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HEY GUYS. I figure i know a lot about advice. I have been threw a lot from family violence and growing up in environments with a lot of stress and stuff to relationships and sex questions. i have had my best friends move away, feel the pain of a lost love one, feel the hurt of loving some one so much it kills, and many different levels of love, pain, sorrow, and CONFUSION! so just ask away ill try to helps ya out ;D later

Hey so Its been a while since I have been on here just wanted to update a little.
I have had a few more life experiences. I have a best friend new to my life as of a few years ago now and she is amazing. I couldn't ask for some one better.I lost my first love from stupid choices i made and now am trying things a little differently i won't do the same stupid stuff as before. Hit me up ID LOVE TO HELP!!
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Hey im 14 i need advice!
My ex asked me if I wanted to make out with me and he is one of my best guy friends. and i aked him why and he said that cause I didnt do it when we were going out so now i wanna. My friends tell me I should. But I find it werid thats all but he doesnt find it werid i Havent answered him yet...
WHAT SHOULD I DO????

the question is do you want to make out? If its not something that you WANT to do I wouldn't no offense but he kind of sounds a bit shallow. It can always go bad and since he is your x i don't think it can progress any where because there had to have been a reason yall broke up in the first place right? And you may have heard this from you parents but NO JOKE kissing gets you no where but in deeper with trouble when it comes to boys. If it is something that sounds exciting to you like you'd wana do it then go for it but know what you are getting your self into and be careful because you don't wana be hurt.It can be quite complicated.

i like a boy but he thinks i like him as more than firends

have a serious talk with him. be straight up and just tell him. he is a good friend and what not right? and you like having him around? you have to set him straight before he likes you too much and the relationship can't be fixed.

Ya he knows he did wrong unless he doesnt.
But we had couple of up and downs ya he never asked me out but it was differnt.So he finally talks to me by texting me what am i doing. I have not replied and its been few days. And my fear is that he already given up on me or not much care. But i love him and miss him and. I just want him to talk to me one more time and i will reply.

Some times we have to go out of our comfort zones and get past things like fear to get what we want. Sometimes that last conversation isn't always a good idea because it can hurt really bad but sometimes it can do good 2. I Have had to grow a lot over the years and learn how to just take a step and jump inot things so maybe you should just text him a small txt saying how you have been busy whats up haven't talked to you in a while. something comfortable and small and simple. just be sure you can hold your self up no matter what because we are all that we have when every one else goes on to live their lives.

Heres the thing. I really really like my best guy friend. We've been friends for such a long time and he's helped me through so much including a really bad break up last summer.... Over winter break and before he would text me everysingle day and it honestly felt like he liked me but I was too scared to say anything about it. After winter break his friends and mine started to joke with him saying we liked eachther and what not and when I would talk to him about it he'd say stuff like "wow" or "tell them theyre being stupid" never "that's not true". Lately though he doesn't act the same. I have to start the conversation every single day but then later in the conversation if I don't reply he'll get mad. And he always seems really into talkingto me. I felt like I was being annoying though so I apologized to him. What he didnt know was that that ex that was horrible to me is trying to get me back and I knee I cant go back with him but I wanted to! I can't go through all the details just know I CAN'T go back to my ex, I can't put myself through that kind of pain again and it's takn me a long time to realize this... Even though i still want him. And my guy friend is the only person I can talk and not think about or want to talk to my ex... What's up with that?? I told my guy friend this. And I told him I'm not really sure what it means and he just laughed and was like "you're crazy. I havent noticed you being annoying at all. And hun I know you can handle him by yourself you don't need me as much as you think you do" and yeah... I still text him every single day and we hang out every weekend (in a group most of the time). He's so amazing and He makes me so happy and I can't stand not being around him... He asked me last night of it was weird that he danced with this freshman girl at our last dance/thought she was really hot. And it kind of almost broke my heart... Hahaha even though I talk about hot guys with him (and he does get mad about that haha) I felt myself getting sooo jealous. I don know what to do. I know I'm gonna break down today and text him but I can't keep doing this but I can't handle things without him! (guy friend is 16/m ex is 17/m both juniors. I am 15/f sophomore) by the way he HATES my ex boyfriend.

First off I haven't had a guy friend that put that much time and effort into me unless he wanted to be with me. Which might give you insensitive to put your self out there. Some times you just have to go for things and be very blunt.This guy I am dating now,his name is Michael. The only reason i was ok with being with him was because we where such good friends before i could talk to him about what ever and he helped me threw a lot also. a very similar situation with my own ex.i will always love my x but Mchael makes it easier to be ok. Your friend is right that you don't need him as much as you think because people have to learn to handle them selves and things on there own. Internal stuff must be faced and handled as i am assuming you learned threw knowing you can't get back with your ex which i also recently learned.III think that if you have been this close to him for so long and you still have the same feelings and the fact that he can be there for you is sooo good and so clear, meaning he obviously cares, that you should approach him with just talking. Simply he so i dont know if this is what i think it is but you know how important you are to me and i appreciate you so much for helping me with .. everything and ... i think.. i might like you.. type situation and see were he goes with it. DO NOT forget to mention that you love being his friend and that yalls friend ship is more important than anything else because losing a friend like that can be murderous. There is always the chance that he doesn't feel the same but that would surprise me.one bad fact of this is that you guys are so young that sadly some times things don't work out how we want or plan on them 2. i was with my ex for a total of near 3 years.. i would have spent the rest of my life with him but things get messed up and life.. is funny it surprises us and we never really know how it will go.. I think its good that he hates your x though bc it .. kinda gives more comfort in how much he cares for you. If he didn't care about u so much he wouldn't care about hating your x.So in short i say go for it be blunt but be cautious. You will never know unless you put your self out there a little. and getting hurt is a part of life its necessary sadly but you seem strong :) and have gotten threw some stuff apparently so i think you will be ok:) just like i said getting hurt happens in life we just have to learn to handle things best for us and keep whats good and makes us happy, keep it in our lives. GOOD LUCK:)Its good to talk about stuff and have an understand of each other and each others view.. with full understanding of where each other is coming from :)

i'm 18 years old and i have a lisp, not the kind you usually hear but the kind when you talk and sh and ch sound different, and people always make fun of me. i've never had a boyfriend and i think that it's horrible, i always feel like i want to die because no guys like me. i don't think i'm ugly lots of people tell me i'm pretty some even say i'm beautiful and i do have some very good friends. but why don't guys like me?? i just don't know what is wrong with me besides my lisp.

first off ill give the common answer.. guys are stupid. it happens ya know and i thought i was unattractive for a long time. its not like there is anything wrong with you, its really a people thing. you have to meet the right people. the right guys. some times the friends that are guys are so shy or quiet to say anything and some times we just don't realize people are noticing us.i guarantee you will meet a boy just right for you one day maybe even a couple. you just have to be you're self. i know some guys who love lisps they think they are cute :D. most guys are shallow no offense but they are. and if you are going after the guys that every single super model pretty lots of make up girl is going after... it makes them even more shallow . which sucks but that's why people fall in love :). all this may not be exactly what you like to hear because its kind of vague but i don't want you to feel like there is no hope because there is. as long as you are you're self there will be some one.. always some one better or some one to make you happy

So... I gave my bf a hickie and his mom found out and she just laughed and thought it was supa' funny.... and she said that she wouldnt tell my mom.... but... i'm still scared..... please please please please HELP ME. p.s. I'm 13..... if that helps any?????

so are u worried that she will tell? well some moms are pretty cool and if she gave that reaction i would suspect she wouldn't tell ur mom.You shouldn't have to worry. if she would have freaked out or been one of those psycho strict parents then maybe but you should be safe also ice or a cold spoon will make hickies go away usually

im 14 and this guy i really like is 17. 18 soon we wont have sex. i totally trust him and he does not love me because im young to get in my pants. when he saw me he thaught i was 18. altho i look like im 10 but im average size lol. is it illegal if were always cuddleing and hes always holding me but were not dating my friend says it is but why would it be. today is my last day with him after this he will be gone forever. we are at a retreat and ive been with him all weekend i feel like ive known him my whole life but we only met eachother friday. we talk about anything we even talked about us always cuddleing. im just not sure. whats the use if he will be gone forever, this always happens. i fall in loive with a guy we get close and he is ripped away from me. im not sure what i can even do?

what makes 18 and younger illegal is sex. statutory rape they call it. but you guys can still stay in touch but thats up to you 2 get e-mail or im or myspaces. keep it at a friend ship or a constant not dating status. nothing is wrong with cuddling.

my boyriend cheat on me , is it possible for a cheater (who wont admit that he did) to not do it again or do you think h will keep cheating

cheating is a person thing. i have simi cheated on guys before but i always told them. it could be a denial thing for him . A self impulsive sort of thing . but i have now been with a guy 1 year and almost 4 months no cheating. so people can change but denial is never a good sign.

Okay so, I am a 16/f and all my life ive liked guys. I met this girl lets call her Sally. We became best friends really fast and we trust eachother with eachothers lives. She has liked guys too. Until one day she let it slip out that she had a crush on me. She still likes me , so now she knows she is bi. I'm not sure how i feel about her, I'm afraid of liking her because i want to be straight I dont want to be bi or gay or whatever, not that there is anything wrong with it. But she is the first girl i thought I liked and its weird. We always see heart shaped things and shes like "we are soul mates" but she has a boyfriend. I love being with her and she always wants me to kiss her, but i just can't bring myself to do it. I guess I'm just really confused and I dont know what to do. Help?

here let me think ill just say this i guess.. a person can like a person of the same sex and only that one person .. they can still like guys so u can like this one girl and still like guys its just her.. u care for her.. you don't have to be bi ... you don't even have to say anything about it .. if you do decide to act on it.. you can care for one person and it not mean your bi or gay... its just caring for some one. hope i help message me if ya need anything els

i want my boyfriend to finger me.but i dont want to look like a total slut.and i have no earthly clue how to start like i dont want to like spread my legss.and i dont know how to ask that or anythign.helllp

talk to him and be like i think we should try a little more in our relationship u want to try something new . a new experience in the sexual form.

okay. so my boyfriend and i have been going out for about a year now. and i really really love him. infact we talk about getting married one day. heres the problem, im young. 15. same for him. is it odd for us to be thinking that far ahead even when we are so young? i mean i can't doubt us being in love, and we just feel that connection. and its been there from the start. there are no dull moments. yes we have been through alot, but it was my fault(i was diagnosed with a brain disorder about halfway though everything and had to spend alot of time in the hospital). but i honestly think that we have a future together. does anyone think this is odd?

no im 15 my bf is 3 months older than me he is 16 since april. we are getting married one day . we tihnk about all that stuff

Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 7 months and the other day on the phone, randomly he goes, i wish i could see you, and hug you every second of the day.
is that sweet or just plain weird?

THANKSOMUCH!

aww thast swete ya me and my bf have been dating almost 7 months and i loev it when he sais stuff like that.its up to u if u like that kidna stuff don't depend on what othe rpeople think . but i think its sweet :D

i'm 15 and have a boyfriend of a year and 2 months. i love my boyfriend but i also love it when other guys look at me. like, i have no intention of thinking of them in romantic ways, or even knowing the person, i just like being looked at. is that wrong?

no lol im the same way i love my bf 2 we have only been together 6 months 7 on the first. but still i love him with all my heart but getting looked at by other guys is still nice it can never hurt to look good and have people think so 2. i know the feeling. :D

its me shannon AGAIN lol.
the other day i was planning on making out with my boyfriend and i thought about it.
idk how to makeout.
and i feel really weird for asking this
so dont give me crap pleaseee

its cool no im not gona pic no ya . you know how every one sais it comes naturaly really it does, ok you know how to just kiss well you kiss for like a long period and then open your mouth alittle and repeat that over and over again just like open close open close you can add tounge if you wish a little at first depending on how much your bf likes

NEED HELP ASAP!
I am going over my boyfriends house tomorrow and he wants me to give him a handjob. I want to, but i've never really given one before. I've given one once but it was on a dare and..well it's complicated..anyway...i'm not exactly sure how to do it. and for how long? I want help from guys and girls on this one. Thanks soo much!
=D

you go from the base to the tip like kinds of massage with your hand titer at the bottom and the loser kinda on the way up and just alternate massage all areas and go up and down. u can try little new things 2 just improvise

im a 13/f and i have never kissed a boy in my life. I have never even gone out with a boy in my life. I have wavy brown hair and am about 5'4 with an athletic figure. I want to know if theres somthing wrong with me and why i cant get a bf. plz help me

o hun trust me its ok i knwo some 28 year old guys and girls hwo have never had bfs or gf its really not all its cracked up to be the longer you wait the better less pain and getting hurt, you may think yiour mssing so much i thought i was 2 but waiting for the right guys is worth every minut of minimal pain till get better even if it doesn't seem like it will, ive been there hun

15/f
there's this guy that i really like, but he has a girlfriend... but we're still pretty good friends. so this weekend i want to hang out with him and some of my other friends... everyone says that if i invite him over i have to invite over his girlfriend as well, but the thing is that she's a total b**** to me. and i don't know, i just wanna hang out with him... so is it so wrong to want to hang out with your guy friends if they have a girlfriend?

no its perfectly fine. i hang out with my guy friends no matter what if they are dating anyone are anything so if she is gona be a bitch o well
jut hang out with your friends itll be fine

16/f

my boyfriend of 2 year's birthday is coming up soon and i want to get him somethng nice. he's going off to college this coming up year anf i was thinking about getting him something for there but his parents are doing that. i want to get him something nice. any suggestions? the price should be between $100-$300.

thanks.

a watch and if he is into chinease things maby a sword or fancy nife or someting he likes . base ball cards a hat a nice jacket shoes

What do you do when you're so desperate that you just long for the touch of any human?

honostly i write poetry it helps me . it really does. i talk to a few people that care about me and write lots of lots of poetry and turn up my music really loud or just listen to some songs that i love

this guy (chris) and me kinda were going out... (too long to post here sorry.. try to fallow..) and it got broken up .. a few times... but not by us... (im 15 and hes 18 but love knows no age, and we live a state apart..) and than i had to go and take care of my problems and he waited for me... well i by the time i got back and relized he was waiting... i was in a relationship.. and so i dumped my bf.. (it wasnt healthy anyways thats another story..) but when i was talking 2 Chris and i told him than i was singal he was like.. "ohh well now i found someone.." so now im sitting here and i think about him all the time... and im waiting for him... but is he a lost cause...? am i letting other hunks slid cuz im waiting... i dont know what to do... help please!
thanks millions
xoxoxo

girl i know love knows no age but he is 18 guys who are 18 usuely aren't worth waiting for. i am gona tell you straitup he is gona leave you for some 19 yearold girl which is gona suc so much and i don't want ya getting heart i would say lost cause if he doesn't want you then you don't need him i am sure your adorable so it willnot be hard for you to find a bf that really does care about you .

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