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My name is Kristen, and I'm seventeen years old.

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Im 13 and im going into the 8th grade..and saddly ive never had a boyfriend. To me i think im farely attractive and im a nice person. I have gotten a few offers but there just not the right guys. What could i do to get a boyfriend i really like?
Signed: Single and NOT loving it.

I know how you feel. The right guy will come along eventually. Just start talking to more guys and seeing what you have in common with them. You shouldn't ever have to change how you are to get a boyfriend; the right guy will like you for who you are.

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I am 15 my bf is 16. I know he doesn't have a lot of money and I was wondering, do you think it is OK if I offer to pay sometimes? I don't want to hurt his feelings or make him mad. Should I ask him about it?

I think it's perfectly fine if you pay for it. I don't think you necessarily need to ask, just say you've got the bill. If he absolutely insists, he can leave a tip at a restaurant, and/or buy some popcorn at the movies, for example. But I think it's perfectly fine; there is nothing wrong with it at all.

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I have this friend who likes me but I like another girl. I want her to know that without her felling bad so can you help?

from Pola_Bear

You just need to tell her that you don't like her that way. You just want to be friends with her. If she's mad, it's to be expected. Just give her some time.

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for a short amount of two weeks, and only two weeks. Last time I saw him he tried to touch my chest as we were kissing and I pulled his hand away and I got extemely uncomfortable around him that night. He knew I was too. Here I am a week later and he tried to do the same thing again tonight. I let him for a second then just stopped kissing him and got very quiet after that and just continued to watch the movie. We kind of have this joke about how I don't like my stomach so he was laughing about it and he kind of pulled my shirt up just so you could see my stomach just a little bit. So I pulled my shirt back down, but he put his hand under it. I laughed cause he was tickleing me too, but then he moved his hand up. I pulled his hand out right away and luckily my mom came to pick me up after that happened.
I live off the moto- "forgive and forget" I'm forgiving him, but it makes me feel really degrated and small that he'd try that two weeks into this realationship. He's really sorry and he knows it made me uncomfortable, but I don't know how to act now. I want to show him it's alright, but I don't want him trying again... what do I do? Should I feel uncomfortable?

I think you were right. It's only been two weeks. He's truly sorry; you really don't need to feel weird around him. Just tell him that you don't want to do that right now in your relationship. A guy that cares about you will understand and respect how you feel.

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I know you don't want to listen to me whine but really, I have noone to talk to. My boyfriend just dumped me in the rudest way. He made up this horrible excuse that his parents were mad at him and he wasn't allowed to have a girlfriend. He never even told me he was breaking up. Right after that, he put his away message up that said "Oh the phone with the hottest girl ever-Shea!" (Shea is a slut and really easy by the way) Then I imed him to tell him how much he hurt me. And he said, "Yeah whatever, like you would know what pain was. Who cares about you."

I can't stop crying. Is there something wrong with me? He blocked me so anyone who wants his screenname, its: pyroboy9977.

I can't believe this. :(

Well you know what, if he did this to you, then he's really not the right guy for you. There are soooo many more guys out there, guys that wouldn't do this to you. I understand it hurts right now, but just keep yourself busy, hang out with your friends, and really there at much better people for you out there. Good luck! If you need anyone to talk to, feel free to IM me. xo- Kristen

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Me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost three months. He lives a town away from me, but we still barely ever see each other, and for some reason he barely calls anymore. What do i do to make myself feel better about the relationship?

Why don't you start calling him? Start making plans with him; meet halfway and go to the movies or out to dinner. You're only a town away from him. Don't just leave it up to him to make the relationship work out.

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im not concited. but i am well liked at my school. everyone thinks im...
exsperienced such in the kissing section. well ... im not... when you come from my elementry u are like a goodie good. not that i am but what ever. so anyways i havnt had my first kiss cause im not a hoe and im saving it.
is that soo wrong. and if i do kiss someone. would it all just come soo much more naturally?

You're not wrong at all. There's nothing wrong with saving your first kiss for someone special. When you do kiss someone, it will come naturally.

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Hey All.

My boyfriend is coming over in a few hours, and we have to stay outside. He will only be here for about an hour. He has a car, and he can drive, but we can't go anywhere. What are some things that we could do? (like games or w/e not nasty stuff)

Thanks in advance!

I'll rate and leave feedback, if that helps!

Oh, Its our 18month anniversery today, too.

-SLeK-

You can have a picnic outside. It doesn't have to be a full meal, just a snack, or even ice cream or something along those lines. If you have a camera, take some pictures. See if you can take a walk around the neighborhood, and just talk. Have fun!

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Ok i like this dude we call Mouse. My "friend" Gail is totally obsessed with him and loves him to death and has for like 4 years. The thing is, they have never went out, and he can't stand her! he told me and all his friends earlier that he can't stand her cuz she tries to control who he likes and who he dates and she freaks out on anyone he likes or dates so that they get scared off. then he told me on the way home that he likes me and yea i defenitly like him ...a lot! and anyways, Gail said that she isn't going to stop me if i wanna go out with him and that she won't get mad at me. but Louann says that since Gail is my friend I shouldn't go out with Mouse. and that if I did go out with Mouse then she (Louann) would get mad at me and either hurt me or not talk to me (unless its yelling) ever again. but yea, i really really really really like Mouse.....how can i get Louann to accept that me and Mouse wanna go out???

Just talk to her, tell her what Gail said and tell her how you feel. If she doesn't accept it, then oh well. You really don't need her approval to go out with him.

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i think that i am starting to have feelings for my best guy friend. he seems flirty towards me but i dont know if it is cause he likes me or cause we are such good friends...i dont know what to do.
THANKS!!

It's possible that he likes you, but you should definitely think about things before you have a more serious relationship with him. If you two are good friends, you don't want to ruin that relationship.

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ok. i have this boyfriend who i really like. thing is other people dont like him. well some people do but most people just dont. and im sick and tired of hearing this people. and i just feel like punchin them sometimes because if a friends of mine had a boyfriend that i dont like i dont go around saying it. PLEASE help do something about this. im so confused :(

Who cares what they say? If you like him, then nothing else should matter. The next time they tell you that they don't like your boyfriend, just say OK and move on with your life. Don't give them attention that they want. Eventually, they're just going to get bored that you aren't responding.

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My boyfriend and I are going to seperate schools next year and I think its going to be hard to stay in touch alot but we both really want to stay together because we love each other alot.. does anyone have any tips that will keep us from drifting apart?

Try and plan lots of times you can get together. Go to the mall, go to the movies, hang out at each others houses.

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I really hope you can help me. Okay, there's this guy that I really, really, really like, but the problem is..he barely knows I exist and he probably already has a girlfriend. I seriously need to move on, but how?

xoxo
Jessica

I have definitely been in that position before. The best thing to do is to stop thinking about him so much. Start getting involved in other activities, and it wouldn't help to start getting to know another guy who really likes you better. Knowing that you can get better and deserve better really helped me. What's the point in wasting your time?
Thank you for the question, and feel free to send me something else if you need help. xo- Kristen

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OK so there's thig guy I like. I've liked him for like3 or 4 years. Now he met this girl whos like completley gorgeous and they make out and stuff like all the time. I think he might like her. I think he knows I like him, but what do I do?

I'd just forget about him for now. Yeah, it'll be a hard thing to do, but if he's interested in someone else, there's virtually no point in getting involved right now. You can't really make someone like you, it has to happen on its own.

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Me and my boyfriend went to the movies last week. Just me and him.

He probably expected a little more to happen when you went to his house. Maybe you should talk with him and see what's up. If he keeps on pressuring you or just talking about it, then definitely dump him, because that means he's just using you. But if he really cares about you, he should respect your decision. Good luck.

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I am 17 years old and last july 28th 2004 i started going out with this boy, after like a month I broke up with him bc i didnt think that i liked him anymore. Now, like a year later all i do is think about him, and when i talk to him i get butterflies, but yet at the same time, i look at him and think im over him, it's really confusing. Now he has a gf and were kind of friends now. i dont know what to do im so confused. idk if i should tell him i like him or jus let it ride....help me plzz!

You could talk to him, and just tell him how you feel. You have to realize though that nothing may happen because he has a girlfriend and the decision of going out again really comes down to him. If he doesn't want to go out with you again, then I'd just take it easy for a while. Don't push anything on him, just make it known that you like him. Good luck, and thank you for the question. Feel free to write back anytime.

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i'm 15 and i'm not "offically" with this guy but we act like a couple and last week i was on vacation & he told me he fooled around with this girl (on my birthday) and said it meant nothing. he begged me for a 2nd chance so i gave in. and now hes on vacation; so hes been calling me every night except last night for some reason? and i looked at his myspace today & his EX-gf commented saying how much she misses him & wants him to come home b/c she misses talking to him eventhough he called her .. and i just dont know what to think or do anymore ?! helpppp

Hmm.. Are you willing to go through a relationship with someone who already fooled around with a girl? Don't jump to conclusions regarding his ex-girlfriend just yet.
I think you should sit down and talk to him before you venture into a relationship with him.

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my friend just told me she was talking to my boyfriend ont he hpone and he told her he didnt really like me anymore =[ and i kno shes not lieing cause like i dont kno you can just tell and cause the way hes been atcing . and knowing him he won't tell me this for like a week and i dont kno what to do

You should really sit down and talk with him. Find out exactly what's going on. You're in a relationship with him; you guys should be open towards each other,

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my situation iz very complicated....my best friend talks to thiz guy that i really like (they're really close)and he tellz her all these really sweet n things about my...he even wrote me a song...but hez really shy to ask me out....finally on our graduation he told my friend to tell mi if i wanted to go out with him i told her to tell him that i sed yes...but im not sure i made the right decision cuz he hasnt called mi should i call him??

I think you should definitely call him. Straighten things out, make sure he knows that you said yes to him. Maybe he's still a little shy. Thanks for the question.

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im asking you this because your a dancer and im a dancer and frankly i think dancers have the most sense in life haha anywho
okay well..ive liked this guy steven for almost 5 years now..he's like perfect..only problem being that we dont go to the same school..and now he likes me back..but recently ive been talking to this other guy and im starting to fall really hard for him..i mean hes jsut as great as steven even having bonous points by going to both my school and church. should i go the safe route with steven or risk it all for this new guy?

You said it. Are you willing to risk losing Steven to go out with this other guy? You have to really think about which boy you like more. You probably know Steven a little better. Are you going to be able to have a better relationship with him? Or is the "distance" going to get to be too much? It's not a decision I can make for you; you need to really think about how you feel.
Thank you for the question, and send another iof you need anything else! ♥ Kristen

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