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Relationship
I really like my new boyfriend alot. He's my first & we have a great time together. However, I'm deathly afraid of a broken heart. I know I should live a little & not be afraid but I can't help it. Now I have the urge to break things off with him before he breaks up with me. What should I do? Can anyone who's experienced lend a helping hand?
Thank You!
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The only reason that you should be afraid of having your heart broken is if you feel that your relationship with your boyfriend is not strong. If you think that everything is going great, then there is no reason to be afraid of a broken heart. Believe it or not, some guys are into long term relationships and will hold on to their girlfriend for a while. If you two have a strong relationship, then there is no need to worry about him breaking up with you, so you don't need to break up with the guy. If you're really worried, then maybe talk to him for reassurance that he's still really into you. However, if you feel like the relationship is going downhill, talk to your boyfriend... and if you really feel that you should break up and you're afraid of having your heart broken, then break up with him. But it sounds like you don't have to worry about that right now. just enjoy your relationship... don't worry about it unless you feel something is wrong. I hope that helps!! Ask me for anything else!
~Jackie
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I know exactly how you feel. I goin through the same thing. I just got a new boyfriend a couple weeks ago too and he's always been seen as the "playa" type, so I'm kinda skeptical bout getting a broken heart too. So this is my advice to you: if he treats you like your a queen and he's seem very faithful to you and only you, then you have nothing to worry about, but if you start seein signs like: 1. He starts talking to other girls to you 2. He starts hangin out wit his boys more then you 3. The hugs and kisses come down to a little 4. Doesn't call you anymore....etc. That means something is going on and you need to ask him what's going on. If he answers like any other guy and says "nothing" then you need to get out of the relationship.
Hopefully this can help you!
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i used to be the same way but then it all changed heres how: well you have to trust that he'll be good to ur heart if you cant breaking up could be the last resort. but dont let it get to that. it may hurt if he breaks up with you but with all the good times you guys have had together it'll be totally worth it. if you waste your time worrrying about it it'll get worse. just dont worry about it and trust him when it comes to breaking up and only if it ever does, then you can worry but until then relax and have a good time with him. lifes to short to worry. let me kno how it goes bye
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I had my first boyfriend 2 months ago. We really loved eachother too, and he broke things off. Dont get me wrong, it HURT a lot, but u know what shakespear said "It is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all." And the awesome thing is that its true. I wouldnt give up one of the amazign memories i had with him just to stop that pain. Plus, if you brake up with him now you'll probably spend the rest of your life thinking about how things would have gone if u didnt break things off. So yea, it hurts...but the hurt is WAY worth.
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don't break up with your boyfriend because you are scared of getting a broken heart.. i have had my boyfriend for 5 months now and i love him more than anything and we have fought b4 and i have been terrified i was goin to get my heart crushed but i never broke up with him if i would have i wouldnt have known how things could have been and i didnt want to wonder that for the rest of my life and i dont think you would either... if you break up with your boyfriend now you could be missing out on a lot of great times with him..
*HopeThisHelped*
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You have to ask yourself. Why do you fear a broken heart? I mean if you have a great time together and stuff then how can you fear the worst? I have been there though and I won't critisise.From experience, what you have to do is talk to him about how you feel and explain why. I mean a lot of relationships fall down because of lack of communication. Make sure you don't fall to this demon! If he accepts you're worry and reasoning and talks yuou through then take it from there and enjoy good times. No-one can predict the future so don't worry about it. Live life to the full everyday and take each day sas it comes. It's natural to fear but jus try too loosen off a little and jus have fun. But talk to him about it! And best of luck with it all!
Hope i helped,
Anthony
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I know the feeling of being afraid of being dumped although, if you really like him you shouldnt dump him. If you too are right for eah other then you will last awhile. Plus my first boyfriend sounds like yours, i was afraid, but he didnt break up with me we decided together that it was time to date other people. It wasnt horrible at all. Trust me it wont be as bad as it sounds. If he starts to act like he is going to dump you just talk to him about it !! I REALLY HOPE I HELPED! PLEASE RATE!~!~!
-BabiK
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