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here i go again ...
i'm like, totally inlove with my best guy friend. i asked him out sometime in november but he turned me down. he said that our friendship was more important at our age and stuff. and i see where he's coming from. but since then, we've started growing apart. we haven't had a conversation an hour long, which was like, the minimum amount of time we used to talk before i asked him out. we say hey to each other most of the time we see each other at school, and after school, i hang out with him and his friends until my ride comes. but we never talk one-on-one anymore. not even in the computer. so i've been thinking about messaging him on myspace. i've been thinking about doing this for weeks now, but i just can't seem to do it. it seems like i'm stalking him because ever since i asked him out, i send him messages every now and then, trying to make conversation with him. if i keep doing that, wouldn't it seem like i'm desperate and i'm stalking him? what should i do? should i message him or not? i have an idea in my head about what imma say. something like, "hey. you're proly getting annoyed by how many times i try to make a conversation with you, which never lasts long. i just wanna try one more time, because i really feel like we've been growing apart lately. i really miss those old days when we talked for hours and hours, because now we can't even talk for 5 minutes without silences in between. it really sucks. so what do you say? are you up for trying one more time?"
what do you think?? i really need some perspective on this.
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ive been down this path before. ive never actually asked the guy out but i know this situation. you asked him out and he was probably a bit suprised maybe even shocked, he felt so close to you and had no idea you had feelings for him and all the sudden you popped the question. he started distancing himself cause he felt that if he was with you more you would just fall harder for him and not hes just being sort of immature by barely talking at all but you know what you gotta give him a little time. talk to other guys and let him know you have moved on and then let him come back to you. if you guys' friendship meant alot and you two were really close he will realize how much he misses that and hell come around. but if he doesnt then obviously you deserve better friends then that. you shouldnt be in a friendship where you are putting forth all the effort to make it work. let the boy come to you. i hope i helped. =]
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that sounds like a good idea to me. let him know how you're feeling & maybe he will understand. if things don't go back to the way they used to be, then maybe he isn't such a good friend. my mom always tells me that friendships will change. good luck to you!!
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