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Hey guys,
I just turned 20 and my boyfriend is 19. We broke up 2 days ago and barely talk. My issue is this. He has a girl friend, a hot girl friend. It never bothered me before actually. But over the Fourth of July weekend I was going to spend the night at his house. He kind of got all shady and said he wasn’t positive if I could spend the night anymore. I was fine with that. Until I got on Facebook and that hot girl posted on his wall that she was so excited for the coming up weekend because they were going to hang out now that she was single and they were going to get high and whatever. This bothered me for multiple reasons. Number one: He swears up and down that he doesn’t do drugs anymore. And number 2: He says he’s unsure if I can come over but now this chick is saying they’re going to get high together? Ugh. I don’t know why she says these things; she knows he has a girlfriend. Anyways I got all upset and stopped talking to my boyfriend for a while. Well he said he talked to the hot girl and told her that she can’t say things like that because I get mad. Then he said he would stop talking to her. So a few weeks went by and he and I got close again. But now all over again he’s friending her on Facebook. I mean I know it’s stupid because I’m kind of getting mad over Facebook. But now he tells me that he’s been lying and that they do talk & that they’re super close and whatever. I mean, I know I shouldn’t be mad but it upsets me. Also the hot chick is best friends/cousins with my boyfriend’s ex. So my boyfriend sees his ex a lot. Maybe I am indeed being overly paranoid but he knows how I feel about all this and finds a way to make it seem like it’s my entire fault. Because then he goes on to talk about how the only reason they’re friends is because they used to do drugs together. Yet, my jealousy makes no sense to him. So, am I wrong for breaking up with him?
You are not overreacting, in my opinion.
Here's the thing. Putting all of these aspects aside, forget about this girl and all that he has done and consider this. If he knows something is bothering you, and he has the power over the problem, shouldn't he fix it? He is, after all, your boyfriend. He indeed should take into account you before this girl. He is dating you, not her, therefore you should come first. If it is bothering you, no matter if you're overreacting or not, he should take it into consideration and try to fix the problem with you.
Now, considering everything you said, this girl has no respect for you, therefore she writes things like that on his wall. If she had the smallest amount of respect for your relationship, she wouldn't do this. In my opinion, if he wants to stay with you, it is his obligation to distance himself from her if he feels that it is threatening your relationship.
You shouldn't feel that you are wrong. You are asking for respect. It's completely understandable.
I lied about my age to this guy I met at a party, its not a big age gap, but I said I was going into year 9, and he's going into year 11, when in fact I'm only going into year 8. Our parents know each other so it could be a matter of time until he finds out my age from parents. When he approached me he did say he thought I was 15/16, and I know he's a nice guy, and he wouldn't hold my age against me, but I'm scared he would hold the fact I lied against me.
Help !
Well if you know the truth will come out, tell him. Think about it in your perspective. Would you prefer someone to come up to you and confess, or to find out form somebody else?
Personally, I would go up to him and start a conversation. Somewhere in there you can say you were joking about your age or something like that.
Hope it works out well! Good luck.
14/f Hey I saw where you answered the question about how it feels for a first kiss and I was wondering how do you kiss like just a simple first kiss like is it like kissing your parents by lol or what? haha please help because knowing me i'd mess up haha(: also do you like just not move your lips and let him kiss you or what? im so confused!
Haha don't be confused! It actually is fun, and obviously you'll get better with practice.
Don't be nervous, first of all.
No...don't kiss him the way you kiss your parents lol. It's more passionate. All I would suggest is to slightly pucker your lips and press them against his (or if he comes to you, just pucker your lips a little right before he kisses you)...When you pucker, it shouldn't be too noticeable, just a little.
If he continues, yes you move around. It's like...he kisses you and then you kiss him. It's almost like a battle between your lips.
The best advice I can give you is that if you are confident, it'll be perfect, guaranteed. Confidence is everything.
Good luck! Let me know how it goes!!!
ok i have to know whats it like to get your first kiss????
Well every person is different.
But everyone remembers their first kiss.
Mine was so long ago lol, but it was the best kiss ever. I remember feeling so nervous, and the guy at the time told me he liked me but I never told him I liked him. So he just grabbed the back of my head and put his lips on mine. 2 times. It was so simple, but I remember staying up all night thinking about it.
It's definitely something that people don't forget. And you'll get it too, don't worry about what will happen. It'll be amazing.
I am a 18 yr old f. Several answers would be appreciated. I have met a guy who I relate to in so many ways. I have never felt so comfortable around any other guy before; it feels as if I have known him for years. He is 35. My heart tells me it is so right, but my head tells me he might be too old. Usually I would think 10 years is a good gap to date someone, but my parents are 15 years apart... What do you think? I am very mature and I would never do anything that I'd think to be a stupid decision. Never drank or did drugs in my life and don't plan to. He has never done this either. Thanks in advance!
I am the same as you, basically. I never drank or did drugs (never plan to either).
I'm 18, and I'm with a 37 year old.
I'm very mature for my age, aside from what people may think regarding this relationship.
My parents are 22 years apart.
My head says no, my heart says yes.
I've been in this relationship for 8 months (since I turned 18)
After a while, your head says yes too. I would NEVER recommend anyone to choose to be with someone much older, just because there are always consequences that come with this.
I personally worry if my dad (who is 75, mom is 53) will be around. Luckily, he's in good health. I think about my relationship and I realize that it is worth it to me. But I can't speak for you, or tell you what's best, because this topic is controversial, and it basically depends on personal opinion. If you feel you can handle this situation, regardless of what people will think and say (and you will be ridiculed, I am all the time), then make your decision.
You have to remember, it's neither my decision nor the people who commented below.
You have to make the decision and do what makes you happy the most.
It's not easy, but if it's meant to be, it will be.
Hope I helped.
My bf is just turned 24 and I really REALLY like him a whole lot, hes so funny. The thing is I told him I had just turned 18 yrs old. That isn't the truth tho. I'm really almost 15. I guess you could say I developed fast and am mature for my age? haha Anyways, he totally believes I'm 18 and I kind of feel bad because my bff just said it's illegal to date when he's so old and he can go to prison for it. He hasnt ever been to jail. idk what do I do? My mom don't know I'm dating even tho.
I know you're happy you have a boyfriend, but in any relationship, honestly is extremely important.
You lied to him and he might not forgive you. You realize that if someone finds out and tells the police (whether he was aware that you were 15 or not) if he lays one hand on you, touches you, kisses you or calls himself your boyfriend, HE WILL BE ARRESTED.
This isn't a joke, and sooner or later, he will find out your real age. It's best to come clean with him before he gets in trouble, even if it's risking your relationship. You can still stay friends, then when you're 18, you can date again if you think you'd want to be with him.
I strongly urge you to do this. When I was 17, my boyfriend was older, and I managed not to get him in trouble because I was turning 18 in a week, however he did receive a warning.
I have a friend who is a girl and shes 17. She was dating a guy that is 30. He has tatoos all over his body; he was in the pen for 10 years, and he does cocaine, and sells drugs. They were together for a year on 9/1, but they broke up last friday because he got mad at her for not takin him to west nashville to pick up some drugs, (he was already messed up on coke) and he started yelling at her, telling her he was done with her skanky ass, and hes got plenty more dimes than just her, and she was a bitch, and started callin her dead mom a bitch too. So she said some mean things while she was crying. She took him to his moms house to drop him off, and he was acting like he wass going to hit her, and he kept threating her to take him up the street, so he could get a ride to west nashville. She didn't want to do it, so he spit in her face! Litterally, a loogie in her face! I got pissed off, and I tried biting my tongue, but when he did that, I couldnt take it anymore.
Anyways. They are supposively still broken up, but I feel as if shes lying to me. What can I do, to make her realize she doesn't need a piece of trash like him? She's young and truely beautiful, and I dont understand what I can do to knock some since into her. Please help me, before she ruins her life, even more than she has.
*P.s whenever she asks me for advice, or tells me something about him, I'll tell her the truth, and than she makes up excuses.
For example: Her: "Kaci, nick gets mad at me when I dont want to have sex with him."
Me:"Well stephanie, than maybe that shows you right there what he really wants from you? I dont think you should be with a guy who gets mad over that"
Her: "No kaci, he doesnt get mad when i wont have sex with him, he just thanks i aint attracted to him like that"
Seee? Thats what Im talking about. Please help me.
The only thing i can tell you from experience is that when a girl thinks shes "in love" nothing will change her mind.
I would just keep drilling it into her head saying "You deserve to be treated like you are special because you are" stuff like that.
You can't really open her eyes if she's not used to being treated better.
Aside from that, it's illegal and it should be stopped immediately, because this obviously isn't a rare situation of love, but instead, a young senseless girl thinking she's in love, when she's actually in lust, for a person who's worthless and has no respect for her.
I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.
I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?
Sorry if this is too long!
If he's immature enough to make a group and let the whole world know about your relationship( i dont know what kind of things he posted, but if they're about your personal life he should know better) , then he's too immature to have you as a girlfriend.
If he thought it was normal, he would have mentioned it, not kept it hidden. He knows what he's doing is wrong, and he think he'll get away with it because you wont find out...but you did.
Now it's up to you, whether or not you'll do something to stop him or just let it keep going.
You need to confront him, don't play games, just tell him straight up that you're not comfortable with it. Then ask a friend to check if it's still there or if he's done anything after you've told him.
I'm not trying to sound like a bitch, or trying to "baby" you, I'm telling you like it is cause you need to hear it.
I hope everything works out for you, good luck.
And remember, if someone hurts you this way to the point where you cry, that person isn't worth your time.
My boyfriend says we have a normal relationship. I try to tell him it's not. He expects me to tell him everyone I pass in the hall way at work, what they say and send him pictures. If they come in my office he says they only made an excuse to come and see me that things should be controlled differently and men should not be able to just walk in my office. He takes these things out on me as well. Last Friday my boss called me in his office because he was about to leave for the day. When the boyfriend called I wasn't at my desk. he called and left vmails that were rude and ugly and when i called him back and explained he Said "you were in the office w/ 2 men?" "What else happened" Would you feel as if he is suggesting that something un professional could have happened by saying something like that? I'm at wits end and he seems to think he is doing no wrong. He says he has the right to know who I talk to and what is said and where I am and thinks if I have a problem w/ it then I have something to hide.
Your boyfriend does not trust you.
It's very sad. And you're right, he is controlling. He's making you send him pictures and tell him every moment of your life...I'm sorry but that's not the way to have a relationship. If you don't fix it, sooner or later it's going to have horrible results. He's already placed ideas in his mind that you are meeting wtih different men, and the next step is he's going to come up with new scenarios about you and these men.
You are not at fault, but if you let it continue, you are. This is not the type of relationship you want to be in. It is important to have trust, and he doesn't seem to have that.
ok this is stupid but whatever. my boyfriend is completely loyal and i trust him completely. but he like calls this girl wifey and theyre acquaintances not best friends or even close or anything. should i feel weird? or am i over-exaggerating? its not like he likes her but is that flirty of him hes all like "you can be my wifey" and im like wut.. k thanks !
I'm not gonna lie...I'd feel weird and I would hate it. But I would definitely talk to him and ask him what it means to him when he calls her that. It might just be an inside joke...
But if you want to find out for sure, it won't hurt to talk to him about it.
good luck!
What are some cute nicknames for your boyfriend?
depends on his name, and what you're into! :D
personal favorites:
cutie, baby, babe, sugga, sparky(when he's excited), cujo(when he's angry), sexy, papi
say you've dated someone for 1 year and 6 months...can love just fade?
From personal experience....
It can fade, however it happens slowly. I don't believe (if it's really love) that it will fade easily and automatically. Usually takes a while.
♥ok i found about this website by my friend MysteryJay anyway,
I was gonna ask how do u handle with your boyfriend living so far away and his parents and my mom doesnt want us dating, but my mom jsut handles it, but his mom doesnt want us dating cause im black and live in a different state. My boyfriend is white.
Also he says he wont cheat on me and i want to believe him but he lives so far away so how am i suppose to really be a 100% sure.
I want to live with him forever and he says he wants to live with me forever too. But his mom doesnt like us dating so you think we'll ever eb able to see each other in real life? he lives in PA and i live in MO. Please help me if you can.♥
Jaklin
Hi,
I'll tell you my opinion but you have to remember that I dont know you, or your boyfriend, or his/your parents. I don't know your age as well, but here goes: (And I hope I help)
Lets target the first problem: His parents. They don't want him seeing you. Once he turns 18, there's nothing they can legally do. Until then, they have all the right (Unfortunately) to keep him away from you. Now even though his mom doesn't like you dating.... you two still are. Which means that she might not like it, but she's not doing anything to stop it. However, if he starts talking about meeting up with you, she might not allow it, so be careful not to push her over the edge.
Second : You're afraid he'll cheat. In my opinion (and from personal experience) I NEVER go into a relationship if I have a DOUBT that the person will cheat. Each time I wasn't sure about the person, I ended up getting cheated on. I did the long distance thing and personally, it didn't work. I'm 17, and the guy is 17 and he's been my best friend (still is) since we were 5. IT DIDN'T WORK! Not because we don't love each other or because I was afraid he'd cheat....but because he lives in NY and I live in FL.
If you're not 100% positive he'll stay loyal to you, then it's a waste of time. I know you love him, but you can always have a relationship together when you both are 18 and legally can move in together without worrying about parents and etc.
I can't decide what to do for you, only you can. But if I were you, I'd stay in touch with him and be great friends, and then when you both are of legal age, you can move in together if that's what you want and this way you can keep an eye on him so he wont cheat.
I hope this helped....lemme know if there's anything else I can help you with.
Good luck!
When I was 12 I had my first kiss with this boy that i really liked at the movies, and it was pretty funny it was bad lol. but after that i learned that its not that big of a deal lol and the rest were better ha so anyone have funny first kiss experinces?
Mine was SOOO AWKWARD! I couldn't move! I froze! And when I say froze, I mean it.
He came in to kiss me (and he was a lot older so he definately knew what he was doing) and I didn't move. Just stood there, not even moving my lips. He somehow like it tho? hahaha weirdest experience. I wouldn't kiss anyone after that for a while cause I was scared it would happen again. Thank GOD I got over that!
heey
okaay i have know thius guy ( lets call him p) for 2 years and we are now in the same school. we hung out a few times over the summer and i began to like him, hes in grade 11 and im in 10. its the 4th day of school and we saw each other a couple times and waved and said hi and talked a ltitle. he tells me pretty much everything about his firends and about girls hees ahving troubles with and i flirt, not a lot, but i still do and he wants to hang out a couple times a month and we do and we get a long good . but duunnno, i think he sees me more as a friend. and i wanna know how to tell this? and if i am in the "friends zone" what do i do! and how do i get out ?
heeelllpppppp pleeeasse =(
Aw this is cute!
Ok here goes....
You're in the friends zone for a couple of reasons. One of them is that you're listening to all his problems: "he tells me pretty much everything about his firends and about girls hees ahving troubles with" STOP IT! THIS IS A BIG NO! When he starts complaining and saying too much you cut it off! Don't be rude, just conveniently say that you have to go, or you'll talk to him later cause you gotta go to work/do homework/mom's on the phone etc. This one of the biggest reasons he sees you as a friend.
2nd...STEP UP THE FLIRTING! guys like it. Don't go overboard with the flirting cause that's when it becomes annoying, but I'm sure there are other things you can start doing.... laughing more etc. (since you didn't specify how you flirt, I can't really help you out on that)
3rd... Guys like chases, it's fun. BECOME UNAVAILABLE! If he wants to see you, say you cant! You're busy with friends etc. He needs to know that you're not at his beck and call, you have a life! And when you tell him you have something to do, actually do it, like "I'm hanging out with John Doe today so I can't hang out, sorry" and make sure you do this, this way you're not tempted to talk to him and make plans =p He needs to get jealous that you're not his only priority! If you hang out with him everytime he asks, you'll just go back to step one with the friends zone.
Good luck!
Message me if you need anything else!
In advance, sorry if this is long.
Ok first off i'm with this guy named allen, we've been dating for 5 months tomorrow.
We've got lots of problems, he can be a bad bf at times, but then again i can be a bad gf at times, so we balence each other.
Anyways there is this guy that i liked a few years ago. His name is ben. He told me today that he wanted me all to himself, he asked if i felt the same about him. I do but i don't want to hurt my bf, and also i'm starting to fall in love with my bf (even tho he doesn't feel the same).
I don't know what to do, on the one hand i can dump my bf and probbly get treated better.
On the other hand if I stay with my bf, i could very well get dumped by him in another few weeks or months, and probbly loose my chance with ben.
Ethier way its a loose situation for me.
ANd honestly I don't know what to do.
Any advice?
Well, I don't know you, or your boyfriend or Ben, so I'm just going by what you're telling us.
A relationship that's full of so much negativety won't work out. It just doesn't. If one of you isn't happy, then the other won't be happy as well. Plus if your boyfriend doesn't love you back, why on earth would you wanna be with him?!
If you know Ben is going to be better for you, and make you happier, why not go for it? Can it get worse than your current situation with your boyfriend? Not likely.
So basically what's gonna make you happier?
And just so you know, at 5 months of dating, a relationship should not be miserable like yours. It should still be fun and happy and exciting. Your boyfriend should care about you, but if he's not, it's not worth it! Find someone you'll be happy with and who'll treat you the right way. You'll be a good girlfriend to someone like that.
Sorry for the rambling lol, I hope whatever you choose makes you happy. Message me for anything else.
alright. im an asshole. its as simple as that. im 17, i get with multiple girls at a time, and then get bored and move on. thats just what i do. or did. i dont know. the thing is theres this one chick i really like, or i think i like her alot but theres a problem... she knows me haha. she knows that i play girls all the time, and because of that she wont even give me a chance - not that i can blame her... but still. shes a real good girl. as in, an innocent, clean cut, straight a's, goes to church every sunday kind of girl. not what youd call my usual type. and at first thats why i thought i liked her. she was that innocent girl that i couldnt get so of course i wanted her, but i dont think thats it.. it just doesnt feel like that. i want to protect her, and keep her innocent, ya know? and then i start thinking about doing things with her that i do with other chicks and it makes me sick. and its kind of almost freaking me out. but i really like her (because we do talk, and i think shes one of the VERY few girls that i have a for real friendship with) and i want her to give me a chance and show her that im serious. because i think i am. but i also dont want hurt her. you know, if she were to some way she would possibly give me chance, i dont want to screw up. i dont want screw up with her. god i feel like a loser. what should i do?
Well, you seem actually sincere about this so here goes:
Since she knows about your reputation and doesn't wan't to give you a chance, you have nothing left to do about that for now.
Start by being her friend. The MOST impressive thing to do right now is show her that you are capable of having a TRUE, GENUINE friendship with her. Don't tell her she's pretty/innocent/cute/you-like-her/blahblahblah! Let her know you are interested in being friends....really good friends. She needs to start finding out more about you, not just the girl craze. She'll start appreciating you the more she gets to know about you.
You are already in the "friend-zone" because she doesn't want to date you, so you might as well expand that friend zone into closer friends. Know what I mean?
Once she sees a different side of you, she might open up a little. Now this could take a REALLY long time, because she's a smart girl. And seeing as you feel sick about yourself when you think of playing her, proves that you wont. It's that simple. If you've never felt this way about a girl, then its something you shouldn't let pass by.
Hope this helped, sorry for the rambling lol. Good Luck!
Why do guys always seem to cheat? I just don't understand it. You give them everything they could possibly want and then you find them flirting with other women and junk. What am I doing wrong? It's like nobody can be faithful anymore
I feel your pain!
Well, psychologically speaking, men can't handle being in relationships. It's like they aren't programed for staying with one female.
But the ones that follow this have no morals.
The ones who cheat aren't worth your time, your energy or even a thought. Laugh at them because they are pathetic. They can have EVERYTHING with you but they stupidely choose the wrong path. They are ridiculous. But when the lucky one comes along, he'll know what you have to offer and he'll be welcoming you with open arms. Don't give up. There are many faithful guys out there, and the ones that arent will be playing the chasing game all their lives.
In the meantime, don't let it get you down. You'll find the one that belongs with you, and when you do, he'll appreciate you and the thought of another woman won't cross his mind.
hi, i am a girl and i was with my friend / gf today. we are lesbians i guess. her parents know but mine didnt. and then my idiot asshole friend, who is a boy, sent me a txt msg talkin about me and my gf. my dad decided to read my txts. he saw it. now im flippin out and so r my parents!!!! my gf and i fear we will never be able to see each other again. MY FUCKING FRIENDS SUCK!!!! what do i do? my gf and i are hysterical and idk wat to do. plz help me :(!!!!
First of all, it's not your friends fault in anyway. If you didn't want your parents to know, you should of been careful with who reads your text messages, or not have told that friend.
Second, tell your parents how it is. Unlike the comment below mine that said "fuck your parents", you should give them a chance to understand, so sit down and have a talk with them. Tell them they aren't able to control who you like or fall in love with, so either they accept it or they don't, it won't matter cause either way it's gonna happen.
Third, calm down. You need to handle this maturely, not like a five year old. If your parents see you're acting mature about this, they might be a little more accepting to what you have to say rather than if they see a temper tantrum. Think it through logically and then talk to your parents.
Good luck.
I believe that your first love will be the most genuine but I might just be saying that because I'm not over my ex. He's the type that acts stupid in public but when it gets to the serious stuff, he's all I could ever dream off. And my best friend thinks that too... She's waited about a year for him and he learned to like her back. I thought I would back off because I already had my chance. It's not working out for me... After we broke up we became really close friends again. We wrestle over candy, we play tricks on each other, and all that and it hurts when he doesn't talk to me but I don't want to tell him that. When we finally had a serious discussion that didn't involve jolly ranchers (lol), I got all angry and jealous and mad when he said that he still loves me but he wants to give my friend a chance. I told him that if I was going to be the junky that he would run to once he's single then I don't want to talk to him anymore. I'm a teenager, I do stupid things. I kept my word for a couple of days then eventually apologized. And now... He's ignoring me. Not exactly ignoring but we don't have the same conversations as before; just short answers that make my heart hurt... I'd like to say that I catch him looking at me but I doubt thats true... I never have the guts to try talk to him since then. I just had to mess things up. So what should I do now? Talk to him? If I did, wouldn't I sound desperate? And what would I say? He's just going to feel the awkward atmosphere and run off to his friends... Should I keep it inside and tell myself it was never meant to be? And I would really love to know what he's thinking whenever he just glances at me, makes a blank face and looks away. I'm sorry if it doesn't add up, just tell me what you don't get because this story is a year long and I left out quite alot of details. I find it kind of funny when I can solve all of my friend's problems but when it comes to mines, I turn to strangers. Thank you for your time *bows*
Hi, first of all I'd just like to say that your story seems so heartfelt that I'll genuinely try to give you the best advice I can...
I know for a fact that if you leave it the way things are now, you are going to regret it. Each day that goes by, you will absolutely regret not keeping a relationship (whether it be friendship or more) going with this boy. So talk to him! Please!!! I know what it's like and I think the biggest mistake that I've made (close situation to yours) is not speak with the person. You don't have to discuss the last thing you said to him, you can just text him something that's joking around. "Hey stranger" or something that'll lighten the mood.
You wouldn't sound desperate this way. The only reason it should be awkward is if YOU MAKE IT AWKWARD. Just imagine the roles reversed, if he didn't make it awkward around you would you feel nervous around him? NO! You know, most people can't be friends after they break up, so since you've gotten over that awkward post breakup stage, you can get over something like this. So basically, you need to be yourself and strive to keep things a constant joke. This will keep you guys from drifting apart.
As for your friend, that's his decission. You cannot make him choose you, but I'm sure he'll realize what he wants, just as long as you keep at it! Don't let it go, trust me, you'll be sorry if you do.
I wish you luck and I hope I helped!
Message my inbox if you think I can help you anymore!