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Me and this guy have been seriously talking latley. We hang out, go to the movies, and flirt a ton. The thing is i am 17 and he is 32, and people seem to have a problem with that. We havent done ANYTHING that can get any of us in trouble, so whats the big deal? Besides, i will be 18 in 2 months.

older men are the hottest... plus he most likley has a job which = $$$! so he can spoil you! lOl! no seriosuly... if you like him.. then go for it.. i know most people will probbaly be like... dont do it... hes to old! but really age is just a number.. and that shouldnt get in the way of lOvE! ;) just be careful! bUt yEEAH! go for it! lOl! good lUck hUn!
xOxO, aLeX

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Hey guys..I just wanted to know what you think is better..Being single over the summer or having a boyfriend?

well... i'd say: summer flings are the best! nothing to serious... but enough were you both like eachother... the summer is the best time for meeting guYs... so it totally depends on what yOu want at the moment....!

xOxO, aLeX

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i picked this out to show a girl how much i care what do you think?

I'm not sure if you know or not
But I really do love you a lot.
You still hold a special place in my heart
And you did, right from the start.
But when he came along and took your breath away,
I was devastated and didn't know what to say.
I spend my nights crying, time after time,
I spent my days lying, saying I was fine.
Little did you know, my heart was crushed inside,
And on that day, a little of me died.
But with her, you look so in love
'Cause you are an angel from above.
I now have to teach my heart to move on,
For, you are now forever gone.
But about one thing I am unsure:
Why it can't be me, and not him?

oMG! guys dont rezalize how much girls like that kidn of stuff! you are such a sweetie! i wish more guys would do that! awww... its soOo adoRabLe!
xOxO, aL

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I have a HUGE problem it all started on New Years.....well my mom and aunts and cousins all went out for new years eve and me amanda and a girl named katie from Iowa stayed at my cousin kristies house and she didnt tell her mom (my aunt) she bought some vodka for us and us all three got wasted and stoned off our asses and katie called some of her GUY friends to come over to my cousins house and one of our girls was left out (amanda) and katie and i got the two guys and i got the 17 year old and she got the 16 year old and they were sooo hott especially the 17 year old and i feel really bad because i cheated on my boyfriend but the thing is we barely even talk or communicate so it doesnt even feel like we are going out......i dont know if i should break up with him or stay with him because i REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY LIKE the 17 year old and he asked me to be his girl and i said YES....Please anyone tell me what i should do..because i did stuff with the 17 year old.......

P.S. im 15 1/2 (female)

hey! well if you hardly ever talk to your current boyfriend... then you should break up! and if you reaaaaaaaally like the 17 year old (which it sounds like you do) then go for it! what a relatioship if you never talk to your boyfriend anyways! and does your bf know you cheated on hiM?! would he want to be togther after you cheated on him anyways! since you dId hook up with him the first night you met him... be careful.. sometimes when you hook up with a guy right away.. they think your skanky or do that all the time.. which is definately not yOu! so make sure he wants to be with you for all of the rifht reasonS! bUuUT haha.. anyways... go for tHe 17 year oLd! older guys are the best! ;) hahah!
good luck!
xOxO, aL

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Is it possible to fall in love at 17? I have been with my boyfriend for only 4 months, but there is such an intense energy between us. We talk all the time and are together at every moment possible. we are similar in our core beliefs, but disagree on many topics. Disagreeing has sparked tons of interesting conversations between us. everytime i think about him or someone says his name i smile and get a warm, fuzzy, happy feeling. we trust and respect one another and have good sexual chemistry (we have not however, had sex and will not for quite some time)

I am almost positive that i love him, but ever since i was young people have always told me that you can't fall in love in high school. I want to get some outside oppinions and find out if the things i am feeling are what is generally classified as love.

thanks loves!
me*

hey! of course you can fall in love at 17! i'm sure you do love him! older people just think that high schoolers are so immature and are always thinking their in love... but thats totally not the case! theres no rule that says.. you can't be in love if your under 18! or whatever! haha! i think i've been in love before... sounds like you too are really happy togther are DO lOVe eachother! awww! sooO jeALoUs! haha!
xOxO, aL

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what exactly does it mean to be friends with benefits? like what is different about it than being b/f and g/f? thanks

It means that your friends with them... but you can still "mess around/hook-up" with them! without any kind of relationship! its different then bf/gf because the emotional part of the relatioship isnt there! just the physical!
xOxO, aL

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whats your opinion on a freshman dating a junior?
Please Help all i want is opinions
I RATE!
kthnkxbye

totally awesome! age is just a number remember! i always date older guys! aNd i have a friend whos bf is 2 gRades younger! haha! sO thats tHe besT! i dont like guys my own age... sooo yeah!
xOxO, aL

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hey im 13/f and i really like this guy. btw hes 15. do you think thats wrong or soemthing? ok so, ive known him for about a year .. ub toyu see where i see hiim is only on fridays. its at an airfoce base, cause im in cap which is the air foce auxuliary. so, there, flirting really isnt an option at all. its just not right lol. altoguh some people do, i dont think it would feel right. i tlak to him on AIM sometimes, and i ask him alot about himself. what can i do to get him to like me? i really want this, its weird ebcasue ive had prior boyfriends, and thigns are just diffrent around him.


please help. im desperate, and i hate when people admitt that they are desperate&eharts;♥

hEy hUN! weLL to answer your first question... 13-15! aGe is just a number! thats definately not wrong! my last boyfriend was 4 years older then me! hMM well without flirting... isnt it kinda hard for a guy to know that you like him?! lOL... but in order for him to like you... be yourself! hAHA! your not desperate either.. you just really want a guy! who hasnt been in that situation?! if you only see him on fridays... ask him to hang out anotther day! he'll get to know you a little better... then chances are... he could lIKe you! ;) good luck!
xOxO, aL

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Do you think its wrong to be bisexual?

nOpE! nOt aT aLL! iTs perFeCtly noRmAL! doNt hIDe uR fEElIngS! you'll fEEl sO much bEttER! peoPle whO "thinK iTs sO wrOng" aRE jUsT jealous they cant hAve doUble tHe pEoPle to Like! lOl!
xOxO, aLeX

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does anyone know what "desee que yo la tuviera" means???

desire that i had it
i just went to www.freetranslation.com and chose spanish - english and typed that in!

xOxo, aLeX

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well my exboyfriend keeps prank calling me and i know its him ...and i keep telling him to stop but he wont ...what should i do????

tell him to grow up... hes obviously still not over you... prank calls?! that is so 2nd grade. tell him he has a small dick and to fuck off!
hahaha! i was kidding... (kInd of)
xOxO, aLeX

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school starts on wed. im a 16 year old female and i been with this guy for a yr. on and off. but now its over i cant be with this again and again breaking up again and again it hurts to much and its to stressful. SO anyway, I STILL LOVE HIM i dont no how to stop or why i do but i just do. and when i see him in school i dnt no what to do. i no he loves me and always will but im confused. should i play like i dont care and i've moved on? or should i flirt with other guys in front of him when i dont like it? or just be me and make him notice my pain? but the twist is i dont want a relationship..i need advice on my feelings..

oMg! are you my long lost twin sister! i swear did i just ask this question?! seriously! umm! i'm gonna give you some advice that i usually wouldnt give on this question... bUt this is exactly what i'm doin... uMm! yEAH! play like you've totally moved on! make him jealous huN! if he thinks that your still head over heels in love with him, hes gonna think your psycho and desperate! fLiRT lIKe cRAzY! and he'll be so jealous... seriously! guys looooove a challenge just like most of us girls and they loove it when they find girls that they cant have! nobody like someone who totally throws themselves at you! so when he'll see you've moved on... he'll want you mOre! aHhH! tHe tWisTs oF lOvE! you've been with him for a year (on and off) and breakups take time! its sooo normal for you to not be over him yet! and i know exactly what your thinking... you don't want to be with him... but you want him to love you still and dont want him to be with anyone else! MmmM! cause thats just how i feel! aHH! hUnNY! wEre tHinkin aLiKe! good Luck thougH! and if you need more advice feel free to drop 1 in my box! good luck!
xOxO, aLeX

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I am 17 and my breasts have been about a 36A since they first started growing when I was 13. I couldn't stand the look of them. I was totally flat and my body was uneven since I have a "ghetto-like booty". I was about a 34A when I decided to try and do something about it. I ordered these expensive creams and they only tightened the look of my breasts and there was no real growth visible. After that I grew to a 36A by using these breast growth pills I ordered online. I spent about 100 bucks for a two month supply of it and it only increased my breats from a 34A to a 36A. I have been wearing silicone inverts for about 2 years now to make my body look even. It is frusterating because I know that my real breasts don't look that big. The inverts I use increase my chest a full cup size. So I go from a 36A to a 36B. I want to be able to grow to that size soon without drastic sugery or anything too expensive. My past bfs have all wondered why I would never show them my chest and I don't want it getting around that I use inverts because that is completely embarassing and degrading. I can't even get too physical with my bf because then he will want to see my chest and it is too embarassing for me to talk about or for him to know about. So is there anyone that can please help me! Does anyone know of any type of thing sold online or in stores that effectively increases your bust and does it fast?

aWW! tHe hOrror of having small boobs! i am also 17! and welcome to the itti bitti titti committie! haha me and my friends had that cLuB in 7th grade!!! haha! dont you hate that when your with guys and they always want your shirt off?! HAhA! uMM! i feel soo uncomfortable! unluckily for us... as much as internet pills and schemes come up that you can buy fake breasts without the surgery... its totally fAlSE! pills, creams, stuff like that dosent actually work... unfortunatley! breasts is all in the genetics! dAmn mOm! hAHA! but yoU hAVe to tRy this bRA:
http://www2.victoriassecret.com/commerce/application/prodDisplay/?namespace=productDisplay&origin=onlineProductDisplay.jsp&event=display&prnbr=SC-176190&page=1&cgname=OSBRPVERBRA&rfnbr=1489
wOw! it makes mY small b's look like small c's! people always say why do you complain about your boobs?! their not small... haha if they only knew i have 1 in every color! hAHA! your boobs may not actually be bigger... which almost every girl wants.. but its as close as you'll get! those pills and shit dont work! bUt you could be like me... and be hoping to get that bOOB jOB! haha seriously.. lOl! good LUcK though BAbe! hope helped! sorry i wasnt much of a heLP!
xOxO, aLeX

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I`m single and ready to mingle but there is a fiew problems. I get really nervous around guys and they tend to try and use meh (I dont let them) I`d really like to get a steady boyfriend cause I`m going to be going into highschool and its like a fresh start. This past year i had 6 boyfriends and none of them were steady. Also I am trying to get a job to help out my family. But I get nervous around people I dont know.. Any tips?
14/f

hEy hUn! aHh! i totally know what you mean... i mean it can be intimidating when your with people of the opposite sex! but as stupid and obvious as this sounds.... you just have to be yourself! find things that are easy for you to talk about... i recently read in a magazine that your supposed to ask a tOn of questions about them... and let them talk about themselves because everyone knows so much about themseleves and love tellling people about them and it puts them at ease! so ask tons of questions and act really intrested! and be yourself! once people find out the rEAl you... they'll LOVE ya! so just let them know the real you! as much as you don't want to sound stupid or annoying... its better then not talking at all! good luck doLL! you'll bE fIne!
xOxO, aLeX

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How can i be more affectionate with my bf. He thinks i dont like him as much as I do so yeah what kind of stuff can i do to make him more convinced? (nothing that involves taking off clothes) I RATE REALLY GOOD! So please give good advice.

awwww.... i wish i had a boyfriend now! haha lucky girl! lol anyways... there are tOnS of ways to show your boyfriend you care about him without taking off a single thing of clothing! (lOl) unexpectadley kiss him, give him hugs, backrubs or massage, hold his hand, cuddle with him, compliment him, or tell him how perfect you 2 are togther, hang out just the two of you... hAHA babe, you have no idea how jealous i am of you nOw! good luck hUn!
xOxO, aLeX

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Hey people i was wondering could everyone tell me what they think of a 15 year old going out with a 13 year old girl?

tell me ur honest opinions please

hEy gorgeOus! i think its totally fine! 2 years... oMgosh thats nothing! just keep 1 thing in mind... older guys have more expericne and are more mature so dont let them take advantage of you or anything! alot of girls looove older guys! i'm 17 and my last boyfriend was 21! sO... whatever! as long as hes with the 13 year old for the right reasons! and you know what i always say: my parents are 2 years apart! my best friends parents are 6 years apart! bIg dEaL! you dont have to be the same age to be in LoVE! hope i helped ya hUN!
xOxO, aLeX

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im really nervous to have sex with my boyfriend it'll be my first time and i feel really ready cus i really do wanna finally lose my virginity but im not sure sumone please tell me what i should do?!?! thnx

Everybody is sooooo nervous their 1st time! it can be really scary! just make sure that you are completley ready! and make it romantic! make sure your familiar and comfortable with your own body, as well as your partners. Understand the risks of pregnancy and STIs and the best safer sex options for you. (aKa uSe pRoTeCtIoN!!!!!) and enjOy HuNNY!
xOxO, aLeX
(GOOd lUcK!!!!)

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I was wondering can anyone give me advice on the proper tecnique of making out? Because me and my boyfriend wanna makeout on the 22nd. I want it to be romantic and special. Its his first time and mine. Help me out please. I rate 5's for good answers but 1's for stupid ones.

aWw! how sweet! good luck hUN! hErEs sOme tIps!
1. Set the scene. Make sure that the mood and time are right.
2. Relax! Take a deep breath and let go of any tension in your neck and shoulders.
3. Put your arms around the person you want to kiss.
4. Start off with a normal kiss, not too firm, not too aggressive. Closing your eyes is optional.
5. In mid kiss, gently open your mouth and softly nudge the other persons mouth open using your tongue.
6. Again, not too aggressively, move your tongue inside the other persons mouth and playfully touch their tounge.
7. Read the other persons body language, if they seem tense or start to pull away, stop what you are doing.
8. If they open their mouth more or otherwise indicate they like the kiss, keep on doing what you have been only with a little more passion.
9. As the kissing gets going saliva build up can be a problem, don't forget to swallow.
10. Make sure you keep your tongues relaxed but your lips tight (saliva again), you don't want the kiss to turn messy.

Tips:
*Don't forget to breathe.
*Since French Kissing is "wetter" than other kinds of kissing it is a good idea to start with dry lips, don't lick them first.
*If one of you have braces you can still French Kiss, you just have to be more careful and not as forceful when things get passionate.
*If both of you wear braces you can still French Kiss, you just have to be very gentle and avoid touching teeth.
*French Kissing takes practice, but at least it is fun to practice this one!
hAHA! gOOd lUck BABe!
xOxO, aLeX

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how do you get a guy's attention? I'm also really shy .. so any tips on not being.....so shy? haha. Thanks much!

be yourself hUnNY! i know thats not very orignal.. but seriously it totally true! if you act like somebody else... hMMM! thats not gonna get him! also be more outgoing! and ask questions about him! instaed of telling hIm your life story... people are very comfortable talking about themselves! be flirty and dont make yourslef 2 avaliable! if you know what i mean! and short skirts and low shirts definately heLP! hAHA! good lucK bABY!
xOxO, aLeX

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Well I'm 10 years old.The longest boyfriend that i've had was for about 3 years.When we first met it was love at first site but during the third year of being together things wasn't going to well.I go to Fairview In Cullman Alabama and at my school was where we met.I'm a cheerleader,and he used to be a football player.He told me when he wrote the last letter that was sent in the mail by him it said,"His phone# was changed because of somebody who got mad at his mom."But,I think he just done that because he was breaking up with me.Email me at prettyshell31@yahoo.com
I might have more to ask you.Are u Paris Hilton?I reconised the pictures of u.If you are I'm a really big fan of yours.Talk later

wOw... ur only 10 and the longest relationship you've had has been 3 years! so u started dating at 7 or earlier?! thaTs cRAzY! tRY 2 caLL him and see if his number "before" is actually still his phone number! and then ask him for his new number... if you guys are dating it shouldnt be that big of a deal! relationships are all about honesty and openness! so ask hIM! and if he pretened to change his number to break up with you... TheN hes a DuMBAsS! and not worth your time! that would be pathetic! and yES! i am THE PARIS HILTON! thanks for being a fan! that means alot to me!
tHaTs hOT!
s.W.a.K. PARIS!
(hahahahaha)

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