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Boyfriend comforting another girl while shes crying?
I was just wondering, this girl came into my boyfriends college suite last night crying, he was the only one up and she just plopped herself on the couch in the living room. This girl has been really weird towards him and when I came up to visit he introduced me cuz we saw her in the hallway and she completely ignored me and walked away. My boyfriends said she always tries to touch his hair but he pulls away and says something funny like "I haven't showered in 5 days" that gets his point across. He know's I'm really uncomfortable with her but he never really sees her and they're not on close terms whatsoever, just an acquaintance.
So he said she just randomly came into his living room and he was like "Are you ok?" And she said no. Immediately I thought she was obviously doing it for attention so I got really mad because that's one way girls get close to guys. They use them as a shoulder to cry on and plus- who the hell does that? He never said anything else to her but told me he wanted to comfort her. I wanted to explode because if she ever tries anything else I don't want to worry that he'll do something thinking he's being nice- but to her it's something else. I trust him but it's her I dont trust! Was my anger justified?
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If your boyfriend is a naturally caring person, I can completely understand where the urge to comfort a crying girl comes from. It doesn't necessarily mean he has any feelings for her. If my worst enemy came to me crying looking for someone to talk to, I honestly might try to comfort them, too, because that's just how I am. If you really trust him, then you shouldn't worry too much. It takes two to tango.
I will say, however, that if she really is trying to put the moves on him, then he needs to be honest with her. Saying "I haven't had a shower," will only work so long. He needs to be straight with her and say "I have a girlfriend and your advances are making us both uncomfortable."
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