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talking.
so i am kind of talking to this one guy. he is about a year older than me and goes to a different school also. im 15 and he is going to be 16 in a little bit. anyways we met and hung out about two days later. we talked over text message about 10 minutes after i left. i told him i would text him then and i did. we were texting all night and then the next day he said he would text me but he was sick so i text him and i asked how he was feeling. then he didnt answer so i text again later asking his opinion on something and again no answer. well i messaged him on the computer asking if he was mad or not and he said no then asked what i was up to. then he got off of the computer. any idea on what i should do to get him to come to me more? thank you.
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I think the two times you texted him and he didn't answer were just accident. I mean, two times only? Seriously, guys can be lazy, they forget things, maybe he just didn't have his phone on him! (he was sick!) And since you guys aren't even dating, I wouldnt be worring about two missed text messages. Then, you ask him if hes mad at you, and hes probably thinking, "Mad about what? What would I be mad at her for?" He probably dosn't even know about the texts, so when you asked him that, he probably started racking his brain for things that he WOULD be mad at you for, (like, "was she going behind my back about somthing and now she thinks i found out?"), and this led him to ask you if you were up to somthing.
So how should you get him to come to you? Well I'd have to say your first step would be to quit driving him AWAY! I mean seriously, you're not even dating and you probably already appear really controling. You are already questioning him about two unresponded texts, and most guys are not interested in girls who are going to question them all the time (especially about tiny things!) I'm sure he is only imagining your unpleasant response when he forgets your first month anniversary or your birthday. Secondly, He already dosn't trust you. You are questioning him about somthing trivial, which leads him to question you back about you whereabouts. So really, this relationship has started off on the wrong foot. You need to start over with a fresh attitude, and keep this "talking" situation casual. If you keep pestering him about stuff like this, he will never come to you. You need to at least appear to understand what a casual relationship is and not seem like you're freakin' out all the time. Then maybe he will come to you.
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