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ok, well here's what i'm confused about.
i'm 18 and a girl. i'm senior and in love with this guy so much. his name's Vinny. well we've known each other since last year. he was in my english class. we never nearly talked at all. but in the middle of the year towards the end we started talking alot getting to know each other a bit. :)
and i had a majorily crush on him. until one day i saw him with a girl making out in the hallway. so i figured he had a gf and he did.
now it's senior year and he is two of my classes. english again and food class. we talk alot in enlgish he flirts with me a bit i flirt back. but i can't tell which is which like.
he plays with my hair, he gives me kissy faces i can't explain tat though ahah, he asks for gum all the time and i give it to him. ahh, i always have gum with me, dont know y i do but i care.
he even asked me one time either on monday or tuesday he asked me who did i like.
he wanted to find out but i kept playing with him and saying i like someone else. then he says do you like him or him or him, he was namin the guys in my classroom. so i said no i like someone and you should know. that is a clue saying i like him. but apperatnly he didn't get it. but one time he almost got mad when i told him i liked someone but he didn't know i like him.
so i asked him dont worry i like you and he was like i hate you but we joke around alot so i know he doesn't mean that because at the end we both laugh about it.
then he was like i always wonder why "nick" this other kid i'm friends with hates you. and i laugh so hard about it saying because i always bitch at him and its true Vinny knows that to.
but i couldn't tell why he even asked me that. he never does. and plus we have so much in common we dont hang out much at all never out side of school but during only.
i even touch him sometimes like on his arm or be like oh vinny your so funny ahah. but i mean i know it seemed that i flirt with him.
but like i said that boy is so hard to figure out wether or not he likes me.
because one thing is he had a girlfriend for four years and they broke up. it's been two month now. and if i tell him it would be hard for me because i know how hard it was for him that HIS girlfriend of four years broke up with him.
so my question to you. i like him so much i get so nervous around him sometimes but i'm so comfortable around him. its like when we talk we talk nonestop aha. so what do i do? how can i tell if he really likes me, one thing is i know he mite not even be interst in be but that's something else. the other thing is should i tell him my feelings? if so how? he's only in two of my classes. sometimes it's hard to talk to him alone. people are usually around him most of the time.
please help me, what should i do. he's so cute and i just want to be with him so much, he means so much to me. i can't stop thinking about him. i'm not going to lose or forget about him. i want to try.
SOOOORRRRRYYY FOR THE LONGEST MESSAGE EVER!!!!! very sorry. i so apprcate your help so much.
THANK YOU. (link)
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well, i personally wouldn't send notes and not to offend you, but that seems a little middle schoolish. i would [and i know this would be hard or embarassing] but i would see if he would want to go get some pizza or go see a movie sometime and see how he reacts to the whole scene and base your choices off of that. if you have anymore questions, send me them to my inbox and i'll answer in more depth for you. hhopefully i helped. =]
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Okay so i have been dating this one guy for over two years now, and I really love him and care about him. In the first year of our relationship I ended up cheating on him with this one guy who was a good friend of mine, we had ended up making out..well he then left for the millitary and recently i have thought about him and he came home for a christmas leave the other day we met up and ended up making out again. this guy says he really cares deeply for me and wants me to give it a shot with him..but the thing is i love my boyfriend i trully do, and i am not telling him this time around (last time i did and we worked through it) However, i feel like i do have some pretty strong feelings for this other guy and its like i have lost some for my boyfriend because he has been taking his anger and tired-ness out on me a lot and we get into these really bad arguments and sometimes i get scared deep down that he will hit me..but he never has...WHAT DO I DO?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
PLEASE HELP ME..do not bother if your going to insult me or call me a horrible person.
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This is very normal. First off I would say is that I believe you are starting to think you're losing feelings for boyfriend is because this other guy has come back, but since he is only home for christmas leave, I wouldn't push your boyfriend aside not knowing your true feelings. If you want to end it with you boyfriend, then I am in no position to tell you otherwise, but if you are questioning your feelings about him because of how he has been treating you, then I would suggest that you sit him down and talk to him about how you've been feeling. Also I think it is in the best interest of all three of you, for you to tell your boyfriend that you did make out with this other guy because if you work it out with your boyfriend and the other guy gets jealous, he may tell your boyfriend about it and it could ruin both of your relationships. I suggest you tell the other guy that you are in a relationship and that you still care deeply about your boyfriend and you don't think it's very fair that he's asking you to choose considering he's going to be leaving soon anyways. If you have something good, don't put it aside hoping you'll get better, because you could lose both. if you don't understand this too well, write back even of you want more. hopefully i helped. =]
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OMG! when i was walking home, I had made a note to my crush, (typed it, and anonymous ~ god i'm such a chicken) I went to his mail box droped it in and ran a little ways (so no one saw me, or i chickened out) now i'm afraid he'll know it's me! i even typed "pudding is yummy" as a hint (when ever say "pudding" he laughs, thinks it's a funny word) I'm not sure if he likes me though, i looked at every "does he like me" website on the computer he does all the things! (sometimes) other times he kind of ignores me (especially if his sister ~my friend~ isn't home) sometimes i wonder if he uses his sis as an excuse to talk to me, usually i'll end up sitting on his bed, in his room, just talking to him. he is so funny, sweet, and cute. i really don't know what to do the next time i see him! plzzzzz help! and hrry! (link)
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personally i would've just asked him if he would wanna hang out just the two of you. if he says no, i wouldn't push it. wait a little while and ask again. but since you dropped off a letter, you should tell him it was you who sent it and you forgot whether or not you put your name on it. if he says he didn't get it then just say forget about it, but if he asks what was it about, ask him to hang out. if he did get it and he starts acting weird, then explain that you like him and was just wondering if he was interested in going out sometime. take it slow, remember patience is a virtue. =] hope i helped
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Hi, I'm 15/f. He's 18/m.
Basically, we both got it off our chests that we liked each other tonight. But that we were both second guessing our thoughts for each other, and that things were definitely complicated, his complications I don't know but I told him I liked him AND another person a little. So it's weird.
I think I do want to be in a relationship with him, but I don't know what he wants. Plus I'm scared because he tends to be a little stalkerish.
After we told each other the feelings were mutual, we went back to normal conversation.
What's the next move? What should I do?
Thanks in advance. (link)
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well, you should be careful about your actions if he can be a little stalkerish. Don't make any moves to make him think you don;t like him or that you're head over heels in love with him either. just take it easy and casual, be careful about your moves. if you have the slightest feelings for him, try and go for it, and if it's not to your liking, then forget it and focus on your other crush, because you don't want the the same thing that happened to katie happen to you. luv holly
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First and foremost, may I say that I am not trying to be conceited. However, it is apparent that almost EVERY guy I know looks at me, sees I'm sexy, assumes I'm easy, and thinks he can get in my pants. This has become a real problem for me. I feel as though no one sees me for me. Nobody sees past what I look like. I don't want to stop being sexy, not that I even try. I think I have a great personality- I'm fun, I'm chill. I will NOT downplay my looks in any way. To me, that doesn't solve the problem. How can I get guys to see me for me? (link)
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When you talk to them, try to take the attention away from your body and on your smarts or movies, get them thinking and talking as well. They should start seeing you for real once they get to know you a little more. hope i helped!
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Soo the other night i went out with some friends..and i met one of my friend's brother. He really didnt talk to me the whole night until after i left one of my friends texted me and said that her bro said i was real cute and he wanted to get to know me...soo he wanted my number. Well i gave to her and its been a couple of days and he hasnt called or texted me..i dont know if he either forgot or what..what should i do..and what do you think? (link)
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Well it could mean he's really shy, considering he didn't speak to you at all when you went out. So give him another week, but if he hasn't called by then, give your friend a call and find out what's going on, whether he still like syou or not. hope I helped!
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theres this guy i really like and hes been flirting with me my friend but i already made out with him and were hanging out this weekend to make out again. what can i do and say until then to make him want me.. like how do i act? i really like him. do i act like a tease if so how? (link)
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Like you could dress up or if you don't mind acting slutty, you could dress that way. That will most likely get his attention. You could also play hard to get. Guys always want what they think they can't have. =]
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When a guy and a girl are walking eachother, who's are goes on the other person's shoulders, and who's goes around the other one's waist? (link)
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Usually the girl'ss arm goes around the waist and the guy'sarm goes around the shoulder. =]
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well im a 16/f and i im indian which means im not allowed to date. but i decided to get a boyfriend and i've been dating this guy for like a little over a month. and im not sure if i should tell my parents because my mom always says they'll find out eventually the things i do. so yah should i tell them? (link)
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I wouldn't if it's only going to get you in and the boy you've been seeing in trouble. If you do, it may scare that boy away. I'm not sure about what age you can date at, but you should see if it's going to last before you tell your parents, because if you do and it doesn't last, then you could be victim to the 'i told you so' and then your parents will be snooping around. just wait it out or you oculd tell the boy, that if he likes you so much, he should be able to wait until you can date and for now you two could just be really good friends. Good luck and remember to go with your gut. =]
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okay i reallllly likke this guy. When ever i think about him i smile and i get this weird feeling in my stomach, its not like butterflies though. He just makse me so happy =D. when ever i talk to him i feel like i can tell him everything and we are the only two people in the room or something, Its just such a great feeling :d. we hung out the other night with a couple of other people and it was SOOO fun. while two friends [ girl ] went off with there boyfriends, me my crush my best friend [girl] and my other fiend [boy] just stayed together, it was really great. Then my two friends left cus my friend thats a boy had to go get somethintg and they left me adn my crush alone, it was soo perfect, we talked and laughed, and flirtedd :-*! We even held hands for like a couple seconds! i almost dieddd. i could keep typing foreverrr (link)
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Well, it could be love, and I wouldn't doubt it. You should find out how he feels and ask him out. See how it goes from there. Hope it all works out in your favor!!!!!!! =]
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well this is really complicated...
my gf and i broke up because my parents dont want me going out yet.now, we would have been going out for 5 months if we hadnt broke up with at the time that we did. her parents told her that the only way to get over me is to not have anything to do with me.so i had done the same thing, ttaken all he stuff that reminded me of her, and either putting it in the very back of my closet, or throwing it out(cds, letters, cards, gifts, pictures,etc)so i didnt have to bare it, because everytime i see her or am reminded of her now, i get depressed. and she goes to my church(which is today) and i dont know what to do because im afraid to see her because i KNOW that i wont be able to talk to her. and shes all i think about so it makes it harder. i dont know what to do. i feel discouraged because of this. i feel useless. and i feel like i might as well let everything go.
plz help. (link)
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Well, I know it's going to be hard, but you're going to have to let her go and move on. It's going to be hard because you liked each other. Maybe you could just date a little until her parents let her date for a while. I can't tell you if she will be waiting for you, but you need to show her you were true to her to the point where maybe she could convince her parents to make an exception. If they're good parents then they will want their daughter to be happy and they will soon see, that you are what makes her happy. You just need to prove to her parents you are a trustworthy boyfriend. Good luck! =]
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how can i be emore opened with my bf he tells me so much but its hard for me to tell him things i trust him and he trusts me its just i keep things to myself and its hard to tlak things out what will make mebe more opened with him ? (link)
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Well, you should tell him, that you want to tell him things, but it's hard for you. You like him a whole lot and even so, you just have a problem sharing your thoughts. It's not a bad thing to want to keep things to yourself. Everyone does it. He just happens to be one of the guys who like to be open and honest. Maybe he was in a relationship where he was exactly open and she may have left him because of it. SO now he's trying to make up for it. Don't sweat about it. Just tell him what i said and if he's the guy I think he is, he'll be totally fine with it. Good luck! =]
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ok heres the thing i went to the movies 2 with this kid john ill call him and well he asked me to go to the movies but he never paid or anything and he is mad shy but the thing is he is annoying and stupid but i like him in a way and he is forever talking about his ex how he hates her and shit i guess what im trying to say is hes not so shy when he texts me but in person hes is and i dont know if i like him im thinking of only being friends with him because i dont know if theres anything else there but i was wondering should i get ride of him or should i try to work out my committment problems with him but i really dont think were compatible and maybe im to much for him to handle but i dont know how to break it to him if i do hes the kind of person who will talk a lot of shit and who is not so forgiving please help if you can im sorry if its confusing its confusing me (link)
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It kind of sounds like he's not exactly over his ex if she's the only one he's talking about. Plus, are you even positive that he even like you in that way? He may be trying to tell you that he's not ready for a commitment with anyone right now. You may want to take it slow and see if there is anyone else you there for you. You'll end up benefitting from this experience. Just let him take the lead for a while and see how it goes. He just may not be right for you. Good luck. =]
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Ok this seems long and soap-opera-ish but please bear with me. I’ve gotten rid of some of the details to make it shorter but please tell me if it isn’t clear enough. And please don't rant at me about being a cheating b**** or anything. I know I am a bad bad person. I just need you to tell me what to do.
Nate has always been the typical "rich bad boy" type. He gets a pack mentality when he is with his boys so he’s labeled an official ***hole. He's had a pretty bad past and when you get him alone, he’s different. He and I go a few years back when I wasn't into the party scene, and it got around that he "wanted" me. I shot that down and he gave up. I've been intrigued by him (i.e. had a crush on him) and we always used to exchange looks all the time at school and parties and I could feel the sizzles (but wasn’t sure it was mutual). Only last year did we start talking a bit inside and outside school. Then I finished school and didn’t see him.
In May, I met Blake. He’s ridiculously good-looking, the sweetest guy ever, and a cook. I didn’t think he was into me so I backed off then recently, Blake started showing interest in me and I was thrilled. We were perfect for each other, our life goals and views were the same, we had minor arguments sometimes, which ended with practically no resentment on either end, and we always made up quickly. It was the perfect relationship. I was still a virgin but he understood because he had only been with one chick (his year-long girlfriend in grade 11).
End of last year, Nate and I ended up at a party together. I was hammered out of my mind and we had sex in a bedroom. It was harsh to the point that he did it, shoved me away and left. I was broken after. Eventually, I told Blake and he was mostly sad for me and he did whatever he could to make me feel better. Including sex and it was just like the rest of our relationship, comfortable.
Then one day, Nate showed up at my house after I saw him at the mall and went home all shaken up. We had sex. We have had sex about five times now altogether. Usually it’s when I’m vunerable. It’s pretty much casual sex but it is explosive as in really really hot, stuff I thought didn’t exist outside novels. Blake and I haven’t even come close, even though there is some sizzle, it isn’t comparable. Told Blake once and he was mad but he came back and told me he’d still have me and he didn’t understand. Usually Nate just has sex with me and sticks around for a while and leaves but one time, he actually stayed after and kissed my face and stuff.
This is what confuses me. Blake and I are perfect for each other and it’s not a completely devoid of sexual drive either but when I’m with Nate, it feels right like it’s exactly where I belong.
I’m just so afraid of hurting Blake. I want to stay with him but at the same time, I feel like puking when I think about what a disgusting unfaithful slut I’m being. And I’m pretty sure Nate doesn’t want a relationship. I just don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t want to look back twenty years from now and regret it. I know that bad boy’s can’t be tamed but I know his history and I kind of still ache for Nate but Blake is just perfect.
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Not to be offensive or anything, but if you and Blake are perfect for each other, then why do you feel the need to be with Nate when you're vulnerable? You should be able to go to your boyfriend and you should be able to find comfort in his reassurance. If you can't find that with him, then maybe you two really aren't meant to be together. Tell how you feel, and since you make him sound like a very understanding person, I think i=he will take it all right. I mean, he may not even be surprised, considering you've been telling him you've been having sex with another guy. He may accept it like a understanding person, which you are very lucky to have, but if you have feelings for Nate, then it's just plain wrong dragging Blake's heart along with you. I think you should break it off with Blake, and it could possibly be a good idea to cut Nate out of your life completely. You could still be friends with Blake or you could stay with Blake and cut Nate out of your life. It's just not fair to Blake. Well, I send you good wishes and hope everything works out in your favor. =]
Holly
XOXO
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ive been with this guy for about a month and a half and its been really great and everything. valentines day is coming up and i never had a boyfriend around this time so do i have to get him something and is so what are some good ideas??
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You could get him something small like chocolates, flowers, or a stuff animal. Don't get to sentimental yet, so it won't scare him away. Hope I helped.
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In my opinion, I don't think I have a bad personality. I'm not stuck up, I don't cause any drama, I'm honest, I can keep secrets, and I'm nice unless someone gives me a reason not to be. I mean, I can be "mean" sometimes with guys except I'm kidding and they know it. I'm not shy, but I'm not incredibly outgoing -- I'm just normal there. Plus, all of my friends say I'm hilarious. Most of my friends, who are girls tell, me I'm pretty and I've had some of my guy friends tell me I'm "hot". I'm not stupid, but I'm not a genius. Since pretty much everyone but me cares about this at my school...people say I'm popular (I hate that word and I don't care about "popularity" just to make that clear). The thing is, I've never had a boyfriend -- NOT ONCE. I don't get it. Every single one of my friends has at least had ONE boyfriend sometime in their life, but me. No, I don't only want one cause "everyone" has one. In your opinion, does it sound like I'm doing something wrong? Why can't I get a boyfriend? (link)
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Don't take this personally. I bet you snything that you have definitely come up in many conversations from guys, but even if they have a crush on you, they may think they don't have a chance in hell with you becuase you're "popular" and think more popular guys than them like you and have a better chance. Maybe you should make the first move on who you like to get the point out there that you are available. Good luck!
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Why is love so hard to understand when you think he's right at the begining you find out you were wrong at the end... but if you can get him of you mind and you try so hard to does that mean it's love and what should i do if we are not together anymore should i tel him how i fell that i still really do care, But how could i say that with out making it so ovious he's been on my mind ever since we broke up it's just so hard to say. It's hard to move on from him. (link)
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You can tell him that you still care about him, but it may not change what has happened between you. But then again, it may make all the difference. You need to really think through what you're going to say and make sure it comes out exactly how you want it to s ound so that he wount take it the wrong way or anything. He may still have feelings for you, too, so that may make things easier. Even though he's on you're mind, doesn't mean it's love though. He was your most recent boyfriend and you cared for him when you were together. Those feelings don't go away over night. It may take a while to get over him, but in order for that to happen, you may want to make some sort of closure between the two of you. Tell him you still care for him. If he doesn't respond positively to that, then tell him you will always care for him and you will be there for him, but you feel you can move on. Once you make that closure, you'll feel more secure in putting yourself out there again, knowing you wil lfind the guy for you and he's looking for you too. Good Luck, and remember:
No one can make you inferer without your consent.
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okay well when my boyfriend comes over he ussually like massages my vagina,,like with my pants on...and it feels really good. but when i so the same for him he doesnt act as excied...am i doing something wrong? or is that just annoying for guys? (link)
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Just don't do it the next time he comes over and see how he acts, if it seems he doesn't act any different, then maybe he didn't notice, but just try it and see what happens. Hope I helped!
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I don't understand this...I'm already in the 9th grade...and ALL of my friends have boyfriends! What do guys look for in a girl? Because, to me, it looks like I don't have it. I'm NOT a pushover, I don't dress slutty, and I'm not flirty. Let's also say that "I'm not easy to "get to"". I don't know. I'm a VERY good student....and I get good grades....but this seems like somewhat of a turn off for guys. And those guys that are nerdy (but cute) too, still don't PAY attention to me! It's like I'm invisible...It's just not fair. ;_; (link)
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DOn't worry about it. I asked like the same exact question and realized there is nothing wrong with this. You have four years left of high school to get a date and the rest of you life to find someone for you. You don't need to go out and get someone just because you're in high school. You may think that everyone has a boyfriend, butyou're just judging your friends. Think about the whole high school and how most of the school doesn't have boyfriends and girlfriends. It's not abnormal. It's not weird. Sometimes you may have to make the first move in order for someone to notice you. You may have been on the safe side in junior high and may dress a little reserved so people may think you don't want to date or you may look unavaiable. You may be on guys minds more than you think, but they may like you so much that they think there are a ton of guys that like you as well and don't think they stand a chance. You'll get a guy, don't you worry about that. Just don't sweat it and work on keeping up those grades. Good luck in furture life! =]
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i can get sort of nervous around guys. so i tend to stay away or just not really talk to them unless sometimes i just let my gaurd down and everything is fine but i still laugh nervously. the other day i was with this guy i like and i think it was okay but i still dont know. what do you think i should do about my nervousness???? (link)
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It's okay to be nervous around guys. It's just a reaction. Just act cool and forget about your nervousness. Think about something else and don't try to impress them either. Just relax. Good luck!
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