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Falling for best friend
im 15f. im falling for my best friend; weve known each other for 4 years; hes 16m
i dont knoe if he feels the same way about me n im to scared to let him no how i feel
lately hes been saying really sexual things 2 me and he wants to have sex with me; i told him maybe but im not sure
we never hang out n person becuas im always busy so we only talk on comp
do you think he just wants 2 be friends with benefits and thats all nothing more? n do you think i shuld jus give in n have sex with him if thats all hes lookin 4?
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i don't know the guy personally, so i couldnt give you an exact answer..
but, it sounds like all he wants is to be friends with benefits, nothing else..
i don't think you should give in and have sex with him, because that is all hes looking for
and if you do i know you'll regret it. you shouldn't be pressured into doing something
because this guy wants to be friends with benefits. sorry i couldn't help more!
oh, btw, if your best friends, how come you only talk on the computer?
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Okay, Umm dont give him sex if you dont want to. thats not right. So tell him you like him, See where it goes from there. Kinda start taking things one step at a time. Say flirty things and then as you progress as being more close intamntly then go for the "friends with benifits" and see where it goes from there.
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I think that hes just being a flirt and yeah....he just wants be friends with benifits. When your on the computer its really easy to just say things you dont mean...and you are buying every word he says, well atleast not if he were a good guy. He just wants to use you and isnt serious, maybe hes joking since you say that you are "best friends" he doesnt know you care about him. Point is you should not give in, and even if you guys do hook up, dont have sex with him untill your sure he isnt using you and always remember things he may of said that would make it obvious that he IS using you. Dont let him get to you, but personally i think he may just be joking since it IS online, why dont you guys go out for a change you'll be able to see if he acts differently or the same.
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Okay. D0NT GiVE iN T0 THE SEX THiNG! because boys are dumb and they think that if you have sex with them once, then you'll always do it with him. friends with benefits is really dumb anyways, because it's like someone to go to when your sexually frustrated. if you like him, and he likes you - then go out with him. don't have sex yet.. but you need to find out how he really feels about you by talking to him :o) hope i helped!
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your to young to have sex. he could just be useing you for sex. and even if he is not condams don't always protect. then theres the posiblety that you get pregent, and that can ruhn your entire life. your family could throw you out becuase you had sex, or you could be a discrase to you family. there are also risks you could get std. there are also mentel side effects of doing this, you could have a bad rep and that is the lesest of your problems,you should have a program at your high school about this, i belive that it is called abssidence(meaning to watting to have sex until you are married. my little brother is haveing this program and he is in 7th grade)
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Ok first and foremost, never "just" have sex with someone. Whether you're a virgin or not, you shouldn't just give it up because they want it, it's not good for your mental health or your self esteem, plus you always risk of getting a bad rep.
Now, you say you're too scared to tell him, but the truth of the matter is, your going to have to tell him if you want to know how he feels. If it's easier to write an email, do so, maybe try writing a poem. Whatever way you feel least scared, do it, but DO IT. Ask him what he wants out of it, and decide if this is what you want too. You don't want to get in the situation where you're just friends with benefits, but you have feelings for him, and then he gets a girlfriend and cuts things off. That's really messy, then you'll really need advice, lol. So just be honest, and follow your heart, do what's best for you. And remember to keep in mind that you guys are friends, so overall make sure it's clear that no matter what happens you will still be friends.
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