Question Posted Tuesday September 14 2010, 4:44 pm
I have a friend who is a girl and shes 17. She was dating a guy that is 30. He has tatoos all over his body; he was in the pen for 10 years, and he does cocaine, and sells drugs. They were together for a year on 9/1, but they broke up last friday because he got mad at her for not takin him to west nashville to pick up some drugs, (he was already messed up on coke) and he started yelling at her, telling her he was done with her skanky ass, and hes got plenty more dimes than just her, and she was a bitch, and started callin her dead mom a bitch too. So she said some mean things while she was crying. She took him to his moms house to drop him off, and he was acting like he wass going to hit her, and he kept threating her to take him up the street, so he could get a ride to west nashville. She didn't want to do it, so he spit in her face! Litterally, a loogie in her face! I got pissed off, and I tried biting my tongue, but when he did that, I couldnt take it anymore.
Anyways. They are supposively still broken up, but I feel as if shes lying to me. What can I do, to make her realize she doesn't need a piece of trash like him? She's young and truely beautiful, and I dont understand what I can do to knock some since into her. Please help me, before she ruins her life, even more than she has.
*P.s whenever she asks me for advice, or tells me something about him, I'll tell her the truth, and than she makes up excuses.
For example: Her: "Kaci, nick gets mad at me when I dont want to have sex with him."
Me:"Well stephanie, than maybe that shows you right there what he really wants from you? I dont think you should be with a guy who gets mad over that"
Her: "No kaci, he doesnt get mad when i wont have sex with him, he just thanks i aint attracted to him like that"
Seee? Thats what Im talking about. Please help me.
es answered Tuesday September 14 2010, 5:16 pm: The only thing i can tell you from experience is that when a girl thinks shes "in love" nothing will change her mind.
I would just keep drilling it into her head saying "You deserve to be treated like you are special because you are" stuff like that.
You can't really open her eyes if she's not used to being treated better.
Aside from that, it's illegal and it should be stopped immediately, because this obviously isn't a rare situation of love, but instead, a young senseless girl thinking she's in love, when she's actually in lust, for a person who's worthless and has no respect for her. [ es's advice column | Ask es A Question ]
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