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Is this OK?
I am 15 my bf is 16. I know he doesn't have a lot of money and I was wondering, do you think it is OK if I offer to pay sometimes? I don't want to hurt his feelings or make him mad. Should I ask him about it?
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Awwww!!! That would be so sweet of you! Of course it's fine if you pay!! I always insist on paying also!! Say, if you go out to dinner, wait until he mentions the payment, or pulls out his wallet. Then just flag his hand down and say, "Oh, I'll take care of it". Or if it's some spontaneous snack splurge... say something like, "Wanna go to Dairy Queen?? It's on me!" This is how I go about it. It's fairly simple, and completely acceptable for the woman to pick up the check these days. And I wouldn't assume he would be offended or angered, but I'm shore if he is.. he will say something. [:
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I dont see the big deal in a girl paying. For guys its a pride thing. If they dont have enough money to pay for their girl they feel t hat they are letting them down or something because its their job. Talk to him about it and see how he feels, just say that you dont want him using his money and its alright you can pay sometimes, no big deal.
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um dont try to say it in a mean way- say stuff like-
when he reaches for the check be like-
"hey, you always pay, lemme treat this time..."
or if your kinda "fighting over the check" (meaning-" no let me pay.." "no i insist.." blah blah ect...)-
" lets split it..."
or
" its fine- ill get it this time, you can get it next time..."
if you want you can work out a system like- you pay every other time...or any variation...
hope i helped
muchh lovve
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some guys think that its their responsibility to pay.. but its rele not.. so like if your at dinner or w/e when the check comes be like hey you pay all the time i'ma get this one.. dont do it all the time just every once in a while.. hope i helped.. xoxo
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Heck, offer to pay all the time. He'll enjoy it.
I appreciate that.
I mean if he paid all the time, that'd make him the dominant one in the relationship, and you wouldn't want that would you?
So just make it a level playing ground ya know?
Guys know girls like to pay sometimes so it shouldn't be a biggie.
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yea sometimes when you go out...you can be like.."tonights my treat" you know? but dont be like.."yeah i think i should pay tonight" it just sounds weird. I think its cute if you guys act more like friends then a couple....it'll make your "bond" stronger
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if i were you...this is what i would say/do:
**ex: you guys are out, eating at some diner/restaurant, when the check comes...and he starts to get out his money...**
"no no, cmon, i'll pay this time...you pay for everything all the time and...idk i feel like selfish for not even offering to pay half!..." and maybe add in something like "how about we alternate paying...or just each of us pay half everytime...that way i don't feel bad =]"
hope i helped.
--martha
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Hey Hun! I think its ok if you pay sometimes because I pay sometimes because my boyfriend doesnt have a job and doesnt have alot of money and I have a job so I offer to pay sometimes.
Hope I Helped!
Britt
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I think it's perfectly fine if you pay for it. I don't think you necessarily need to ask, just say you've got the bill. If he absolutely insists, he can leave a tip at a restaurant, and/or buy some popcorn at the movies, for example. But I think it's perfectly fine; there is nothing wrong with it at all.
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YYa ofcourse it's ok...guys like it when girls offer to pay sometimes..let him traet you sometimes but offer to split the meal every one in a while or pay for your own movie ticket! ♥
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NO!!!! Don't ask him about it! Go for it and pay! I'm sure he appreciates it. I pay for my boyfriend alot of times and NEITHER of us have money. It's okay for the girl to pay. I hate those stupid rules that a guy is always supposed to pay. SCREW THAT! I think it's stupid. It's nice if the girl pays once in a while. You won't hurt his feelings or make him mad, I PROMISE. He really would appreciate it though. If he questions it just say you pay all the time and I wanted to do something nice =)
But it's PERFECTLY fine to pay once in a while.
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aww thats perfectly fine!! the whole guy pays for everything is just old. guys only pay for the first few dates. after everything is official. the girl pays sometimes or they just both pay for themselves. dont worry about it! i dont know if you should bring it up because you might embarrass him. if you two are really close with each other that might be better. but its your choice = )
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