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Does he miss me? [Preferably males]
17/F/AZ
Okay, well here's my story. Freshmen year I met this guy and we became friends. It wasn't a close relationship, but we were still friends. And I guess you can say that I developed a crush on him. By second semester we stopped talking completely. (He started making bad decisions.) Well, I'm in my senior year now. And I always see him walking down the halls and we some how always make eye contact. An example, my third period is next to his. I get out of class and he'd be walking towards me. I'd look away, but from the corner of my eye I can see that he looks at me. Does he miss me? If so, how can I show him that I miss him to without actually talking? (I don't want to be the first one to talk because of something that happen freshmen year.)
Thanks in advance!
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If you dont want to talk, this sounds crazy but, what I do first would be to look at him more obviously, more deliberately. Dont just glance at him, and dont just look from the corer of your eye, but really look at him. If you know he is looking at you, its obvious that he is thinking about you, so a straight look in the eye and holding it for a couple of seconds will say more than anything you could stammer out at an akward confrontation. But really, give him an obvious look in the eye, not like your eyes met for a second. Then after he really acknowledges your look a couple of times, like after a few days of doing it, next time you lock eyes do a really gentle smile. No teeth, just raise the sides of your lips slightly in a way that says, "Hi". Because, if you give him a slight smile, he knows you are no longer feeling mad or akward or anything about what happened in the past, and that you are ready to be friends again. After a few days of this, try a bigger smile or a head nod. Make it look like you are slowly starting to grow on him, or starting to enjoy your speachless encounters. What ever you do, move slowly, and step by step, gradually getting more and more attatched to seeing him. Because, its not like one day you are going to walk in after 3 years, and give him some longing 10 second stare that portrays, "ohhh my god I miss you so much come over here and talk to me because I am dying for your contact"-- that would just be really weird. Move slowly so it seems like you are trying to say, "Wow, every day i recall a little more and a little more about the good times we used to have, and I miss them."
So basically what I'm saying here is that if you are sure that you dont want to talk to him, (which I actually quite understand), you are going to have to master the art of facial expression and body language. I know it is a slow process, but after a few weeks the two of you will probaly feel like you are getting to know eachother again, even though you haven't spoken. But honey, It sounds like he does miss you too, because I feel like he wouldn't be looking at you at all if he didn't... he would just be completely avoiding eye contact. so go for it, and eventually you can pluck up the courage to say hey or somthing, and start up a converstaion. hope I helped, give me some feedback please!
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Obviously he feels the same way. This may have to do with whatever happened freshman year also.
I know for sure guys are way more sensitive about emotional issues than women are. In fact that is why lots of guys are dicks. If they start to feel emotional they will lash out from fear of showing emotion and making a fool of themselves.
If you expect to ever have any kind of relationship with this guy again. You have no choice but to bite the bullet and confront him. I realize that can sometimes be difficult to do, but it is the only sure-fire way of dealing with this issue.
Good Luck
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