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Love, anticipation, and the sting
All right so my story starts like this.
So I have been liking (and now, close enough to loving) a guy right from 2010 when I first met him. We ended up in two different places. He started becoming close to me, but he had a girlfriend in 2010. I liked him, anyway. We becaame close friends. And it only grew stronger. To be true, he was attracted to me even while he was in a relationship. I told him I like him. We used to text almost everyday. We even sexted and flirted, sometimes. And his relationship started faltering. (because his girl was also in a different place, long distance problems) It ended, finally this year, and he was heartbroken. He started getting over her. I went to his place to meet him, by this time, because he was single, I was free of guilt and we made out, many times. Also, he cares about me a lot and considers me to be one of the closest. We fought a lot, but ended up resolving issues everytime. Our sexting, flirting, caring continued. He told me he really likes me but since he has just gone through a bad long distnace, he cant do another one, and he doesnt want to hurt me. He thinks his ex has been a bitch. Yesterday I asked him what is the most beautiful thing in his life, and he asked me the same thing.I said 'it's you' and he was shocked. He said 'I am a bad guy, I hurt you, why do u like me etc' I got mad over him. He apologized to me and said because he feels guilty about me having given given given and he thinks he has not been able to give me what I deserve ( a relationship) but he loves it that I am there and that 'I am dam important to him'
So basically I like this guy and I have waited for him too long. I have given him unconditional care, love, support. He is a beautiful person. I find his presence very soothing. I feel very safe in his arms. He has been truly supportive.
I have been balancing out my emotions and friendship with him. It has been painful, and even embarrassing. he does not want me to go.
Should I wait more? But what I dont get is till when? Till when should I keep myself hanging? What if he never wants a relationship?
There is this other guy who likes me, a loooooot. But i told him I cant do justice to him because I alreayd like someone else. That is not very relevant, actually.
The main question that troubles me is that till when should I wait for him to come and since his plane has just crashed, will he be ready any soon to board another?
Sigh. I dont know.
Maybe you have something to say.
Thanks in advance.
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Situations like that can be extremely tough. I'm not sure how long ago him and his ex ended their relationship, but everyone has different periods of time that they need to heal from things like that, and it's pretty honorable that he doesn't want to rush into anything at the risk of hurting you.
The one thing that concerns me, though, was his willingness to flirt and sext with you while he was in a relationship, because what if you two form a relationship and he's willing to do the same to you? That's not saying that he will, though, but it's definitely something to consider.
As for what you can possibly do right now, you deserve to be happy. If that means moving on, then move on. If you're extremely interested in a relationship with him, though, your best bet at this point may be to just sit down and talk with him. Tell him exactly how you're feeling about the whole situation. Don't try to rush him into anything, just ask if he's going to be willing to take things further with you at some point or if you should just move on.
Ultimately, though, you have to decide what you want more in this situation, and if you like this guy enough to wait it out.
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