If you dont want to talk, this sounds crazy but, what I do first would be to look at him more obviously, more deliberately. Dont just glance at him, and dont just look from the corer of your eye, but really look at him. If you know he is looking at you, its obvious that he is thinking about you, so a straight look in the eye and holding it for a couple of seconds will say more than anything you could stammer out at an akward confrontation. But really, give him an obvious look in the eye, not like your eyes met for a second. Then after he really acknowledges your look a couple of times, like after a few days of doing it, next time you lock eyes do a really gentle smile. No teeth, just raise the sides of your lips slightly in a way that says, "Hi". Because, if you give him a slight smile, he knows you are no longer feeling mad or akward or anything about what happened in the past, and that you are ready to be friends again. After a few days of this, try a bigger smile or a head nod. Make it look like you are slowly starting to grow on him, or starting to enjoy your speachless encounters. What ever you do, move slowly, and step by step, gradually getting more and more attatched to seeing him. Because, its not like one day you are going to walk in after 3 years, and give him some longing 10 second stare that portrays, "ohhh my god I miss you so much come over here and talk to me because I am dying for your contact"-- that would just be really weird. Move slowly so it seems like you are trying to say, "Wow, every day i recall a little more and a little more about the good times we used to have, and I miss them."

So basically what I'm saying here is that if you are sure that you dont want to talk to him, (which I actually quite understand), you are going to have to master the art of facial expression and body language. I know it is a slow process, but after a few weeks the two of you will probaly feel like you are getting to know eachother again, even though you haven't spoken. But honey, It sounds like he does miss you too, because I feel like he wouldn't be looking at you at all if he didn't... he would just be completely avoiding eye contact. so go for it, and eventually you can pluck up the courage to say hey or somthing, and start up a converstaion. hope I helped, give me some feedback please!

I think the two times you texted him and he didn't answer were just accident. I mean, two times only? Seriously, guys can be lazy, they forget things, maybe he just didn't have his phone on him! (he was sick!) And since you guys aren't even dating, I wouldnt be worring about two missed text messages. Then, you ask him if hes mad at you, and hes probably thinking, "Mad about what? What would I be mad at her for?" He probably dosn't even know about the texts, so when you asked him that, he probably started racking his brain for things that he WOULD be mad at you for, (like, "was she going behind my back about somthing and now she thinks i found out?"), and this led him to ask you if you were up to somthing.
So how should you get him to come to you? Well I'd have to say your first step would be to quit driving him AWAY! I mean seriously, you're not even dating and you probably already appear really controling. You are already questioning him about two unresponded texts, and most guys are not interested in girls who are going to question them all the time (especially about tiny things!) I'm sure he is only imagining your unpleasant response when he forgets your first month anniversary or your birthday. Secondly, He already dosn't trust you. You are questioning him about somthing trivial, which leads him to question you back about you whereabouts. So really, this relationship has started off on the wrong foot. You need to start over with a fresh attitude, and keep this "talking" situation casual. If you keep pestering him about stuff like this, he will never come to you. You need to at least appear to understand what a casual relationship is and not seem like you're freakin' out all the time. Then maybe he will come to you.

On this question you are just going to get everybody's personal opinion, and my opinion is that you made the right choice. Ditching your friends for your boyfriend never seems to work out well in the end... I mean, usually friendships last MUCH longer than any sort of romantic relationship. Look at it this way, your best guy friend could be your friend for the rest of your life, but your boyfriend probably wont be. (Obviously most high school relationships dont end in marrige- in fact, most dont even last past highschool.) High school relationships last months or years at the most. [I assume you are in highschool?] So yes, I think you made the right choice. You're too good for any guy who makes you make choices like that anyways! Stick with your best friends... and maybe you two can get back together someday!

I think the whole situation was bad from the begining. I mean, nobody ever HONESTLY says "I really like [your friend's name], but since she said no, well now I guess I like [your name]!" That dosn't make sense. Its not like as soon as you get rejected by somone you suddenly dont like them anymore. Crushes dont work like that. And then you dont just suddenly like a new person. If he was rejected by your friend and very soon after asked you out, (please dont take offense to this!) well, it sounds like he was desperate or somthing. He just wanted somone, no matter who it is. Therefore, it should be no suprize that he still likes her, I mean, he DID ask her out FIRST. So I would say, based on the situation, he does like your friend. He is mad at you for asking because he is going out with you and I'm sure he wants your trust. If you want to know if hes mad at you, why dont you ASK HIM. If you are dating him, you should easilly be able to talk to him! If you break up, I think it would be rude to go out with his friend. That would be doing the exact same thing to him as he did to you, (dropping one person and picking up another in a snap) and look how upset you are about it! If you even care about your boyfriend a little bit, you would want to spare him the kind of pain you are in now.

the first thing is talking to her. you're going to have to talk to her so she can get to know you. talk to her as much as possible. don't say i love you right away, even if thats the truth. make sure she likes you back before you tell her that. don't try to impress her, because then you wouldn't be acting like yourself. just show her your own personality and dont show off. be honest when you're talking to her. just talk to her, and after you get to know her well, tell her your feelings. good luck!

first of all, dont let any outside influences affect you when you're considering your sexuality. i'm talking about your parents, peers, the media, whatev. because, if you think you might be gay, well then you just might be gay. it dosnt make sense to say, "i have tendancies towards my own gender... but my parents would kill me if im gay. so im not." you're not gay or straight because other people do or dont want you to, you're gay because of your own thoughts, emotions and feelings.

also, about never having liked a guy before: alot of psycologists who study this kind of stuff would say that if you rated your sexuality on a scale of 1 to 10, you'd be somwhere in between. research sigmund freud... he would say that a 1 or a 10 is extremely rare. so yeah, everybody's got a bit of homosexual woven into our very complex personalities. its really likely that you just really like him in a friend kind of way and really want to get to know him better.

I think you are just the right age to be getting into this kind of stuff, but not too much. I'm only 16, so that was just a couple of years ago for me, and looking back, all those relationships were just silly. I know girls that age want to be mature and hang out with guys, and its hard for your mom to understand that, because it was alot different when she was that age. I suggest to ask your mom if you can have a friend over (without specifying if its a guy or girl- and its not like you're lying- because you really are just friends!) Then when he gets there, introduce him to your mom, and then do activities around your house in plain sight of your mom. (ex. watch a movie right in the middle of the living room, not alone in the basement or whatever, or eat a meal in the kitchen, or board games or videogames or whatever you do, make sure your mom can always keep an eye on you.) converse with your mom while hes over, and get him involved in the convo too. finally, she may be able to see that in this day and age, girls and boys hang out casually at this age. after doing this a couple of times, she may finally trust you to go to his house, and offer for her to call his mother when you are over there to make sure that you are indeed there and there is parental supervision. then maybe eventually you will be able to hang out by yourselves at the strip mall or whatever. you have to gain both parents trust bit by bit.

And also, I want you to know that its refreshing to be able to look on this site and have a thirteen year old girl asking questions about hanging out with guys. It seems like so many questions now are like 13 year old girls worrying about being pregnant, which is absolutely ridiculous.

sorry this got so long!

well, he said "i love you" once, in a very special way. maybe he dosn't want to flood you with "i love yous" all the time, he just wants to do it when it feels right. maybe he'll say it next time you go on a romantic date, but he wont be slipping it out durring every passing period at school. (uhh, i assume you are in highschool?) my point is, just because he said it first, dosn't mean hes going to say it again every time he talks to you. he could just want to say it when he gets the feeling to, which is good. you dont want him saying it all the time if he dosn't feel it.

and the same with you. dont say it if you dont feel it. if you think you love him, tell him that you think you love him. you're lucky; he seems very understanding, and not like hes going to pressure you to respond the same to him when he tells you he loves you.

what the heck? this is NOT a healthy relationship! he dosn't even respect you as a person! respect for eachother is like the bare minimum you need for something to even be called a relationship. break up asap.

p.s. way to go for insisting not to change. thats really good. lots of girls aren't that strong.

you are confusing! but thats ok. love is confusing. ok, well, you are scared you are going to get pregnant, but you want to have sex because all your friends are doing it? i dont see any good reason to do it then... and your guy seems not really to care either way. my advice to you is not to do it. i know this sounds crazy, but you're sort of supposed to wait untill you're MARRIED to have sex. yeah, i know, this is a very bizzare concept that most young people like ourselves are not familiar with. yeah, if i were you i wouldnt do it. its not worth getting pregnant.

but ok. if you really MUST do it....
ok, now, i dont have a boyfriend or anything, but if i did, AND i was planning on having sex with him, WHILE IM STILL IN HIGH SCHOOL... you know, while im still completely dependant on my parents to provide me with food, a place to live and various other luxuries like air conditioning and cable television... and i'm PRACTICALLY STILL A CHILD... ok, but if i was planning on you know, doing it, ive already decided i would use "natural family planning." research it. use it. yes it involves looking very carefully at the mucus that comes out of your vag... and measuring the temperature of it.... all very strange but it works.

also one other perspective:
your V-card is gone for good. maybe its easier then, for you to do it again. your man is not in the same situation, honey. he may beleive pre-marital sex is sinful. he may think hes too young. he may be embarrased/self concious of his body/instruments. come on now. be a nice person and consider his feelings instead of just your own.

wow! it sounds like you guys are super compatible. you've already made it through your first extremely akward moment, and you were both able to laugh it off like no problem! i say you wing it, because theres no "official" way to be somones girlfriend. hang out with him, get to know him, and do whatever comes naturally to you guys! some people think that "dating" and "boyfriend/girlfriend" are different things, some people think its the same thing. do whatever feels right, and dont worry about the labels.

haha, i actually understand this! ive hardly been in a real relationship, but everytime i get close to one, im just like, "oh all the fun was reeling him in. now that ive actually got him, now what? this is boring!"

im sure that you and me are not the only people like this in the world. im confident, that for both of us, we'll find somone we truly love, so we can get married!

you may think that you are confused, but just imagine how aaron feels! look at what his emotions have done, just in the last couple days:
im guessing that the night he was flirting with you, he had forgotten about dana. he liked/likes you, and thats why he was all over you.

the next day, maybe he regretted leading you on like that? especially with dana in the mix? (even though she was technically out of the equation.)

then when he found out dana liked him, he just jumped on it without thinking. so now, even though hes dating dana, he realizes theres no reason to shun you.

maybe analysing the situation like this will help.

im sure i dont have the whole story, but remember- just because another girl from your school just happens to be in europe at the same time he is and they planned to hang out, it dosn't mean he likes her! think through that part of the story- you're thinking of the worst case scenario! take a step back and look at the situation as a whole, and i think you'll see that the paris thing is not really a big deal. (although, again, i dont know the whole story, and what exactly the relationship between these two is.) with that aside, i think you should go for him, he sounds like a super sweet guy! dont miss oportunity, you just might regret it!

look at it this way: wouldn't it be akward for you to be dating a guy who isn't confident with himself? if they like you, they like you the way you are. you not being confident in yourself is like you not being confident in the girl that he likes. (i'm sorry, that may just be one of those things that only makes sense to me...oops!) remember, guys are self concious too. they just dont seem to whine about it as much as girls. so be confident in who you are as a person.

well, hes admittled to liking you but he thinks he only has a chance with samantha. soooo... tell someone to slip it to him that he DOES infact has a chance with YOU. tell mellisa, whenever she sees him, only if shes got a second, to say, "hey, i heard you only think you have a chance with samantha. well, you have a chance with anna too, because she really likes you." melissa, i would say, is the ideal person to do this, and i guess her boyfriend has issues, but all she needs is 30 seconds to say this to him, then walk away without waiting for the response. this will give him the info in a way that allows him to think about it, not immdeiatly have to answer. (putting somone on the spot only makes them give you the wrong answer.) then, see him a couple more times, and on maybe the 3rd time say: "so, melissa told me that she told you we have a chance together? well, shes telling the truth, i really like you and you totally have a chance with me."
its a pretty far-out plan, but i think it just might work.

I think you should go for it. she will be flattered that you like her, and if she says no, you can always still be friends.

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