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Well, this guy and i have been messing around for about 3 years now. And hes 5 years older than me, but its become more intense. Like, now he wants me to sleep over and all that. But he has a girlfriend of two years, but he says he doesnt care about her. He basically just needs her for now because of work. Well, we are on the level of more than good friends and less than a couple, its confusing. I really have strong feelings about him, and i go over his house everynight and its not always about sex. I dont know if he is using me, and i really doubt it just because of how he acts towards me. I know he cares, but its like we cant be together right now because of our age difference and because i am 16. Am i a booty call? or is this all that can be at the moment? and until i become 18 this is all that can happen?
PLus, i stay over and we cuddle and all that.
idk, please any advice? (link)
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He's using you as a booty call and telling you anything you want to hear...like that he doesn't care about his gf....he wants to be with her but wants to fuck you, he wants the best of both worlds like most guys his age...most players, don't fall for him! even though it sounds like you already have, just know that he is using you and you are going to end up getting hurt if u continue to think of it as more than what it is...maybe you should talk to another guy or something because you are not respecting yourself by letting him use you as a peice of ass...you shouldn't be ok with that, he's messing with your heart
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Hi, I really hope you can help; i've gotten mixed responses from others...
Basically, my BF discovered that in my senior year of college (I graduated last year) I had taken two semesters worth of judo classes and he thought this was really funny b/c I don't look like, I guess, a "typical" jock chick--that is i'm not muscular or buff or whatever...i'm your stereotypical "girly girl" in appearance--tall, skinny, blond hair, blah blah blah and I'm like 125 lbs....so he's laughing at me, calling me "judogirl", etc., and I was fine w/all that, if a little annoyed, but then he made a mistake: he challenged me to a wrestling match...and I beat him.
He outweighs me by like 40 lbs. and is pretty strong but he didn't understand that my judo skills would use his strength against him and he just couldn't believe I won. I figured it was a one-time deal, but he was so bent out of shape that he's challenged me several times since then, and I've defeated him every time. It would be OK if he didn't take it so seriously, but he just becomes this mean pouty jerk when he loses and keeps challenging me and now i've refused to wrestle him b/c it's no fun and I hate his sexist attitude as well. But refusing to wrestle just makes him angrier and he says stuff like "you're just afraid i'll figure out your 'tricks' and win...it's so annoying!
I've considered just faking it and letting him win but I don't REALLY want to do that b/c I'm proud of my skills, and just wish he would be too...plus when he baits me w/all this "you're just a girl" crap, it gets my goat and i'm more than happy to throw him to the floor and pin him when he gets too tired to fight me off...
Have you ever beaten a boy at something athletic--whether martial arts or sports--or know a girl who has? B/c maybe if I can tell him he's not the only one he won't feel so bad... (link)
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Oh yeah I def have dealt with guys like that before. I'm actually a blue belt in Karate and when I first started, I signed up with my bf and he wasn't really a jerk about getting beat sometimes. He knew what we were trained to do and he knew that he wasn't invincible and anyone who can take the fall is a true athlete. But I dealt with a lot of people who would under estimate me big time and thought I was this skinny little girl that was ditsy and couldn't take anyone down. Your bf sounds like he is a sore loser and if he can't take the fall once in a while, then he needs to grow some balls. I think it's awesome how you showed him! And I def want to try Judo sometime as well as Brazilian jujitsu. He's just in denial and saying you just got "lucky" is bs. If he was a good wrestler than he wouldn't have been struggling with taking you down. He sounds really immature and hopefully you can find someone in your judo class that respects the fact that your a women and that you can kick some ass!
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A couple of weeks ago I noticed a change in my bf's behavior... he started acting like my affection was bothering him, and it felt like he was avoiding me. When we were together he was silent or he would talk about stupid unimportant things, as if we couldn't have a meaningful conversation anymore. He was so distant, but every time I asked him what was wrong and why he was acting differently, he would go mad and say that I was creating problems when there were none. So I broke up with him, and it was a hard decision. I thought he lost interest in me and I didn't want to be a burden. But ever since he's been telling me that his feelings for me haven't changed. Actually that's what he says, but he's still acting weird. And when I told him that my decision was final, he didn't even seem to be mad or desperate or anything like that, he just said he didn't understand why and that he hoped I change my mind.
I don't know what happened between us... it was so sudden! I'm afraid that I pushed him away, because I wanted to be with him all the time, and that maybe he wanted a time out... but if he loved me as much as I loved him, wouldn't he want to be with me just as much as I wanted to be with him?! (link)
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I think that would bother any girl, so don't let him think you're overreacting or being too needy. And I agree with the other answers, it probably had nothing at all to do with you. He sounds like a guy that doesn't show emotion very well, like my boyfriend. He isn't very affectionite and when he says he loves me, it doesnt feel like he means it, because he just has that stoned-face look and its so hard to get any reaction out of him at all. Hes a very laid back person and thats his biggest quality. Alot of guys are like that and it's possible that your boyfriend is too. I think if hes wanting you back, he obviously didn't lose interest in you, he may just be an unaffectionate person. This doesn't mean that you made a mistake in calling it quits, because maybe you need a guy that is affectionate, makes you happy and shows interest in you. If a man doesnt treat a women like she's special she isnt going to feel special and therefore she'll be unhappy.
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Please help fast!
My husband and I are going through a divorce. He just called and said he wants to "hang out" after work..."somewhere private." I think he wants to sleep with me. Is that wrong? I'm too emotionally mixed up right now to know what I should do. Please give me advice. (link)
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If your emotionally mixed up than DONT DO IT, thats your intuition telling you it's bad, you'll only get hurt more and sex often confuses people with love. It's better to ignore those kind of feelings and move on! Be strong! Say no!
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Lets say a guy is a virgin. && you let him feel you up and kiss your chest and everything. Does he keep wanting it? because i am seeing this guy and he is a virgin and he got mad at me because he didnt get what he wanted, and it wasnt sex. But, hes def not like that. He told me that he wasnt himself and he couldnt help it. Is this normal? i always thought it was. Like i thought when it comes to sex and messing around that all guys are the same.
Anything that can help me?
Thanks (link)
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he wants to have sex and he thinks your teasing him
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I'm 14 and I met a guy last summer when we worked together. We only saw each other a couple of days but we really hit it off and have been texting each other for six months now. Finally, last week we had our first real date. It has taken awhile because our parents have felt like we weren't right for each other because of age. We went to the movies. We did kiss, but that was all I was willing to do. He tried to do more and he was real nice about it when I said no. Everything seemed fine. I talked to him the next few days, but now it has been four days and he hasn't been in touch. I don't know what to think cause he kept saying, next time this, next time, Does this guy care or was he just wanting to get together to see what I would do? What should I do? (link)
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Most older guys that go for younger girls want to use them for sex. So he probably realized that you wont do that with him, so he'll move on to someone that will. Which is a good thing, because that shows you what kind of guy he is. If a guy sticks around and knows your not gonna do anything like that then he knows your a good girl, respects that and really likes you. I take it that you guys don't know each other too well, so he probably will move onto someone else. So it could be worse, I know girls that did take it too far and after the guy got what he wanted, he left her. Thats just in their nature and yes I know it sucks. But there are a few good ones out there and you'll find that special one someday. Your so young and you got so much life to live so don't go wasting it on worrying about this guy. And if theres one thing that Ive learned in my life is that you should live in the moment and live to have fun, not to look for love. Love will come when you least expect it and it will be some one that will keep in contact with you. Someone you can really trust.
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alright well i really like this kid "B". and i really thought he liked me too. we talked and everything and then we hooked up at a party. he always flirts with me and everything too. well last saturday he called and invited me and my friend to a party. we went. but he was being a real asshole to me. he was calling me a bitch and everything in the car. then we got to the party and he was like slapping my butt and tapping me on the shoulder and moving. then i was talking to this girl and she said that she just met him and she wanted to hook up with him. she said that he kissed her before he left to get us. that really made me mad. and THEN he started kissing me in front of her. and then they had sex. then he was kissing every girl BUT me. he even tried kissing my friend even though she has a b/f. she pushed him away of course. i was so mad i sat in the bathroom and i wanted to cry. but then i decided that i wouldnt let him ruin my night. so i went back to the party and i started talking to his best friend "E" that ive known since like 4th grade. he was really drunk but he kept hugging me and he told me that he's always thought i was cute but he doesnt know why he never talked to me. he said that he liked me. then i danced with him and after an hour of us talking he kissed me. he did tell me that he acts like a whore when he is drunk. he said he just wanted to stick with me. but i went upstairs and then came back down and the chick that had sex with "B" was flirting with "E". then she started making out with him. i got mad again and i just sat down. my friend went and called him a whore and said that he was an a-hole. i sat next to him and started talking to this guy about something and "E" was like "do you hate me" and i told him no but i thought that he was a whore. then he was like "im soo sorry i really like you" and the kid next to me was like if you really liked her you wouldnt be making out with the chick next to you. well by then the chick was making out with another guy. well "E" went upstairs and layed down and i had to go up there for a drink and me and him started talking and he said he was really sorry. but then "B" kept touching my shoulder and moving again. he kept asking if i was gonna have sex with "E" and i kept telling him no. he started being an a-hole again. well when everyone fell asleep, me and "E" went downstairs and hooked up. we didnt have sex though. well then that chick had sex with another guy. she was disgusting. but then the next morning "B" kept asking me if me and "E" had sex and i kept telling him no and he kept calling me a whore. "E" held my hand the whole way home and everything and gave me a kiss goodbye. the next day i got his number and i called him. then yesterday me, him, his sister and "B" hung out. and he was holding my hand and everything but "B" was again being mean to me. he kept calling me a bitch and we all went to mall. he was like "dont walk by me" and i was like "w/e" but then when we got into the car to go get something to eat he was like "why are you so mean to me" and i was like "are you kidding me? your mean to me" and he told me he was sorry and he kissed my hand right in front of "E". then when "E" was in his house to get something "B" was like this is my song to you and it the beginning went "i never knew how loved felt until i fell in love with you" and he kept flirting with me. we all went out to eat. and he kept staring at me even though i was sitting next to "E". idk what to do. there both a little "whorish" but i really do have feelings for them.
i get that weird feeling in my stomach when "B" touches me like i just want to be with him and when "E" touches me all i want do to is cuddle with him and be with him. their best friends and that makes this really hard. "E" has some flaws to though. he's always talken about hooking up with other girls in front of me. i try not to pay attention but it gets me mad. so does anyone know what i should do??? (link)
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Ok both these guys are screwed up. Find a great quality guy thats sweet and kind towards you that doesn't care about getting into your pants and that only wants YOU and just you! Forget these two guys, the world is full of a great selection to choose from so set standards dont go lower then them and don't settle for anthing less! It's good to be picky...besides guys like a challenge so ignore those urges of being a slut that everyone has.
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I like my best guy friend. He doesn't know it. But I get extremely jealous when he spends time with this one girl. I don't care if he spends time with girls, there's just this certain girl I'm worried about. I KNOW they're just friends, and that he for sure doesn't like her, but why do I get so jealous? I cry myself to sleep every night they hang out/talk. I know I can't control him, he's not mine. We've talked about it, he knows I don't like her, etc. Whenever they talk/hang out I never get mad I just get seriously depressed, I can cry for up to 2 hours. What is wrong with me? I think I just don't understand why he's spending time with her, and not me, but I'm not sure. Is there any tips you guys can give me about how to calm down when I get jealous? Thanks. (link)
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Oh honey, i know how you feel. We always find ourselves getting jealous over men, but what bothers me is that you two are just established as friends. Maybe your just jumping too far ahead and thinking of him as more than a friend. The best thing to do, is do things for yourself. Do things for you and try to forget all about him. Spend time with your girls and try not to babble on about him to them, but to focus on other men out there. :)
hope i helped
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So I love my boyfriend very much but sometimes he's just always there. Latched on to me like a leech. Don't get me wrong.. I do love it that he pays attention to me soo much, but I do want to have some space sometime. But he seems to always be there all the time trying to pull me so close that our skin could be melted together. Please help me. I don't know how to tell him that I want space, without hurting his feelings.Btw we've been going out for almost 11 months. (link)
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whys this in the sex category
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Ive always heard about the 7 year itch in marriages. Now I believe it. After my husband and I have been married 7 years now it seems things are starting to go wrong. We had a great marriage untill about 6 or 7 months ago. Since then things have changed so much between us. Nothing in particular happened to change it so I have no idea what the problem is. We fight constantly and half the time we dont know what we are even mad at. Sometimes I feel like Im just going through the motions with him and acting and not really feeling.
Latley its been worse. And to make matters more complicated Ive meet a very nice man..no, nothing like that has happened, we just talk and etc when he comes in the where I work. But he hints that he would like more and the more I hear him talk the more things I notice my husband lacks. A year ago I would never have even thought about leaving my husband for someone else but now, with our marriage falling in at the seems its starting to look like a better idea. I have no idea what to do any more. I wake up in the mornings feeling confused and just walk about the house playing perfect wife and mom but I cant get this other guy out of my head no matter what I do.
My husband must not notice things are bothring me becaues he just lays on the couch barking out orders to me like Im a waitress.
What should I do?
Ive talked to family and friends but a majority of them are biased because they never liked my husband in the first place. (link)
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Talk to him. Have a serious conversation with him, not something you'd bring up to him during his favorite show or while hes reading the paper. Sit down with him and let him know your not happy with the way things are. Yes things will fall apart if he has no clue what you are actually considering. You treat your marriage so casually as if it isnt such a big deal. You've been married 7 years! Thats a long time with someone and it should mean something to you. I want you to sit back and recall all the amazing times you had with him. Your honeymoon, wedding, first time you met etc. Bring these things up to him, and not only that but you have children too. Adding in another guy into the mix is not the way to go. Now is not the time to make selfish decisions. Whatever you do will have an impact on others as well so you have to be careful. And as for this "nice guy" he may seem perfect right now, but I would choose my husband that Ive known over 7 years over a guy that you have no knowledge of anything in his background. Everyone seems great until you get to know them and find out something about them you don't like. Then you'll wish it never began in the first place! Lets say you and your husband do not work out and you start seeing this other guy. Maybe it will last a year or hell..maybe a week. Dont think about what your husband lacks, think about what good qualties he has. Theres no such thing as a perfect man. Its only an illusion.
hope i helped
Charlotte
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Last Summer I hooked up with a guy down the shore and we've kept in touch. He's going down the shore with his friend and I'm coming down with my best friend in August. One problem, I have a boyfriend now. I don't want to hookup with the guy because I'm happy with my bf (And I wouldn't even consider cheating on him) The issue concerns my best friend who likes the guys friend, Chris. She has been really lonely the whole year since she hasn't hooked up with anyone but him and I know she really wants to see him. My friend said "Well, we'll just tell them we can't do anything. They'll find other girls" But I feel so bad for my friend, I want her to be with Chris (And I don't have a problem telling the guy that I can't do anything) but she refuses to let that happen. The way I see it, I have several options. Tell the guys we can't do anything & part our ways, let my friend and Chris do whatever they want and just stay friends with the guy, pray that my best friend gets a boyfriend so she can't do anything anyhow or maybe me and my boyfriend would have broken up before then (We're only 14, you never know what could happen) Or maybe theres something else I could do? I'll rate (link)
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is there anyway that your friend can see the guy she wants without including u in the mix?
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Ok, well... my best friend is a guy, and his name is Chris. He's really awesome, and we're really close. I've always thought of him as a brother to me. But lately everyone has been asking me, "Are you two going out?" and "Do you like him?" and everytime my answer is "no." but lately I've been thinking, and I feel weird whenever I talk to him now. Whenever he comforts me about stuff, I just feel... really really happy. Rediculously happy. Almost..fuzzy inside? I don't know, but I keep thinking that I'm starting to have feelings for him. But we're just friends.. friend's arent supposed to crush on eachother. But I can't help myself.
SO MY QUESTION IS: Am I in love with him? and if I do why do I feel so uncomfortable?
Signed..
JUST FRiENDS (link)
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You feel uncomfortable because alot of times people make friends that they end up really liking. You end up thinking..hmm...hes actually kinda cute now that i think about it. You end up thinking about your favorite people to be around and whos there for you the most..and when that name keeps coming up you cant help but wonder why arent we dating? why are we just friends? could i picture us together? would it work out? no one can answer those questions theres a risk youd have to take. The question is, is it worth it?
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the women I started to see again texts me last night saying "guess what? I heard someone you used to mess around with has aids" but "Dont stress I saved 25 percent on my car insurance from gieco. We broke up because she thought I was cheating on her, and then to send a text like that at 3:00 am that woke me up was wrong, then when I texted her back asking what she was talking about she never responded. So I called her she didnt answer the phone, so I left a messange telling her to stop calling me and texting me and that this is it. I also made an example to her saying that if you think i did something because you heard from someone that I did then maybe I should believe rumors I heard about you. I knew that was wrong so I texted her immediately saying I was sorry. That morning she texts me saying I was stupid and that it was just a joke, I replied I did not find it funny especially when she has questioned my loyality in a relationship. She said that she was happy to see the real me and that she was glad that she didnt start to really get involved with me again. I just dont think that the joke was funny considering what happened before. I need to know if I over reacted or was that joke just harsh and in poor taste???? (link)
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It sounds like a funny prank that i think even i would use on my friends....keyword...friends, not ex, if i sent something like that to a guy i thought cheated on me it would be a way of getting back at him, i think that's what she was doing, taking out all her anger from what happend in your relationship and decided to do a cruel joke like that
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theres two guys who like me...
my ex-boyfriend and my neighbor i'm not sure which one to ask out becuase with my ex-bf i would only see him once every two weeks or something but i really like him but then my neighbor is 2 houses down and i really like him too but he stayed back and it would seem like i'm going out with someone whos not my age.
So which guy do i chose? (link)
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Your neighbor does seem like a better choice, trust me on the age thing, im 16 a junior and i dated a sophmore but he was 16 also, and yes it seemed like i was going out with sumone younger but the fact that he only got held back and actually is the same age as me was comforting.
Think of the relationship you had with your ex. How did it end? Was it the best or worst relationships you have had? Is he worth giving a second chance or will he break your heart? Sometimes going for someone you've already tried isnt the answer. When you find someone new, its fresh and you get to know them. I is only 2 houses down. Think hard on it, don't think about who likes you, think about who YOU like
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okay so i dumped my boyfriend because i like this other guy a little bit. Although i dont know who i like better, my boyfriend or my crush..its like 50% boyfriend, 50% crush..i am so cought up in this i have tried killing myself..please help! (link)
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Search your heart, there is noone that can tell you who you like better. Most people can close their eyes and picture who they would rather want to be with more. I would go with the guy you have a crush on, because something led you to dump your boyfriend for him.
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I've been married for a year. We're both 21 years old. My husband has thiss gross habbit if picking his nose, rolling his bugars up, and then flicking them somewhere into the house. I've nagged at him to put them in toilet paper and put them in the trash or flush them down the toilet. But he wont. I've turned a bit of a blind eye on it, but today has been the last straw.
When we were in bed, I saw him pick a really big, really gross bugar. I told him it was gross, got out of bed and told him to dispose of it. He didn't. I've tried talking to him, telling him it was gross. I've tried telling him that since he doesn't care about the house, then I wont either(I wont do dishes, etc). How do I get him to understand, and to stop putting them all over the house. (link)
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Ummm...not my fault that you want "adult" advice on such an immature problem...he probably does this to annoy the shit out of you...props for him...You both sound really immature considering your idea of "solving the problem" is going on strike as a house wife and not doing the dishes
If you really wanted this as adult advice you should have mentioned it..sorry that i got a 2 and i will probably get a 1 on this answer but i honestly don't care because i should have done what everyone else did and not take the time to answer this really immature question about your ridiculous relationship
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hi everybody, this is a long one but i really need your help. ok so theres this guy that i know and he is like 19 or 20ish and im 16. and ever since i first saw him i thought he was like super hot! and so one day a couple of my friends told him that i thought he was really hot. and then they asked if he thought that i was cute and he said " ya shes definatly hott" and i was right there so i heard him say it and everything. and ever since then he would like sort of half way flirt with me and say like your really cute and stuff. but he hasnt asked me out or asked for my number or anything. so i was thinking maybe hes just, you know playing with me. but then i was talking to some of his friends and they were telling me he was talking about me and i asked what he said but all his friends would tell me is it was nothing bad. and sometimes when im around him i would sneek looks at him but i would already see him looking at me first (does that make sense?) so i dont know what to do because i reallllly just cant stop thinking about him but its been like a month and nothing has happened. i dont really see him that much though, i use to see him like maybe 2 to 3 times a week during the summer since July-ish but now i mayyybe see him once a week. but no other guy i talk to compares to him. so does he like me or do yall think hes just playing me and what should i do about this? if you answer seriously i'll rate high!! thanks yall!
o ya and hes not like some stuck up college guy, hes kinda...geekish which isnt normal for me to like but people told me i was like the hottest and nicest girl to ever like him. (link)
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He does like you, but there is a reason why he hasn't made a move towards you...perhaps he is cautious to get with someone your age..There is only one thing you can do..I know most girls hate making the first move, but you absolutly have to or else nothing will happen. You do not want to regret never making a move because you were afraid of rejection. Just be aggressive and do something spontaneous, hand him a peice of paper with your name and digits on it and say "here sexy...hit me up sometime" or go straight for the kiss, i doubt he will pull away ONLY ONE WAY TO FIND OUT
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is it okay for a 14 year old girl to go out with a 17 year old guy? (link)
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I would have to say no..it is so common for girls to date older guys than it is for guys to date older girls..because guys always got SEX on their mind 24/7 and they always go for the easiest fastest way for a peice of ass..which is probably why it is so common for them to be flocking towards younger girls because they think its "cool" to be with an older guy whose experienced and they usually get used and their hearts broken..
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Theres this guy that i like alot and i think i love him, and he is 19, im 15 and i dont understand wut is wrong wit the age if my mother says its alright, and he asked her if he could ask me out and she said yes but than he never asked me out, and last night i went 2 the roller rink and he wuz all ova this otha girl and makin out wit her, my friend went up 2 him and asked him wut wuz wrong wit him, he said he had a problem wit the age diffrence between us, than y would he let it get that serious i mean me were practually like goin out but he just never asked me, he would come pick me up every night, he would give me a kiss good-bye and everything. Please some1 help me
Tell me wut 2 do
Tell me wut went wrong.
PLEASE I NEED SOMEONES HELP.. (link)
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I know exactly how you feel. I dated a guy who was 19 when i was 15, and i knew my mom would have hated the age difference..so we would see each other in secret and it was hard considering i wasnt able to drive yet. I fell so fast in love with him, and all of a sudden he wanted to make sure my mom was okay with us dating because he said it was bothering him. I told her because i didnt want to lose him and she decided to at least meet him. The day he was sopose to meet her, he stood me up and i called him and he gave the phone to this girl who told me he didnt want to be with me anymore and the words that i remember hurt me the most was when she said, "your just a lil f**cking kid"
Older guys are not worth it and he probably thinks its too complicating to be with you because you are a younger girl and most guys that age dont want to mess with the whole parent complicating crap..even if she agrees or not.
You need to move on and forget about him, because he isnt worth your time
Go hang out wit ur girls and chill at the movies or sumthing, go pimp out at the mall, anything to get your mind off this guy because he is trouble and you can't spend your time thinking over and over what went wrong and why did he do this to you...there are so many questions unanswered and wont be answered because noone knows exactly whats going through his mind and how he feels
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OK...so I have this guy,lets call him guy #1 that I went out with like 8 months ago and I've always wished we'd go back out and always have had this thing for him...then I started liking other guys after we broke up throughout the school year(last year) and then this summer I started liking this guy,lets call him guy #2 and I really like him and I think he likes me too.Hes a grade older than me and Im not sure if he wants to go out with me or not.Well now guy #1 likes me again but Im not sure if I like him too cuz I think I might still have feelings for guy #2 please help me out! (link)
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you think this is bad now..just wait til guys #3 and #4 come into the picture
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