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the new guy does drugs and steals and does other things I am not proud of... should I have sex with him?
Okay, so my name is Allison and I am 13/f. Well there is this new guy named James 15/m that just moved to my town. Well me and James have been dating for abot 3 weeks now. And i think he is wanting to have sex. When its just the 2 of us he always makes remarks about how sexy and stuff he thinks I am. But he seems to kinda force me to do things with him like let him finger me, blow jobs, etc. I want to know if I should go through with sex and stuff. Oh, by the way he does drugs and steals and does other things I am not proud of. So, thanks:)
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No. Please leave him.
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if ur not proud of him dont give him sex ur 13(so am i)itll screw stuff up
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First you should not even be associating with him let alone dating him. Have you ever heard of guilt by association. Well it is not a legal term but there is a legal term where you are guilty if you are caught with him while he is doing something wrong.
An example of this would be if he were to rob someone or a store while you two were together. The courts would have a hard time believing you were not aware he was going to do this. So even though you may not have participated, the fact that you did nothing to stop him could send you to a juvenile corrections facility until your 21.
Has he asked you to carry his drugs in your purse. If caught with them they are yours as you poses them. Unless he owns up to them being his. In this example you go to jail not him.
Now no one should ever force you to do anything sexually you don't want to do. When you are forced to do something sexually you don't want to do it is called rape. Being forced to give him blow job is rape as it is a violation of the Sodomy laws. So if you have given him a blow job against you will you have been raped. Even if you voluntarily did so you still have been raped as you are under the age of consent. This is called statutory rape. The fact that you two are both teenagers he probably would not be charged with this unless the cops needed the charge for some reason.
You say this guy is doing things you are not proud of. Why in the world are you even seeing this guy? Why would you even consider having sex with someone who would force you to do something against your will? Sex is something that two loving people do. Frankly at 13 you are way to young to be considering having sex in the first place. I can't see why you would have sex with someone who I don't believe has any respect for you? I'm positive has only lust and not love for you.
My advice is tell your parents he forced you to give him a blow job and has been sexually harassing you. The sexually harassing you is his fingering of you against your will and anything else he has done. This is all RAPED. This boy belongs in jail not in your school.
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Don't have sex with anyone until you are certain YOU want to. This guy is not yours to fix. He will only fix himself and sex from you isnt enough to make him change his ways. it only satisfies for a moment, he needs lifetime..
Stay chaste until the right one with no doubdts and no pressure comes along.
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I could say a lot of stuff about reputation, self-respect and right and wrong. But you aren't the first and won't be the last girl to find a 'bad boy' exciting, and cool. It looks deliciously 'dangerous' and grown-up I bet. And he flatters you. And you no doubt think you're the only one who understands him. And you'll change him. If you insist on going through with it, just make sure YOU arrange and he uses effective birth-control. Because once you've had your drama and exitement I can assure you...You won't change him. He won't amount to anything, ever. And his dangerous dude image won't pay your bills. If he even stays around at all. You should consider the fact that girls his own age can already see straight through him.
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It is not okay for him to force you to do things. That should be red flag number 1. Also, if he's into so many illegal activities, you being close to him could potentially cause some issues for you if the police happen to catch onto what he's doing. You're obviously feeling uncomfortable with the way he acts, so do what, in my opinion, is the best course of action and leave now. You deserve better than this.
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