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13/f 7th grade
all my friends are starting to "date". they go downtown or to the strip mall or to each others houses and have these group "dates" with their "boyfriends" but my mom doesnt let me go because she doesnt think im old enough. I just like the boys as friends even though i have been on 1 "date" myself I like the kid I went with as a good friend. but people are starting to ditch friends for boys and go out all the time and tell each other they love each other and thinking about kissing so I was wondering what age ae kids supposed to date? is my school ahead of other people? and my mom wont let me go anywhere with boys so how can i convince her most boys are never going to be more than friends to me even when im older and certianly not now?
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Ok you are not alone!!! My mom is the same freakin way and I hate it! I like guys, but I have never been on an actual 'date' before. I think it has something to with scientific stuff that I heard about on the news. It said that kids are growing up faster because there is this chemical or something in the plastic that they make water bottles with. This compound supposably ages hormones faster than the normal ageing process thing. It would make sense to me, because all my friends are like that too.
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hi. I'm in the ninth grade and i didn't start dating until the eighth. it's really mostly about if you are read or not. you are 13 and that is wen i first got into that stuff. Explain to your mom that you are just friends with these boys and try to show her you are responsible. It is all based on you and the person you are going to date if you are ready for it. Your friends are only ditching eachother for boys because they r excited that they have hteir boyfriends. don't be worried this will most likely pass becasue they will realize that boys will ocme and go but your friends will always be there. Your mom right now is probably liek my mom and is affriad of you growing apart from her. reasure her that u will still always have that mom and daughter show but u also need to be social. I hope this all works out for you.
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I think you are just the right age to be getting into this kind of stuff, but not too much. I'm only 16, so that was just a couple of years ago for me, and looking back, all those relationships were just silly. I know girls that age want to be mature and hang out with guys, and its hard for your mom to understand that, because it was alot different when she was that age. I suggest to ask your mom if you can have a friend over (without specifying if its a guy or girl- and its not like you're lying- because you really are just friends!) Then when he gets there, introduce him to your mom, and then do activities around your house in plain sight of your mom. (ex. watch a movie right in the middle of the living room, not alone in the basement or whatever, or eat a meal in the kitchen, or board games or videogames or whatever you do, make sure your mom can always keep an eye on you.) converse with your mom while hes over, and get him involved in the convo too. finally, she may be able to see that in this day and age, girls and boys hang out casually at this age. after doing this a couple of times, she may finally trust you to go to his house, and offer for her to call his mother when you are over there to make sure that you are indeed there and there is parental supervision. then maybe eventually you will be able to hang out by yourselves at the strip mall or whatever. you have to gain both parents trust bit by bit.
And also, I want you to know that its refreshing to be able to look on this site and have a thirteen year old girl asking questions about hanging out with guys. It seems like so many questions now are like 13 year old girls worrying about being pregnant, which is absolutely ridiculous.
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tell her all of this. tell her she's lucky she has a daughter who isn't ready for all of this yet. she may rethink it. make sure she KNOWS you dont like any of the boys as more than friends and you aren't going to be kissing them. no your school isn't really ahead of other schools. my friends were making out in 7th grade. it really isn't a big deal. your mom should be letting you hang out with boys at this age. i don't think my grade was going out on "dates" in 7th grade though. maybe you should get your friends to all go out as a group instead of on "dates".
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