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IN LOVE AGAIN!
ok. me and my best friend use to be completely in love with each other. then we kinda just ended it cause he got a girlfiend. but now he dumped her. and i think im falling for him again. what should i do?
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take your time. Dont ruin your friendship over something your not sure of
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♥ Move On! It will save a lot of hurt feelings in the end. The thing is i used to be ina situation like that. The thing is I had a bf when his gf dumped him. He wanted me to cheat on him and be with him. But I then relized that i was just a backup to him since he was again single. Don't get caught in something like that. Even though he is still my bestfriend I shouldn't have went back to him.
Be careful and wise! oh you can still be very close w/ him. Im not saying give up your friendship!
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Try to talk to him about it. Tell him up front your starting to fall for him again. Maybe, if you're lucky - he'll come out and say the same thing :o) Hope i helped!
&l0ve; jamziix16
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I would tread lightly and be careful. I have a question for you. I don't ask it to be mean or anything. I ask it because it confuses me. If the two of you were completely in love, why would he even start up with another girl? I wouldn't have anything to do with him, boyfriend wise, unless there is mutual respect here. That had to be hard for you to have him basically end things because he met someone else. It's possible that he'll do this again. That's why I caution you. I wouldn't want to think that you could be hurt in this way again. I personally don't think very highly of someone who would do this to someone else. I don't know all the circumstances involved, but it isn't very nice.
You aren't falling in love with him again...you are just letting your feelings resurface. You have to be cautious now for you. Think about what you want. Do you really want him to drop you for someone else....again? If you are going to worry about loosing him as a friend then I suggest that you not get involved with him, boyfriend wise, again. If your love for him is so strong that risking your friendship with him is secondary than go for it. You have to be willing to take that risk.
If you go for it and get into a relationship with him I'd talk to him and make it clear the type of relationship you are looking to have with him. You may have to compromise on this some, but he should make some compromises as well. If he does to you again what he did last time I'd question whether or not he was a true friend in the first place.
Good luck to you in all of this. This is a very complicated experience. Also, open yourself up to other friendships (male/female it doesn't matter). Have other avenues of support while you are going through this. They will have an experience of you and him. You can talk things over with them and give you observed advice. Also, listen to yourself. You know what would work best for you. Sometimes we ignore it because it is not telling us what we want to hear. Listen, deep down, to yourself. You won't lie to yourself, so, open up to what you may have to say on this. If you decide to go against your instincts, then recognize this within yourself. Tell yourself that you recognize the instinct but choose to override it and thank yourself for bringing up this insight. I tell you to do this because what happens all to often is that people override their instincts. They use the disregard method. By doing this your instincts become submerged and don't talk to you anymore. You want to keep it active. You don't have to agree with it or do what it says, but you want to keep it healty because you will be glad when it is yelling at you to alert you to something.
I hope everything works out they way you wish it to. Have faith in yourself.
Namaste,
LULABELLE
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ask him the reason for him dumping the girl.. maybe he broke up with her to be with you...?! who knows! and ask him if he feels the same way about you.
XO KALIE
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You should go for him. If he's single why not? Just casually flirt with him and eventually ask him out.
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Well if you have strong feelings for him, tell him, ask him if there's any chance, but make sure you don't loose his friendship in the process. Make sure he's aware of your feelings, but that if he isn't interested, you'll still be his friend. Friendship is the most important thing.
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Tell him? It's not that complicated.
If the feeling is mutual, do something about it.
If it's not, move on.
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