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I need to be more outgoing. I really want to be able to go up to people and just talk to them. I want to have more confidence. How do i do so? I keep missing my chances to meet new guys.
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What I did was just like join into a conversation, and say what I think, or join a sports team, basically your forced to communicate on a team sport. Also clubs such as Student Council you will make friends then you will be more confident, and boys like confidence.
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You cant just change yourself.. you can't be quiet the next day and then be a loud peson the next. It's not about being outgoing that gets you to meet new people it's about being yourself.
Good luck and just put yourself out there
If you need help with anything else..feel free to come to me anytime!
I hope I helped you!
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well simple u relize that your not an out going person so hang out with people ever chance you get trust me i used to be this way
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I know you always hear "Its not that hard, just do it", or "Just be yourself!" But its the truth.Probably the reason you're shy is because you dont think you're good enough for those people to talk to, but thats not true at all!no one is more important than yourself.once you realize that everything will come easier to u.
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Hi there.
I'm not outgoing at all, and I don't feel comfortable around people, including my friends. No guy talks to me, and I don't talk to anyone. My participation grade in my classes is a D, and silly things (like stupid insults) make me cry. Well, eventually, I decided that it's how i act, and I have to be alright with that. If someone came up to me and started a conversation, I'd do the same. I started smiling more, and you always have to remember life's not always complete with guys. That's just a wish every girl has, but accepting yourself for who you are counts the most.
This is what I do every single morning when I wake up. I look at the mirror and I say : (i've told this to other people here as well) "I hereby give myself the permission to stink".
I hope this helps.
Kay
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you just need to face your fears and do it.
this is one of my favorite quotes and it totally motivates me to be more outgoing:
wayne gretzky-
"you miss 100% of the shots you never take"
think about it...
hope i helped you
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im the same way. i always have been and i find myself asking the same questions. if you find a guy you like, get to know him. this year i tried getting to know the guys i wanted to like me first, and even though i didnt end up going out with them it still helped to boost confidence. and then who knows? maybe the guy will like you back and you'll end up going out.
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I have a few tips for you on this one. First of all, the main way to gain confidence is by believing in yourself and loving yourself for who you are. I know this sounds corny, but it is true. Also, you can't worry about what other people think of you. Just remember that you are the way you are and if other people can't accept that, then they aren't worth your time anyway. It's also important to be yourself- don't act fake just to put on a show for other people. You have to accept yourself for who you are and be proud of it. The way you walk really makes a difference in how people view your confidence level. Don't walk around with your head down and your shoulders slumped. Keep your head up high, and walk with good posture. Look at people and smile at them as they walk by. Maybe even say hi. Just don't be afraid to be outgoing and say things to people... if you're friendly, people will want to talk to you and they will want to get to know you. So, just remember, believe in yourself, hold your head up high, and don't hesitate to be friendly.
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heyy .. if you feel like your a boring person and a shy person then thats what your gonna be but if you feel like your a life of the party type of person and an outgoing person then thats what you are you are what you think you are
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ok i was just like you but one day i looked at the people around me and was like wow there all happy and have many friends and i want to be like that and have a bunch of friends and people to talk to so one night i went home it was lyk right after school i came home did my hw an then i painted my nails pink* straightened my hair for the next day and then i painted my toenails, and did all that kinda stuff then the next day i restrightened my hair put makeuhp on and lyk long vintage necklaces on with my layered polo's and a skirt and sandals and i felt confident about the way i looked too.. i felt lyk i wanted to show everyone one so in the halls when someone looked at me i looked at them bak in the eye and smiled and then i went to my locker i was would say hey whats up like i started off small so i felt comfortable then i started talking with the people in my classes and asked where they were sitting for lunch and all that kind of stuff then it became where i am now loud in the halls and i dont care what people thing and i think thats why my friends love me for who i am caz im me and if people dont like you then thats too bad caz you know the real you not them so get out there and make conversation....trust me its easy and overwelming at first but look at the reward..
xox Maris and Ally
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Being more confindent and outgoing isnt that easy for someone shy. But .. honestlly.. if you make yourself think that you can talk to more people you will. Just keep telling yourself.. I can talk to them.. I mean I want to. Go out with your friends like to the movies and go up to some guys and just say hi and start a small conversation. No one will think badly about you so you just have to go for it! Think that it will be fun.. and trust me if you keep making yourself belive you can.. you will. You will be making tons of new friends!! ♥// ex_oh
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Quoted (and edited) from one of my previous responses:
"Anyway, self-esteem/self-confidence/self-image is a hard one to build because it takes itself in order to build itself (if that makes any sense, then you're smart). It's also something I've struggled with.
One of the things to do is to just forget about trying to be invisible and make moves - go talk to people, raise your hand (figuritively speaking, unless you're in class, of course), ask questions, and give answers.
Also, don't worry about the people around you - they will take care of themselves. Do what you are going to do (use wisdom, don't just jump off bridges) regardless of who's watching (again, within reason - don't undress in public or anything like that, though I'm sure you'd draw a crowd if you did).
When you make mistakes, take time to think about what went wrong, and try again. And again. And again. If that's an option. And when you succede, you will be able to succede more, and as you succede more, your self-confidence will increase, as will you self-image, and your self-esteem."
Don't be afraid to be a dork - there's a reason people wear or have all of that "I love dorks" paraphenillia (I probably misspelled that).
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Honestly, this pRobably isn't what you weRe hoping to heaR, but you just have to be bold, be honest, and go foR it! It's all in youR head, Kid. Just tRy walking Right up to someone and giving it youR all! It's also impoRtant to SMILE, SMILE, SMILE! See, I have NOOO pRoblem appRoaching people, because I believe that I can do anything. I just push my feaRs aside and go foR it!! I'll walk up to some man in the mall and tell him flat out intRoduce myself, oR thRow a quick one-lineR at him like, "You'Re hot". It bReaks the ice, and it always gets us talking. And let's say that gentleman is cuRRently involved with anotheR, any man who is a QUARTER of a man will speak with you foR just having enough guts to go foR it! It's all about confidence. Confidence is sexy, and confidence shows. If you ask me, I believe you CAN do this; now I think you should stoRe that belief in youRself too! :)
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why dont you have a party or maybe go to the movies and just walk up to them and be like "hey im have a party *whatever* night.. do you wanna come? its from _____ to _____" and just do that. hope i helped! <3*Nicole
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