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I lied to my boyfriend about my age and I'm underage and he's not
My bf is just turned 24 and I really REALLY like him a whole lot, hes so funny. The thing is I told him I had just turned 18 yrs old. That isn't the truth tho. I'm really almost 15. I guess you could say I developed fast and am mature for my age? haha Anyways, he totally believes I'm 18 and I kind of feel bad because my bff just said it's illegal to date when he's so old and he can go to prison for it. He hasnt ever been to jail. idk what do I do? My mom don't know I'm dating even tho.
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He can go to jail. You could ruin the rest of his life if you keep seeing him.
You say your almost 15, meaning, your 14. He's 24. That's a 10 year age difference. You can't like him if he's that much older than you. You guys have different interests, and you absolutely cannot participate in the kind of things he does at his age. Just because you 'developed fast' doesn't give you this excuse to date someone a great deal older than you.
You need to tell him your real age. Yeah, he'll probably, and I'm almost positive, that he'll break it off with you, but it's because he doesn't want to go to jail, and he doesn't want to ruin your life and have you get in trouble for it later in life. He is doing what is best for both of you. And I suggest you do too.
Play it safe and date someone your own age!
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He can go to jail. You could potentially be ruining someones life. Not only are you a liar, you have made him into a pedophile. If your family finds out, they could sue him and ruin his life.
Stop talking to him. Break up with him, and if you must, tell him the truth, so he LEAVES you alone.
Very irresponsible on your part
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Do not see him again. Do not talk to him over the phone. Send him a text or e-mail that says "I lied, I'm 15, and we can't see each other, don't contact me again"
You could literally destroy his life. Never do this again.
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He must putting him be told NOW and you must end the relationship. You are putting him at major risk, without his knowing, and that simply is not right.
A your age, the gap of 9 years is huge! If you were 28 and he was 34, the gap would not be anywhere near as great, and the relationship would not put him in legal jeopardy.
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It depends on your state, but it's mostly likely illegal. It might even be statutory rape for him to have sexual contact with you. In some places, that can just mean kissing.
You MUST stop seeing him. Absolutely MUST. The law doesn't give a damn if it's consensual, or that you lied to him about your age, or that he is your boyfriend. Under the law, it's his job ot know and he could still be sent to jail and labeled him a sex offender - for the rest of his life! He could be banned from certain jobs, from living certain places, and forced to report to the government about his whereabouts for years, all because you lied to him about your age.
You have no right to put him in that position. You have no right to lie to someone and risk ruining the rest of their life. That isn't a loving thing to do, it's not even an okay thing to do.
End it with him immediately. Either come clean about your age, or just break up without telling him the truth. Either way, you must stop seeing him.
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You need to tell him. The fact of the matter is it IS illegal for him to be dating you and the excuse that he thought you were 18 wont matter to police. Its still illegal. Even if you outright told them that you told him you were 18, it is still illegal and they wont accept that as an excuse. So unless you want him to be arrested, you need to tell him. Once your mom finds out, im sure she wont be happy and she will blame it on him. There are tonnns of guys your own age or at least under 18 that are suitable for you, so dont risk ruining this guys reputation/ life by lying to him.
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I know you're happy you have a boyfriend, but in any relationship, honestly is extremely important.
You lied to him and he might not forgive you. You realize that if someone finds out and tells the police (whether he was aware that you were 15 or not) if he lays one hand on you, touches you, kisses you or calls himself your boyfriend, HE WILL BE ARRESTED.
This isn't a joke, and sooner or later, he will find out your real age. It's best to come clean with him before he gets in trouble, even if it's risking your relationship. You can still stay friends, then when you're 18, you can date again if you think you'd want to be with him.
I strongly urge you to do this. When I was 17, my boyfriend was older, and I managed not to get him in trouble because I was turning 18 in a week, however he did receive a warning.
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