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Okay so i have been dating this one guy for over two years now, and I really love him and care about him. In the first year of our relationship I ended up cheating on him with this one guy who was a good friend of mine, we had ended up making out..well he then left for the millitary and recently i have thought about him and he came home for a christmas leave the other day we met up and ended up making out again. this guy says he really cares deeply for me and wants me to give it a shot with him..but the thing is i love my boyfriend i trully do, and i am not telling him this time around (last time i did and we worked through it) However, i feel like i do have some pretty strong feelings for this other guy and its like i have lost some for my boyfriend because he has been taking his anger and tired-ness out on me a lot and we get into these really bad arguments and sometimes i get scared deep down that he will hit me..but he never has...WHAT DO I DO?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
PLEASE HELP ME..do not bother if your going to insult me or call me a horrible person.
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This is very normal. First off I would say is that I believe you are starting to think you're losing feelings for boyfriend is because this other guy has come back, but since he is only home for christmas leave, I wouldn't push your boyfriend aside not knowing your true feelings. If you want to end it with you boyfriend, then I am in no position to tell you otherwise, but if you are questioning your feelings about him because of how he has been treating you, then I would suggest that you sit him down and talk to him about how you've been feeling. Also I think it is in the best interest of all three of you, for you to tell your boyfriend that you did make out with this other guy because if you work it out with your boyfriend and the other guy gets jealous, he may tell your boyfriend about it and it could ruin both of your relationships. I suggest you tell the other guy that you are in a relationship and that you still care deeply about your boyfriend and you don't think it's very fair that he's asking you to choose considering he's going to be leaving soon anyways. If you have something good, don't put it aside hoping you'll get better, because you could lose both. if you don't understand this too well, write back even of you want more. hopefully i helped. =]
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ok i answer it very good and long but it erase so im just gonna make it as short as possible haha
i wont insult you cause ive been in that situation, i think that if the other guy its totally worht it go ahead...but ..does the other guy live in the same place as you do ?? cause it sounds like you are going to have a long distance realtionship and trust me it doesnt work....aLSO i think you'd brake up with your boyfriend., cause a relationship its to enjoy each others company, not fearing your boyfriend :S i also used to be affraid of him some times, but then i realize that i wans't enjoying my realtionship, that there might be someone else who im not going to be affraid off :S ...also i think that your not in love with him as you think, cause in the first place, dont you think that if you would really love him you wouldn't have done that??? that happen to me ,,of course you feel bad cause you care! and also cause you've been together for a long time! ...but think about it ,,,imagine your in his place..wouldn't you be thinkin like "if he really loves me like he does , then he shouldn't have cheated on me twice" maybe your just used to be with him,. i thought i was deeply in love. but i cheated also, with the same guy like 3 times when i was away. i think that since i've started being afraid of him my feelings for him started to change , and wehn i found someone that doesnt treat me like he does and i wasnt affraid of ...i notice that i wasnt really in love with him,,,i used to be ,, but then it just became like an habit ..like i used to think that i love him just because we were together fro 2 and half years and i used to be around him all the time..then i notice that when we broke up ..i really didn't miss him THAT much ...cause i didn't loved him anymore as i thought i did.....think about it if you have any other questino please ask :) cause i dont know if i explain it correctly haha since i told you that my answere deleted by mistake ...good luck,,ps you might wanna do a list of pro's and cons about eahc guy..sometimes works
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i suggest you tell your boyfriend that you want to take a break. if you love him, then you most likely don't want to hurt him, right? i think breaking up would be hurt him less than if he found out that you were cheating on him. if you do take my advice and break up with him, then see how things work out with your friend. good luck!
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If you are thinking of keeping this from your boyfriend, you've pretty much already have chosen. You can't just say you love this guy then go and make out with someone else. Falling out of love with him or not, you are still in a commited relationship with him. If you have actual FEELINGS for this other guy, and not just an attraction, then break up with your boyfriend. Of course, when you are in a relationship that long you will end up getting somewhat sick of one another and would like to experience what else is out there. I can't tell you which one to choose; it's your heart not mine. But my advice is one way or another, you have to be honest with both of them.
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If you are falling out of love with your boyfriend, it's prbably for the best. You can still care deeply about him, but if you have strong feelings for the guy from the military, brek up with your boyfriend. It's not okay that you feel that sometimes he might hit you, and if he takes his anger out on you, it can be a verbal abussive relatiionship that could possibly become physical. Go with the guy who makes you feel safe and loved, if I were you I would go with the military guy. He seems genuinley sweet and loving towards you, whereas your boyfriend is getting mean and not giv ing you the time of your life. Follow your heart and remember, you can always be just friends with your boyfriend...just putting the thoughts out there. Good luck and I hope you pick the right guy!
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This is a tough one. Im not quite sure, all I can really say is go with your heart. I was in a similar position but I never took the action with my ex and I wish I would have broken up with my boyfriend at the time and went back out with my ex because my boyfriend then cheated on me. So I really dont know what to say, Go with what your heart is telling you. Mentally make a list of the pros and cons for each guy. Dont just settle for your boyfriend just because the guy you think you might have deep feelings is in the military, dont settle for second best is what I have to say. Hope I helped in some way. If you need anything else you know where my inbox is =]
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No way I would insult you, doll.
I understand exactly where you're coming from;if you think you'll be happier with the second guy (military), go for him! I don't know much about the guy you've been in a relationship with for two years, but I can just tell by the way you describe him that you love him to complete death, but you're getting tired of him.
What I would do is really consider who you want to be with. Think about it, wait about 24 hours, etc.; just really consider everything.
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