Hey!! My name is Jackie and I'm a senior in high school! I love giving people advice, and I promise this won't just be the things you want to hear... I will tell you what I really think!! Thanks for checking out my column!! Feel free to ask me anything!!
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Ok... i see my boyfriend every day for at least 3 hours or so... well he works during the week...
is it weird that i miss him all day?
people tell me i'm too dependent on him but i just love him
and i miss him (link)
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It's npt weird that you miss him.... my bf works everyday from morning till like 10 at night... so I know how you feel. I'm very lucky if I get to spend a whole day with him. You are not too dependent... you just like being around him and you love him, so obviously you are gonna miss him when he's not around. Try and keep yourself busy while he's gone. Hang out with your friends or something.
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ok for the second half of my summer i want to keep summer going good..any ideas on what me and my friends can do to make this summer memorable?
thanks!
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I have a few fun ideas...
-bon fires-make s'mores, roast hot dogs... etc.
-camp out... even if it's in someone's back yard
-get a bunch of people together and have water balloon fights... also slip n' slides are fun
-go to a water park or an amusement park for a day
-go to a beach or lake if there is one nearby
-the zoo is always fun
-Go cruising if someone has a car... turn up the music and have fun!
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Does shaving your legs make your skin rough and make the hair grow darker? I've been using many other products like exfoliators that don't work, and my parents refuse to buy me a hair removal cream because of the excess of chemicals. I want to shave my legs, but I don't want the hair to be coarse and dark. Is this a myth? Should I shave? My hair is already really dark, because I have black hair... (link)
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Whether you shave, wax, or use hair removal cream... most likely your hair will grow back the same way. It may not be dark and thick... it depends on the person. If you have dark hair and tend to be harier than others (I know, that sounded weird!) then it probably will grow back dark and thick, but it shouldn't be any darker or thicker than it was before you shaved it. Besides, you shave it off anyway, so who will know what your leg hair looks like. Shaving is a pain in the butt and is a lot of work... but we all do it and there really isn't an easier way... except like laser removal... but anyways, I hope that helped!
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I really like my new boyfriend alot. He's my first & we have a great time together. However, I'm deathly afraid of a broken heart. I know I should live a little & not be afraid but I can't help it. Now I have the urge to break things off with him before he breaks up with me. What should I do? Can anyone who's experienced lend a helping hand?
Thank You! (link)
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The only reason that you should be afraid of having your heart broken is if you feel that your relationship with your boyfriend is not strong. If you think that everything is going great, then there is no reason to be afraid of a broken heart. Believe it or not, some guys are into long term relationships and will hold on to their girlfriend for a while. If you two have a strong relationship, then there is no need to worry about him breaking up with you, so you don't need to break up with the guy. If you're really worried, then maybe talk to him for reassurance that he's still really into you. However, if you feel like the relationship is going downhill, talk to your boyfriend... and if you really feel that you should break up and you're afraid of having your heart broken, then break up with him. But it sounds like you don't have to worry about that right now. just enjoy your relationship... don't worry about it unless you feel something is wrong. I hope that helps!! Ask me for anything else!
~Jackie
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what age/grade will your friends start to act more mature, and start being more than just someone to laugh with. you know, when will it be easier to find that one true friend, cause i'm pretty young, and i dont think anyone is that mature enough that they are the kind of friend that will give you a shoulder to lean on when your sad, or you can call anytime just 2 talk, you know that kind of stuff. does anyone know what age> (link)
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well, I think it just depends on your friends. Some girls are really mature for their age. But I developed a really close relationships with my friends my Junior year in high school. We've laughed together, and we've even cried together. We share our most personal feelings and we all respect each other. So maybe you'll find a friendship like this sometime in high school. Girls seem to be a lot more trustworthy and caring when they are a little bit older.
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i like a girl older than me but i am afraid to talk to her. (link)
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Well, first of all... it sounds like you have to change your mind set. You can't show that you are afraid to talk to her. Just be confident... and you shouldn't care what anyone else thinks of you or what she thinks of you. Don't be afraid that she'll think you are weird or something like that. You just have to be confident and be yourself. Next time you see this girl look confident and stand up tall... maybe if you don't want to talk to her right away just smile and wave or something. When you finally think you can talk to her, keep your confidence up and approach her. Just be like "hey, how's it goin? I think I know you from...." ask her how her summer's been, what she's been up to... if she seems into you (smiles when talking, touches you when talking, looks into your eyes, seems flirty) then go on and ask for her number or sn or something. I really hope this helps! Your question was kinda broad... so if you need any more advice on this just ask me... thanks sooo much!
~Jackie~
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Ok, i had a boyfriend and we were totally in love, but we barely saw eachother (once or twice a month) because we both went to different schools and were in all honors and ap classes (aka TONS of hw). In the end he ended up breaking up with me because "I love you, but i really cant b attached to someone right now." We still ended up being best friends, but about a week ago he told me that he had never told his mom about us breaking up, and i asked him y. He told me that it was because he still loved me (after 2 months), and that he could never take down the picture of us that i gave him for valentines. We're going to the same school next year, and he wants to get back together then....should i go for it because i love him...or just not put the used gum back in my mouth? (link)
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I don't see why you wouldn't go for it. You love him... he loves you... I don't see a problem here. It sounds like the two of you have an incredible relationship because you are able to love each other even though you barely ever see each other at all. It might be better this year, too because you are going to the same school which means you might have more time to see eachother. It sounds like you guys are really in love and i don't have any doubts that you should get back together with him. Good luck with everything... I hope it all works out!
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ok so here it is.....
i really like this guy and i have known him for about a year know. He likes one of my friends and he always tells me how much he likes her. I dont know what i should do. Should i give up and move on or stick in there and hold on to him??
please help me
Thankx* (link)
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If you really like this guy you can't give up on him. Does he know how you feel about him? Maybe if he knew that you liked him he may express some good feelings towards you. Either tell him that you like him yourself, or have one of your friends do it (but not the one that he likes). Also, when you talk to him look for signs to see if he is interested in you. He will touch you when he talks to you, look into your eyes when you talk, scratch his head or throat when he's talking to you... little things like that. If you feel that he's into you then go for him. If you don't think he likes you after he finds out that you do, then just move on. You are still young, and there are so many guys out there. So good luck with this... i hope this advice helps!!
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what type of oil do u use for blueberry tart pie!?!?!?!?!?!? im so torn (link)
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BABY OIL.... it's good for the soul!
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i have a bf of 2 weeks..for the 1st week we talked all the time on the phone and stuff but then we just stopped..we talk ocasionaly on the computer and stuff but not alot like most couples..i still like him but going out with him isnt as great as i imagained..he always seemes irrated by me and i dunno if thats just his guy tone..i dunno if i should break up with him and see what else is out there..im just scared b.c i love the idea of having a bf and dunno if ill find some else
plz help/ill rate (link)
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You said that you liked the idea of having a bf and are afraid you won't find someone else... I think that you shouldn't be going out with a guy just because you are scared there is no one else. A bf is someone who you really care about and love hanging out with. The feeling should be mutual, too... he should love hanging out with you as much as you do with him. So maybe you should talk to him and see if he really likes you and if not, then call it off. Also, if you don't really feel that strongly about him, then break up with him. Don't go out with him just so you can have a boyfriend. Find someone who you really like.
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does anyone know any shampoos/conditioners that make your hair like really silky??? i use pantene but my hair like got used to it and it doesnt work very well anymore... 5 for good answers... (link)
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I use Garnier Fructis sleek and shine shampoo and conditioner... they also have stuff that you put in your hair after you shower that makes it silky. It really works, and it's cheap.
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Thers a kid named Cam, and he spends every summer at his cousins house, kyle, who happens to be my neighbor. So last summer he liked me alot and I didnt know it because I liked someone else. Then when summer ended I found out and started being OBSESSED with him. But he didnt like me anymore! Then in February he went over kyle's and I had two friends over, so Cam, kyle, my two friends, and I hung out. And at the end of the night kyle told me that Cam didnt really wanna go out with me because he didnt think I would do stuff with him. And I got pissed, so I confronted Cam and told him how shallow that was, then he got mad and blocked me and we didnt talk for about 4 months. Last Sunday he went over kyle's and we hung out and kyle told me he liked me again! But I dont know if I shoul;d like him back cuz I dont wanna get hurt. what do I do? (link)
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I hate to tell you this, but it sounds like if he does go out with you it would be just to do "stuff" with you. He wouldn't like you for who you are because he's hung up on doing stuff. I was in this situation a couple times and I just decided to move on. This guy obviously isn't worth your time... you can do a lot better than him. You need a guy who will appreciate you for who you are... not how well you make out or how far you'll go. So, try and forget about him, because most likely he will hurt you.
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why is my ex trying to ruin the relationship im in with my new boyfriend robby?? i mean i dont like my ex and he has a girlfriend so why is he doing this to me?? (link)
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I can think of countless people who this same thing has happened to. Guys tend to get really jealous even after a relationship with a girl. He is probably just upset about the break up and can't stand to see you with another guy, so he is being immature by trying to ruin your new realationship. This is completely typical of guys... pretty much every guy I know has done this to friends of mine they have gone out with. Just don't let it bother you and ignore your ex... don't let him see that you are upset about it (if you even are). He will feel like a loser for being so selfish, and he will eventually stop bothering you. Just remember that this is his problem, because he can't stand to see you with another guy. Just ignore him and he will eventually quit.
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ok so this guy i like named sean. moved away. and he has this friend that he meet and he asked me out. and sean told him that he asked out his g/f which was me. and we are not even going out. so it was weird. and then sean calls back and we started talking. and he told me he had a date...i was like o ok. and i hung up. should i feel heartbroken b/c i do. about this. i mean i no we weren't going out or anything but it still brought me down. plz help me. (link)
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It is perfectly normal if you are feeling heartbroken about this. You liked the guy and he liked you and then he went out with another girl. What girl wouldn't be upset about this? You are probably just sad because it is hard for you to see him liking someone else besides yourself. This would be hard for any girl to see. You just have to realize that he has moved away and he has decided to move on with his life and his relationships. Since the two of you weren't going out, he figured it was okay to go out with this girl. Just remember that you couldn't expect this guy to move away and be stuck on you forever. He was bound to move on, and you should too. I know it's hard to get over this guy, but try your best to meet some new guys or have fun with your friends. You deserve to move on too, even though it may seem difficult at first. So hold your head up high and go out and have fun, because you have your whole life ahead of you... who knows who you may run into next?
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hi! i am seth i am really confuzed with myself right now.i want to be straight again ireally dont understand myself right now i have recently had a boi friend and dated a girl afterwards that tried to help me become straight because she thought that she could. hahahahahahahahaha and now I STILL LIKE GUYS!!!!!!!!!!!! i dont kno why i want to get over it and start likeing girls again i dont kno how. i kno that it is against gods word and i want to go to heaven when i die, and i want to make my family happy. they dont exactly kno about me but i cant say that i havent thought about telling them. they think i am the highlight of their life they think i am lil mr perfect cuz i make straight a's and all that #@*% but there are many things i hide from them that r not good. i hope that some one can help me understand myself and try to help me become straight or watever i am........ thanks alot !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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This is a very tough problem. It sounds like you really really want to be straight, but when you try it doesn't work. It probably doesn't work because you aren't straight and maybe that's the way it was meant to be. I know that this isn't the answer you want to hear, but it sounds like there is nothing you can do about this. You just have to accept yourself for who you are and be proud of it. The worst thing you can do is be ashamed of yourself for liking guys. I know that you wanted me to come up with some answer to help you to not be gay, but the thing is... i can't tell you how to like girls. You like guys and that's the way it is and nothing will change that. As for your parents... they love you and I'm sure that they will support you whether you are gay or straight. At first, it may be a shock to them and it may be hard for them to accept, but they still love you and being gay isn't going to change that. So accept yourself for who you are and don't try to change just to please other people. Stay confident and stay true to who you are, because you are an incredible person.
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Can anyone give me ways(or signals) to tell if a boy likes you? (link)
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If a guy likes you he will most likely stare at you from across the room, look interested when you are talking to him (his eyes will stay focused on yours), he will find excuses or ways to touch you or poke you, he will tease you a little bit,he will try and make small talk, he will position himself to be facing you when your sitting in class
Hope that helps... if you have anything else to ask just let me know!!
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ok i have to decide which highschool to go to next year. first i am going to tell you a lil about the first highschool. this highschool is what you call a ghetto highschool it is full of gangs. it has a bad reputation and used to have cops there. the good thing about this highschool is that most of my friend are going there. the second highschool. this one is a prep kind of highschool that is full of rich people and people that are my same race. expect allt he people that are my race are way to preppy and think they are so cool with the luxury cars. i was thinking of goin to the 2nd highschool but people say it is full of drugs and violance. which one should i choice? i knoe they arent the best of highschool but those r my choice becasue the rest arent even close to me and they are already full. please help me! (link)
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If I were you I would go to the one that has more of your friends there. Although the other school has a better reputation, it doesn't sound like you would enjoy it because none of your friends are there and it doesn't sound like you are too fond of the people who go there. You will be happier at the high school with your friends, so you will probably do better with your school work, because you will have a better attitude. So my opinion is to go with the school that your friends go to. Need anything else? Just let me know!
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i really like this guy dylan, but i dont think he likes me. all of my friends say he does, but i dont really feel like he does. he doesnt call me or im me and that is making me feel depressed. i need help, cause i really want him to like him. what can i do to make him like me again? oh, and by the way, i am throwing a party and inviting him...what should i do there to get his attention?....thanks in advance! (link)
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First of all, please try not to feel depressed because a guy doesn't like you. I know it really sucks, but there is no need to be depressed about it. However, I do have some advice for you on this one. Does Dylan know that you like him? If not, you should let him know... either you can tell him yourself, or have one of your friends tell him. It would be a lot easier and less complicated if you told him yourself. He may just be shy about this and that may be the reason why he doesn't call you or IM you. During this party of yours you should be really friendly and confident and try and talk to him... even if it's just small talk... do something to get his attention. Just remember, before you get all sad about this, make sure that this guy knows that you like him. Maybe if he knows that you like him he will admit that he likes you. Who knows... well, good luck with everything and remember to be yourself! Let me know if you need anything else! Thanks soo much for hearing me out!
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I need to be more outgoing. I really want to be able to go up to people and just talk to them. I want to have more confidence. How do i do so? I keep missing my chances to meet new guys. (link)
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I have a few tips for you on this one. First of all, the main way to gain confidence is by believing in yourself and loving yourself for who you are. I know this sounds corny, but it is true. Also, you can't worry about what other people think of you. Just remember that you are the way you are and if other people can't accept that, then they aren't worth your time anyway. It's also important to be yourself- don't act fake just to put on a show for other people. You have to accept yourself for who you are and be proud of it. The way you walk really makes a difference in how people view your confidence level. Don't walk around with your head down and your shoulders slumped. Keep your head up high, and walk with good posture. Look at people and smile at them as they walk by. Maybe even say hi. Just don't be afraid to be outgoing and say things to people... if you're friendly, people will want to talk to you and they will want to get to know you. So, just remember, believe in yourself, hold your head up high, and don't hesitate to be friendly.
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ok me and my boyfrind have been datin know for 9 months i am 14 and he just turned 17. we are in a long distance realtionshhip(he live about 2hours away from me) and he left on staurday for 2 weeks to a basketball thing and the thing is he went with his "firend" that likes him. like this girl is a bitch she always tryin to do something with him and trying to get me mad.i trust my boyfriend that wont do anything with her but they are stayin in the same room and bed..i know there is nothing goin on wit them because he doesnt like her like that and his sister would have already told me there is.. his sister is going with him too and the same room but different bed.. should i be worried.:( i trust him but not her. can someone please help me. (link)
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Okay, first of all, I just have to ask this... why would your boyfriend sleep in the same bed as his friend and not in the same bed with his sister instead?? That just seems kind of strange to me. But anyways, that aside, I think that since your boyfriend is already gone on this trip there isn't too much you can do right now. Maybe if you talk to him on the phone or something you could just let him know how you feel about this girl. Make sure you tell him that you trust him, but not her. You don't want him to think that you don't trust him. If your boyfriend really cares about you then you shouldn't have to worry about him doing anything with this girl. If he is tempted to do somthing, he is probably not worth it, anyways because he wouldn't be considerate of your feelings. I'm sure that if he really cares about you he will respect your feelings and be good to you. I hope this helps... just let me know if you need anything else!
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