So i am 15 Years old, and people in my year have started becoming more sexual. There is a guy i know and like who wants to do more than kissing but i am too insecure about my vagina to do anything. It hangs down alot and im worried he will be grossed out. Help:(
I won't lecture you about your age or anything like that, I'm sure you've probably heard it all before. I will say that you shouldn't do anything until you're absolutely, 100% ready and comfortable for it. Don't buy into peer pressure. There's nothing wrong with not becoming more sexual when everyone else is. But, if you do decide that you're ready for the next step, there's nothing to be insecure about. Everyone is different. All vaginas are different. Some are smaller, some larger. Some hang down more, some don't. There is no "normal" when it comes to that. Insecurity happens, though. I still go through it from time to time. But I can pretty much guarantee that if a guy is into you, he's going to have no complaints about how things look down there. And if he does, don't waste your time on him.
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Okay, so I found out in October I was pregnant by my boyfriend at the time. He didnt want the kid and he claims he fell out of love with me, a few days after I told him I was pregnant. We live together so one of us couldnt just move out right away. But he emotionally moved out. He started taking other girls on dates and wouldnt take me on dates. Wouldnt talk to me. Basically only came home late from work to have sex sometimes and then sleep, and pack a duffel bag of clothes for the next few days he would be whereever...avoiding me until he wanted sex again. This went on until February 1st, when I moved out. Enough is enough! So this one girl he's been dating things shes hot shit or something. She found my email address, and emailed me, asking me who I am and why my email is in my boyfriends contact list. I replied saying, "I'm his pregnant girlfriend, I live with him, he's leading you to believe he's this awesome guy but I bet you you don't know anything about him." To this she replied, "I can see why he doesn't dig you, since your hair is hideous, and you're mentally unstable. Don't blame him for wanting someone better. Just because YOU had unprotected sex, you're crying and whining to strangers online. Luis and I are glad he will not be wasting any more time with you."
Like wtf? What kind of woman is this? I don't know how she could think that my pregnancy is 100 percent my fault. Why is she not holding Luis (my ex) accountable? Why would she want a guy who exhibits these qualities? She must be naive to think she can change a person. I'm not even a contentious woman, and he left me. What he is doing to me is a shitty thing to do, abandoning his pregnant girlfriend when the relationship gets tough.
She's not holding your ex accountable because she's a jealous child. Unfortunately, this behavior is ridiculously common. She had absolutely no reason to start drama with you other than for the sake of drama itself, because she obviously views you as a threat to whatever sort of relationship she has with your ex. It's not her place to tell you that your ex won't be spending time with you anymore, that's your ex's responsibility. I think you've made the right choice in moving out and not being with him anymore, and I'm sorry to hear that the father of your child is behaving in this way, but you're better off not involving yourself in their childish games. Be the bigger person and ignore her. If she continues bothering you, tell her that you have no need to talk to her and if your ex has anything to say to you, he needs to man up and tell you himself. Then block her from communicating with you. You don't need this drama in your life.
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I babysit his two boys, who are incredably sweet kids. Anyways, he asked if I wanted to have dinner sometime, just us. I am attracted to him, and he is really nice, it just never crossed my mind because of the age difference. I'm probably gonna give it a shot either way and just see how it goes, but I was wondering what someone who isn't involved would think. Is it a weird age difference or situation, from your perspective? Just curious really.
I personally don't see a huge issue with it. Be cautious, of course. Some older men seek younger women because they want to just "mess around," essentially, to avoid any form of serious relationship. Not saying that's the case here, just something to watch out for. Other than that, he is basically your boss, so you risk losing your babysitting job for him if something goes wrong. But, if you like him, go to dinner and see how things go. You're both adults, so the age difference isn't anything serious.
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There is this boy I like but he likes my best friend I hate them for it but you can't help who you love but I also love someone else and I will call him Fred as I dont want to I've away his name but I love him a lot unfortunately I don't know how he feels about me. I mean we was walking to school the other day and it was raining and I forgot my coat so he gave me his hoodie the hole day but I dunno if he was being kind or he fell ill as it is not his usual personality. So anyway I'm really confused
As far as the first guy goes, even if he decided he wanted to give things with you a try, would you ever really be comfortable in the relationship knowing that he's interested in your friend? You seem to have the right idea on that one.
For "Fred," the best thing you can do in that situation is just ask him how he feels. You can spend forever trying to look for signs that he's into you, but the only way to know for sure is to just ask. Even if it turns out he's not, it's better to know than waste your time trying to figure it out, or wondering "what if?"
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Hi im 15 and mostly talk to a group of 3 girls every night on facebook..our conversations are quite short lived becus it will usually be 'wat u doing?' then they ask me and i might ask them something about school..im always the one who keeps the conversations going but am also boring them with the same questions! Does anyone have any advice on conversation.i also really like one of them but i think i am boring her is there any way of flirting without telling her how i feel until i think she feels the same:) all help appreciated
Keeping a conversation going can be difficult at times. The best thing you can do, especially with the one you have a crush on, is to try to get to know her, assuming you don't know much about her already. Start small, favorite music, movies, tv shows, things like that. Try to find something you two have in common. That can lead to longer, deeper discussions. A quick google search will also show you tons of sites that list questions you can use to get to know someone.
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So my brothers friend james he's in 9th grade and I'm in some7th grade. Ever since last summer we've both had crush on each other so we would try and hang out when school started. But every time he wanted to hang out i wasn't able to. Soon enough he thought i was blowing him off. Yet i wasnt and he told my friend that he was sad and mad at me , by the way he never talks to my friends about us because he doesn't want anyone to know he likes me. It been 2 weeks sence we talked. I don't know if he's worth the wait or if i should just get over him. Or if i should text him
Waiting two weeks does seem a little much. But, he is upset with you because he thought you were blowing him off, and although you really weren't, I can imagine why it might seem that way to him. This could be his way of trying to figure out if you're really interested in him or not. If you are, then text him and explain the situation to him as best as you can.
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All right so my story starts like this.
So I have been liking (and now, close enough to loving) a guy right from 2010 when I first met him. We ended up in two different places. He started becoming close to me, but he had a girlfriend in 2010. I liked him, anyway. We becaame close friends. And it only grew stronger. To be true, he was attracted to me even while he was in a relationship. I told him I like him. We used to text almost everyday. We even sexted and flirted, sometimes. And his relationship started faltering. (because his girl was also in a different place, long distance problems) It ended, finally this year, and he was heartbroken. He started getting over her. I went to his place to meet him, by this time, because he was single, I was free of guilt and we made out, many times. Also, he cares about me a lot and considers me to be one of the closest. We fought a lot, but ended up resolving issues everytime. Our sexting, flirting, caring continued. He told me he really likes me but since he has just gone through a bad long distnace, he cant do another one, and he doesnt want to hurt me. He thinks his ex has been a bitch. Yesterday I asked him what is the most beautiful thing in his life, and he asked me the same thing.I said 'it's you' and he was shocked. He said 'I am a bad guy, I hurt you, why do u like me etc' I got mad over him. He apologized to me and said because he feels guilty about me having given given given and he thinks he has not been able to give me what I deserve ( a relationship) but he loves it that I am there and that 'I am dam important to him'
So basically I like this guy and I have waited for him too long. I have given him unconditional care, love, support. He is a beautiful person. I find his presence very soothing. I feel very safe in his arms. He has been truly supportive.
I have been balancing out my emotions and friendship with him. It has been painful, and even embarrassing. he does not want me to go.
Should I wait more? But what I dont get is till when? Till when should I keep myself hanging? What if he never wants a relationship?
There is this other guy who likes me, a loooooot. But i told him I cant do justice to him because I alreayd like someone else. That is not very relevant, actually.
The main question that troubles me is that till when should I wait for him to come and since his plane has just crashed, will he be ready any soon to board another?
Sigh. I dont know.
Maybe you have something to say.
Thanks in advance.
Situations like that can be extremely tough. I'm not sure how long ago him and his ex ended their relationship, but everyone has different periods of time that they need to heal from things like that, and it's pretty honorable that he doesn't want to rush into anything at the risk of hurting you.
The one thing that concerns me, though, was his willingness to flirt and sext with you while he was in a relationship, because what if you two form a relationship and he's willing to do the same to you? That's not saying that he will, though, but it's definitely something to consider.
As for what you can possibly do right now, you deserve to be happy. If that means moving on, then move on. If you're extremely interested in a relationship with him, though, your best bet at this point may be to just sit down and talk with him. Tell him exactly how you're feeling about the whole situation. Don't try to rush him into anything, just ask if he's going to be willing to take things further with you at some point or if you should just move on.
Ultimately, though, you have to decide what you want more in this situation, and if you like this guy enough to wait it out.
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Okay, so my name is Allison and I am 13/f. Well there is this new guy named James 15/m that just moved to my town. Well me and James have been dating for abot 3 weeks now. And i think he is wanting to have sex. When its just the 2 of us he always makes remarks about how sexy and stuff he thinks I am. But he seems to kinda force me to do things with him like let him finger me, blow jobs, etc. I want to know if I should go through with sex and stuff. Oh, by the way he does drugs and steals and does other things I am not proud of. So, thanks:)
It is not okay for him to force you to do things. That should be red flag number 1. Also, if he's into so many illegal activities, you being close to him could potentially cause some issues for you if the police happen to catch onto what he's doing. You're obviously feeling uncomfortable with the way he acts, so do what, in my opinion, is the best course of action and leave now. You deserve better than this.
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Hey there. I need some advice on something that's been bothering me for a while. I would like to know if it's right or wrong to live together before marriage? What are the reasons of why it's right? What are the reasons of why it's wrong? My ex that I just broke up with told me that she would rather wait until marriage to be living with her lover. I however would rather live with my future wife before marriage if possible. It gives me the chance to see how they normally live and how we can fix issues we don't like about each other. Her reasoning of why she didn't want to live together is because it states in the bible that living together before marriage is wrong. I too am religious, but disagree with that fact in the bible. But I know that once once gets married, your stuck with that person for good. I don't want to ever get divorced and my ex also doesn't believe in getting divorced either. But that wasn't the reason she broke up with me. We broke up because it did seem like the relationship was moving too fast and it seemed like she wanted to get married sooner than later and she was very clingy at times which I hated and she was offended when I would say that to her. She however has been in a couple abusive relationships and had other abuse to her in the past. As a result of the abuse, often she would whine about stuff quite frequently too.
Thank you for your question. Whether or not to live together before marriage is something I hear people argue about fairly often, and it is definitely something that comes with it's good points and bad. I can't say much as far as religion goes, because I'm not very religious, but I can say that if your beliefs are very important to you, this would be something to really take in consideration (which I can see you're already doing). Now, other than religion, there are a few other things to consider.
I have always been an advocate of living together before marriage because of the reasons you stated: You really get to know someone, their habits, their routines, their quirks, and it can help you determine whether or not you are going to be able to live with them forever. The little things that annoy you about each other may be easier to deal with if there isn't the added pressure of being married involved.
On the other side of this, one of the possible cons of living together before marriage is that you could lose the excitement of "being married." If you're already living together, then you won't have that big change that a lot of people do, and you could miss out on the excitement of that.
Those are just a few of the possible pros and cons of this situation. While I usually recommend living together before marriage, ultimately it is up to the couple to decide, and is not a decision that should be taken lightly. Lots of communication between partners is needed to ensure that whatever decision you make is the best one.
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ive been with my boyfriend for almost a year . and he is really jealous . he deleted all my guy contacts , he made me unfollow all my guy friends , and he deleted all m guy friends off of facebook. he takes me phone away when im infront of my friends . i really do ove him . but i just cant dont what to do ! we have talked about it , he says he cant trust me cause i lied to him Once ! What do i do ?
Since I don't know what you lied to your boyfriend about before, I can't really say whether or not I think your boyfriend's jealousy is unfounded. I will say that what he is doing is not okay. Without trust, most relationships are doomed. Throw in him trying to isolate you from everyone of the opposite sex and you've got a recipe for disaster. Either talk to him about what's causing so much jealousy and tell him that you are not okay with what he's doing, or leave him now. Even if you did lie to him, people make mistakes, and he really doesn't have any right to stop you from having friends.
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my friend like's a boy that i like to what should i do?
If you do anything with this guy, you could really upset your friend, and possibly ruin your friendship with her. If you really, really like him, you could talk to your friend about it to see how she would feel if you and the boy entered into a relationship, but I really wouldn't advise that. It's probably best to just not do anything with this boy in this situation.
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I dated my ex for a year and a half. We were each other's first love. He's 2 years younger than I am, and we broke up before I left for college. I can't stop thinking about him though. He has a new girlfriend now though. We still text each other every day, and it seems like he still misses me too. I hope every day I'll get a text telling me they broke up. I just really want him back... I don't know what to do.
There's really nothing you can do at this point. You have to put yourself in her shoes and think about how you'd feel if you were dating someone and his ex started trying to interfere because she missed him. It's completely unfair. If/when they break up, then you're free to make your move. Until then, you should focus on having fun and making the best of your life.
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Im 11 im dating a 14 year old am i old enough to have sex with him if so can i get pregnant cuz he says he wants to have a family with me rite now
At 11 years old, you're not even considered a teenager yet. Your body is still growing and developing. In my opinion, you are way too young to be considering having sex, let alone having a child. In fact, there are possible serious complications that can result from becoming pregnant at such a young age. Technically, you're still a child yourself. You still have so much to do and accomplish in your life, and having a child will prevent you from doing a lot of those things. You have plenty of time to have a child. Please don't think you need to rush.
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Yes, I'm gay and have a boyfriend. His name is Myles. we are both 13 and this summer somtimes we would have sex inthe late night. I don't have any problems but i was wondering if it was okeay. weve been doing this for some time now. Is it okeay please anserw.
I'm going to start by saying you may not like my answer, but I'm going to be honest nonetheless.
I will say that there is absolutely nothing wrong with being gay. My biggest concern is that you do seem quite young to be having sex. I know things are changing now, and people seem to be having sex at younger ages, but if you have to seek validation from other people on whether or not it's okay to have sex with your boyfriend, then you're probably not ready to be having sex. When you are ready, you won't feel the need to worry about how others feel about it.
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I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years and we are very much in love and committed to each other. We've discussed marriage openly and comfortably on several occasions. I can't tell you how happy I feel about becoming his wife and building a family with him someday!
We are both Freshman in college and we go to different schools now. Our relationship has been put to the test this semester because this is our first time not being together every day (like we were in high school!)
In high school, I would go through stages where I would develop a crush on someone other than him on more than one occasion. (Is that terrible?) I NEVER acted on my feelings and remained loyal to my boyfriend. Eventually the romantic feelings would go away. I would always bounce back temporarily too of course when I was hanging out with my boyfriend.
This time is different. Now, I think about my manager even while I'm with my boyfriend. We flirt at work and while we text. Once I got a hug and I thought my heart was going to leap right out of my throat! It's not my actions but my feelings that are making me feel guilty, like I'm cheating on my boyfriend! I will check the schedule to see if we are working together and if we are, I will spend more time on my hair or makeup than usual...
I think about him all day and before I go to sleep at night. I cannot tell you what it is about him. I find myself so attracted to him suddenly and we've been working together for awhile now.. He does not have the easiest life (crush). No car, house and no ambition really. I picked him up and brought him to church once hoping the Lord would speak to his heart and he would get help. Is this pity?
I want to be a friend to him, truly. I just think about kissing him too.
I am praying to God that these will go away - I don't want to do something stupid like act on them and hurt my boyfriend. I could never see myself in a long-term relationship with my manager anyway, so why am I entertaining the idea of being with him?
I'm telling myself that I just care a lot about him (which I do, genuinely) and that the romantic feelings will subside. Now I am tormenting myself with questions like, "Is this really what you want?" or "Do you want to be tied down?" This is scaring me! I've considered maybe I am falling out of love.
I want to stay good friends with my manager but I don't want to lead him on or feel guilty for liking him too much. Am I changing? Is what I want in life changing? I don't wanna fall out of love. I hope this is normal like everyone says.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with having "crushes" on other people when you're in a relationship with someone else. It happens to everyone. Your human, your feelings and emotions don't turn off just because you commit to someone. How you choose to handle those feelings is what matters.
I didn't see your age listed anywhere in your question, but going on the fact that you're a freshman in college, I'm going to assume you're a young adult. Also, you don't give much information about your boyfriend, but I assume, since he's in college, he has some ambitions and goals for his life, plus the fact that you two talk about your future together.
Part of me thinks that your attraction to your boss stems from the fact that you are (possibly) so young and already committing, and your boss represents what you're boyfriend is not (no ambitions, not as many responsibilities), as in the fun, carefree type of person. It very well could be like you said, maybe you're not quite ready to settle down yet, and you still need to go out and have fun without having to commit to anything serious.
I could be wrong, though, and ultimately, it comes down to what you truly want to do. If you absolutely, 100% know that your boyfriend is who you want to be with, and no one else, then make it work. Trying to create a friendship with your boss (outside of the typical boss/employee relationship that is necessary in a work environment) might actually be harmful to your relationship with your boyfriend. The best thing you can do in this situation is sit down and think about what it is you really want at this stage in your life, and where you can see yourself in the future.
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I was just wondering, this girl came into my boyfriends college suite last night crying, he was the only one up and she just plopped herself on the couch in the living room. This girl has been really weird towards him and when I came up to visit he introduced me cuz we saw her in the hallway and she completely ignored me and walked away. My boyfriends said she always tries to touch his hair but he pulls away and says something funny like "I haven't showered in 5 days" that gets his point across. He know's I'm really uncomfortable with her but he never really sees her and they're not on close terms whatsoever, just an acquaintance.
So he said she just randomly came into his living room and he was like "Are you ok?" And she said no. Immediately I thought she was obviously doing it for attention so I got really mad because that's one way girls get close to guys. They use them as a shoulder to cry on and plus- who the hell does that? He never said anything else to her but told me he wanted to comfort her. I wanted to explode because if she ever tries anything else I don't want to worry that he'll do something thinking he's being nice- but to her it's something else. I trust him but it's her I dont trust! Was my anger justified?
If your boyfriend is a naturally caring person, I can completely understand where the urge to comfort a crying girl comes from. It doesn't necessarily mean he has any feelings for her. If my worst enemy came to me crying looking for someone to talk to, I honestly might try to comfort them, too, because that's just how I am. If you really trust him, then you shouldn't worry too much. It takes two to tango.
I will say, however, that if she really is trying to put the moves on him, then he needs to be honest with her. Saying "I haven't had a shower," will only work so long. He needs to be straight with her and say "I have a girlfriend and your advances are making us both uncomfortable."
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Hi I'm going to be a sophomore and I want to attract guys more instead of being just that girl. I'm not saying I want to be a slut I just want a guy to like me to boost my confidence. I'm not the most attractive girl I'm "5foot7" and I weigh about 175 which is a little on the heavy side so guys probally don't like that ecspecially in my school it's all about judging. I just want to get some attention Im allways myself but I don't get it I'm not good at this whole flirting thing I've never had a boyfriend or my first kiss which I want bc I allways feel alone at home noone to text please give me some good tactics
As cliche as it sounds, confidence is key. Whenever you feel good about yourself, it shows. I know tons of guys who say the most attractive thing a girl can do is be confident about herself. If you have a hard time feeling good about yourself naturally, try wearing clothes or fixing your hair in ways that make you feel good. Don't worry about what you think the guys will like, focus on what makes you feel like you look good. The confidence will show.
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I'm 13/f,and have a crush on my friend who's 17/m.He went out with my bestfriend Chloe,and when he broke up with her,she was devistated.She became sick all the time,and depressed.She didn't get over him,until she found another boyfriend last week.
I really like my bestfriend,but I don't know if I should ask him out,after that happened between him and Chloe.Chloe was asleep for a total of 3 weeks.And I don't wanna ruin me and Chloe's friendship.And then,I also don't know if he'd go out with me,because when I told him I date older guys,he said that could be dangerous.And I even drop hints.I tell him he's cute,and he laughs and says thanks.Shouldn't that let him know something?Should I ask him out,or shouldn't I?
Even though your friend seems like she's over her ex, it's still probably not a good idea to try to date him. It sounds like your friend didn't take the break-up very well, and just because she has a new boyfriend doesn't mean she's completely over her ex. If you do ask this boy out, you run a huge risk of losing your best friend. If I were you, I wouldn't do it. Put yourself in her shoes and imagine how you would feel if she did the same thing to you.
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I'm a female,35, and my boyfriend's 32. We started going out 4 years ago and things were good and he said he loved me, then after about 8 months he broke up with me saying the last couple of months had felt more like a friendship and the spark had gone. I was devastated as I really loved him. We stayed in contact then about 4 months later things happened and although he had some reservations, we gave it another shot. Anyway it worked out and he said he loved me again, he didn't know what had been going through his head before. He moved in with me about 2 years ago. Our sex life over that time has got less frequent. About 3 months ago we decided to buy a flat together (my idea and I did have to persuade him a bit), but the purchase fell through and he's now just ended our relationship again for the same reason as before. He's been thinking this for the last 4 months or so, thought that buying the flat might help, but now that's fallen through he's not willing to try to inject a spark back into the relationship as he says that for him it's over. I really love him and don't know if I should let things go or if not how I can try to get him back.
I've been in a fairly similar situation before, and from experience I can tell you the best thing you can do is let him go. It's definitely hard, I know, but the sooner you do it the easier it's going to be for you. You deserve someone who's going to love you as much as you love them, not mess with your head because they have no idea what they want.
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im still a virgin 17/male ive never had a girlfriend im a bit nervous getting close to girls my penis is really small im embarrassed
im not sure if any girl would stay with me im nervous about getting intimate with a girl
do girls care about penis size? will i be able to satisfy a girl?
Although I can't say that all girls don't care about size, I can say that a lot of girls don't. Every girl is different, but in my opinion, size really isn't a huge issue. It's all about how you use it. It's normal to be nervous, but if a girl can't accept you for you, then is she really worth your time? Wait until you're 100% comfortable with getting intimate before you do anything, and then just have confidence.
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