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Hi, I'm Jasmine, I have been though some hard times in my life, and I'm always here for anyone who needs advice! (: I'm just a message away!
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Hi I need some advice I'm going to lose my virginity to my boyfriend tommorow and I'm really nervous its his first time also he's 16 and I'm 14 so do you have any advice on how to do it?x
Gosh I'm so sorry its taken me soo long to respond. If your 14, its no age to be losing your virginity. dont give it up yet. make him wait for a few more years. if he really loves you, he will wait. the age difference is also kinda weird, so make sure hes not just getting with you to get some. (:
I am a 21 year old female having no kid,inlove with a 28 yr old guy with 2 kids.we've dating 4 almost abwt a year,and he's also inlove wit the mother of the kids..we r in da sme flat and da mothr is livin in far in anada village while we r in town,but evrytym whn she visit ma bf i always have to be alne no matter she gonna sty 4 a mnth??he dnt cl nor cum 2 see me? And he does'nt even tel me abwt his plnz 4 da future...wts da best way dump or be patient??
Dump him! If hes not making a commitment to you and only you, he's not worth your valuable time and you could find someone much better who will treat you like a princess! Hope I could help!
I have been trying to get my girl friend to admitt she is pretty she is gorgouse and alot of guys hit on her. And tell her she is pretty but still she calls her self ugly and unattractive i tell her how pretty she is everyday. And she is saying i misslead her into believing she is pretty idont know what to do ??????
this girl sounds like she just wants compliments! She knows how gorgeous she is, and girls say this all the time so you or a guy/girl will say "no your gorgeous!" or "you have nothing to worry about!" girls love to hear compliments about themselves ....so she may just be doing this for a compliment!
I am a seveteen year old teenage girl who has been with this guy for about two years. things have been great at first but now..well not so well. we love each other and i know that but we get into arguments every other day. it hurts me emotionally and i try to fix things. but each time i try it just fails. i love this kid but just some things he says can be very hurtful. how can i fix this??? and i tried talking to him how it hurt me also
If he hurts you emotionally, he's not worth your time. And if you feel so strongly about him, like you don't want to let him go, then you guys should try and talk things out. tell him your perspective, and let him give you his side of the story. then you guys talk and work things out from there! If you need anymore help, contact me!
i'm 22 f and my bf is 24 we've been together for 4 months but were friends for 2 years before. resently conversations about the future have been coming up. he says that he would love to marry me and be with me always but wants to be together for longer before he makes that comitment. however when the subject of kids came up he was more excited. i want to have kids with him but i feel that this is more important to him then marriage. which doesn't fly in my books. i'm a little old fashioned that way. is this just me being crazy or should i really worry about it.
Your definitley not crazy, but if the topic of kids comes up, bring up marriage. Tell him that if you want to hanve children, you will have to marry first.
i've hung out with this guy twice, and both times we hooked up (not sex, i'm a virgin and he knows that and i reallly dont want to have sex with him anytime soon...or at all now)
so basically he texts me at like 2:30 in the morning and i was up so i answered and he asked me what i was doing and stuff, but then he told me i should come over so we could cuddle. i told him i was tired but he kept persisting. he wouldnt stop texting me even after i told him that i really dont want to go out tonight. eventually i just stopped texting and pretended i fell asleep but he kept sending me texts and then even called me once. as i'm writing this it is 4:30 in the morning and i have turned off my phone so i don't have to hear it vibrate any more. i have at least 5 unanswered texts from him and a missed call. i really don't even think i like him, i just like hooking up with him (i know it sounds bad but it's the truth).. i don't know if he actually likes me or just wants to try to take my virginity? either way i don't like him and after tonight his neediness/clinginess just completely turned me off and i don't know what to do or say to him now. what should i do?
Block this guy from your phone. If you really dont wanna contact this guy, at all, block him, and you wont hear from him again. If that doesnt work, and you have a stalker on your hands, then you should maybe start looking for a restraining order.
so ive been dating this guy for about two weeks now but weve been talking for a month or two before we got together. I dont trust him at all and i dont know if im just paranoid or i should follow my gut.he wont check his phone when im around even when someone is blowing it up. and sometimes it will take him a few hours to text me back. the other day i looked at his phone while he was sleeping, now i didnt go through the messages i just wanted to see who had been texting him and three or four of them were girls none of which i knew..he says he wouldnt cheat on me cuz hes been cheated on but ive heard from peoplee that hes a man whore. should i trust him? orr what?
Give him up. You cant ever change a player like that. Give it up, he doesnt deserve you! You deserve someone who will always be there for you, through the good times and the bad, you need a guy who will always tell you the truth no matter what, and be straight with you, and love you, for you, and not cheat on you. He doesnt deserve you. Dump him.
See at the moment I really like this guy Ryan we've known each other since last summer and someone told me he liked him which I could tell he did the only thing we did that summer was talk and just have the best time togther how we met is this group thing in the summer where we all met up everyday now that it's over I've liked him but now I can tell he doesn't like me anymore but I see him every day in some classes which I'm a freshman and he's a sophmore we like never talk anymore which makes me really sad now another girl from the summer group likes him but she goes to a diffrent school. And we talk sour him which at the moment the girl and Ryan keep talking through text and calls so after yesterday which I was crying I decided I let him go or a while then maybe later in the year bci think we have French togther next half so I'm having hope that one day we will talk again and it won't be awkward do you think he'll ever talk to me like he use to and like me again??
It depends on the guy. Be his friend, and see where it goes from there! I'm sure he'll like you. Just dont get into fights with him, or get jealous, and dont be to clingy. Guys like their space. (: But give it some time, and I'm sure he'll like you! (:
Soo I'm back from some R&R anyway.
I'm going out with a guy who's younger than I am by one year (I'm a sophmore& he's a freshman) recently I told my mom this cause I really like kwami, and she deserved to know. She knows what he looks like and started making funny of me for dating someone so dark he was "purple"; no she's not racist but I love my mom. And I'd really like it for them to get along. What should I do to make it work ??
Oh..and kwami (his name) wants it too wirk too.
Thanks!! (i'm 15/f he's 14/m)
You should start off by telling your mom how much you like Kwami. Tell her that this is a serious relationship, and that you want her to accept him for who he is. (:
I cheated on my boyfriend in the summer twice with my ex. Because he made me feel so insecure about our relationship. He never gave me a lot of attention, he never called me. He didn't text me very fast. My ex gave me a lot of attention and made me feel loved. And my boyfriend never gets jealous about other guys except my ex because we went out for 2 years. Also I get really jealous if my boyfriend talks to other girls or hangs out with them. My ex kept coming back to me even when I was going out with him. I keep cheating on my boyfriend with him though. Now I stopped. I feel guilty about it because I think my boyfriend has never cheated on me. I just don't trust him. Because he talks to a lot of girls and never gives me a lot of attention. All he does is buy me gifts and its always jewlery. But i feel guilty that I cheated. My best friend told me he deserved it. My boyfriend still doesnt know i cheated on him. On our anniversary last month my ex texted me. And my boyfriend responded to his text. And my ex's answer was "were more than just friends" and he got so mad. And his mom asked me if I was being unfaithful and I said no and lied. What should i do? Ive never cheated on a guy EVER. I've been cheated on before. Guys have left me for other people. How can I deal with this relationship? I need help from someone :(
Well, like the other Advicenator had said, it doesnt seem like you like your boyfriend very much. You should take some time off from him, and take time to think about who you really like. And your boyfriend doesnt need to even know that you cheated on him, all you need to do id just break up with him. If you decide to go out with your ex later on, thats up to you. It seems like you would be happier with your ex than with your current boyfriend. Hope I could Help! (:
I like this girl and she finally gave me her phone number. We talked twice on the phone this week already. My brother (older) said not to call her too much if I'm interested because then she'll play hard to get and things will get too complicated. I don't want her to play hard to get? So how much is too much? Do I call her like once a week or is that too much too?
Your brother is right. Thank him for not giving you the wrong advice(: It's true she will try to play hard to get, and then it will take longer for you to get her.... which isnt good if you want her now. Call her about once a week, but when you guys start going out, (hopefully you will), try to call her everyday, and talk to her for at least 5 minutes, but dont become too clingy. Hope I could help! (:
Does guys prefer hot sexy girls or cute girls? What about clumsy girls? Smart or stupid? Any additional information can be added :)) Also what kind of girls do you think is hot and what kind is cute?
Different guys like different girls. Some guys like girls that play sports, some find its a turn off. But take an intrest in the things that guys like, for example, most guys like a girl who can hang with guys, or watch football, play call of duty... etc. (:
Okay, so I'm only 13 and in 8th grade, and well this guy.... well he has a gf and he is a freshman and he sends messages while he is dating this girl.... and IK cuz he did it with me and lied and said he broke up with her and I believed him! But anyways he let me get on his facebook and thought he was smart and deleted the inbox, but he didn't delete the sent mail..... and I looked at it and I thought I was special but I saw he had messaged all these girls while he was messaging me.... And he is STILL doing it and he DOES have a gf.... and I want to know if I should tell her, cuz IK I would want to know but I don't want to do it out of revenge or anything or hurt their relationship..... but I even copied the message he was sending a girl.... Gerry December 24, 2010 at 12:40am
i would kiss you on the bus
Gerry _ _ _ _ _ December 24, 2010 at 12:42am
well night sexy if you want i would kiss you on the bus if you didnt tell anyone and if you came up and sat by me. night sexy get on tomorrow.
and said that to another girl, but like I asked above this should I tell his gf? I don't think she will believe me.... but I hope she will. :/ Oh and he tries to get girls to send him pics he begs and begs...... and trust me he has gotten some.....
Okay, I'm a teenager too, so I can relate(: You have to tell her. You said yourself that you would want to know if a guy was cheating on you. Tell her! It will only hurt her in the long run if you dont tell her now. If you have any questions, just message me (:
So my boyfriend is planning a double date with me and his friend for this tuesday. I hate double dates cause they're just so awkward and I don't know his friend or the other person. Ugh i just don't want to go. How do i get out of it? And why is he planning such a thing? It just makes me uncomfortable. And I'm not going to talk about it with him because he's just gonna make me go anyway cause it's his friend. help....I hope I'm busy.
Mayeb you should go. I would go on the date and see what happens. Who knows, maybe you'll make a new friend, and you guys can double date more often! Hope it goes well! Good luck (:
Ok so theres this boy jose and i really really like him,yes he knows my feeling i told him bout them a week ago we still hang out and txt but i want to be more than friends.So i don't know what to do or how to take our "friendship" a step closer into a relationship.Any advice??
thnx in advance
TINK2359
Flirt with him a little bit more, and act like you want to be in a relationship with him. Make little gestures and you'll be fine I'm sure he'll like you back (:
boyfriend and I broke up (he broke up with me) 6 months ago... I was devastated, I was madly in love with him. he still contacted me saying he still loved me and stuff like that. I asked whether he wanted to get back together and he didn't have an answer for me. I chose not to remain friends as it hurt a lot. 2 months ago I started seeing not dating another guy, my ex obviously found out and said to me "well you might start dating that guy, break up with him and then get back together with me, who knows" why is he saying that?
Now that you have moved on, he wants you back. He's just jealous of the other guy in your life. And like the other Advicenators have said, guys want what they can't have (:
So there is this boy and I am not going to get much but he did like me at one point and I dont know if he does anymore so I am trying to move on but it is hard!!! and it would be easier but I lost my best friend last year because lets just say she went bad. She knew how to make her way around guys and she brought out the flirty side of me, now since I have lost her I am having the hardest time doing this on my own! I really need help! The guys I try to text including the one I don't know if he likes me anymore, when I text them I feel like I mess up and say stuff wrong. Liek the other night night, I text one of my ex boyfriends because I am starting to like him again so I figured I would try, and I tried to bring up something from the past and he replied something that made me feel stupid so now I think he thinks I am stupid and he hasnt acted like we are friends since then...! I really need help on getting my own self back and getting a boyfriend, I really need one and want one to get my life back together! Please help !---ThAnKs(:----!
Just be yourself, and if hes a nice and honest guy, he will like you, for you. You can always try to laugh around him, and make little gestures towards him, like lightly touching his arm or putting your hand on his knee. You can also find a guy who likes you, and then find all the great things about him. You will end up seeing the good in him, and will eventually (hopefully) start to have feelings for him, and that may help get over the guy you like now. (:
i [19f] definitely, absolutely, certainly only like him [20m] as a friend. and i am as close to certain as i can possibly be about him also only liking me as a friend. i'm not into friends-with-benefits relationships. he's tried to hook up with me before and i said no, but sometimes when we cuddle he'll hug me just right and i'll want it so badly.. we hooked up once before leaving for winter break, and we've talked every day since leaving. i do not want to be more than friends but sometimes i really, really want to hook up with him.. thoughts? what should i do?
i realize that the constant texting and skyping is bad, so my new rule has been that i can't initiate the conversation. the texting has slowed significantly but the skyping not so much..
it's just that i always tell myself i don't want to hook up with him, i shouldn't hook up with him, but then when i think about it i really want to, physically. heeelp
It seems like you want to hook up with him, but you know its not the best thing to do. But just know if you do end up hooking up with him, always use a condom(: if you really think you like him, I would go for it, but if your not sure, then I would wait a little while.
So hers the story so far: I'm 13 year old girl & i have a MAJOR crush on this guy named Nathaniel. I have been told all sorts of things like that he's gay(which i don't believe). Well his best friend asks me if i wanted to go out with him while we were in the band room. I told him I did & he goes & tells Nathaniel. Nathaniel just nods & walks out of the room. Just recently I've started having dreams about him & some of them made no sense. I honestly don't know what to do. My best friends Cayley & Riley keep taunting me about ho I'm falling in love. What do I do?
First you need to find out if Nathaniel likes you. If he does, then forget what anyone else says. Go out with him. It seems as though you are so concerned with what everyone else thinks that you are forgetting to look inside your heart and make the decision that you would enjoy most. Forget what people say. If you like him, go for it girl. (:
So this guy always tells me im hot, beautiful, pretty and cute. But hes waiting for me to get off my period so we can have sex but I've only known him for about 9 days or so. me and him only were aware that we each exsisted but never talked and nine days ago we started talking and hanging out. but he is nice to my parents and very polite and hugs my mom hello and good bye. And than last night he was talking to my friend Whitney about drinking and smoking and how they should go do it. do you think he could be putting on an act for my parents and things and really just wanting to have sex and using me, or actually have interest in me? i know thats prob not enough info. so ill say a little more, he also doesnt mind kissing me or anything infront of my cousin brittney or my cousin brianna, and i think his friends know that we have a thing going on cuz i read his text the other day and it said "so your with nina right?" (yes my name is nina) so its not a complete secret. But if you can help me distinguish what he wants from me that would be great..
I dont think it's a very good idea to have sex with someone if you have only known them for 9 days. In my opinion, its rushing things. No offense, but he also might be using you for sex. My advice is dont get too close to him, let your relationship be distant, but wait a while longer before taking that next step.