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okay , so my boyfriend && i have been together for almost 4 months . i love him , really , i do . the only thing i don`t like about him is that he does pot . he says he hasn`t done it for like 2 months. but my friends keep telling me "i wouldn`t go out with someone that does drugs , but thats just me" idk what to do because i really like him , but not sure if i wan`t to keep seeing someone that does pot . and btw : he knows i know that he does pot . what should i do ? should i let it all go to waste & break up with be because of pot ?
uhg , (link)
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I know how you feel. I was in the same position as you. The guy i was with wasn't worth it. i knew so much better than to date someone who could be a horribly bad influence on me. if you don't that to be brought into the relationship, get rid of him. pot is stupid anyway, and i'm sure you could do so much better. =]
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I know that I trust my boyfriend and I know that he would never cheat on me because he honestly loves me and it's a mutual feeling, but he's been talking to this girl that he said he met about a year ago and she lives about an hour away from where him and i live, but when he visits his dad he visits her, and she is suposidly one of his best friends, but for some reason whenever i'm hanging around with him and a girl calls h sits there and texts her or talks to her, and it bugs me alot, and i said something once and he said that he would never cheat on me, but for some reason i'm still scared that something will happen. I'm also upset because I was looking at this girls MySpace and it had some comments on there from like almost a year ago him saying on her pictures stuff like "Or you're so sexy.." and stuff like that but he posted those things before him and i started dating, but it bugs me that they are still there and i tried telling him i didn't like it and asked him to delete it but he told me that i shouldn't worry about it and it shouldn't be a problem but for some reason i still don't like it, and he talks about his ex's alot and it bugs me alot and i told him and he said that i had nothing to worry about and i shouldn't worry about, but i really love him but it bugs me so much and i try to ignore it but i can't and whenever i try to talk about it with him he gets pissy and moody and says that i'm not listening to my heart and i'm only thinking about his past.
I'm sorry that this is so long but i needed to get it out. Thank you so much.
-Beanie (link)
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yepp. this situation sucks, because i was just in this same deal. you just have to trust him, and make sure he's not lying to you. like someone else already said, try making friends with her and it'll be a little easier to find out. if your really suspicious, you could go on his myspace and look for messages or look through his cell phone, although that's bad and i don't recommend that. ah. but you just gotta trust him. it's the best thing you can do.
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I love my boyfriend, but he recently cut all his hair off. I go for skaters and now that he has no hair he looks way less of a skater. I still love his personality but im not physically attracted to him anymore. Ok im only fourteen, so I know I'm kind of young to be physically attracted to someone, but he just looks so... not my type anymore. I mean, he cut a foot of hair off his head. I love him, but I feel different when I'm with him now. What do I do? (link)
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Apparently, you just answered your own question. If your only going to look at the guy for his hair, let alone, his looks, then you are in it for the wrong reason. Don't lead him on if you feel differently. You should like someone for who they are, not what they look like
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I kind of cheated on my bf with my ex. I told him about it and everything..we're kind of okay right now but he wants me to write an essay about it. He wants to know how it happened, why it happened, what exactly happened, etc. I don't know how to write this stupid thing for him..does anyone have any help for me? (link)
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You shouldn't have to write him an essay. Is he your history teacher? No. Just tell him what happened instead of writing it. That's just stupid to make you write an essay, what is that gonna do? Just talk to him about it. It's better to talk in person anyway.
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I'm 16 years old. I've never had a girlfriend, I've never been kissed, I've never even held hands. Is something wrong with me? I feel like I'm missing out on one of the best parts of my teenage years. Is it wrong that it hasn't happened yet? Is it a bad thing? And what about when I finally do get a girl. Is she not going to want to be with me because I'm not experienced enough to make her happy? I guess the advice I need is how do I stop worrying so much. The only reason it bothers me so much is because of my age. I'm 16, I should have at least gotten to 3rd base by now, and I damn sure should have fallen in love. Please help! I appreciate it. (link)
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It's nothing abnormal. You know what, consider yourself lucky you haven't fallen in love yet, because once you break up, it hurts.. bad. If you are worried about a girl not liking you cuz your not experienced, then don't tell her. Maybe she will be surprised and you'll be better than you think. It's a good thing you haven't yet. High school is all about fun, so go out and have fun! Just look around local places like the mall or movies and talk to girls. Hope I helped..
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Hi, i am 16. Ive been with my boyfriend for 9 months now - this is a long relationship for me. This boy means a lot to me, and we love each other heaps - except we're really on and off. We break up all the time because his friends always get in the way.
Like, on the weekend of my 16th, he decided to go away with his friends to the coast and left me alone at home with dad, and that really cut me deep. Anyway, we always break up because he prefers his friends over me, but the thing is, i hate it. I want to tell him that i need his attention without sounding selfish and he gets really angry really easily. also, we broke up last weekend. i heard he got a new girl that is 15.. i think, anyway shes 2 years younger than him, and i heard they were going out so then i decided to go out one night on a weeknight so me and a few friends went for a drive and i ended up kissing one of his old friends. well that weekend after that he called me and we talked for 4 hours and sorted things out and i broke up with this other boy for the guy i love, but.. this girl he was apparently with is getting in the way.. im really insecure about it and i say "you love her more than me" and he agrees, but i know he doesnt. im really confused. does he love her or not. i love him so much and im sick of breaking up and when we got back together last weekend he talked to her on MSN messenger saying that he "still wants to be friends with her", so does he have feelings for her or not? thanks (link)
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Haha.. this reminds me of my ex-boyfriend. He just broke up with me after 2 years for the same reason. He's probably just trying to get over you. He could still have feelings for her, but it's all just a matter of trust. I hope everything works out.
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Hey! My boyfriend is really horny. I know, he is a guy but come on! He wants to have sex 24/7!! We haven't had sex yet. I want to but when ever he has tried to go for it there has been sort of a crowd there =/
1 st time he tried/wanted: on a buss!
2nd time he tried/wanted: outside of a metal consert up against a steel wall with peple just around the corner
3rd: on gravel right infront of a parking lot with at least 15 car wich had their light on. SPOTLIGHT!
4th: at a café!!!
Seriously, does that sound hot or just weird??
Don't get me wrong, it's not like I'm a virgin and I do want to sleep with him...just not in thoose places =/
What should I do? (link)
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That does sound a bit weird to me. Tell him that you don't want to do it in those kind of places. That's called PDA. Tell him you want to do it when you guys are alone. If he really wants to have sex with you, he should understand.
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okay, to start off, when i see a hot guy on the street, i automatically think "they're hot" and when i see a pretty girl on the street, that NEVER crosses my mind, i just say to myself, "i wish i looked like them, i wish i had their body" etc. but there was this myspace with "i'm horny, fuck me" as the name, and when i looked at her pictures i got horny. they were of a woman's body, lubed up and she was covering her breasts and her vagina. an di watched a video on youtube of a woman dancing and stripping, and it showed her butt. i'm fifteen and female, and i admit to masturbating, and when i masturbate to men i get turned on, but i tested myself and thought about women, and i just got grossed out. could dirty pictures of women just turn me on because i wish i LOOKED like that, or should i question my sexuality, taking everything else i've said in this question into consideration. help please, i rate high. (link)
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Well, if you got grossed out by thinking of women, I think you're okay. Every teenage girl will question her sexuality at least once, I know I have. I'm sure you just want to look like them, but don't we all? If you really think you are bisexual, then think about it. You need to think if you could picture yourself doing stuff to another girl. If you get grossed out by that too, then you probably aren't bi. You were probably just bi-curious. I wouldn't really worry about it too much. Hope I helped =]
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Lately, I've been getting pretty serious with my guy friend who just happens to be 18. The problem is, I'm 15.
He, however, is still in highschool and still has one more year to complete.
Is this consider child molestation or anything like that? Could he, or I, get in trouble?
Also, I turn 16 in about a week, when I'm 16 is that still illegal?
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Haha. this is funny because i'm turning 16 in 3 weeks and my boyfriend is 18 too. I don't think it's child molestation unless it's something you don't want. It's still illegal once you turn 16 but it should be okay if your parents aren't bothered by it. Hope that helped
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Theres this girl Ive knowen for like 5 years. Im nearly 16. I want to ask her out on a date. What words could I say to her that will melt her heart like an ice cream. What body language could I use to tell her that Im interested?
Thanks. I rate 5's for great answers. Im English. (link)
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Just tell her everything you feel about her. You don't need to say anything to melt her heart. Tell her that everything about her is just beautiful, inside and out. Good body language is just being a little flirt. Hope that helped!
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My boyfriend and I have been going out for almost 11 months. We are together almost everyday. My problem is, I hate when we aren't together. When he can't hang out, I get really upset and I like, minupulate him to come see me. I don't know what is wrong with me! I can never give him space. I feel bad and I try to change but I can't. How should I stop? Does anyone else have this problem? By the way- I would hang out with my friends but they are gone away for the summer. (link)
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Wow, i thought i was the only person like that. I have your exact same problem, except me and my bf have been dating for almost 2 years. I would say try to make new friends. I lost a lot of my friends because of my behavior. My friends ignored me because I was always around him. Just distance yourself. Get a summer job or something so you can't see him. You should stay away from him as much as possible.. Once you find something to distance yourself from him, get used to it, or just end the relationship. I've been thinking about that lately. If you need to talk more, leave me a message in my inbox. Hope i helped.
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I've never had vaginal intercourse, but about 6 years ago I fooled around with my first and only bf. I performed oral sex on him and also let him perform anal on me without using a condom.
I tell everyone that I'm still a virgin and saving myslef for my husband. No one knows about what I did with my ex bf.
Should I get tested for any STD's? Just to be on the safe side? I know it was 6 years ago. Also, what are the chances that I could have caught something? (link)
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To be safe, I would get tested. Someone already said this below me, but some STD's do show no side affects. I'm sure the chances of an STD are sort of slim if you know he doesn't have an STD. Next time, use a condom while doing anal :o)
hope i helped!
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jamziix16
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im confused about what to do with my ex cody, its like i get the hot and cold responses from him, so to speak. sometimes he's extrememly nice and we flirt and get along GREAT and others he seems completely shy and doesnt talk to me.
i have liked him since august (it now being january) and in august when i told him that he said he liked me too. so he kind of dragged his feet .. not sure what he wanted .. didnt know waht to do . the usual guy thing. and when i'd finally given up hope on him and me he left me a message at midnight on october 10th like three months later sayin he wanted to give us a try. only to dump me 10 days late b/c he he liked someone else .. then he told me a couple weeks later that he wouldn't have dumped me for her if she hadn't had a boyfriend ..
so that was like november .. now its january and the guy is still all i think of. i try so hard to get over him .. but like around every other corner hes either makin me fall for him again or his friends are being COMPLTELY honest and telling me stuff he says.
like shawn told me that they talk about me all the time (he wouldnt say what but he said the stuff worked in my favor) and that in our study hall (me him and cody have it together) he cant wait for me to come out and talk to them .. and i asked him to stop jokin around w/ me and he went off sayin how honest and truthful he was being ..
then new years cody called. he came and got me on his snowmobile. me and his brother and friend hung out from 9 to 3. we hung out. watched fireworks in the barn by ourselves. hung out around the bon fire. laughed constantly and flirted. i thought it went great .. i had like good hopes you know .. we fell asleep on the couch then they brought me home. he said he'd call. yeah a week and half later .. no call. we talk at school . nothing big hey and how are u kinda stuff ..
i know its probably worthless to waste my time .. and you can be completley honest in tellin me so. but like even though my head knows that .. i cant let go .. 5 months later .. jesus look at me .. in so far i cant even get out .. i've never fallen for anyone like i've fallen for cody. he tells me he can see us dating in the future but doesnt do anything about it .. i just dont know what he wants .. its like this i guess to explain it well ..
It's like a routine.
I fall for him on Monday.
I like him from Tuesday to Thursday.
He make me mad on Friday.
I think I'm over him over the weekend.
But the SECOND I see him on Monday morning
I fall for him again and again
i just dont know what to do ..
so now that i've finished my freakin book .. im sorry its soo long. i just want all the details in it .. sorry sorry sorry.
alyssa05x@aol.com .. if you need more info or something doens't make sense.
i really appreciate it and im sorry about the length .. thanks in advance (link)
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hey, it's no problem.. good thing i can speed-read, eh? lol..
okay, so i totally understand where you're coming from, because i was the same way with my boyfriend. we'd always break up and he'd find someone else, but i couldn't forget about it, yet we finally ended up getting back together.
first things first - you need to figure out how he feels about you.. boys can be really dumb sometimes and just stand you up. but, you need to talk to him and honestly find out how he feels about you. considering he screwed you over one time, you need to pay attention to the way he says all these things to figure out if he's lying to you. the last thing you want is to get broken up with 10 days later. it would be a bad thing. if he does say he likes you and wants to go out with you.. then think about whether you want to do it or not. make sure you decide what's best for you. if he tells you he just wants to be friends, it's going to be a really hard grieving process. go around school and meet new boys or become better friends with your aquatiances.. but the important thing is, communication is the key. talking to him will help you with this problem.
if he does tell you he wants to be just friends, it's not the end of the world - there's always better and hotter boys out there! :o) i hope i helped you! you can come to me for advice anytime either here or email me at hurleyroxygirli@aol.com
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im 15f. im falling for my best friend; weve known each other for 4 years; hes 16m
i dont knoe if he feels the same way about me n im to scared to let him no how i feel
lately hes been saying really sexual things 2 me and he wants to have sex with me; i told him maybe but im not sure
we never hang out n person becuas im always busy so we only talk on comp
do you think he just wants 2 be friends with benefits and thats all nothing more? n do you think i shuld jus give in n have sex with him if thats all hes lookin 4? (link)
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Okay. D0NT GiVE iN T0 THE SEX THiNG! because boys are dumb and they think that if you have sex with them once, then you'll always do it with him. friends with benefits is really dumb anyways, because it's like someone to go to when your sexually frustrated. if you like him, and he likes you - then go out with him. don't have sex yet.. but you need to find out how he really feels about you by talking to him :o) hope i helped!
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my girlfriend is unhappy and i don't know what to do. i've tried comforting her and asking her what's wrong but she won't tell me.
she did tell me her "friend" said she was stupid and she sucked at life. she actually listens to her, since she's apparently "always almost right".
and my gf doesn't like me mentioningher and saying bad things about her.
what to do?
she also seems to be avoiding me.. i'm assuming she wants to break up. i don't know.
it's like i tell her i love her, i care about her, and or i want to see her...then she gets sad and says she sucks.
she's not even explaining anything. i'm confused. (link)
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wow. i'm going through the EXACT same thing. i'm neglecting my boyfriend right now - but he's too clingy to me. but anyways, you really need to talk to her. ask her if she's losing interest in you [if u think she's avoiding you and she wants to break up] and ask her if she wants to take a break. if she doesn't want to open up to you, just simply tell her you'll be there for her at all times, and she can talk to you at anytimes. hope i helped a little bit :o)
&l0ve; jamziix16
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ok. me and my best friend use to be completely in love with each other. then we kinda just ended it cause he got a girlfiend. but now he dumped her. and i think im falling for him again. what should i do? (link)
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Try to talk to him about it. Tell him up front your starting to fall for him again. Maybe, if you're lucky - he'll come out and say the same thing :o) Hope i helped!
&l0ve; jamziix16
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Hey.. I am a 17 year old female.. And I am really REALLY stuck between these two guys. {D and G}.. I really like them both, me and "G" have more in common though. BUT my parent's don't want me to date "G". They like "D".. And I am not allowed to see "G" (Sorry if I am not making any sense!) I really really like them both though, and the both are really nice guys. The thing is, "G" keeps asking me out, and he knows that I like him... And I would love to go out with him again.. BUT... "D" is a person that I don't have to hide from my parents, and I don't have to lie about.. But I am really stuck, because I think I like "G" more... What should I do?!? (link)
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I'm sort of in your same situation. You should try to talk to your parents about dating G. If you have more in common with him, and it seems like you like him more anyway. Tell your parents how much you like this guy, and ask them why they don't like G. Your parents shouldn't tell you who to go out with, it's not right.
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my long time boyfriend is starting to rush me. i am growing in to a very "big boobed babe" as he says, like last night, after we ate at my house he started to kiss me every where. when he went down to the chest kiss, he started to unbutten my shirt, when i told him to stop he told me to just stop talking. when i yelled stop he got up and left my house slaming the door so hard he broke the glass, i have dated a lot of guys, but i am drawn to this one, he wont talk to me and i want him back.... what should i do? (link)
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Forget the asshole! He was only in it for your body! My ex-boyfriend was like that also. I think you should move on from him, because he may not like you for you, but for your body. It may not be like that, but I don`t know, because I haven't seen anything.. so try to move on, you deserve so much better!! Hope i helped =)
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my friend wanted to know if getting braces affects kissing ??? (link)
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lol if braces affected kissing, i'd be effin' screwed. lol. don't worry about it, ur friend is good to go.
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Aright well just 3 weeks ago...my b/f broke up wit me cuz he thought that i cheated on him, when he was the one that slept with sum chic that he met ova the net...so basically he's blaming everythin on me! So anyway...ever since he broke up with me ive been kinda wantin to go bak out with him, but i kno that if i do all he's goin to do is hurt me again! I mean i guess i still kinda love him in a way...but i hate him at the same time,cuz of all the pain that he has put me through...i don't even talk to him anymore! so like i said before i wanna go bak out with him but then again i don't! Please sumome help me!
Thanx,
lost and confused! (link)
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hey hun, i'm going through the same thing. you may think you love him so much, but you probably don't. i know my ex boyfriend will hurt me again. i think you need to move on.. i'm sure you can do better. he'll see you with someone else and he'll regret breaking up with you. hope i helped :)
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