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ok well heres the thing, i like this one guy {lawrence} alot alot, and sometimes i even think more then just alot alot. so i thought i knew him pretty well. then one day his cousin and him were in a fight and his cousin told me that he was lieing to me about his virginity, and how he never lost it, he was just trying to impress me. and stuff like that. and i told his cousin that i didnt really care if he was a virgin or no, what bothers me is that he lied and stuff. so after that i just went home, and i didnt really care like i honestly didnt. so usually lawrence calls me like everyday just to talk or w/e or someitmes i call him. well for the past few days he hasnt called once. and then his cousin told me that he had told him that he told me about that whole lieing thing. and so now lawrence knew that he told me, so i was like okay maybe he thinks im mad at him. because lawrence knows that i cant stand people who lie.and so now he hasnt called or anything. and i just like want to call him. because i know if like i was in that situation i would have wanted him to call me to tell me he wasnt mad at me and stuff. but at the same time, i dont know...i just dont know why every part of me is telling myslef not to call him. hmm but yea help please =/
there is clearly a communication dilemma. usually this situation starts when we rely to 'she said/ he said' thing. so i think you should call him and say that you are not mad, and that you really dont care. dont worry, its just a call... it doesnt mean that you are spilling that you are head over heels with him. because both of you call each other before. so when you call him, you can ask him questions if the things you heard are true or not. it would be really nice if the situation can get clearer. ill bet, you'll feel good ryt after you cleared things up with him. :)afterall you had a great friendship with him, you wouldnt wanna waste it by miscommunication ryt?
So there is this guy and I like him a little && i think he likes me to .. we haven't kissed or even hugged or held hands or any thing yet but we still like eachother.
He's takin me out to dinner and out to movies and buying me things and stuff.. so im pretty sure he likes me..
Im not sure if i should go for it or not, because I dont know what i want if he is my type or if i want someone else...
Deep down inside i think i always run away from the guys that will treat me good.. but I just dont know if its right you know?
What do you think i should do?
heres what you should do. get a paper and a pen. then right everything you want in a guy from the physical characteristics to the personality. you should be focused; knowing what you want and dont want will make you feel better and feel confident in your own decisions.
most of all, really know him better. through time, you will know what his intentions are and if he loves you, dont deny him. dont runaway. because afterall, you really deserve a guy that will love you and take care of you. so while you are dating, enjoy those moments. it doesnt mean that you have to make a decision right away. take your time sweety. :)you need to know him better for you to make your own decisions. if you resist, you might not know what you are missing.
im 13/f. My boyfriend beats on me. I have marks and scars on my arms and legs from him. Im a cheerleader so they always show. I really like him but i hate him when he does this to me. What should i do?
**sleepiesheep**
uhh...u realize im hurting also because of what you said. clearly the whole situation is WRONG. LOVE shouldnt hurt. i mean literally. you got to get out of this relationship. i know your feelings for him will always stay but he is beating you up! he has obviously a mental illness causing him to be violent. you are YOUNG! you do not deserve to get that kind of treatment early in your life, or probably ever. ladies are treated like a princess or a queen. they are fragile and respectable. hunny,chances are he wont learn from his mistakes if it is ignored or just passed by. want to look in reality, guys that are violent to their women stays violent till the end of time. yes it is sad but you got to step up for yourself and believe that you deserve better. believe that you need someone to nourish you; or even believe that you are so precious and full of self-respect that noone could make you feel inferior. you are a cheerleader, cheerleaders are condident and vivacious and full of fun. thats why you need to get out of this relationship and make the most out of your teenage years. that is to have fun. you wouldnt want to waste your teenage years with his beattings ryt? :)
14/f...so there was this guy who went to my school for the past 2 years but didn't come back this year. i liked him soooo much it was crazy and i flirted with him all the time. he liked me for part of the year last year and then stopped. everytime i think i'm over him i find myself liking him again. then, this year, at my friend's party, he was there but he didn't talk to me the whole time but we kept looking at each other and i found out he had a girlfriend. it was so awkward and ever since then even talking online is awkward and i don't know what to do because i want to be friends with him still even though i know it will never go farther than that but i feel like we can't talk anymore. what should i do??
tell him u want to be friends with him again. thats just it. be forward. but just as friends coz by the way you describe whats going on, seems like its going nowhere. move on hunny. :)have fun with your life as much as possible. :) find new guys, new friends and new expreriences. :)
i know you can do it.
A guy friend had told me that I had a good voice and had a lot of "talent". He started giving me voice and guitar lessons, and told me that one day he wanted to start up a band with me as the lead singer. We were getting along great, and both liked the same music (folk rock, like tom petty and neil young). Well for no reason at all he stopped giving me lessons. A couple of months later I found out from someone else that he had started up a band, and had a girl as the lead singer. I confronted him and asked him why he didnt invite me to join the band. He said that my voice needed too much training. Then I asked him if just me and him could work on my singing and he said no. So I did the only thing I could think of to keep singing, I joined a church choir.I've been told by the people in the choir I have a good voice, so I know I have what it takes to be a lead singer.My question is:Do I have a right to be upset with him? I think what he did was really mean. And why would he have told me in the beginning that I had a good voice if he really never wanted me in his band to begin with?
yes. you have the right to be upset with him. he literally led you on. it doesnt feel good being deceived huh?..anyway, there are plenty of people like that here in this world, all we have to do is be used to them. but dont give up without a fight. you did the ryt thing,you confronted him. anyway, look at the bright side. you had free voice and guitar lessons right??hehe.. :) you should know that its his band's loss that he let go of you rudely. its ok :) smile. afterall, you wouldnt want to be in a band with him ryt??!!.. i like that you sing with the choir now. its also a good training for you. GOODLUCK GURL!!
hey there! i know this may be a very common question, and i apologize greatly in advance....
There is this guy that I really like who is one year older than me,and have realized it after he seemed to have felt the same way for me too. He was always next to me, and whenever he's around (because his sister and I are friends) it gets incredibly awkward. What is contradictory is that on his profile, it says that he wants to meet his "special girl", and said that "this beautiful girl was on page 86", indicating the school yearbook. I soon found that he liked this girl, a senior. I don't understand... Why does he say that he likes this girl, but is always trying to sit next to me, and stares at me, but looks away? Should I just forget it?
I am a 15/f, and he is 16/male.
forget it. :) you obviously deserve better hunny. you deserve a guy who will look at you, and you alone. you desrve a guy who will be more than happy to show you off with his friends and family. you deserve a guy who doesnt simply flirt with you, but will be there for you through ups and downs. thats how i see it. i have been in that situation and it hurts ryt?... thats natural but it will pass soon. guys these age arent mature enough to handle a true lady. no, im not insulting the male species but thats the reality. :) hehe.. and for some reasons, i know LOTS of guys who do the same thing. they just like the feeling of having girls fall over them through flirting. hey, have fun also!! have fun flirting! play the game but do it your style!..take note, its only pure flirting. do attach it with feelings and emotions. have fun!
Hi, I am 15 and I will be 16 in March. My ex boyfriend broke up with me cause his parents were afraid he would get introuble with the law cause he is 19. We weren't doing anything sexual, is it still illegal to even date? I live in Michigan and I know the age for sex here is 16, but what about just dating?
Now he wants to wait till he moves out at the end of March or later to go back out. Cause he HAD to leave me or get kicked out of his house. Should I wait for him.. or move on? I really love him.. and he doesn't even know if we will ever get back together. I'm confused and heartbroken, any advice?
hmmm... i think a relationship wouldnt be able to grow especially if it is kept 'underground' without the knowledge of both your parents.
for now, i think you should move on. there is no use for a healthy and happy relationship if it is kept from our dear parents.
gurl, you are turning 16. You have to experience more of your life. you are young to be seriously heartbroken, move on and have fun.
for sure, this will hurt a bit, but in the end, you know you made the right decision. enjoy first! if both of you are meant together, then there is no doubt that your roads will cross again, no matter how old you get. make the best out of the present. there is this quote a frend of mine said: "if you want a very beautiful butterfly that will be yours and only yours,do not run after it. instead, open your arms and wait, for sure your own butterfly will come to you." :)
i really like this guy. he had liked me but then he choose this slut who wanted to be his frist hook up instead of me, who actaully really likes him. He also leads me on all the time. i know he does it to me but then when he says things that are really cute i always fall for it and then he just leaves me. how can i get him to relize that im waayy better than her and that he would be better off with me??
this myt hurt if you read what my next sentence is but it is the what i see. FIND ANOTHer GUY. he isnt worth you love and affection. he chose the slut over you, then the slut goes with him. obvioulsy he is blind from the start. he didnt see the beauty in you. ITS HIS LOSS. we had the same situations b4 but im ok now because i know better. plus, you dont want to be just another notch in his bedpost. he chose the girl that he can screw easily. too bad. you have to agree with me, you want more from a guy than just sex. you will find someone who will like you from the start and will love you just as you are.
i got dumped for the first time last week. me and my bf had been going out for 4 months. it's been about a week since we broke up, and we have the same friends and free block at school. we end up hanging out and it's driving me crazy. he's loud and funny, always the center of attention. he's flirting with all these girls (who are my friends), and it just, well, hurts. i'm over him (this might sound mean but,) i hate seeing him happier without me than he was with me. prom is coming up and there's this guy, blake, who likes me, but i dont like him. and the guy i do like, carlos, is on a "break" with my friend, ana. what should i do to stop feeling so angry at my ex? and to find a prom date? should i go with the guy i dont really like, just as friends?
your ex is having a good time now, and YOU SHOULD TOO! have fun and live life. apparently, he has moved and you will too! and dont let him see that his "flirting" to other girls gets in your nerves. show him its OK! that it doesnt bother you anymore. gurl, you deserve a guy way better than him. :)
so if prom comes and you have noone special in your mind (do not include Carlos because this might trouble your friendship with anna), then you dont have to be with blake just for the sake of having a date. if you dont like him, you dont like him.thats all there is. dont force yourself. plus, being a stag has lots of advantages. because you can dance all the cute guys you want. hehe.. (note: lots of cute guys go stag so they can dance with all the pretty girls without having a consent of their dates). so its fun!
So my gf and I have been going out for a month, we are 16 years old, what should I get her????
I love her a lot and am open to all ideas!
I hate high!
Cya when I see ya,
Hebasquash
hmmm... a serenade with the cooperation of ur pals would do.
its always flatters a girl,and makes her appreciate your efforts more. its as simple as that. plus, a girl inlove would expect expensive things from her guy. its the simple things that matter.
my friend showered a few petals to where her girl walks everyday in the school campus. then one of his pals blindfolded and escorted her to where the other guys and the bf is. the escort took her blinfold and there she sees the bf and his friends holding roses. and they all sang their theme song while each of his frends gave her a rose.
16 female
My guy friend wants to have sex with me and vice versa but the only thing thats stopping us(well me)is that im a little overweight and i have stretchmarks. they're really embarasing and i dont want him to see them
is their anyway to get rid of them almost completely? will he be turned off and disgusted at the sight of seeing them? and also will it hurt reallly bad my first time?(im virgin hes not)
Pleeeze help i rate 5s! thanx
ask urself first if you are ready emotionally for sex. you might regret having sex with a guy who wont stay with you for a long time. afterall, you r only 16. also, do not trust completely on condoms because they are only 80-90% safe. i got friends that used condoms but still got pregnant.
stretch marks take a long time to erradicate. but a simple application of olive oil can strenghten ur skin, therefore reduces stretch marks. this is a daily routine, so maybe you could apply it everyday after shower.
plus, if he gets turned off then, he doesnt deserve your cooperation. :)