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I am 15 my bf is 16. I know he doesn't have a lot of money and I was wondering, do you think it is OK if I offer to pay sometimes? I don't want to hurt his feelings or make him mad. Should I ask him about it? (link)
some guys think that its their responsibility to pay.. but its rele not.. so like if your at dinner or w/e when the check comes be like hey you pay all the time i'ma get this one.. dont do it all the time just every once in a while.. hope i helped.. xoxo


I think I'm scaring my crush... she's not showing any signs, but that's just so far. I mean, first, I told her how much I love her. Then, I asked her to the fair. Then, I wrote a song about her, and anyone who knows me knows that I can't write songs for my life! I think maybe soon she'll get scared off, but these things are just bugging me, and I feel like I'll keep thinking about her until I do something for her. Please help! (link)
a girl likes to hear how much a guy loves her ((i would kno i'm the same way)) and fairs could be fun with the right person.. but a song about her that would kinda scare me a lil... i think you should lose the whole writing songs for her thing... hope i helped some..

xoxo,
Courtney


my friend is giving me a really hard time, because i didn't go somewhere with her, she makes fun of me and my myspace http://www.myspace.com/x333333

and she makes fun of me because she really doesn't know me... like she makes fun of that i don't have a bf at the moment, she acts like my time keeper, she schedules things for me, she hurts me, and she gets me in trouble, ALOT.. so how can i make her calm down and stay the way we were or not? help mee!!

o and yeah, she really REALLY needs some help, i didnt go somewhere with her and she is like "you know what? im never talking to you, dont call me, dont im me anymore, and dont even think about me, or visit my myspace, or even look at my things, i sware to god, if you do, you won't be alive by the next day" so she really needs help, badlyy, MENTLE PROBLEMS? maybey?

x0o PLEASE HELP MEEE PLEASE!!!


form - - being bullied (link)
Okay i say.. ditch her.. listen to wut she said dont talk to her dont have anything to do with her.. its not right for someone to treat you like that.. i wouldnt take that from anyone and i dont think you should.. so i think it would be a good idea for you to just steer clear from her..


*Hope I Helped*



I have this friend thats my neighbor and ive known him all my life pretty much and like we used to be unseparable ((spelling)) and now like since i got a little older and he got more into his baseball and paintball its like were fading apart and i just dont want that to happen because i would die for him if it came down to that and i juss REALLY dont wanna lose him cuz hes like the little brother i never had,,,does anyone have any suggestions on what i could do to help this friendship?!?

I rate HIGH if you can help! (link)
ask him to do some stuff.. and go fishin with him i kno he likes to fish ((i kno him)) and talk to him on here when hes on..




Ok..My friend Max brought this friend with him to my house and like to where we work and everything and like my and his friend, MarC, had a connection you know like I'd known him my WHOLE life and like we were best friends or something and like at the end of the summer he has to go back home to GA and i live in NC and im worried that ill never see him again or talk to him or nething is there anything i can do to like keep in touch since it would be too far to call all the time and im not sure if he has a computer?!?

I rate HIGH! (link)
okay.. you can see how things go but at the end of summer if he dont got a cp write to him n use your cell to call every once in a while.. you kno how it be.. call me if you needs nemore help you kno the number


I work my abs a lot, and I definitely have a 6 pack underneath my stubborn belly fat. Im a normal weight for my age and height, Im 14/f/5'5" and 129 lbs. I'm a little chubby in my lower stomach and I dont know how do get rid of it and let my abs show. I can feel the muscles underneath but i cant see them. I'll rate high (link)
a way to get rid of unwanted fat it drink water and eat things with water in them like cucumbers and carrots..


iok yesterday i went to my friends house and she told me there was a guy that looked like a guy that i used to like and had the name of my ex. so i wanted to see him.. nothin else. but then my friends cousin hooked us up and i dont even noe the guy i would have said no but her cousin told him i liked him. the problem is he is 20 and i am well 14.. he didnt care about the age but i have a clsoe guy friend that i like a lot we are planning to hook up we just have to find a way to see each other more. (he lives 15 min. away) and my friend is 15.. i want to give this guy a chance because he was all sweet to me but i think the only reason why he asked me out was 4 my looks. but we were taking pictures and he had his hands all over me and he didnt even noe me. here is what i would like to noe:

*should i give him a chance? if not how can i break it to him but still wanting to get to noe him better?

*should i tell my guy friend about this?
i want to tell my guy friend but he thinks i dont like him which isnt true i tell him i like all the time and he does the same to me..

thanks! (link)
i dont think that you should give the 20 year old guy a chance.. to me he sounds like a major perv.. but i think you should tell your guy friend about it i mean its not right to keep things from your friends but remind him how you feel about him.. hope this *helps*


k.. i really love this kid john, he loves me alot too. but hes going away for 2 nd a half weeks, he said he was gonna ask me out in augest the begniging (sp). should i wait for him to ask me out? or should i just TRY to get over him?

i rate high. =)

x.O.x. c.o.n.f.u.s.e.d x.O.x (link)
if you rele love him and he loves you it will be worth the wait.. love takes time and you have to be patient.. it wont be easy i kno.. my boyfriend that i love more than anything has been gone for hte past 2 weeks, just got home at like 3 today, and is leaving for another 2 weeks in the morning but i'll wait for him because i love him((almost 5 months is not gonna go to waste because hes been gone alot this summer))and if you truely love this guy you should wait too..


there are these 3 guys. 1 i like and sorta likes me, 1 that likes me that i just think of as a friend, and 1 that likes me ane i like him. i'm confused on what to do because i feel stupid waiting around for guy number one when i know nothing will ever happen and i really like the third guy. what should i do wait around for guy number one who is really shy and wont make any moves or go for the third guy who will make the moves and is a little more confident and i know likes me? (link)
if you kno nothing is ever gonna happen with guy 1 let it go and on the other 2 fallow your heart..which ever one you choose will be a very lucky guy ;)



My best friends in the world, Kayla & Bridget are always good to me. But lately, Bridget hasen't been. She hangs out with a lot of other girls who are mean, and doesn't act like her old self. I have no idea what's going on, and Kayla is away to New York for the WHOLE summer and i miss much [i live in virginia]

I rate high!!!! (link)
I think you sould talk to your friend Bridget.. ask her why she is changing.. but be careful how you say things though because if it comes out the wrong way she may get mad.. and on the whole missing Kayla thing.. just think about all the great times you have had together and look forward to her coming home!!

hope i helped


Hey guys!! Okay I have a really confusing conflict! I am going out with this guy and I like him a lot and he is a great kisser! but I just found out he cheated on me. and he is the kinda guy that doesnt seem like he cares so I dont know if he cares about me. ok I like his friend, we have talked a lot and I know he cares and I know he wouldnt cheat on me....I dont know if I want to break up with My boyfriend and go out with his friend or if I should stay with my boyfriend and see how things go?! PLEASE HELP!! I need all the help I can get!! (link)
If your boyfriend cheated on you and acts like he doesnt rele care about you i think you should break up with him.. but if he still cares about you and shows you he is sorry and that it was a HUGE mistake and that he would never do it again i think you should give him another chance but if he rele doesnt care i think it should end b4 anyone else gets hurt ..



Ok i just met this guy a little bit ago and i have just startd to have feelings for him but there are some problems he is 19 and i'm 15 and he doesnt know i like him but i want to tell him...and but i dont think he will be interestd cuz of the age what should i do?? (link)
I think you should tell him.. age rele shouldnt matter unless its like a huge amount and in your case its not.. i have a friend who just graduated high school and is engaged but she is engaged to someone about 6 years older than her..6 years difference not rele my thing but they are a great couple and i think you should let the guy kno how you feel and if the age thing bothers him then you can still be friends


Theres this guy and he is 16 and sometimes i think i have feelings for him lyk a boyfriend but then i dont.....he likes me and he said he wanted to screw me and i told him id let him but i dont know if i would let him because im only 12 and loosing my virginity at my age seems a lil to fast but i feel ready, and i think i want to?? should I??
~Clueless~ (link)
I think your too young right now to do something like that.. i'm about your age and i wouldnt do that yet.. and the guy should understand and if he doesnt then he doesnt care enough about you to understand you..


i kinda have a crush on two guys and both of them like me.. and i hang out with both of thema nd flirt with them. and my friends tld them both i like them and i feel like i'm leading them both on. they're two entirely different people too, but i'm attracted to both of them,eve though i don't realy know them. what should i do? (link)
I think you should get to kno both of the guys more.. and when you kno them both more you will be able to tell which one you like better..

*hope i helped*


I'm like a hugeeee tomboy. Like I wear long shorts and football jerseys. Im 14 and going into highschool, never had a boyfriend. Will i ever get a boyfriend. I mean, i dont wear makeup, and im big bulky and muscular. I want a bf, but i think maybe they are intimidated by me. Changing the way i am is NOT an option, i like who i am. PLEASE HELP. (link)
you'll get a boyfriend.. you just have to be patient there is someone out there for everyone.. and you dont need to change for any guy if they dont like you for who you are then screw them.. but keep your eyes open there is a guy out there for you.. hope you find him soon!


I have a new boyfriend & he's my first. He tried to kiss me the other day & I was ready but I was worried I wouldn't know what I was doing. I made an excuse that I had a sore throat. Obviously, I do not want to have to do this forever so does anyone with experience have any kissing tips to give me (a first timer).

Thanks,
Elle (link)
i understand where your coming from.. i was terrified when i got my first kiss.. but just go with it your body knows wut to do and as you do it more you wont be so scared!



I really like my new boyfriend alot. He's my first & we have a great time together. However, I'm deathly afraid of a broken heart. I know I should live a little & not be afraid but I can't help it. Now I have the urge to break things off with him before he breaks up with me. What should I do? Can anyone who's experienced lend a helping hand?

Thank You! (link)
don't break up with your boyfriend because you are scared of getting a broken heart.. i have had my boyfriend for 5 months now and i love him more than anything and we have fought b4 and i have been terrified i was goin to get my heart crushed but i never broke up with him if i would have i wouldnt have known how things could have been and i didnt want to wonder that for the rest of my life and i dont think you would either... if you break up with your boyfriend now you could be missing out on a lot of great times with him..

*HopeThisHelped*


what age/grade will your friends start to act more mature, and start being more than just someone to laugh with. you know, when will it be easier to find that one true friend, cause i'm pretty young, and i dont think anyone is that mature enough that they are the kind of friend that will give you a shoulder to lean on when your sad, or you can call anytime just 2 talk, you know that kind of stuff. does anyone know what age> (link)
most ppl start to mature more in middle school.. i'm still in middle school(last year there) and i have matured a lot over the past 2 years now i have friends i can call cryin and they will listen and be there for me..


so theres this boy at my old school and we were like best friends and then his weird girlfriends always got in our way so he pushed me off. so i gave him the cold shoulder. then he calls me and asked me if he could go out with my (old)bestfriend and i guess they were talking behind my back and it really pissed me off. so i started balling on the phone and just hung up. then we started talking again and im over him but he was crushing on me. and now he has this new girl and i havent talked to him for like 2 months. he has totally forgot me. what should i do? (link)
.. i think you should call the guy and ask him why he is blowing you off.. he may not realise he is and if you let him know about it he can try harder to talk to you and pay more attention to you..and after you ask him if he still doesnt change then just let it go..

*HopeThisHelps*


my friend is lee and i have ben crushing on him on and off all year and he asked me out earlier this summer but i rudley said NO! and my mom was like who is that and she was like aww taylor but i mean she hates me going out with guys she hasnt meet ....she has only meet him once and that was in 6th grade ... so i didnt wanna say yea and my friend was at my house when it happend and im like really popular along with all my firends ! and hes not that popular! so i didnt want my friends to be like EW! and well we started talking again and like he says he will kall me then he doesnt! it bothers me! but he broke up for his gurlfriend for me!!! and i was like you didnt have to do that cuz i didnt want me 2 lead him more cuz i dont like him as much as he likes me but he was my first kiss in 6th grade ! and i am begaining to like him more and more !!!but im afraid if we go out again he will just dump me because wut his friends say ...he says i am one of the hottest gurls ever!!! but i dunno ! help me!

please answer these questions !
A: do you think i shold go out with him
B: is it wrong for me to get up set when he doesnt kall snice were not goin out!
C Do you think i sould be scard to go go in this relation ship because of bein dumped !!


*THX* *I* *RATE* *HIGH*

*Tacy* (link)
a:i persOnally think yOu shOuld gO Out with the guy.. sOunds 2 me like yOu want 2 but the Only reasOn yOur nOt is because Of yOur friends.. but if they were yOur tru friends they wOuldnt care whO yOu dated
b:nO i dOnt think it is wrOng fOr you 2 get upset abOut him nOt calling when he said he wOuld.. when sOmeOne says they are gOnna call they shOuld call i dOnt care wut they are 2 yOU
c:NO!!!! yOu shOuld never be afraid 2 be in a relatiOnship because yOu are afraid of getting dumped.. if yOu dO get dumped then i guess it wasnt ment to be.. but yOu atleast gOtta see how things cOuld have been

*hopeSomeOfThisHelped*




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