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well im a 16/f and i im indian which means im not allowed to date. but i decided to get a boyfriend and i've been dating this guy for like a little over a month. and im not sure if i should tell my parents because my mom always says they'll find out eventually the things i do. so yah should i tell them?
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As a good advice columnist, wanting you to be honest, I should tell you to talk to your parents and let them know what's going on. However, that's not what I'm going to tell you. I don't recommend telling them, because if you do, I doubt that they will let you continue seeing him, you'll probably get a big lecture and hard to tell what else you'll get. Maybe, even grounded.
So again, I don't suggest telling them. And as long as you do not tell them, and you don't leave any obvious signs you have a boyfriend -- they really won't find out. That's just a plot parents use, to scare you into not doing anything they don't want you to do. So I wouldn't worry about that, if I were you.
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Yes like what some of the people say, they wont find out unless you know you are doing something way beyond what you should be doing at that age. I mean I know where you are coming from because I'm Asian and i am not allow to date neither but did that stop me? nope.
And yeah sometimes i felt i should have told my mom but that was a bad idea for me. I told my mom and she got suspicious and everything.
And if you do decide to tell, make sure its the best of times when your mom is in super good mood. and You should prepare for the news in advance as in do some extra chores around the house and do responsible things in advance before telling your mom.
good luck~
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I wouldn't if it's only going to get you in and the boy you've been seeing in trouble. If you do, it may scare that boy away. I'm not sure about what age you can date at, but you should see if it's going to last before you tell your parents, because if you do and it doesn't last, then you could be victim to the 'i told you so' and then your parents will be snooping around. just wait it out or you oculd tell the boy, that if he likes you so much, he should be able to wait until you can date and for now you two could just be really good friends. Good luck and remember to go with your gut. =]
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Personally, I'd tell the parent you're closest to first. Yes, parents do usually find out the things you don't want them to. While dating this guy, did you feel like, while around your parents, that you were hiding something? I know this feeling, and it's not a good one. Muster up the confidence that you have, & tell them, before they find out themselves.
Best wishes! :)
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hey
no. don't tell them right away.
what if you tell your parents and then soon after something happens and you guys break up? total waste. and your parents will have issues trusting you.
if they get suspicious, only tell your mom. moms seem to understand this stuff better?
btw your parents say that but they pretty much never do find out.. kids get away with a lot of things :]
hope i helped, girl and good luck with your bf
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I'm Iranian, and trust me, I know exactly where you're coming from. I think at this point, it's safe to just let them know that you're interested in this guy, and that you hang out. They don't need to know every little detail; just let them know you're a smart girl, and that you're friends with this guy, you'll be careful, etc.. I know, it also depends on how strict your parents are. but they'll be even more upset if they find out on their own (parents tend to find out eventually). But don't take my word for it- you know them better than I do. And as for what your mom says about them finding out eventually what you do, it can be true, but you guys have just started going out. You're still getting to know each other and are having fun. You shouldn't have to tell him everything (same thing applies to him). Just go out, have fun, and be safe.
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