that religious yourself, if you want to get in on the dating scene and don't want to have to worry about guys pressuring you for sex, this is where you will probably find a guy that feels the same way as you. I'm not saying that all Christian boys feel this way or that no non-Christians do. Christians value waiting until marriage, so this is a good place to look to find like-minded people. So, start going to church if you don't already or figure out which guys are actively religious at your school. Remember that being actively religious doesn't mean they wear Jesus shirts every day and pray before eating their lunch. It just means that they go to church regularly.
Don't worry too much about this. If you can't find a guy now, it's okay. You'll find someone. At this age, it is hard to find people that don't want to have sex. Be optimistic though, lots of people want to wait. They're just hard to find because like you, they are being cautions about dating.
Don't go around set on finding a guy that doesn't want sex. Even guys that you "know" aren't virgins may have changed their minds about sex. Just go out and find guys. How awkward is it to ask someone if they want to have sex with you before you even date them? A lot of the time you may get a certain vibe from someone, but you could be completely wrong. My fiancee tells really inappropriate jokes all the time and everyone except our really close friends are convinced we're not virgins. Even our families think we're doin' it!
Anyway, my point is that sometimes you have to take a small risk and just get into a relationship. Many couples start their relationships by making out or other such acts. If you don't do this, many guys that are looking for sex will look elsewhere. Put yourself out there and be spontaneous about dating guys instead of so calculated. It's better to try out a relationship than to miss an opportunity altogether. Good luck. :)
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Hi Hun,
No, they aren't like that at this age, well some are but there stupid and they are the ones who are wasting their lives acting like idiots. Not all boys are like, you will find decent boys as well and it's not just all about sex in their minds.
Mandy
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sure, some guys only care about sex, but its easier to find a guy that doesnt than you would think. and that is a good way to go about it, since would you really want to be with a guy that just wants you for sex? just be up front about it from the begening that way you dont waste time on the scumbags
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Unfortunatly for you, guys at that age are approaching their sexual peaks, don't blaim them too much for it. I know we have a tendancy to be dicks at times but there are guys out there that share the same feelings as you, you've just got to be patient and keep your faith that you will eventually find someone that's right for you. If you think about it, there's no point in getting in to lots of relationships that don't mean anything. Might as well wait for those one or two special ones that'll treat you right.
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